Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[tennisbutt]

Ahh I don't know if this means anything but I guess I'm at a stage where I'm hoping it does lmao But me and my crush were at camp and I was only there for 1 day at the beginning as I had other stuff the rest of the week [though I would have loved to have gone the whole week if he was there]. Anyways, we had a mutual friend there and at the end our mutual friend asked me if I was staying the whole week but I said no. I then overheard her going to him and telling him I wasn't there the rest of the week and I couldn't help but wonder if he had asked her if I was staying but he wasn't there for the rest of the week either I heard from my friend pfft I'd give anything to just spend a bit more time with him before the summer ended I do miss him ahh

[Pongo.]

Today i got to hang out with Tristan We went to walmart and played hide n seek with 2 other people, then just me and walked around my neighborhood and just talked and it was awesome (: and he stole my hoodie yesterday x.x but that's ok cause i told him he better wear it a lot and he asked me why and i said so it smells like you and he said awwwwh DD i feel accomplished!

[thunderofthedrum]

Ahh I don't know if this means anything but I guess I'm at a stage where I'm hoping it does lmao But we were at camp and I was only there for 1 day at the beginning as I had other stuff the rest of the week [though I would have loved to have gone the whole week if he was there] but we had a mutual friend there and at the end she asked me if I was staying the whole week but I said no and I overheard her going to him and telling him I wasn't there the rest of the week and I couldn't help but wonder if he had asked her if I was staying but he wasn't there for the rest of the week either I heard from my friend pfft I'd give anything to just spend a bit more time with him before the summer ended I do miss him ahh

I found this post SUPER confusing. Is that really supposed to be one long run on sentence? The lack of punctuation makes it very hard to understand!

Just wanted to let you know in case others feel similarly lost - I don't answer posts I don't understand.

Also to everyone:
I personally AVOID LIKE THE PLAGUE any posts that reference to people as letters of the alphabet. PLEASE STOP DOING THIS, IT'S INCREDIBLY CONFUSING. I get a few lines in and I'm already lost. I give up. I don't answer. Hopefully others are better reading those posts than me!

[tennisbutt]

Ahh I'm so sorry, I tend to ramble on when I get a bit excited pfft let me go edit that |D

[Lazy9248]

I'm so done with my feels right now.... Falling for 3 guys at the exact same time is so mind boggling... I think I'm gonna go throw my feels in the trash and let whatever happens happen...

First feels. Okay so this guy from my church went to a theme park with our youth group. I talk to him on Facebook and I got in a car accident in June so he wanted to follow me around and make sure I was ok. He wouldn't let anyone sit next to me on the ride there or home and it was a 3 hour ride there and back. He went on all the rides I wanted to and kinda hung out with me all day c: On the way home I was freezing and he offered me his sweatshirt and his shoulder if I was tired c: BUT.. (Isn't there always a but) I was talking to his mom and I think he has a girlfriend.. (He goes to another high school) dang it... There go those feels...

Next feels. I have always liked a guy that went to church camp with me. He is an amazingly nice guy and even gave me a nickname (string bean). And he always sorta had a crush on me so I just kinda befriended him c: We talk over X-box and Facebook and I have been trying to get to know him better. I figured out that he only lives in a town that's only 20 minutes from my house. And he has been really upset that I couldn't go to camp because I was in the hospital the week of camp :c BUT... (There it is again!) I found out he has a girlfriend... Chuck those feels out the window...

Last guy I has feels for. He goes to my school and we have almost nothing in common. I have no clue why I like him but I feel like I need to be around him a lot. He liked me the first year of high school and hasn't really said anything about it since. We text a lot and he sorta started to be a jerk so I gave up on talking to him for a little while and he hasn't been mean yet (but it's texting lol honestly he could be being nice and it could come across rude... Sarcasm). I honestly have no idea what to do about him...

See what I mean, feels everywhere!! \(>.<)/ I don't know what to do and I'm just done with feels for a little while...

[samm.]

So exactly one month ago, July 6th, I found out that my best friend, who I had secretly liked since the day we had met, liked me back. We spent the whole day hanging out, talking about it only when her father wasn't in the room and at the end of the day, they dropped me off at home and I asked her "So, should we try dating?" And she replied with "I don't know, let me think about it." That was the last time I spoke with her. I've tried contacting her, but nothing works, and I don't know what to do anymore.

Her father is the kind of guy who looks over her shoulder, wants to know what shes doing at all times, even has her write down usernames and passwords to websites shes on so he can check up on her, and i'm afraid that she may have told someone about me and he found out. From what I could tell by the way she spoke of him, he didn't really seem like a open minded guy, and seemed against the GLBT community. I'm just afraid that shes been told to stay away from me, cut off contact, something like that. I know it sounds stupid, I guess its just cause i'm so worried. I mean, he seemed like an okay guy when I met him, a bit strict, but other than that he seemed pretty nice. Then again, my parents are like that when other people come over to visit, then show their true colors when people are gone, so I could understand if that's how he is..

I just don't want us to be over, even if shes not okay with forming some sort of relationship, i'd be happy just to stand beside her as a friend. I would just like some advice. Should I continue to try and contact her? I haven't done anything recently, its probably been about a week, closer to two. Should I leave her alone and see if eventually she contacts me? Or do you think I should just give up? Accept the fact that this might be the end of "us"?

