Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Vampyrum Spectrum]

Hey, my boyfriend just broke up with me. The. Week. Of. School. Starting. His locker is right next to mine, it was very sudden, and I just have no idea how I'm going to face the first days of school now. This has ruined the beginning of my senior year before it's even started! I've stopped crying, but I just need help on just how to deal with this besides completely avoiding him which I already plan to do.

[Rated R]

i'm very sorry ^
i give you an internet hug.

i don't want to have crushes and things.
but it almost feels as though i need one, or should have one.
it feels like my hormones are running wild.
i don't want them to.
i don't want to get attached to someone in that fashion yet.
is this normal?

[Anuran]

First day of school.
And.
-insert stupid crazy girly mode-

THE GUY THAT TOLD ME I WAS CUTE LAST YEAR ON THE LAST DAY STILL GOES HERE.
I WAS SCARED BECAUSE A LOT OF HIS FRIENDS WERE GRADUATING, SO I THOUGHT HE WAS A SENIOR.
BUT HE ISN'T.
WELL, HE IS, THIS YEAR, BUT THAT'S BESIDE THE POINT.

Point is; I ran into him during lunch, and I didn't think he'd recognize me, so I just waved, and he went and RAN ALL PELL-MELL OVER TO OUR GROUP AND HUGGED ME FOR A VERY LONG TIME AND WOULDN'T HUG ANYONE ELSE BECAUSE 'YOU GIVE THE BEST HUGS'.

Gah.

I hope that this isn't going to be like the last little boy shpeel, with Catman. Catman tried to hold my hand when he saw me and I slapped it and walked away. I AM A STRONG AND INDEPENDANT WOMAN. I DON'T NEED YOU, CATMAN.

But yeah.
I hope Seniorboy likes me.
'Cause.
Werrrllll.
I like him.
Just a little.

[bola11]

Hee mah boy gave me a hug
he was shaking a little x3

[thunderofthedrum]

I just had a lovely weekend with my boyfriend. Granted, much of Saturday was spent with him busy cleaning and building a bunny cage, but it was so sweet of him to take care of all the things I'd mentioned (and more) even though he was only back in town for one night (he's been working out of town). He bought a new hose (the other one was STOLEN wth), cleaned the fridge and shower (yay about both!), built the cage (though it still needs the second level and door), worked on the water heater, worked on the internet, even cleaned out the cat litterbox. Had a nice evening with a movie we'd been meaning to watch together and a lovely Sunday involving groceries, McD's, and laundry, among other more fun things. ^__^

I'm not a big touchy feely person but omg I wanted to die when he left. ;~;
As he was getting ready to go he commented that I did not look happy. xD
NO KIDDING DUDE, NO KIDDING.

He sent me a text today saying I'm the best girlfriend. HE MUST HAVE TELEPATHICALLY KNOWN I WAS CLEANING OUT HIS CATS' LITTERBOX JUST THEN.
And doing his laundry. xD
And I haven't complained about no hot water (though it seriously sucks).
And I paid for our lunch Sunday.

Hai guys. Wow, I haven't been on cs in a while.

But, yet again I need advice.

I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month now. Things have been good, up until a ton of girls have been messaging him. And theres one who hes always trying to hangout with, and from past events, I know she's not the one to "respect" him having a girlfriend.

He knows this.

He's always trying to hangout with other girls and never really wants to be with me anymore. I dont really understand.

I have really strong feelings for him, and he doesnt seem interested with us being a couple. I don't know if I should just ignore it, or what.

You know how when you have a crush on someone and they're really cute, you tend to assume their personality must be equally as great? And you have these fantasies of him respecting you and admiring your talents and wanting to learn more about his hobbies? And he lets you have just the right amount of space but sends you sweet texts exactly when you are feeling unhappy? And you are comfortable talking to him about anything and he doesn't overreact or anything? We all tend to build people up in our heads, and I believe that is part of why we end up disappointed.

