Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[clarabow]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you.

Why is that?

I agree with Polar Foxy. ^^;

After high school, if you choose to continue on with your schooling you might end up apart from your partner. You'll be going to different schools and won't see each other as much in some cases. You'll definitely meet more people who may or may not be more suitable as a partner for you, but you should be left single to figure that out. If you're carrying on a relationship stemmed from puppy love, it's more likely to fall apart faster than a relationship with a person that probably has more in common with you, is more mature and going in the same direction as you as well. In high school, you just don't know anything about real love and you know even less about a real future. Is he or she going to be able to keep a good job, are they mature, if you care about getting married, do they care the same way? People think they know this stuff at this young age, but no they don't. High school love is good for experience but not for a serious relationship. Another thing, falling for someone too hard will result in pain that could be well avoided if you just wait. The pain will be more understandable when you're older, and you'll deal with it better then, but in high school -girls especially- kids become so emotional over the smallest things that aren't even important. When you're young, you don't know how to deal with emotions the same way someone older can.

1st reason, a boyfriend and girlfriend aren't going to be able to stick onto the other's hip after high school is done (unless they happen to have the same future and goals in mind). 2nd reason, a boyfriend chosen out of your high school is not the best boyfriend in the world. You have no idea about the guys out there, high school is the smallest selection you'll ever have. 3rd reason, kids are very emotional. Everything is going to hurt them, which is okay, but they should only have a partner when they have a real backbone and can take a little pain, a little jealousy, a little sadness.

That's why I personally don't believe in any sort of relationship until you're at least 18 or 19, and even then is still too young. This doesn't encompass everyone however, some people will find their soul mate in high school, but most won't because life isn't a fairy tale. ^^

[Noni Gailin Ayrenin~]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you.

Please do explain yourself.

Dating is a process of exploration. It's how people figure out what they really want in a partner, and how some people figure out their sexualities. Dating, while it can be emotionally destructive at first, can also make you a stronger person in the long run. It's a learning process. It can teach you who you maybe can't trust, or the types of people that you work well with.

Now, dating before you're even 10 years old......That I can see a problem with.

[Harpy•]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you. :thumbdown:

Please do explain yourself.

Dating is a process of exploration. It's how people figure out what they really want in a partner, and how some people figure out their sexualities. Dating, while it can be emotionally destructive at first, can also make you a stronger person in the long run. It's a learning process. It can teach you who you maybe can't trust, or the types of people that you work well with.

Now, dating before you're even 10 years old......That I can see a problem with.

EXACTLY. There is NOTHING wrong with dating in your teens. It's where a great majority of learning about relationships is done!
I don't like this mindset of every relationship must aspire to be a serious one, or be a serious one straight out. And it seems that many believe relationships only exist to be a pursuit of one's life partner in marriage. I don't understand this, at all. It makes no sense whatsoever.
I, for one, never dated looking for the man I was going to marry, and entered into the relationships fully aware that it would most likely end before it grew serious. We were kids. We didn't want serious relationships; we simply wanted that extra freedom and feeling of independence, we wanted to learn what it was like to be with someone romantically, and understand it after years of naivety. It was simply part of growing up.

[Cosmi]

*Cough cough* Moving away from that topic now...
Is there a way to tell if a guy likes you?
Like not going up and confronting them about yours/theirs felling's.
Like do they stare?
Do they try getting close to you?
Or will time only tell?

Never knew love was so complicated...

[SamhokuFoopets]

*Cough cough* Moving away from that topic now...
Is there a way to tell if a guy likes you?
Like not going up and confronting them about yours/theirs felling's.
Like do they stare?
Do they try getting close to you?
Or will time only tell?

Never knew love was so complicated...

Here is what one guy did with me: He pretended to tie his shoe then he gave him a stupid smile. I gave him the impending look of death and the smile got bigger then he moved further away from me.

Or they flick random rubber bands at you to get your attention.

[Bye.....]

*Cough cough* Moving away from that topic now...
Is there a way to tell if a guy likes you?
Like not going up and confronting them about yours/theirs felling's.
Like do they stare?
Do they try getting close to you?
Or will time only tell?

Never knew love was so complicated...

The majority of human communication comes through body language. Most guys will try to subtly follow you, maybe become more protective of you. Even when they are talking, mirroring or pointing to you is a subconscious way of them letting you know they like you.

[GIGABITE]

Ok, more little issues with the girl I mentioned last time I posted here.
So I've been talking to her more and she still seems to be only half-interested in me even though she is still fully aware that I have this huge crush on her. So the other day I decided to just give up. So I told her this over text, cuz we're honest with each other like that.
Well suddenly she starts being all sweet with me again, like calling me cute and being all "hehe"
It was adorable, but I'm kinda confused.
Like why is she acting like this all of the sudden?
I might just be imagining it though.

[panhead]

:i really need some help!

So..there's this guy I like (E). His friends are (M, Z, and N.) so lately N has been trying to hook me up with E because I hooking N up with his current girlfriend. On Friday he told me "the window closed, he doesn't like you anymore. There's no hope" well I am a really really stubborn person. I don't budge. So I hired M, which is E's best friend. He gave me his number and said "happy birthday" so...I sent a text. So N is just a stupid for putting me down.
TODAY in English, I grabbed E's beanie and was playing blonde, not giving it back. He tried grabbing it and as soon as he got it, Z handed me E's sweat jacket. Since I knew he would want it back, I just went ahead and put it on. I wore it for the rest of the day. Then we had to leave so I scribbled my phone number down and put It in the pocket.
Later, I checked and E had texted me back. But then I remembered that I had texted him yesterday, so he knew that it wasn't because I out my number in the pocket. He asked me where I got his number. I said "oh, M gave it to me." Then I got a text from M and he just BLEW UP at me. He said "why did you tell him!?" But he never told me I couldn't. So...I didn't understand. Then he told me that he had been lying to E this whole time. Because apparently N told E that I stalked him.
So I've been accused of stalking. Yes, I do know some things about him that not everyone does, but I didn't go on a search for the information. I didn't purposely find it!
I don't want to end friendships. I just don't know what to do. I apologized for taking E's jacket when he texted me, and he said it was OK. I'm just so confused.
I'd really appreciate some help.

[Buuuuugjuice]

does anyone have advice about talking to your crush??
i like this girl and she apparently likes me back
but i'm really insecure and feel like a complete loser
and i know she likes me back but i feel like i'll do something stupid and she won't xD

idk i'm really bad with these things
maybe someone can help me out

btw we haven't actually had a full conversation in person
because we're both really shy

so what would be a good conversation starter type thing?

find a common interest and start talking from that topic...

I do know how it feels it is kinda awkward to be the one starting the conversation.

[Wild.One]

does anyone have advice about talking to your crush??
i like this girl and she apparently likes me back
but i'm really insecure and feel like a complete loser
and i know she likes me back but i feel like i'll do something stupid and she won't xD

idk i'm really bad with these things
maybe someone can help me out

btw we haven't actually had a full conversation in person
because we're both really shy

so what would be a good conversation starter type thing?

Ok. Here's what I do. I find an excuse to talk to them! Like for example, ask them what the homework was? Then say something about the subject or something and start a conversation. Ask them questions. It helps the conversation keep going. If you agree with something, tell her that. Don't say it on everything though because they will think your just saying that and don't really mean it. From priore experience, this really does help.

And this is coming from someone that is also shy. But after you get talking to them, you aren't as shy around them anymore. Hope it helps!