[vanilla kitten]

hello c: so things were going great with me and my crush. that is, until thursday. i go over to his house all the time--we aren't dating or anything. his mom considers me a second daughter, and the twins (my crush's little brother and sister), consider me their older sister. which is cool, and i fit in with them. it was a normal night; he and i were flirting, kissing, doing things teenage couples would do (even though we're not dating). things were fine.

except, that night he kept punching me in the thighs. which of course, hurt; my thighs are still sore. i blew it off, because we had been play fighting, but it happened again the next day. but this time, he was also digging his chin into my shoulder blades as well as punching me. he never hit me in the face, only the legs. he also kept hitting me with this weird stick thing. in the end, i slapped him twice to get him to stop. at which point, he got mad at me.

he then proceeded to calling me dirty names, as well as the names of other girls i hate (because they're nasty, like literally. i can't even -_- ew oh my gosh no). then, we were standing in the bathroom and he and i were about to kiss and he says, "it's funny that you think i would actually kiss you. which made me tear up and i went into his bedroom and watched tv with p, one of the twins. it really hurt my feelings, and we made up later.. but honestly, i don't think i feel anything for him.

i don't know, i just wanted to vent. and his apology was sincere. he has bipolar disorder and a whole mess of others, but still.. i don't know if i should trust him. he's gone at his dad's so i won't see him until next week when we go to cedar point. should i talk to him about it & how i feel now, or should i just let it be?

thanks!

man, if he's got a bipolar issue i'm not sure if you should confront him. especially if you're supposed to be going somewhere with him. i think you should clear it up that he isn't a dog and you're not his chew toy.

true, but his bipolar isn't to the point where he's going to go crazy if i do confront him. but thank you. you could be right. he does tend to get mad when people tell him he's wrong/has done something wrong. if you tell him he's a jerk/player (he's kind of a jock i guess), he gets angry and asks how, and when you give him examples he just gets more frustrated.. hm.

anyone else?

[thunderofthedrum]

One thing to keep in mind is that it may be more productive if you stay away from accusing him. Instead of saying "You are being a jerk" say "It makes me feel this way when you do this". And don't be afraid to throw in possible reasons, even asking if it's something you did or maybe mixed signals or something. For one thing, you never know if maybe you contributed to the problem and, secondly, that helps keep the mood away from just straight up accusing him.

[vanilla kitten]

oh, trust me, i know not to accuse him by now xD. but other people don't, and he's vented to me about it before (it was a while ago though), the way other people say that. and yeah, good point. thank youu.

[brindie]

So there are quite a few guys who might like me...but I'm not good with that stuff so I'd like some opinions. Fair warning, this may be a long post.

Guys I don't have feelings for:
1. Conner
He is in a camp/activity thing that I'm doing, and although a bunch of his friends are there, he only talks to me. Today we went somewhere and he sat next to me on the bus. He goes to my school but doesn't really talk to me there because I'm always hanging out with my friends.

2. Zac
When we were still in school, I had study hall with him and he would always try and talk to me, ask what I'm doing and stuff. He also tries to sit by me a lot. I also draw and write a lot in study hall and he would always read/look at what I was working on and would compliment it a lot. He has been trying to contact me a ton this summer.

Guys I sort of like:
3. Mike
He is really smart, and will say random facts a lot. We were in biology together and he would always ask me for help, although he doesn't need it (with anything). He always laughed at my jokes (even if they were terrible) and tried to talk to me. And whenever I did better than him on a test he would comically sigh and talk about how he's a failure (lol).

4. Brandon
He is almost exactly like Mike, and to be honest (since I knew Mike first) Mike was the first person I thought of when I first saw him (they even look the same!). The main differences are that I met him at the camp (the one mentioned with Connor), he is a year older, and he is a pool shark XD. At the camp, if it's too hot out or we are tired of being outside, we will go into this center with a bunch of cool stuff. There's a pool table there and Brandon will always play people (and win). But he often shows me how to play and explains where are good shots. And today, he made a bunch of pool-based bets with me, which of course I failed and he didn't make me pay him.

5. David
David is really funny and always tries to spend time with me (of course, at camp again). I was in a camp with him a couple years ago and he remembered me when we first saw each other here. He played volleyball with me and helped me get the ball out of a tree that it got stuck in. I'm a half a year older than him.

Guys that I like and want the most input on:
6. Christopher
Chris is in my grade and there are a ton of girls that like him, although he is one of those 'nice guys' so he isn't one of those popular 'jocks' or whatever. He is my best guy friend. At the end of this year, his girlfriend moved away, so he's been getting over her (she moved across the country). He's been hanging out with me a lot more now and we were counselors in a camp together.

7. Quint
Quint is Christopher's best friend and used to be my best guy friend. He is also in my grade, and a 'nice guy'. He and I used to text a lot, and he would tell me stories and send me songs he wrote and a bunch of stuff. After he broke up with his girlfriend (who I know for a fact still likes him) who he got over he has not been contacting me as much, and has been kind of ignoring me. This made me kind of upset but I didn't really say anything because I didn't know what had happened.

So, does anyone have any opinions? Thanks for the help!