Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[ShootingStarcatcher]

@baiser
Aw, that's so sweet :D

*sigh* My crush likes almost everything I like- musicals, acting, writing, art, disney...he's almost perfect <3 I don't really get him, I mean when it's me and him (like with none of his other friends) I almost think he likes me (I mean in a crush way) but whenever his other friends are around he acts the same way around them. I guess it's just how he acts around girls? Can anyone help me? I can give more details if needed :3

[ZOWIE M]

FINALLY I TIME TO EXPRESS MYSELF!
So, There Is This Guy I Like. We Have The Same Interests And Everything! But I Don't Have The Courage To Tell Him I Like Him. The Only Way He Is Going To Find Out Is If One Of My Friends Tell Him. Since He Is Popular, He Is Kinda Hard To Talk To And Talk To Him ALONE In General. How Do Girls Usually Tell Guys They Like Them Without Making A Complete Fool Out Of Themselves? I Have No Clue. I Haven't Been The Type Of Girl That Attracts Guys Anyway. Exept The Really Creepy Geeks That Stalk You, Yeah, Gotta Love Them -.-
So, My Question Is, How Do I Ask Him Out Without Making A Fool Out Of My Self?

It is really honestly not possible to ask a guy/girl out and not have the possibility of making a fool of yourself but really I think that the best way is to walk up to him/her and ask for a moment in private to speak to them lead them somewhere away from the crowed and keep it short and simple. sounds simple but I tend to get really nervous and end up just run up to the person and say "you can ignore this if you want but I have a really big crush on you" and then sprint away at top speed. Actually I could really use some help with this too.

[Simplistic Beauty]

Ok so my bff was talking to my crush (her ex) and was gonna ask him out for me but she said that she couldn't do it. Now it's all up to me over asking him out or not. I can't do it either though, I'm way too scared and nervous, plus I dunno how to say it and word it. It's kinda confusing now because obviously she's not fully over the breakup. She's like a sister to me and I would never hurt her like that by asking him out but I really like him also. Ugh, this is really hard and confusing. I don't want to like him if she can't take it but I can't just suddenly stop my feelings for him. She wants to make a truce saying that we both just stay friends with him but I dunno if I can do that. Omg relationships are hard and I hate them now kinda. Well, there goes yet another stupid crush.. She says I can still like him just not date. Yeah, how will that kinda work out? I'm just not in a very happy mood right now...

[Buuuuugjuice]

FINALLY I TIME TO EXPRESS MYSELF!
So, There Is This Guy I Like. We Have The Same Interests And Everything! But I Don't Have The Courage To Tell Him I Like Him. The Only Way He Is Going To Find Out Is If One Of My Friends Tell Him. Since He Is Popular, He Is Kinda Hard To Talk To And Talk To Him ALONE In General. How Do Girls Usually Tell Guys They Like Them Without Making A Complete Fool Out Of Themselves? I Have No Clue. I Haven't Been The Type Of Girl That Attracts Guys Anyway. Exept The Really Creepy Geeks That Stalk You, Yeah, Gotta Love Them -.-
So, My Question Is, How Do I Ask Him Out Without Making A Fool Out Of My Self?

It is really honestly not possible to ask a guy/girl out and not have the possibility of making a fool of yourself but really I think that the best way is to walk up to him/her and ask for a moment in private to speak to them lead them somewhere away from the crowed and keep it short and simple. sounds simple but I tend to get really nervous and end up just run up to the person and say "you can ignore this if you want but I have a really big crush on you" and then sprint away at top speed. Actually I could really use some help with this too.

I'm no good at asking people out (I'm an socially awkward blob), but I'll tell you what I did. I used a mutual friend to ask for me. That worked for me kinda... turned out he was using the same friend to ask me... But yeah mutual friends help a lot. If you have one then use one. If your school has a school dance try to ask him/her or what ever gender that person or thing may be to that dance.

[thunderofthedrum]

FINALLY I TIME TO EXPRESS MYSELF!
So, There Is This Guy I Like. We Have The Same Interests And Everything! But I Don't Have The Courage To Tell Him I Like Him. The Only Way He Is Going To Find Out Is If One Of My Friends Tell Him. Since He Is Popular, He Is Kinda Hard To Talk To And Talk To Him ALONE In General. How Do Girls Usually Tell Guys They Like Them Without Making A Complete Fool Out Of Themselves? I Have No Clue. I Haven't Been The Type Of Girl That Attracts Guys Anyway. Exept The Really Creepy Geeks That Stalk You, Yeah, Gotta Love Them -.-
So, My Question Is, How Do I Ask Him Out Without Making A Fool Out Of My Self?

It is really honestly not possible to ask a guy/girl out and not have the possibility of making a fool of yourself but really I think that the best way is to walk up to him/her and ask for a moment in private to speak to them lead them somewhere away from the crowed and keep it short and simple. sounds simple but I tend to get really nervous and end up just run up to the person and say "you can ignore this if you want but I have a really big crush on you" and then sprint away at top speed. Actually I could really use some help with this too.

I agree - everything in life comes with some risk, especially when it comes to communicating your feelings.

I am not a fan of the 'mutual friend' thing because I would be worried that the friend wasn't 100% on the same page as the person they were speaking for, such as not having permission to speak to me, lying in a prank, only acting on a hunch, etc. It's totally possible to work out, it just isn't something I like.

