Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Lazy9248]

Does anyone have any tips on how I can get my crush to go to homecoming? He's being a butt and saying he "doesn't know how to dance" and that's his reason not to go... The only reason I go every year is because my guy friends are hilarious... I told him that and he still refuses to go.. I still have two weeks to convince him to go but I don't know how to change his mind... (I'm pretty sure this is the right topic.. If not I'll delete this) c: please feel free to pm me or post on here.. I don't mind c: thanks for any advice in advance c:

[SamhokuFoopets]

Does anyone have any tips on how I can get my crush to go to homecoming? He's being a butt and saying he "doesn't know how to dance" and that's his reason not to go... The only reason I go every year is because my guy friends are hilarious... I told him that and he still refuses to go.. I still have two weeks to convince him to go but I don't know how to change his mind... (I'm pretty sure this is the right topic.. If not I'll delete this) c: please feel free to pm me or post on here.. I don't mind c: thanks for any advice in advance c:

Maybe he just doesn't like to dance. If he really doesn't want to go then their won't be anything that you can do to change his mind. Just ask him if he wants to go, if he says no, then leave it at that. If he us anything like my dad or me (Even though I am a girl) then he will just become stubborn and not go because he wants to prove something.

[frogpaws]

Hm, maybe you guys could come through with some tips/advice for me.

So on the first day of school (this was before I even came out to myself as liking girls) there was this girl on my bus. I saw her talking to a lot of cool people and she seemed really nice and she was really cute. By the second week of school I was convinced I had a huge crush on her. I came out to my family and friends as pansexual as well. She wasn't the only girl I was attracted to, but the only girl I just couldn't keep my mind off of. I suffered that second week and it really started to get involved with my schoolwork. I just couldn't stop thinking about her and it was driving me INSANE. Let's call her Crush. seems pretty easy..lolol
So last tuesday, I think, we were all sitting on the bus and Crush was sitting behind me. One of my friends was sitting in the back of the bus (let's call her One) and she told the friend that was sitting across from me (let's call her Two, she's my best friend) to tell Crush that I liked her. So Two tapped Crush (she was sleeping), and said that I liked her. She said "Ok." and continued the rest of the bus ride sleeping. It wasn't until thursday that One (she's also friends with Crush) told me that Crush had asked One for MY number three times. Me and Crush continued the morning bus ride texting. Then, when we got to school, Crush came up to me and we talked for the first time. That was a really good day and she was in a really good mood so it made me happy.
The next day I talked to some of my friends and they wanted me to ask her to the movies. But another one of my friends (let's call her Three, she's also friends with Crush) told me that Crush was going through "family issues". On Friday she looked really sad in the morning so I took up all my courage, I went up to her, and asked her "are you okay?" she said she was tired and told me that her aunt had recently died and that she had to go to the service on Saturday. I felt really really bad so I didn't ask her out. I realize that she probably needs some time and I don't want to rush her into anything.
Between all of this we had been texting somewhat frequently just talking about school and music and things.
Three had also asked Crush if she liked me and she said she "wasn't sure yet." Which I understood. I'm not a selfish person. I would rather give her time to get to know me than rush into something and have it not work out.
But the big problem I have is that I can't stop thinking about her so much so that it's hurting me. I really want to know whether she likes me or not but I don't want to make her feel rushed into something. I just like to see her happy and I really hope I'm able to at least go out to the movies or something some time with her...
Last night she texted me saying she needed to ask me something and I said sure, but she hasn't answered back yet.
I know this could mean anything, but I don't know whether to be worried or nervous for her answer.
I didn't go to school today because I got 0 sleep and have a 12 hour long school day so I wasn't around to talk to her in person.

Do you guys think she likes me? I mean she's at least making an effort to get to know me.
Do you guys think I should give her some more time??
Should I give up?
Maybe you guys have some ideas on getting to know her better and maybe feeling more confident around her? Every time I talk to her I get distracted and forget what I was trying to say xD I just get so starry eyed.

Thanks for anything. I'm sorry it's so long, but it would really help me if you read it through.

[[if you don't feel like posting here pm me and I can get into more details]]

[harlical]

Hm, maybe you guys could come through with some tips/advice for me.

