Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Anuran]

Alright, so, yeah.
Yesterday, my crush tried to kiss me.
Only thing was, it was in front of all my friends, and considering the fact that he hasn't got the guts to ask me out just yet, I didn't let him kiss me. He missed and kissed my eye. Twas kinda cute. xD

ANYWHO.
Point being, how the heck does one get a boy that likes you, to ask you out? I don't want to be obvious about it, but does anyone have any ideas on dropping hints to him? I just want him to be my boyfriend already. Gosh. Why is this so hard when it finally matters? xD

<3,
WP

[FoxerOwl]

Alright, so, yeah.
Yesterday, my crush tried to kiss me.
Only thing was, it was in front of all my friends, and considering the fact that he hasn't got the guts to ask me out just yet, I didn't let him kiss me. He missed and kissed my eye. Twas kinda cute. xD

ANYWHO.
Point being, how the heck does one get a boy that likes you, to ask you out? I don't want to be obvious about it, but does anyone have any ideas on dropping hints to him? I just want him to be my boyfriend already. Gosh. Why is this so hard when it finally matters? xD

<3,
WP

He obviously likes you, so I'd just ask him out if I were you c:

[Dia.]

Alright, so, yeah.
Yesterday, my crush tried to kiss me.
Only thing was, it was in front of all my friends, and considering the fact that he hasn't got the guts to ask me out just yet, I didn't let him kiss me. He missed and kissed my eye. Twas kinda cute. xD

ANYWHO.
Point being, how the heck does one get a boy that likes you, to ask you out? I don't want to be obvious about it, but does anyone have any ideas on dropping hints to him? I just want him to be my boyfriend already. Gosh. Why is this so hard when it finally matters? xD

<3,
WP

Ask him out yourself. Or just be patient and wait. ^^ You can still spend more and more time with him in the meantime.. which will let him build up the guts to finally do it.
/both pieces of advice came from personal experience/

[frogpaws]

So that girl I liked;
she lead me on.
she flirted with me and lead me on and now she says she's not interested in girls.
honestly I'm not sad just a bit upset at her for making me think there was something between us.

anyways, suppose it's time for me to move on.

[Pulsefire]

Ok, I need some help with a problem you guys would probably think is rather insignificant to the others you guys get but i really like some of the advice and thought you guys would be a good people to go to! I need help on how to help my girlfriend with her first relationship *sigh*. So i have had a previous relationship and it was fine except she moved. So I learned a lot on what being a boyfriend is. Now I am a sophomore and she is a freshman this year and she was allowed to date when she came into high school, so we have been together for about a month and i feel like she is confused with some things. Mind that she comes from a christian family and has gone to a private christian school for about 6 years. She is amazingly intelligent but yet has fallen back on the "affection and relationship" side of things. So i went through a good amount of stuff to let he know that i liked her ALOT and she liked me too. Now here is my problem, she is VERY touchy and doesn't even like to hold hands with me around her parents *sigh*

I have been in relationships where we would go into a corner and just make out, but this one is a drastic change. I want to know how i can make her comfortable with "displays of affection"

[vanilla kitten]

so, my crush, R, has been flirting with me this week. asdfghjkl; oh god. i don't want to do this again. i really, really liked him last year, and we kissed like twice. and then phwoooosh he wanted nothing to do with me. which i was okay with, but i wanted to strangle him with a rope. but i got over it over the summer, because i ended up staying at my ex, T's, house a ton over the summer. he was basically my bestfriend-with-benefits, and we went to the cherry festival together and rode rides and i almost threw up on him, we made mac'n'cheese, he was there for me at 3am when i was crying, he kissed away the pain and chased away the monsters. needless to say, i fell right back in love with T.

but of course, perfect things don't last. T ended up being a complete, total jerk to me as soon as school started again, which i was expecting because he's been this way since we broke up two years ago. so i decided, i'm picking up and moving on and started hanging out with my friends again, caught up with my guyfriends during the first two weeks of school. i had a blast, and the best part was it was without T! i'm still happy.

except for the fact that this week, T has been being rather nice to me. and every time he's talked to me (like, when he's not stealing the volleyball or something dumb) he's been blushing and maybe it's just me, but he doesn't do that when he talks to other girls. maybe it's because i was his "first love" (so his mom says). i don't know, but it's starting to confuse me inside. i really, really don't want to go through what i went through with T for a third time. i don't want to get my hopes up, either. it's just that he's always there, getting in the way when i'm with my friends and it's annoying. and he's always in my business. i'm worried that if he finds out i like R, T's gonna go tell R and boom there goes that.

[classi]

Oh god I just friend zoned someone but he still likes me... at least it was over text. Thank god I don't have any classes with him tomorrow (he's in 1 of my classes) but I kind of feel bad yet very, very, very relieved. I hope he gets the memo.
Any tips for MAKING SURE I don't lead him on? I'm naturally a nice person at least most of the time, I don't want that to be mistaked for something else...

