Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[erythristicbones]

Murgh...I need advice.
So,Friday I decided I really needed to grow a backbone and ask my crush out. I wasn't sure how he would react and I wasn't sure if I should because most people frown upon the girl asking the guy out,so I started asking some of our friends what they thought I should do. Well,two of my more outgoing friends ran off without anwsering me and I didn't realize at the time that they had gone and asked him out for me. They came back and said they had said " [my name] really likes and and wants to know if you'll go out with her." and that he had replied "I don't know."
So after lunch I felt really bad 'cause I thought they had upset him,since he looked upset when I saw him,so I went to apologize. I explained that I had meant to ask him out personally,but that they had ran off before I could stop them.I also explained how I had asked them first how I thought he would react and after I said that he replied "I would say yes." That surprised me and we said a few other thing and then he said "but I don't have any money or a car and I would be afraid it wouldn't feel like a real relationship because we'd only ever see eachother at school or when we go to eachothers houses on the weekends." but then we reached our classes and couldnt talk anymore so we just hugged and left.
Then today we were at one of our friend's birthday party and neither of us likes to swim or get in water so we just sat in the corner and played on our ds's and talked. At one point our friend Breana gave her phone to me and said not to give it to Erin,which I promptly did to be funny. So she took it back and gave it to Ian(my crush) and said "Don't let Erin or your girlfriend have it."

Now skipping to what I need advice on; I don't know if we're dating or not. He said yes,but then after more talking he sounded like he was turning me down because we wouldn't get to see eachother often. And then when Breana made the whole 'girlfriend' comment about me,he didn't react or deny it,but then again,he might not have heard. I want to ask him if we're going out or not,but I don't know if I should. Do you guys think I should ask him,or just wait until he does something or says that we are?

[stinkende]

Murgh...I need advice.
So,Friday I decided I really needed to grow a backbone and ask my crush out. I wasn't sure how he would react and I wasn't sure if I should because most people frown upon the girl asking the guy out,so I started asking some of our friends what they thought I should do. Well,two of my more outgoing friends ran off without anwsering me and I didn't realize at the time that they had gone and asked him out for me. They came back and said they had said " [my name] really likes and and wants to know if you'll go out with her." and that he had replied "I don't know."
So after lunch I felt really bad 'cause I thought they had upset him,since he looked upset when I saw him,so I went to apologize. I explained that I had meant to ask him out personally,but that they had ran off before I could stop them.I also explained how I had asked them first how I thought he would react and after I said that he replied "I would say yes." That surprised me and we said a few other thing and then he said "but I don't have any money or a car and I would be afraid it wouldn't feel like a real relationship because we'd only ever see eachother at school or when we go to eachothers houses on the weekends." but then we reached our classes and couldnt talk anymore so we just hugged and left.
Then today we were at one of our friend's birthday party and neither of us likes to swim or get in water so we just sat in the corner and played on our ds's and talked. At one point our friend Breana gave her phone to me and said not to give it to Erin,which I promptly did to be funny. So she took it back and gave it to Ian(my crush) and said "Don't let Erin or your girlfriend have it."

Now skipping to what I need advice on; I don't know if we're dating or not. He said yes,but then after more talking he sounded like he was turning me down because we wouldn't get to see eachother often. And then when Breana made the whole 'girlfriend' comment about me,he didn't react or deny it,but then again,he might not have heard. I want to ask him if we're going out or not,but I don't know if I should. Do you guys think I should ask him,or just wait until he does something or says that we are?

Just wait and let it play out naturally. I get wanting a clear label but it can intimidate some guys to define something so immediately, especially when they're young and maybe not really sure what's going on themselves. Make a point to hang out with him more often and let the DTR come later on.

[horse .]

Murgh...I need advice.
So,Friday I decided I really needed to grow a backbone and ask my crush out. I wasn't sure how he would react and I wasn't sure if I should because most people frown upon the girl asking the guy out,so I started asking some of our friends what they thought I should do. Well,two of my more outgoing friends ran off without anwsering me and I didn't realize at the time that they had gone and asked him out for me. They came back and said they had said " [my name] really likes and and wants to know if you'll go out with her." and that he had replied "I don't know."
So after lunch I felt really bad 'cause I thought they had upset him,since he looked upset when I saw him,so I went to apologize. I explained that I had meant to ask him out personally,but that they had ran off before I could stop them.I also explained how I had asked them first how I thought he would react and after I said that he replied "I would say yes." That surprised me and we said a few other thing and then he said "but I don't have any money or a car and I would be afraid it wouldn't feel like a real relationship because we'd only ever see eachother at school or when we go to eachothers houses on the weekends." but then we reached our classes and couldnt talk anymore so we just hugged and left.
Then today we were at one of our friend's birthday party and neither of us likes to swim or get in water so we just sat in the corner and played on our ds's and talked. At one point our friend Breana gave her phone to me and said not to give it to Erin,which I promptly did to be funny. So she took it back and gave it to Ian(my crush) and said "Don't let Erin or your girlfriend have it."