So on the first day of school (this was before I even came out to myself as liking girls) there was this girl on my bus. I saw her talking to a lot of cool people and she seemed really nice and she was really cute. By the second week of school I was convinced I had a huge crush on her. I came out to my family and friends as pansexual as well. She wasn't the only girl I was attracted to, but the only girl I just couldn't keep my mind off of. I suffered that second week and it really started to get involved with my schoolwork. I just couldn't stop thinking about her and it was driving me INSANE. Let's call her Crush. seems pretty easy..lolol
So last tuesday, I think, we were all sitting on the bus and Crush was sitting behind me. One of my friends was sitting in the back of the bus (let's call her One) and she told the friend that was sitting across from me (let's call her Two, she's my best friend) to tell Crush that I liked her. So Two tapped Crush (she was sleeping), and said that I liked her. She said "Ok." and continued the rest of the bus ride sleeping. It wasn't until thursday that One (she's also friends with Crush) told me that Crush had asked One for MY number three times. Me and Crush continued the morning bus ride texting. Then, when we got to school, Crush came up to me and we talked for the first time. That was a really good day and she was in a really good mood so it made me happy.
The next day I talked to some of my friends and they wanted me to ask her to the movies. But another one of my friends (let's call her Three, she's also friends with Crush) told me that Crush was going through "family issues". On Friday she looked really sad in the morning so I took up all my courage, I went up to her, and asked her "are you okay?" she said she was tired and told me that her aunt had recently died and that she had to go to the service on Saturday. I felt really really bad so I didn't ask her out. I realize that she probably needs some time and I don't want to rush her into anything.
Between all of this we had been texting somewhat frequently just talking about school and music and things.
Three had also asked Crush if she liked me and she said she "wasn't sure yet." Which I understood. I'm not a selfish person. I would rather give her time to get to know me than rush into something and have it not work out.
But the big problem I have is that I can't stop thinking about her so much so that it's hurting me. I really want to know whether she likes me or not but I don't want to make her feel rushed into something. I just like to see her happy and I really hope I'm able to at least go out to the movies or something some time with her...
Last night she texted me saying she needed to ask me something and I said sure, but she hasn't answered back yet.
I know this could mean anything, but I don't know whether to be worried or nervous for her answer.
I didn't go to school today because I got 0 sleep and have a 12 hour long school day so I wasn't around to talk to her in person.

Do you guys think she likes me? I mean she's at least making an effort to get to know me.
Do you guys think I should give her some more time??
Should I give up?
Maybe you guys have some ideas on getting to know her better and maybe feeling more confident around her? Every time I talk to her I get distracted and forget what I was trying to say xD I just get so starry eyed.

Thanks for anything. I'm sorry it's so long, but it would really help me if you read it through.

i think i can help you, a lot of what you said relates to what happened between me and my crush [ who is now my boyfriend as of about 3am this morning xD ]

she seems to be either too caught up in her family issues to be very worried about this, or isn't quite sure what to think of the whole situation. the stress of losing her aunt will probably weigh on her throughout the entire week up until Saturday and after that, and she probably won't be very interested in trying to start up a relationship at the moment. maybe try talking to her though - she'll appreciate your support and it will help you two get closer, and might help her feel a little bit better.

it seems that she could be interested in you - she asked for your number pretty often, and wanted to talk to you, correct ? and she knows you have a crush on her ? its a possibility, so unless she hints or directly tells you that she's not interested, then you should keep talking to her and get her to like you more.

definitely give it a little time. these things don't usually happen very quick - they tend to take a little bit. especially since she recently had a family member pass away - she won't appreciate it very much if you try to push her into something despite knowing what happened ;] try putting that on hold, and instead focus on making her feel better and providing whatever support you can.

as for confidence, that's all up to you. it's not something that can be taught - it takes nerve and willpower to be confident. try to talk to people instead waiting for them to talk to you. if you see someone wearing a cool shirt, and you don't know them, just call out to them and compliment their shirt. it might not seem like much, but it definitely boosts your self confidence when you see someone smile at you and thank you for the compliment. it also makes you a more positive person in general, as well as help you get used to being more outgoing. people like these kind of traits in a person.

as for her message about asking you something - it may or may not be important, but considering that she asked to ask you something, and she's taking up a lot of time in following through, it might be important. give her time, or, just text her with a simple "Hey :]" and remind her that you're there. asking important and possibly personal questions takes a lot of nerve and she might be conflicted about how you will take whatever question she might have for you.
or, she might have just lost her phone or something trivial like that. you never know ;]

aaaaa sorry for such a long reply ; A ; got carried away haha
good luck <3

[frogpaws]

Hm, maybe you guys could come through with some tips/advice for me.

