Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Me <3]

-coughs- Does anyone's crush appear in their dreams on occasion? Or is it just me?

Way to much especially if I think I won't see him for a long time after this one day no matter how much I tried to dream of yugioh guys being each other (don't judge its really funny when I do dream that stuff) my mind kept going back to him and why I like him and if he liked me even though I liked it when I woke up it felt like I was having a nightmare it was weird.

[Anuran]

So..
This guy I like is completely out of my league. A year older. Lead singer/screamer for his band (which is rather good and booked quite a few gigs). Football player. Tall. Blonde hair. Blue eyes. Sweet.
And.
We sorta know each other, and we talked for, like, five minutes today before his buddy dragged him off.
But.
He called me cute.
And stole my phone and put his number in it with a little ':3' beside his name.

And now we're texting.
And he called me 'Sweet thang'.
And he said he missed me and wants to hang out more, since we're different grade levels.

Does... does he like me? Or what? I don't even know. Anyone could hit me upside the face with a metal sign that says, 'HEY. I LIKE YOU.' And I still most likely wouldn't realize it. Only thing is, he does one-word answers.
How do I answer to just a 'yeah :3'?!
Boys are awful things.
Sorry, no offense to all you cs guys.
Just this guy is awful.
Making me all nervous and crap.
And smile stupidly at every text he sends me. /).(\

But seriously... what do ya'll think, who's had experience with this? I mean, last time some guy acted like he liked me ( I used to always hang out with him and now our relationship is uber-awkward ) and I played along, we grew distant and now we hate hanging out. Relationships are complicated. xP

honestlllllyyy, i think he does like you.

even one word answers are better than no answers at all. if he steals your phone, he probably does like you :3

Thanks for all the answers everyone, except, um...

Today was normal (we met up at lunch and he kept hugging me, and all his friends were like 'lolwhut') but, texting tonight, he doesn't seem too... interested. Not like yesterday. What the heck. Do boys just have sudden mood changes? 'Cause, like, last boyfriend I had, we'd text pages and pages to eachother, never get tired of it. Now, this boy, he just seems... meh. Like, no more smileys, no cute nicknames. What happened? Am I too pushy/expecting? I've completely forgotten how to flirt since I dumped my last boyfriend last December and have had no interest in guys until now. Dx

[Anza]

-coughs- Does anyone's crush appear in their dreams on occasion? Or is it just me?

Way to much especially if I think I won't see him for a long time after this one day no matter how much I tried to dream of yugioh guys being each other (don't judge its really funny when I do dream that stuff) my mind kept going back to him and why I like him and if he liked me even though I liked it when I woke up it felt like I was having a nightmare it was weird.

Yea...it actually kind off creaps me out! But then again most of my dreams are nightmares....XD Joking; Joking!

[Refugee]

-coughs- Does anyone's crush appear in their dreams on occasion? Or is it just me?

Aw... yeah. My old best friend and crush, Mikey. I miss him so much... I had a dream of back when he used to love me (romantically) and it was great...until I woke up. I hate how it makes me miss him even worse than normal, and the fact that I can never see him in real life again breaks my heart! But I guess it was my fault for looking at his Facebook page all night, reading his statuses about moving into college.

[Saren]

Thanks for all the answers everyone, except, um...

Today was normal (we met up at lunch and he kept hugging me, and all his friends were like 'lolwhut') but, texting tonight, he doesn't seem too... interested. Not like yesterday. What the heck. Do boys just have sudden mood changes? 'Cause, like, last boyfriend I had, we'd text pages and pages to eachother, never get tired of it. Now, this boy, he just seems... meh. Like, no more smileys, no cute nicknames. What happened? Am I too pushy/expecting? I've completely forgotten how to flirt since I dumped my last boyfriend last December and have had no interest in guys until now. Dx

He could just be busy. When my boyfriend and I text, it's usually slow replies and short texts when either of us is busy. But maybe his friends have talked to him about it or made fun of him, and now he doesn't want to seem too interested? Or he's playing it cool?

i honestly have no idea.
I've been in a relationship for nearly a year but I don't understand how guys work.
cause my one is special

[Rated R]

last night my little-crush [i call him that so i don't fear rejection in any way] texted me and we talked from 10 pm to 12 am.
here's the catch,
i asked him to do me a favor, and it was an awkward one- a friend of mine needed some cheering up and i had told her that some surprise was coming, and then i told my little-crush to send her a joke. an awkward request, but he said no worries.
he sent her the joke, and it worked to get my friend's mind travelling away from stuff that was bothering her.

