Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[vanilla kitten]

confused ??
i like you, you like me. i don't see why we don't date? you're not like T. you
stick up for me, you talk to me, you give me advice. and i think i'm waaaay
better off with you than i am T..

[kierran.]

OK so.... I've been friends with a guy for two years, and I only found out a few months ago that he likes me. Apparently he started liking me when ge 'first laid eyes on me'. Well, he's a creepy annoying person, and he likes backing me into corners and sitting next to me, which drives everyone else away. I want to tell him that I hate him and want him to go awat, but after being friends for so long, I don't want to hurt his feelings. I've tried getting his friends to talk to him (a lot of my friends are guys XD) but he's clueless. Help?

[Dia.]

OK so.... I've been friends with a guy for two years, and I only found out a few months ago that he likes me. Apparently he started liking me when ge 'first laid eyes on me'. Well, he's a creepy annoying person, and he likes backing me into corners and sitting next to me, which drives everyone else away. I want to tell him that I hate him and want him to go awat, but after being friends for so long, I don't want to hurt his feelings. I've tried getting his friends to talk to him (a lot of my friends are guys XD) but he's clueless. Help?

I'm confused that you called him your friend, but also said you hate him in the same paragraph.
Having other people talk to someone when it comes to relationship "stuff" never works out. You have to talk to him on your own, ESPECIALLY if he makes you feel uncomfortable. You just need to explain to him that you don't share the same feelings and would appreciate a bit of space.
He may be hurt, since being rejected sucks, but what's important is that you make yourself happy.

[kierran.]

Thanks, and what I meant is that I was friends with him before I knew he liked me, and once he told me he started acting creepy and then I started hating him.

[Dia.]

You can still be friends with someone even if they like you... >.>
I was friends with this guy, his cousin told me he liked me, I said I didn't share the feelings. Things were perfectly normal even when we both knew he liked me. We actually dated about a year later and had an awkward, ugly break up. Me and my current boyfriend were pretty good friends before we started dating and I'm almost positive at some point he knew that I liked him.
You just need to be mature about it and it'll be fine. I'm not taking your 'creepy' as something that's legit *illegal*. I'm taking it as you are in shock and you just don't like him that way. If I'm wrong, then correct me and tell someone about it, because if he's actually creeping and harassing you to the point where you feel uncomfortable, you need to get help.
If you are friends, there is no reason you should suddenly 'hate' him just because he has feelings for you. I'd feel flattered if anything else.

[kierran.]

Well, I mean he has a tendency of putting his arm on the back of my chair, and kind of blocking me, and touching my hair and stuff and ugh. And I know you can still be in a friend-crush relationship, my current crush is my best friend. But he only started acting weird when he told me that he liked me...

[Dia.]

Well just tell him not to do those things. That's perfectly okay.
You need to tell him that you want things to go back to the way they were and you don't want anything to change.
You won't get anywhere without talking to him yourself.
Good luck.

[kierran.]

Thanks! I have to face him next week anyway.

[samm.]

Me and my girlfriend had a great time yesterday, we went to the movies and watched Percy Jackson Sea of Monsters, which was awesome! Would have been nice if her father wasn't there with us, but at least he sat a couple seats away and we were able to talk to each other without worrying he might hear us. We were gonna hang out longer, but by the time the movie was over it was already 6 in the afternoon, her father wanted to take a nap before going to work and we can never be quiet, so I had to go home. I hope we can hang out again soon, schools starting soon for her, so we wont get to hang out as often, which is sad, but i'm okay.

Also, her birthday is coming up, and I have no idea what to get her! I'd like something a bit more romantic, like jewelry, but I have a limited amount of money to work with. Any ideas? Maybe something besides jewelry that's still kind of sweet and romantic? Whatever it is can't be too obvious about the fact that we're dating, such as something saying "Hers" or "Taken" Our parents have no clue .-.

[vvoland]

@Scarlett
Glad you had a fun date ^^
A card is always a sweet idea, and if you guys are pretty serious about each other, you can like, maybe write all the things you love about her, and incorporate it into like a cute cartoon you drew or something.? I'm not a great artist, but hand made cards always make people smile.
Present wise- hmm. Cute stuffed animal that has something to do with a joke you guys shared.? What are her interests.?


@foxer
Seeing as I haven't actually asked any one out, it's always been the other way, that's a toughie. There is always the classic have your friends see if he likes you. Or if you feel up to it, ask him if he wants to get coffee or something with some friends. Takes off the pressure and awkwardness ^^ But maybe smile as you ask, so he might pick up on the detail that it means a little more than just coffee.? Anything else works too, and after school feels less formal ^^