Now skipping to what I need advice on; I don't know if we're dating or not. He said yes,but then after more talking he sounded like he was turning me down because we wouldn't get to see eachother often. And then when Breana made the whole 'girlfriend' comment about me,he didn't react or deny it,but then again,he might not have heard. I want to ask him if we're going out or not,but I don't know if I should. Do you guys think I should ask him,or just wait until he does something or says that we are?

Can I just say, I only see my crush at school and after school Fridays coz he plays basket ball. So it's no big deal, tell him how ya really feel and just go forward about it

[Pikmin12]

First month of school is close to being over and some problems have arisen. The guy I currently like has been a major distraction. Constantly popping into my head at random times and does not go away. It hasn't been affecting my schoolwork, yet. My fruends do not have any advice for getting him outta my easy and it I am worried that it will begin to have an influence on my grades. Ack!
Also there is another guy who I might be developing feelings for, but I don't want to. He and this one girl would make an adorable couple and u have been hinting at it for a while, but I fear that I may be falling for him.
Also, my friend thinks that he may like me, and now that I think about it, he could possibly be.

And the ironic part? The two guys are brothers.

[lumi]

I have a feeling that my Boyfriend may or may not have blocked my number or got his phone disabled. It's really frustrating! I tried to send texts but they all failed, and tried to call and it said the number was changed or disconnected. I don't know why he would block my number.. we were talking just yesterday! I'm really worried..

[GIGABITE]

Ok, this is really bothering me.
This girl and I have known each other for almost a year now. I remember because I met her a couple weeks after my birthday, which is in 3 days. We've been really good friends for all that time, which is great. She is bi like me, which is awesome.
My problem? Since I started talking to her all that time ago, I've had a bit of a crush on her. Scratch that. A HUGE crush on her. I'm barely able to focus each day at school. She's beautiful and super sweet, although she can be hotheaded sometimes.
But she doesn't notice me. Well, she kinda does.. She talks to me regularly, hangs out with me, and acts like any other friend. But she doesn't notice me like.. More than that.
Yeah, this would be normal if she didn't know I like her. But she does. She's known for all this time.
Now the normal thing to do would be for me to just.. Let my feelings go, right?
It's not that simple.
Every now and then, when I've nearly lost hope, she'll do something so randomly romantic and sweet, that I can't help but to think there might be something there. No, she is not the kind of girl to deliberately lead someone on, so it's not that.
So I can't shed my feelings. It's near impossible.
She likes all these other people, but just doesn't like me I guess.
She always goes on (half-jokingly, she's not a whiner) about how forever-alone she is. Often when I'm standing right there. Ouch?
When she's upset I try to comfort her. But like I said, she has the temper of a lion sometimes, so often I get ignored, told off, or even worse; snapped at. It's not bad though. It only happens when I'm being "clingy" so maybe I just need to stop trying to make her feel better and leave it to the people she actually likes. Sounds cruel in a way, but if I'm going to get flamed when I try to help, I'm staying out.
Other times she's in a great mood and is totally sweet to me. Usually this is when she's not in school. She'll laugh when I joke around, let me lean against her when we sit together, and snuggle ^-^
So I'm not sure what to think about this. To sum it all up, she seems to not like me, yet sometimes it seems like she does. She can be short-tempered, but is totally sweet when in a good mood. What is happening here?

[Madison143]

Ok, this is really bothering me.
This girl and I have known each other for almost a year now. I remember because I met her a couple weeks after my birthday, which is in 3 days. We've been really good friends for all that time, which is great. She is bi like me, which is awesome.
My problem? Since I started talking to her all that time ago, I've had a bit of a crush on her. Scratch that. A HUGE crush on her. I'm barely able to focus each day at school. She's beautiful and super sweet, although she can be hotheaded sometimes.
But she doesn't notice me. Well, she kinda does.. She talks to me regularly, hangs out with me, and acts like any other friend. But she doesn't notice me like.. More than that.
Yeah, this would be normal if she didn't know I like her. But she does. She's known for all this time.
Now the normal thing to do would be for me to just.. Let my feelings go, right?
It's not that simple.
Every now and then, when I've nearly lost hope, she'll do something so randomly romantic and sweet, that I can't help but to think there might be something there. No, she is not the kind of girl to deliberately lead someone on, so it's not that.
So I can't shed my feelings. It's near impossible.
She likes all these other people, but just doesn't like me I guess.
She always goes on (half-jokingly, she's not a whiner) about how forever-alone she is. Often when I'm standing right there. Ouch?
When she's upset I try to comfort her. But like I said, she has the temper of a lion sometimes, so often I get ignored, told off, or even worse; snapped at. It's not bad though. It only happens when I'm being "clingy" so maybe I just need to stop trying to make her feel better and leave it to the people she actually likes. Sounds cruel in a way, but if I'm going to get flamed when I try to help, I'm staying out.
Other times she's in a great mood and is totally sweet to me. Usually this is when she's not in school. She'll laugh when I joke around, let me lean against her when we sit together, and snuggle ^-^
So I'm not sure what to think about this. To sum it all up, she seems to not like me, yet sometimes it seems like she does. She can be short-tempered, but is totally sweet when in a good mood. What is happening here?