SO, afterwards i was like "thank you <3 it worked and i know it was awkward for you and everything <3"
and he was like, "for you, anything :)"
now, he's said that to me before, without the smiley face. thing is, i don't know if he says it to everybody or whether he's just saying it to me.

then a wee bit of talking ensued and i sent him a funny picture, and he said it made it day, and then i said, "why, i'm glad i'm not a nuisance" and he replied with "farthest thing away from it ;)"

made me feel good <3
________________

now my question, is there a giant difference between :) and ;) when it comes to meaning/implications? one friend says it does, the other doesn't, so i want other people's opinion on it too c:
please and thank you <3

[Dia.]

last night my little-crush [i call him that so i don't fear rejection in any way] texted me and we talked from 10 pm to 12 am.
here's the catch,
i asked him to do me a favor, and it was an awkward one- a friend of mine needed some cheering up and i had told her that some surprise was coming, and then i told my little-crush to send her a joke. an awkward request, but he said no worries.
he sent her the joke, and it worked to get my friend's mind travelling away from stuff that was bothering her.

SO, afterwards i was like "thank you <3 it worked and i know it was awkward for you and everything <3"
and he was like, "for you, anything :)"
now, he's said that to me before, without the smiley face. thing is, i don't know if he says it to everybody or whether he's just saying it to me.

then a wee bit of talking ensued and i sent him a funny picture, and he said it made it day, and then i said, "why, i'm glad i'm not a nuisance" and he replied with "farthest thing away from it ;)"

made me feel good <3
________________

now my question, is there a giant difference between :) and ;) when it comes to meaning/implications? one friend says it does, the other doesn't, so i want other people's opinion on it too c:
please and thank you <3

I was always super happy when I got to text my boyfriend into the wee hours of the night before we actually started dating. <3 And those little things that they say... <3

Honestly, I know guys who throw around the ;) face all the time with no problem. If my boyfriend were to use it when he's texting me, I'd be a little shocked because he never has used it before.
It depends on the guy really... as most everything to do with relationships and such does.
I did notice (after the fact) that my boyfriend started using :) faces when he started to like me and we started hanging out more. If he's never used the face before, it might mean something.
I usually interpret :) as sweet and ;) as something more flirty or sexual.
I'm not sure if I helped... but. ^^;

[Madison143]

Life is so confusing -_-
I moved to where I live now, a few years, and when I first started going to this new school, in my core class, there was this guy and we would always joke around and stuff, but then last year, we had no classes together, until second semester, when the two classes we were in combined to do a musical, and somewhere during that semester, he got a girlfriend, who was also my friend too, and they broke up also, which, I huess in a way, I was sort of pleased with, since I kinda, sorta, just a teeny bit liked him. But anyways, at the end of the year trip, we were on the same bus, and messing around with each other, and he asked for my phone number, nonchalantly, which I was glad for, because I wanted to, but was afraid to ask. (Insert squeee here!) Haha, anyways, we texted quite a bit in the beginning of the summer, and then it lulled, and now we are texting a lot, just as school is beginning to root its way back into our lives. Sad thing is, we have no classes together But anyways, he is super funny, and he was joking around with me and this other guy, for a minute after school, and he told the guy that he wasn't pat of his club, then asked me if I wanted to be, but it turns out it was a club from Smosh, which is a youtube channel XD

BUt anyways, do you guys have any questions, comments, or tips?
I kinda want to know if he likes me, and we even talked about relationships a few times, when he would ask if I was single, then be all surprised that I was or whatever. He also made me promise onece, after I said my hair was all messy after swimming for a picture(no idea why) then made me promise to send a picture if it ever happened again(which I never did), and he texted me a picture of his costume, cause he does LARPing, and it was kinda funny, in a way. Anywho, I should probably stop droning on and go XD

[Anuran]

Thanks for all the answers everyone, except, um...

Today was normal (we met up at lunch and he kept hugging me, and all his friends were like 'lolwhut') but, texting tonight, he doesn't seem too... interested. Not like yesterday. What the heck. Do boys just have sudden mood changes? 'Cause, like, last boyfriend I had, we'd text pages and pages to eachother, never get tired of it. Now, this boy, he just seems... meh. Like, no more smileys, no cute nicknames. What happened? Am I too pushy/expecting? I've completely forgotten how to flirt since I dumped my last boyfriend last December and have had no interest in guys until now. Dx

He could just be busy. When my boyfriend and I text, it's usually slow replies and short texts when either of us is busy. But maybe his friends have talked to him about it or made fun of him, and now he doesn't want to seem too interested? Or he's playing it cool?

i honestly have no idea.
I've been in a relationship for nearly a year but I don't understand how guys work.
cause my one is special

I don't know, but it's rather depressing.
At school today, he didn't even say hi.
Didn't come by where I usually wait for someone to chat or for a hug or anything.
Passed him after lunch, and he didn't even say hi.
What the heck.

I'm hoping that he'll text me first tonight; I'm not doing it. I don't wanna bother him if he's not interested and make him feel like he's obligated to talk to me, y'know?

