Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Nimble Awesomeness]

{ Wait what.

My girlfriend unfollowed me on Twitter.

I don't even know why. And I can't talk to her about it, because she's on vacation in Nashville for who knows how long.

Now I'm scared. Are you breaking up with me.

What is this.

What.~ }

That's really weird, but it probably doesn't mean anything. It's also very possible that it was a mistake, it's actually really easy to accidentally unfollow or follow someone on twitter.

[Ssilnah]

I have computing tomorrow and my crush got moved to my computing class last lesson. I have no idea what to do I have really bad anxiety where I start shaking and my voice goes all croaky and wobbly. :c I'm painfully shy so I rarely talk to him... Maybe if I try really hard I can fake sick off school...

[kavv]

Hold me.
So I'm like, the luckiest girl on earth right now.
There is the guy. Obviously. But he's amazing. BETTER than abercrombie and fitch hot. Much better.
And he doesn't go to highschool; he's homeschooled, so a bunch of girls don't know about him. He's all mine.
Like;; he is so omg. He has a fricken eight pack. And his body is so perfectly sculptured, I can't even. He's a mere GOD.
And his voiceee. And he's such a gentleman. And cute. And dayuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum. He's fine.

[Medusa72]

Time to rant. This post is probably gonna be really long.

Alright, so there was this one guy I dated a while back, and we were off and on for quite a while. Let's call him A. So me and A have had several relationships, so let's start from the beginning.

The first time we ever dated, it was for almost a year (though during the summer we were a bit off and on, though it was confusing at the time), we were both really happy together. However, he was really over-protective and he would get incredibly jealous and just completely ignore me for hours if I even looked at another guy, which sucked because all of my friends my entire life have been guys, as I don't get along well with other females. So I told him it bothered me and he toned it down and everything was great. But over the summer, he was off on holidays and all we could do was text and people were trying to break us up and making up rumors and all that stuff and we were sort of off and on until he returned. We were almost together a year when I was unhappy with the relationship and broke it off. After that, he wouldn't talk to me for a good six or seven months. We didn't talk because everybody made up rumors that I said bad stuff about him and that he said bad stuff about me and we just disliked each other because of it.

So a while back we sort of became friends again, while he was dating my best friend. We were hanging out one day, just the two of us, and he kept talking about how great it was when me and him were dating, how sad he was that we broke up, that we should get back together, blah blah blah. I got mad at him and told him he shouldn't be saying that stuff since he was with my best friend and I was dating somebody else at the time, but he did it anyways. So after a while, I realized that my old feelings for him were back, as I'm pretty sure he was (sadly) my first love, and I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend because I felt bad about being with him while having feelings for somebody else. Anyways, A would constantly hit on me while he was dating my best friend, and didn't listen when I told him to stop because it wasn't okay. He just said, "Me and her are just a thing. It doesn't even matter." even though they were, in fact, in a relationship.

So my best friend and I talked and we soon realized that he tended to say one thing to her, and then say the opposite to me. To her, he'd say, "Oh, I don't even like [mynamehere]. She's a b*tch and a sl*t and I only hang out with her when I have nothing else to do." but to me, he'd say, "Me and [hernamehere] aren't even a relationship. I don't even like her. I don't even know why we're together. I really just want to be with you." And once me and her realized that he was saying one thing to her and then the complete opposite to me, we got suspicious about it. It got even worse when, one night while we were hanging out, he had the audacity to try and kiss me (twice) while he was still dating her! I told her and after a while, we both confronted him about this and him and her ultimately broke up. Then after a while, I was stupid and, still with all these feelings for him, I sort of dated him again, but we broke up after only a few days, and I just recently found out that, while me and him were dating for those few days, he asked out two other girls and made out with this other girl. Yeah. It hurt to hear, but now, I've completely sworn off of him.

So yeah. There's the end of my horrible-cheating-player-ex-boyfriend rant.

Aw I'm really sorry to hear that. Guys like that have some kind of wacko ADD with girls. But no worries not all guys are like that!

[Medusa72]

So...there is this guy, lets call him c. He's really cute and nice and cool. He does an event in track with me. He is really good at it too. He's really easy to talk to too! But, he's two years older than me and is alway surrounded by girls. he also goes to a different school. Thing is, I don't want a boyfriend but I do like him, even though I don't have a chance. He's easy to talk to so atleast there is that. But lots of girls like him. They are prettier than me too. help? I'm pretty shy too...

I'm sort of in the same situation. I've been contemplating this for a while, and I'm thinking about asking him to do stuff with me, maybe go to a movie or get ice cream or whatever, I would encourage you to do the same if you like him enough.

[Medusa72]

I have computing tomorrow and my crush got moved to my computing class last lesson. I have no idea what to do I have really bad anxiety where I start shaking and my voice goes all croaky and wobbly. :c I'm painfully shy so I rarely talk to him... Maybe if I try really hard I can fake sick off school...

Don't fake sick! Stand strong girl! I get anxiety to, like I feel like I'm going to have a stroke or heart attack. You and me just gotta tell ourselves to Be Strong! You Got This!

[hapalopus]

This is probably gonna be a bit long but I'll try writing everything down anyways because I just neef to tell somebody!