So on the first day of school (this was before I even came out to myself as liking girls) there was this girl on my bus. I saw her talking to a lot of cool people and she seemed really nice and she was really cute. By the second week of school I was convinced I had a huge crush on her. I came out to my family and friends as pansexual as well. She wasn't the only girl I was attracted to, but the only girl I just couldn't keep my mind off of. I suffered that second week and it really started to get involved with my schoolwork. I just couldn't stop thinking about her and it was driving me INSANE. Let's call her Crush. seems pretty easy..lolol
So last tuesday, I think, we were all sitting on the bus and Crush was sitting behind me. One of my friends was sitting in the back of the bus (let's call her One) and she told the friend that was sitting across from me (let's call her Two, she's my best friend) to tell Crush that I liked her. So Two tapped Crush (she was sleeping), and said that I liked her. She said "Ok." and continued the rest of the bus ride sleeping. It wasn't until thursday that One (she's also friends with Crush) told me that Crush had asked One for MY number three times. Me and Crush continued the morning bus ride texting. Then, when we got to school, Crush came up to me and we talked for the first time. That was a really good day and she was in a really good mood so it made me happy.
The next day I talked to some of my friends and they wanted me to ask her to the movies. But another one of my friends (let's call her Three, she's also friends with Crush) told me that Crush was going through "family issues". On Friday she looked really sad in the morning so I took up all my courage, I went up to her, and asked her "are you okay?" she said she was tired and told me that her aunt had recently died and that she had to go to the service on Saturday. I felt really really bad so I didn't ask her out. I realize that she probably needs some time and I don't want to rush her into anything.
Between all of this we had been texting somewhat frequently just talking about school and music and things.
Three had also asked Crush if she liked me and she said she "wasn't sure yet." Which I understood. I'm not a selfish person. I would rather give her time to get to know me than rush into something and have it not work out.
But the big problem I have is that I can't stop thinking about her so much so that it's hurting me. I really want to know whether she likes me or not but I don't want to make her feel rushed into something. I just like to see her happy and I really hope I'm able to at least go out to the movies or something some time with her...
Last night she texted me saying she needed to ask me something and I said sure, but she hasn't answered back yet.
I know this could mean anything, but I don't know whether to be worried or nervous for her answer.
I didn't go to school today because I got 0 sleep and have a 12 hour long school day so I wasn't around to talk to her in person.

Do you guys think she likes me? I mean she's at least making an effort to get to know me.
Do you guys think I should give her some more time??
Should I give up?
Maybe you guys have some ideas on getting to know her better and maybe feeling more confident around her? Every time I talk to her I get distracted and forget what I was trying to say xD I just get so starry eyed.

Thanks for anything. I'm sorry it's so long, but it would really help me if you read it through.

i think i can help you, a lot of what you said relates to what happened between me and my crush [ who is now my boyfriend as of about 3am this morning xD ]

she seems to be either too caught up in her family issues to be very worried about this, or isn't quite sure what to think of the whole situation. the stress of losing her aunt will probably weigh on her throughout the entire week up until Saturday and after that, and she probably won't be very interested in trying to start up a relationship at the moment. maybe try talking to her though - she'll appreciate your support and it will help you two get closer, and might help her feel a little bit better.

it seems that she could be interested in you - she asked for your number pretty often, and wanted to talk to you, correct ? and she knows you have a crush on her ? its a possibility, so unless she hints or directly tells you that she's not interested, then you should keep talking to her and get her to like you more.

definitely give it a little time. these things don't usually happen very quick - they tend to take a little bit. especially since she recently had a family member pass away - she won't appreciate it very much if you try to push her into something despite knowing what happened ;] try putting that on hold, and instead focus on making her feel better and providing whatever support you can.

as for confidence, that's all up to you. it's not something that can be taught - it takes nerve and willpower to be confident. try to talk to people instead waiting for them to talk to you. if you see someone wearing a cool shirt, and you don't know them, just call out to them and compliment their shirt. it might not seem like much, but it definitely boosts your self confidence when you see someone smile at you and thank you for the compliment. it also makes you a more positive person in general, as well as help you get used to being more outgoing. people like these kind of traits in a person.

