Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[thunderofthedrum]

Agh
Skype call with him tomorrow
We're gonna try to say those three words to each other
I mean
We say them all the time over chat
But saying them out loud is just...
Different.
We're both nervous...
I'm extremely nervous >.<
He's gonna randomly call me like he did this morning... A "surprise call"
Scared me half to death with the call >.>
Any advice?

it just kind of comes out naturally as long as you know you mean it.

the first time I said the three words to my boyfriend it just felt natural, as if it were meant to be said. I felt nervous at first but after I said it I felt as if the world had been lifted off of my shoulders, because now he heard and knew exactly how I felt about him. and then you feel even better when they say it back. ♥

I agree. I personally feel that if you have to schedule it and discuss it like that then you aren't ready. Those words mean a lot (assuming you mean 'I love you') and I've never been a fan of throwing them around carelessly, neither do I think they should be forced. My boyfriend was the first to say it and it was a few months before I could say it in return. I could say it over text easily (though I never did; I wanted the first time to be verbally) but yeah, to say it out loud was nervewracking and awkward and totally new to me, as he is the first guy I've said it to besides my dad. xD I'm still getting more confident in saying it and I'm in my twenties! So don't rush yourselves or feel pressured; that will not make the moment special.

[QUITTING--]

This is about my crush.... He's this guy who is really nice... to everyone and he is sweet and has the prettiest blue eyes ever!!! But he has a girlfriend :,( She isn't good enough for him... she's so fake and plus he has so many girls who are friends that my chances are slimmer than slim! And no he is not gay, just to clarify! I know his mom really well and he is such a good person, I don't think he has a mean bone in his body! But me and him both share a passion for horses! He lives at the barn I ride at! Ok so you got the gist of him now here is the problemo... I feel like whenever I talk to him it's just empty small talk! I mean he isn't so great at making conversation but neither am I! and then it gets really awkward because I run out of things to say and I don't want to seem like a stalker but I want to get to know him and I don't know if his girlfriend is the jealous type and what if he is actually like stop talking to me! I mean I just don't know grrr

[saturday.]

Agh
Skype call with him tomorrow
We're gonna try to say those three words to each other
I mean
We say them all the time over chat
But saying them out loud is just...
Different.
We're both nervous...
I'm extremely nervous >.<
He's gonna randomly call me like he did this morning... A "surprise call"
Scared me half to death with the call >.>
Any advice?

it just kind of comes out naturally as long as you know you mean it.

the first time I said the three words to my boyfriend it just felt natural, as if it were meant to be said. I felt nervous at first but after I said it I felt as if the world had been lifted off of my shoulders, because now he heard and knew exactly how I felt about him. and then you feel even better when they say it back. ♥

I agree. I personally feel that if you have to schedule it and discuss it like that then you aren't ready. Those words mean a lot (assuming you mean 'I love you') and I've never been a fan of throwing them around carelessly, neither do I think they should be forced. My boyfriend was the first to say it and it was a few months before I could say it in return. I could say it over text easily (though I never did; I wanted the first time to be verbally) but yeah, to say it out loud was nervewracking and awkward and totally new to me, as he is the first guy I've said it to besides my dad. xD I'm still getting more confident in saying it and I'm in my twenties! So don't rush yourselves or feel pressured; that will not make the moment special.

I agree. if you really think you're ready then don't force it during the call. say it when you think the time is right.

if you really think during the call is right then do it near the end, so it's not all awkward in the middle of the call. say something like "Goodbye, I love you, talk to you later" <3