To me, it sounds like she might be leading you on, in a way but not purposefully. Also, she could like you and just be trying to deny her feelings or make them go away because she doesn't want to like you, even though she does

[jayus]

I guess I'm prettier than I thought or something?
Like 4 different boys admitted in some way (only one of them directly) that they had crushes on me. The last guy asked me out.
I'm in highschool. I have no clue how to flirt. I usually end up playfully arguing with boys.

And I like this one guy, and I think he finally got over a mildly embarrassing incident from junior high (kid took his lunchbox, he wiped out on gravel, I hunted down kids and scraped my ankle pretty badly). I think he felt awkward that I got his lunchbox while he wiped out.
Anyways, we had a non-awkward conversation on Saturday. He was talking about a TV show, we were talking about stuff. It was only about five minutes long, unfortunately, but it wasn't awkward.
He can be talking to other people five feet away from me, but until Saturday, whenever I joined in he became awkward, quiet, and wouldn't make eye contact with me.
I swear I've liked him for 3 years now.
Do you guys think he likes me back at all?

[GIGABITE]

Ok, this is really bothering me.
This girl and I have known each other for almost a year now. I remember because I met her a couple weeks after my birthday, which is in 3 days. We've been really good friends for all that time, which is great. She is bi like me, which is awesome.
My problem? Since I started talking to her all that time ago, I've had a bit of a crush on her. Scratch that. A HUGE crush on her. I'm barely able to focus each day at school. She's beautiful and super sweet, although she can be hotheaded sometimes.
But she doesn't notice me. Well, she kinda does.. She talks to me regularly, hangs out with me, and acts like any other friend. But she doesn't notice me like.. More than that.
Yeah, this would be normal if she didn't know I like her. But she does. She's known for all this time.
Now the normal thing to do would be for me to just.. Let my feelings go, right?
It's not that simple.
Every now and then, when I've nearly lost hope, she'll do something so randomly romantic and sweet, that I can't help but to think there might be something there. No, she is not the kind of girl to deliberately lead someone on, so it's not that.
So I can't shed my feelings. It's near impossible.
She likes all these other people, but just doesn't like me I guess.
She always goes on (half-jokingly, she's not a whiner) about how forever-alone she is. Often when I'm standing right there. Ouch?
When she's upset I try to comfort her. But like I said, she has the temper of a lion sometimes, so often I get ignored, told off, or even worse; snapped at. It's not bad though. It only happens when I'm being "clingy" so maybe I just need to stop trying to make her feel better and leave it to the people she actually likes. Sounds cruel in a way, but if I'm going to get flamed when I try to help, I'm staying out.
Other times she's in a great mood and is totally sweet to me. Usually this is when she's not in school. She'll laugh when I joke around, let me lean against her when we sit together, and snuggle ^-^
So I'm not sure what to think about this. To sum it all up, she seems to not like me, yet sometimes it seems like she does. She can be short-tempered, but is totally sweet when in a good mood. What is happening here?

To me, it sounds like she might be leading you on, in a way but not purposefully. Also, she could like you and just be trying to deny her feelings or make them go away because she doesn't want to like you, even though she does

Maybe. There was one time last year she admitted to liking me "a bit" but it's been a while so I'm not sure if she still does or not. *sighs dramatically* why must us girls be so hard to understand?

[Rated R]

i've given up on trying to have feelings for anyone.
not because i was recently rejected or anything, but because although i feel more stable having someone i like [for some odd reason...], i have decided that no, no, i am not going to get all wrapped up in this crush business.
well, i am going to definitely try.
it's just like, extra stress that is rewarding but not rewarding at the same time.
i'm usually a logical, realistic person, but i sometimes overanalyze the littlest things and its stressful on the emotions.
i'm going to try to not like anyone, and i'm going to just let it all go.
forget about this stuff; if it comes, it comes. if it doesn't, it doesn't.