as for her message about asking you something - it may or may not be important, but considering that she asked to ask you something, and she's taking up a lot of time in following through, it might be important. give her time, or, just text her with a simple "Hey :]" and remind her that you're there. asking important and possibly personal questions takes a lot of nerve and she might be conflicted about how you will take whatever question she might have for you.
or, she might have just lost her phone or something trivial like that. you never know ;]

aaaaa sorry for such a long reply ; A ; got carried away haha
good luck <3

no it's fine! That was exactly what I was hoping for.
thanks so much for the advice ;u;

I did text her before telling her I'm there for her if she needs to talk.
I've never had someone close in my family die, and I think she was very close to her aunt.
I think when she's had enough time she'll let me know when she's ready to get involved in a relationship.
I just wish every day was like the first day we talked. Happy people make me happy c:

[fruitbat]

all the feels right now
my friend is in a bad state with her relationship, and I was trying to help her.
then she said, "_____, never fall for a guy" and then I looked over at my crush
and said "well, I think its too late". she laughed and ask me how long I have liked
my crush for, I said "well...2 years and 3 months" and she was like... "it is too late
for you".

and ihave liked him for that long, I mean, he will never ask me out...

[provolone]

Wow it's been too log since I've posted on here. Sorry guys! But I'm in need of a bit of advice. (Remember I'm up to helping anyone! Pm me!)

Main point is there's this guy who I know likes me, and wants to ask me to homecoming. I really REALLY don't want to go with him. Not him specifically, but I'm not interested in going period. Is there any way to let him down easy if he does? I don't want to crush him and I don't want to act interested. Help?

[northern downpour ;;]

^^^ Tell him you're just not interested in going to homecoming.

Agh, my brother (pretty much my brother, he's my bestest friend >w<) is teasing me about Jack again >///< I don't mind it, but this time... just what he said... >///<
And it's all good that he does that, we WERE a group of three best friends. And then Peps became my brother (still my best friend :3) and me and Jack started dating. So we're all very good friends, he just likes to tease me sometimes. And I don't mind, but still... embarrassing >///<

[jayus]

I guess I'm prettier than I thought or something?
Like 4 different boys admitted in some way (only one of them directly) that they had crushes on me. The last guy asked me out.
I'm in highschool. I have no clue how to flirt. I usually end up playfully arguing with boys.

And I like this one guy, and I think he finally got over a mildly embarrassing incident from junior high (kid took his lunchbox, he wiped out on gravel, I hunted down kids and scraped my ankle pretty badly). I think he felt awkward that I got his lunchbox while he wiped out.
Anyways, we had a non-awkward conversation on Saturday. He was talking about a TV show, we were talking about stuff. It was only about five minutes long, unfortunately, but it wasn't awkward.
He can be talking to other people five feet away from me, but until Saturday, whenever I joined in he became awkward, quiet, and wouldn't make eye contact with me.
I swear I've liked him for 3 years now.
Do you guys think he likes me back at all?

[horse .]

OMG! My crush likes me <3

Okay guys, here's a little background on what's happened...

First time I met him was after I'd broken up with my bf that I was with for almost 4 years (2009-2013 maybe 2010-2013). Anyway he cheated on me with someone from another school so I told him I hated him and I would never trust him again blah blah blah... Anyway that ended early this year (2013) and I haven't trusted any guy since, until a few months ago when I started liking my older brothers best friends younger brother, who is the same age as me. I thought he liked someone else, to be honest my best friend. But then I'm being told he likes me! And I asked him privately who he liked and he told me to guess, so I did and I guessed every girl in our year apart from me because I guess I was a little scared of that LOL. He said no to all of them, then this is exactly what I replied with: "Okay, um... Is it me?" And guess what!? He said yeah!

So the I've got a heap of pressure to ask him out, and believe me, I honestly would! But the thing is I've
Never actually asked a guy out... Because I've been asked out plenty of times, only twice I said yes. One was to te long relationship I stated earlier and the other I hated because I was forced into it... And in primary school I was asked out by every year 6 when we were in yr 6. Also I was school captain LOL!

Anyway, what would you do?
I really like him,
He's got light/medium brown hair and brown eyes, and he's a little taller them me and flirty with me only. Heh <3 thinking of him makes me happy