This is about my crush.... He's this guy who is really nice... to everyone and he is sweet and has the prettiest blue eyes ever!!! But he has a girlfriend :,( She isn't good enough for him... she's so fake and plus he has so many girls who are friends that my chances are slimmer than slim! And no he is not gay, just to clarify! I know his mom really well and he is such a good person, I don't think he has a mean bone in his body! But me and him both share a passion for horses! He lives at the barn I ride at! Ok so you got the gist of him now here is the problemo... I feel like whenever I talk to him it's just empty small talk! I mean he isn't so great at making conversation but neither am I! and then it gets really awkward because I run out of things to say and I don't want to seem like a stalker but I want to get to know him and I don't know if his girlfriend is the jealous type and what if he is actually like stop talking to me! I mean I just don't know grrr

you don't know if she's fake, he might be happy with her. but I do understand you have feelings for him, so I would just continue talking to him and try and escape from the usual small talk when you have the time. bring up horses! bring up other things you might have in common! ask about his favorite band, ask if he likes any books, or tv shows, or any websites you like to go on. if you feel the conversation ending when you don't want it to, ask another question or bring up something else! questions and topics are the key! you should become his friend before anything.

[kierran.]

Well, how do I explain this......
Ok so I'm a certified sadist, but thankfully one of the tamer kinds XD. But when I get mad, I lose it. I'll either bite myself to stop the anger flow, or I'll attack someone. I've been trying to keep it tame around my crush, but I lost it around him for the first time recently. He said something stupid, and since we were playing Tellestrations, I started chucking the book things at him. There were a lot of them, too. And at first he was laughing, but then he started saying, "Ow! Stop! That really hurt!" And I figured that he had gotten a bunch of paper cuts. I ws really glad I stopped then, because ordinarily, I would have probably hit him over the head with a bowling ball or slmething XD
And afterwards he calmed down a bit, but I'm worried that we won't even be friends anymore!!! What do I do to get over this?

[thunderofthedrum]

Well, how do I explain this......
Ok so I'm a certified sadist, but thankfully one of the tamer kinds XD. But when I get mad, I lose it. I'll either bite myself to stop the anger flow, or I'll attack someone. I've been trying to keep it tame around my crush, but I lost it around him for the first time recently. He said something stupid, and since we were playing Tellestrations, I started chucking the book things at him. There were a lot of them, too. And at first he was laughing, but then he started saying, "Ow! Stop! That really hurt!" And I figured that he had gotten a bunch of paper cuts. I ws really glad I stopped then, because ordinarily, I would have probably hit him over the head with a bowling ball or slmething XD
And afterwards he calmed down a bit, but I'm worried that we won't even be friends anymore!!! What do I do to get over this?

This sounds less about your crush and more about your own issues. When did you start thinking that violence is okay? To me that is a selfish and immature way to handle your emotions. Do your parents allow this behavior? Is it a way that you let loose when you are not around them? Aside from finding methods and ideas to develop better self control, I would suggest an adult knowing about this because it is not appropriate to randomly start throwing objects at someone or to 'attack' someone. It's like there was no one around when you started this behavior that could've stopped you and said "No, this is not allowed and it is not appropriate".

If you were light throwing stuffed animals, that would be one thing. It would be harmless and probably seen as playful. If you are actually hurting the poor guy, then it is clear you have crossed the line.

[QUITTING--]

you don't know if she's fake, he might be happy with her. but I do understand you have feelings for him, so I would just continue talking to him and try and escape from the usual small talk when you have the time. bring up horses! bring up other things you might have in common! ask about his favorite band, ask if he likes any books, or tv shows, or any websites you like to go on. if you feel the conversation ending when you don't want it to, ask another question or bring up something else! questions and topics are the key! you should become his friend before anything.

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There were some holes in my story, I know his girlfriend pretty well and I know his last girlfriend too and he just seemed so much happier with the other girl so at first i thought the new girl was just a rebound but then it turned into an actual relationship so then he started to Idk he was just different not as perky or open to other people... That's what happened to one of my other guy friends and he stopped talking to other girls period! and then his girlfriend dumped him... hard. Now he's just kinda sad all the time and it's been over a year!! I just don't want that to happen to him, I seriously want the VERY best for him, and I'm not sure if that would be me but I would like it to be. But I guess he is doing pretty good for now I just hope he stays down to earth and doesn't get his heart broken

[kierran.]