Also I find it interesting when people think they need to have a lot in common with the boy. Not to say you should be 100% opposites because that won't work - you need to at least have some similar values and goals in life. I have that sort of stuff generally in common with my boyfriend along with interests in movies and animals and other things, but we have a TON of differences. He likes metal music and thinks my music is gay (working on getting him to not say that). He has no patience and I manage to have extra patience to make up for it. He likes video games and I like roleplaying. I like pretty things and tidying up and making it homey, and he's all "I'm a man, I don't have time for that crap" but you can tell he likes when I do it. xD

Eh, I'm not explaining that very well. I'll just stop here, lol.

[raezel]

me:i love you so much.
him: i love you so much too.
me: yeah but i love you more!
him: nope i love you more!
me: well then how much do you love me?
him: i love you so much and enough that next year i'm gonna be living with you.
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do any of you have any experiences with meeting up with ldr significant others?
there's a possibility, if a bit slight, that i might visit him within the next few months. (we're 655 miles away, so it's quite a bit.)
otherwise, regardless, he's going to be old enough to leave the house and live with me next year.
i'm just always anxious about the thought of meeting up, but i know he is who he says he is, so i'm not getting "catifished."
i was just wondering if anyone else has been in an ldr and has met up with their boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other?

[MadHattress]

me:i love you so much.
him: i love you so much too.
me: yeah but i love you more!
him: nope i love you more!
me: well then how much do you love me?
him: i love you so much and enough that next year i'm gonna be living with you.
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do any of you have any experiences with meeting up with ldr significant others?
there's a possibility, if a bit slight, that i might visit him within the next few months. (we're 655 miles away, so it's quite a bit.)
otherwise, regardless, he's going to be old enough to leave the house and live with me next year.
i'm just always anxious about the thought of meeting up, but i know he is who he says he is, so i'm not getting "catifished."
i was just wondering if anyone else has been in an ldr and has met up with their boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other?

*waves hand* My girlfriend and I were long distance for about six months before we met up for the first time. Oh dear goodness. It was very, extremely emotional in a lot of ways, not all of which were good. There was a lot of stuff we learned about each other and had to deal with our differences. When you're chatting with someone online, it can be very different from being with them in real life. Even with things like Skype, it can still be difficult to know where everyone's boundaries are once you meet in real life, because things are just different physically. Also, it's very, very important to be totally honest about what you're comfortable with. For example, once I met up with her, I found that my girlfriend was very tomboyish and likes to roughhouse - I didn't tell her how easily I bruise and I ended up with a few sore limbs. On the flipside, I'm very cuddly and this bothered her but she refrained from telling me. We worked both these issues out later in letters after we had had some time alone and compromised. I really wish I had just been honest to start off with, and I wish she had been too. We were just so afraid of hurting each other.

[ScarWitch]

me:i love you so much.
him: i love you so much too.
me: yeah but i love you more!
him: nope i love you more!
me: well then how much do you love me?
him: i love you so much and enough that next year i'm gonna be living with you.
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do any of you have any experiences with meeting up with ldr significant others?
there's a possibility, if a bit slight, that i might visit him within the next few months. (we're 655 miles away, so it's quite a bit.)
otherwise, regardless, he's going to be old enough to leave the house and live with me next year.
i'm just always anxious about the thought of meeting up, but i know he is who he says he is, so i'm not getting "catifished."
i was just wondering if anyone else has been in an ldr and has met up with their boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other?

Well, one of my friends has been in a relationship with a boy from England (we're in the US) and when they finally met up it was a bit awkward the first 5 mins before the 'click' happened. Then they started talking and laughing like they'd do over texts and things.
I'm also in a relationship with a boy 1400 miles away but we met at the National FFA convention and hit it off. When I think about seein him again I get nervous, but honestly if it's meant to be, yeah it might be awkward at first, but it'll work.

[cinnastix]

I am incredibly frustrated with my current boyfriend. I love him, like, a lot. I have plans to move in with him after i turn 18, even. I am bi, and have been really wanting a girl, lately. I have never dated a girl, but I really, really want to. My boyfriend gave me permission to "play around" with girls if I really want to, but I would have trouble with guilt. I really don't want to hurt him, but I really need this for myself... BLARG BEING BI SUCKS

I am not really looking for advice, though it would be nice. Just ranting. Thanks for reading/listening if you did!

[nopenope123]

Just gotta get some feelings out. And sorry for my english, I'm just tired.

So I have finally stopped having a crush on this guy. I liked him for 3-4 years, but most of the time was just a pain. I dealt with a lot of shyness, did stupid things and never told him. He was really sweet the first year or two, but when we got older he changed. He is still quite nice, but he became more "grown up" than me, and I feelt that it was just painful. I was angry at myself for still liking him when I just felt sad all the time, and for getting stuck on one guy.

The feeling started to cool down over the summer, and two months ago, I realized that the feeling where gone. I just need to tell you what a releif it was. A lot of shyness and pain just dissapeared. And I could let other feelings in. Now I don't spend all days in school glancing at him. Now I talk more with my friends, focus more on school and focus more on myself.

But this didn't mean that I'm going loveless. Because I have two other crushes now. But I'm probably gonna talk about them later, because I'm tired. Sorry for bad english and long post, but I'm so happy.