[thunderofthedrum]

Meh. You girls are so lucky.

Here's my experience with boys so far:
They either call me ugly, make fun of me, or completely ignore me.
And for those who have actually called me pretty, were nice to me and actually paid some sort of attention to me, the grand total is a *drum role please* zero.

At least I probably broke the record for being the biggest fail at finding love. Ah well. I got used to it.

You are still very young. You are in a school where, very likely, you have seen the same group of peers for years. It's hard to change people's opinion of you (but still possible). Unless you want to try changing yourself (improving you self image to increase your confidence can be good, however downright changing yourself to suit others is never advisable) really all you can do is wait.

You are entirely normal. I was never liked by anyone all through grade school and part of college. I know people who have universit degrees and good jobs who still have barely dated. That doesn't mean anything is WRONG with you. And, although you may disagree, it's VERY possible that - realistically - you are not actually READY for dating. Looking back, I don't think I was. Your view right now is skewed, biased. You won't be able to really SAY if you were ready or not until you look back with a different perspective.

I am engaged but in love with someone else what do I do ?

Well obviously you have a decision to make. You didn't tell us whether you love your fiance. You didn't say whether you've known one significantly longer than the other. Whether you have a chance with the other person.

You need to sit down and decide. If you stay with your fiance, you must be COMMITTED. Not just 'go with the flow' until your wedding day and then you panic and decide this isn't what you wanted. Don't do something you will regret. Go with your gut, sure, but also let your mind have some time to think about it with reason and logic. Is one just lust while the other is deep love? Do you KNOW both people well or might one person pop up with surprises in their personality that you may not like? Would one person's lifestyle be uncomfortable for you to try to adapt to?

Really, you need to make a decision. Don't go whine to other people and try to get them to do it for you. If you are engaged then I am assuming you are an adult. Grow up - life is not fair and it is not easy. It is full of big decisions that freak you out, stress you out, and linger in your mind. That's how it is for all of us.

[Anuran]

Alright, so, yeah.
Yesterday, my crush tried to kiss me.
Only thing was, it was in front of all my friends, and considering the fact that he hasn't got the guts to ask me out just yet, I didn't let him kiss me. He missed and kissed my eye. Twas kinda cute. xD

ANYWHO.
Point being, how the heck does one get a boy that likes you, to ask you out? I don't want to be obvious about it, but does anyone have any ideas on dropping hints to him? I just want him to be my boyfriend already. Gosh. Why is this so hard when it finally matters? xD

<3,
WP

Ask him out yourself. Or just be patient and wait. ^^ You can still spend more and more time with him in the meantime.. which will let him build up the guts to finally do it.
/both pieces of advice came from personal experience/

Thanks, both of you, but thing is, it's against my moral code for the girl to ask out the boy. That's just how I think. I really don't wanna have to ask him unless it gets to the point that I don't think that he'll do it, if that makes any sense. o;

I just wanna know ways I can hint to him that he needs to, well, step it up, to be blunt. Callin' me cute and kissing the top of my head and long hugs are great and such, but I want a relationship with him, not to be a little doll for him to cuddle on. o.o I wish that he wasn't so busy so that we could hang out outside of school. I know, he's a senior, he's got a lot to do and I know being on the football team ain't no party either, but seeeeeriously, we live only about a mile from eachother, if even that. He's free on weekends, as am I, usually, so. WHY HAS NOTHING GONE DOWN? Last weekend we were gonna hang out and watch scary movies and cuddle and all that cute stuff, but when he brought it up, I had already made plans with a good friend of mine. -.- I think he wants to wait and get me alone to ask me, so he doesn't have to worry about my friends freaking out and cooing over us at school like they usually do, but c'mooooon, realistically, when will we chill, just him and I? I'm terrified to 'sneak out' at night, so that's out of the picture. I'm not against him sneaking out to come by my place (we've discussed it before) buuuut I have a huge black dog that WILL wake my parents up if he so much as hears J____ open the gate or knock on my window. He works too, so going out over the weekend all day isn't an option, and as he's a grade higher than me, I only see him during class transitions and lunch, during which he usually spends 5-10 minutes chillin' with me and then has to go with his football bros to go over practice drills and all that other football-y stuff that I don't know.

I dunno. Thinking about this makes me think that, hey, when will him and I even get time to hang out? Why go out? But then that voice is all like, 'SHUT UP HE LIKES YOU BACK AND HE'S GORGEOUS.' Lol.

Anywho... sorry for the rant, guys. This has been bothering me for a week or so now, and I just had to blow it all off. x3

[provolone]

What do you do if you like someone who is 3 years younger than you and lives in another state??

Omg I'm crazy. I met him online. I usually frown upon online relationships because they seem so hard. But now I'm falling for this guy... And he's so much younger. He acts and looks older. But wow it's just crazy. Advice and/or thoughts are much appreciated<33