I think, in this scenario, he might be realizing he's not as interested in you as he thought. It has nothing to do with you, just that in HIS mind the fantasy you and the real you are not the same. My own brother has been seeing this girl for about 2 weeks and he's already losing interest. He seemed rather unimpressed about it taking her an HOUR to get ready in the morning, and that's without doing much to her hair (she even asked if I had a blowdryer, which I don't). He gets fed up with me taking a while to get ready and my time isn't even close to an hour. For some guys this wouldn't be an issue and they might even like that she makes sure to look so good all the time (and believe me, she is super pretty). But for my brother, this just didn't feel compatible. So it's not that her 'get ready time' is good or bad, just not what my brother anticipated and isn't the right fit for his lifestyle.

I would definitely say something to him, or at least very clearly make more of an effort to spend some time with him (without being clingy). If he is still kind of blowing you off to hang out with other girls, then that suggests he enjoys their company more - and in that case, you shouldn't bother sticking around. You need someone who values your company, even if he doesn't always agree with what you say or understand your interests. Sometimes my boyfriend drives me nuts but in many other ways he is just fantastic. I value being with him even when we're not having a good day.

[Me <3]

Hey I need some advise. I really like this guy a school year older than me. He's in high school now and I'm at our old middle school still. I've gotten over the age thing and decided to e-mail him until like next year when I'll see him during band. I also have seen him recently during band camp which my older sister attends. On the night marking the end of it I talked to him a bit one at the water fight, once near the lake, once on the dock, and once in the place we ate dinner. The thing that bugs me if what if he either changes or forgets about me. I mean change is good but what if he loses the part of him I like and becomes more serious and less goofy, I don't think I could handle that. And what if he forgets about me I mean we'll most likely e-mail back and forth but what if over the summer he forgets who I am or suddenly starts disliking me for some reason. What if he still likes me but only as a friend and get a girlfriend his age that's in multiple classes with him this year. I guess what I'm asking is does anyone know how to stop annoying emotions?

[Me <3]

Hey, my boyfriend just broke up with me. The. Week. Of. School. Starting. His locker is right next to mine, it was very sudden, and I just have no idea how I'm going to face the first days of school now. This has ruined the beginning of my senior year before it's even started! I've stopped crying, but I just need help on just how to deal with this besides completely avoiding him which I already plan to do.

Ok so you have a locker right next to him and you plan to avoid him, hard. I would try and ignore him I mean he broke up with you so he might want reaction like purposely avoiding him or always shrinking away when he's around. People love when they get reactions out of people so if he texted you that but you never gave him a reaction good. But that doesn't always work so what I would do is forget about it. As in shrug off the fact he broke up with you. If you act as if he's just another person then he might feel like you really don't care that he dumped you. This may sound a little brony but I find this true "Keep calm and flutter on" go with the flow you'll seem more down to earth and way cooler. Sorry if this is a bit messy.

[FoxerOwl]

I COMPLETELY agree with elementalshadow. If you act like you don't care he broke up with you, he won't feel any satisfaction. Some people get a kick out of breaking up with people and waiting to see them cry, give them sad and helpless looks, etc. I don't find it very funny, but if you talk to him like nothing happened, he might get frustrated <3

[Darkest Night]

There is that ONE time I was very frustrated with my boy. He had been hanging out with this one girl and this girl had called me rude names before. (Lets not go to in depth with the name calling..) And she had a crush on my boy, well, I understand that, but if you disrespect his girl, then it's a no no. So I have this superl ong talk with my boy, but a week later he does it again. :I So, then I said to him " If you wont listen to me then I don't think we should be together. " His eyes widened and he hugged me real tight. He then said. " Just so you know, You're the only girl that I love and will always love. Don't forget that. "

I basically just calmed down and cried happy tears. My boy is so good to me. :,3

[Vampyrum Spectrum]

Okay, I did something bad. He texted sorry to me for like the fifth time and I responded angrily. I deleted the thread thus far but it lasted for 68 messages to and from (one of which he said he did love me, but not very much ;-; ) and I now don't believe we are on speaking terms because I told him I did not want to be his friend and he should stop trying to make me into one again. So he said 'then why are we still talking? done.' and that's it.

It hurt a lot, but I actually feel a little better somehow. I defriended him from FB, changed my relationship status, and am going to buy ice cream and get my eyebrows done tomorrow to cope with the emotional onslaught sure to still come. I feel... so empty yet full at the same time. He was the best thing that ever happened to me and I saw him as the perfect love; now I only see him as the jerk that dumped me.