Well, how do I explain this......
Ok so I'm a certified sadist, but thankfully one of the tamer kinds XD. But when I get mad, I lose it. I'll either bite myself to stop the anger flow, or I'll attack someone. I've been trying to keep it tame around my crush, but I lost it around him for the first time recently. He said something stupid, and since we were playing Tellestrations, I started chucking the book things at him. There were a lot of them, too. And at first he was laughing, but then he started saying, "Ow! Stop! That really hurt!" And I figured that he had gotten a bunch of paper cuts. I ws really glad I stopped then, because ordinarily, I would have probably hit him over the head with a bowling ball or slmething XD
And afterwards he calmed down a bit, but I'm worried that we won't even be friends anymore!!! What do I do to get over this?

This sounds less about your crush and more about your own issues. When did you start thinking that violence is okay? To me that is a selfish and immature way to handle your emotions. Do your parents allow this behavior? Is it a way that you let loose when you are not around them? Aside from finding methods and ideas to develop better self control, I would suggest an adult knowing about this because it is not appropriate to randomly start throwing objects at someone or to 'attack' someone. It's like there was no one around when you started this behavior that could've stopped you and said "No, this is not allowed and it is not appropriate".

If you were light throwing stuffed animals, that would be one thing. It would be harmless and probably seen as playful. If you are actually hurting the poor guy, then it is clear you have crossed the line.

Thanks! I know it does seem immature and silly when I'm not doing it at the moment.... I've been working on it, and I'm trying my best to get better at it.

[fruitbat]

ok I have had enough.
I like this guy, and he likes me back. and of course hes a player so he has a girlfriend. he dumped this girl for a while and tried to ask me out but never did. so he got onto another girl. I was talking with him and his mates and the coach [we do sport together] yelled at us for "flirting" and how he should just ask me out already. then we had to have a big lecture about how flirting is a silly game blah blah blah.
and since EVERYONE knows about it that makes it worse....

so angry right now. and the worst thing is I don't go to the same school as him.

[Crystal Gems]

ok I have had enough.
I like this guy, and he likes me back. and of course hes a player so he has a girlfriend. he dumped this girl for a while and tried to ask me out but never did. so he got onto another girl. I was talking with him and his mates and the coach [we do sport together] yelled at us for "flirting" and how he should just ask me out already. then we had to have a big lecture about how flirting is a silly game blah blah blah.
and since EVERYONE knows about it that makes it worse....

so angry right now. and the worst thing is I don't go to the same school as him.

Try to talk to him alone at some point. Figure out if he really likes the girl he is with, or if he's just going out with her to go out with her. If that he really likes you, than he'll probably tell you the truth. If he doesn't like his girlfriend, ask him why he's going out with her. It'll make him think about it. Then, if all goes well, he'll probably breakup with present GF. And if he doesn't ask you, feel free to ask him. It's okay to do that.

[kafka]

No. I can't believe we switched desks. No..

The teacher likes to swap the desks around every few weeks. But for once I was happy with where I was! So now, my crush (J) sits somewhere else :I And I sit with my /other/ crush (L). At first I thought I liked L more, but since I'm an A+ student while he gets detentions all the time, ehh, you get what I mean. I overlooked that though, because of how he thinks I'm so good at drawing and his goofy smile. But I was so stupid.

J is like my genderswap. I've always been top of the class and this is the first time someone's rivaled me. He's the only only one besides me who wears their jumper /with/ their jacket, and so don't feel ridiculous wearing it around him. And now that I sat next to him for a few weeks I realised that I totally understand everything he says and vice versa. We even shared answers for a project earlier today before the switch. He laughs at my jokes and I draw stuff for him. I guess I started liking him more.

But now I'm stuck with L again, and I might start crushing on him,then J, then L in an infinite loop :c