I hate getting my hopes up over guys. I mean, when I just wanna be friends with a guy, they want more. When I want to have a relationship with a guy, it all goes downhill. I don't get it. >.<

[thunderofthedrum]

No, that does make sense. It's kind of like a middle road you're giving me. Stay with friends and ignore love because it's okay being single. Problem is, I don't really have friends at school but I do at my tech school and outside of school so I'll stick with them. Then if he realizes he misses me and still loves me, like you said, he'll come after me and I don't need to go after him. However, he's not really a going after a girl kind of person, hence why he's never had a girlfriend before me but there are other reasons too. Then, if he does get a girlfriend, it will hurt but by that time (he'll take a while to get a girlfriend, I'm sure.) I might be over him or have a new crush (not new boyfriend, I'm sick of love and will be for a while.So, my new plan: cozy up to friends, ignore love, and see what happens with time.

Thank you for helping me figure out this elemental. I hope this will work but I'm not totally sure I'm strong enough to try taking this 'middle road' because I have a lot of friend problems at my main school and all my actual friends are outside of my main school, and now I don't even have my boyfriend to pal around with. I'm going to have to eat in the bathroom, literally. but i'll try hard to do this. Thank you again.

i read your post and lemme give you a hug
/large snuggly virtual hug to you/

and now, for my thoughts, though i'm glad someone else managed to help you c:
lemme just say something to you,
from one internet stranger/acquaintance to another:
YOU
ARE
SPECIAL.
okay? as wonderful as your guy might have been/might be, you are amazing.
and, you don't need him to keep BEING special.
you will always have a glowing aura around you of happiness and glitter and rainbows.
in fact, let me tell you another thing:
you are the one that probably made HIM special.
okay, now for other real stuff.
as hard as it can be, try to make a few friends.
i know how horribly tough and hard that can be. but you have to try.
go find your people. because, while it might seem like most are different from you, there has to be one person that just clicks.
i think that everyone has a certain eccentricity to them, and that you need to find someone who has an eccentricity that matches yours.
i have to say, i used to have several friends. but now, i have to admit that i have one or two real best friends.
in the end, most of your high school friends probably aren't going to be with you for life.
maybe one or two.
this is only four years of it all, and although it seems like it means a whole lot, in the grand scheme of things it's just a tiny portion.

but i approve of your plan that you described above.
and if you still happen to catch yourself feeling terrible, or having a tough night/day due to all this stuff,
you can either shoot me a pm OR
just think to yourself,
there is someone walking on Earth this very minute who will love me unconditionally. he might not know it yet, but he will soon.
there is someone for you, and if this guy can't see it every time he looks at you, then well, he's probably not it.
he might be partially it, but you are special.
always remember that.

hopefully this helped and not made you more upset or anything. i'm honestly trying to help c;

I agree! Rather than freaking out about the 'you and him' issue, use this as an opportunity to focus on YOURSELF. You deserve great things and you can achieve great things. Does this maybe open up free time for you? Did you want to spend some more time with friends? Focus on studies? Try out a new hobby like drawing more or yoga? Need to research what career path you want to take? Let yourself flourish so you can love YOURSELF. In my opinion it increases your chances of finding someone who loves you for YOU.

Also, sounds to me like he doesn't really know what he wants. It's pretty normal - it's the issue a LOT of people in this thread have! And since he hasn't dated before, he has nothing to compare you to. I don't just mean your looks on a 1-10 scale, but his experiences and interactions with you and how you make him feel. He doesn't know what to expect, he might not be sure what he even likes in a relationship, he doesn't know what the 'norm' is or whether he is supposed to feel fireworks this soon into the relationship. He probably doesn't KNOW if you are 'right' for him, and after all, who does? I doubt anything changed overnight for him aside from maybe sitting down and thinking things over for a while and coming to some conclusion, some course of action.

last night my little-crush [i call him that so i don't fear rejection in any way] texted me and we talked from 10 pm to 12 am.
here's the catch,
i asked him to do me a favor, and it was an awkward one- a friend of mine needed some cheering up and i had told her that some surprise was coming, and then i told my little-crush to send her a joke. an awkward request, but he said no worries.
he sent her the joke, and it worked to get my friend's mind travelling away from stuff that was bothering her.

SO, afterwards i was like "thank you <3 it worked and i know it was awkward for you and everything <3"
and he was like, "for you, anything "
now, he's said that to me before, without the smiley face. thing is, i don't know if he says it to everybody or whether he's just saying it to me.

then a wee bit of talking ensued and i sent him a funny picture, and he said it made it day, and then i said, "why, i'm glad i'm not a nuisance" and he replied with "farthest thing away from it "

made me feel good <3
________________

now my question, is there a giant difference between and when it comes to meaning/implications? one friend says it does, the other doesn't, so i want other people's opinion on it too c:
please and thank you <3

It really depends on the person. To me it does; I would only do winky if I'm being flirty, or MAYBE some sort of playful snarky, but that's because that is how I interpret receiving the winky face from other people. To some people, it's normal and casual and means just about the same as a regular smiley.

There are also other things potentially involved, like I personally don't like using smileys much. Things like :3 and xD are totally okay in my book, but I don't put the actual smiley and winky faces often. Also I include the emoticon/whatevers to begin with to indicate the mood/tone of my text or message. Some people just tack them onto everything!

Sorry that may not clear anything up for your specific situation, but there's my input at least!