Okay, back in October last year, me and a boy from my school got together. Wewere together for a long time and loved each other a lot. But then everything started ro get confusing. Early in the spring him and I got curious about our sexualities, so we made an agreement that we could be with whoever we wanted of the same gender as ourselves as long as we tell everone involved about the agreement and tell each other when and who we were with. I found a lovely girl, an old friend of mine with whom I started hanging out a lot. Kissing and stuff. My boyfriend of course knew about this and was cool with it, despite him not having a partner of his own gender. But! When I had slept with the girl for the first time, I went to an RP site and talked about it in the chatroom. When her internet boyfriend saw that, he freaked out and got extremely mad and sad (which is understandable). I felt really bad after that for kissing with his girlfriend even though I thought she had told him. In the end everything worked out, though. At least for the girl. But! Then my boyfriend started to get confused about his sexuality. He suddently felt more attracted to his own gender and even though it hurts a bit, I'll just have to let go of him. I have told that I love him and we have promised to always be friends even if he discovers that he's not to girls anymore. Phew, just had to get that off my chest. Sorry for the long post.

[Wild.One]

So...there is this guy, lets call him c. He's really cute and nice and cool. He does an event in track with me. He is really good at it too. He's really easy to talk to too! But, he's two years older than me and is alway surrounded by girls. he also goes to a different school. Thing is, I don't want a boyfriend but I do like him, even though I don't have a chance. He's easy to talk to so atleast there is that. But lots of girls like him. They are prettier than me too. help? I'm pretty shy too...

I'm sort of in the same situation. I've been contemplating this for a while, and I'm thinking about asking him to do stuff with me, maybe go to a movie or get ice cream or whatever, I would encourage you to do the same if you like him enough.

Weeeel, I don't know him that well. I don't think he's even interested in me soo...ya. I'll just try hard to talk to him for now but, good luck to you!

[mekaiser]

I have a real quick question. My crush is in love with a girl i truly dislike... is there anything i can do to get over him?

[Rainpelt]

Well, um, hi guys :3 Im Rainpelt, you can call me Rain or whatever if you want. I just really need to think some stuff through and tell someone. If you guys have any advice, that'd be really awesome too. This is going to be long, I'm so sorry in advance >.<

So I guess I should start from the top. Ah, this started around January so it's been about six months, but I joined a Venture Scout group, which is a high adventure division of the BSA for young men and women from 14 to 21 by request of a guy friend (we'll call him J) and ended up really liking it. I'm the only girl of three who's in regular attendance, but the guys are really cool so I don't mind all that much at all. Anyway, coincidentally, there ended up being this other guy in the group who I finally realized I had a crush on by what I believe was our third campout/trip. Ah, I'll refer to him as C. Well we were sitting around the camp fire and C and I were talking when J asked me to help him get some stuff from the trailer and pointed out that we were "really hitting it off", to use his wording. That was when I admitted to myself that I liked C.

The problem was, and still partially is, that I've never really been in a relationship, I've never had a boyfriend or anything like that. The closest I got was with J, actually, which was not a good experience and I'm not going to go in to right now. I kept my feelings to myself for a while and J would occasionally prod at me teasingly until I admitted it to him a couple friends at school, but that was that. Until prom (a really large formal dance thing, for anyone who doesn't know) rolled around in March. Then J and a couple of my friends who knew suggested I ask C to go with me.

The problem was that C was two years older than me and thus had already graduated from high school and there was no way I could just get him to ask me. I had to do it myself, and I did eventually manage to work up enough nerve to ask. He said yes almost before I finished asking the question which made me so happy, I was seriously on Cloud Nine for like a week. He made me let him pay for the tickets even though he didn't ask me and didn't go to my school and got me a corsage and everything. I was just plain excited. Prom eventually came and he picked me up and we went out to dinner with a some of my friends before, took pictures and all that. The dance was nice, he's a pretty good dancer and such a gentleman, but I guess you could say we had some issues. We ran into one of his pretty good (female) friends he hadn't seen in a while and had apparently gone out with at some point. She's engaged to be married so its not like she was going to be an issue and I liked her and we got to be pretty good friends as well, but I just... I don't know, I think she made us both kind of uncomfortable, the last slow dance we didn't really talk or anything. He said he had fun when he dropped me off and I swear he kissed me lightly on the neck/shoulder when we hugged good night but I don't know. Oh, right. She also said she thought he "might be starting to like me" but not to get my hopes up.

After that we continued as normal-ish, I saw him every week at our meetings and on the occasional camp out/Venture outing. I was still iffy on whether or not he liked me back because I'd never actually asked. I eventually called him up and asked him in a sort-of-stupid, round-about way. I asked why he said yes to going to prom with me, as a date or as a friend and he said as a friend. I said good, which was probably a terrible answer and i realized it afterwards. I was fine with being friends at the time if it weren't for the fact that my one friend who I called and told asked if he was just trying to play it cool or actually meant it, which got me thinking again.

Since then I've just gotten mixed signals right and left and they're driving me insane. I can't tell if he's just being polite, he can be quite gentlemanly in general, so I don't know if its just that side if him or what. He loves hugs and I noticed that when I give him one his hand tends to linger on my waist for a little while. He's also called me "sweetheart" on a couple of occasions and will ask me how my day has been and try and carry on conversation or buy me a drink or whatever. J invited me to his birthday party a couple weeks ago and decided he was going to invite C for me and did so by telling C that I would be there teasingly (which I know because C told me, I don't know why he'd do that). At the party we were talking about movies that were and C said he wanted to see Monsters University and when I agreed he told everyone that we were going to go on a date to see it (though we did not actually, I had somewhere to be after the party). On our last campout though (this past weekend) I felt like he might have been avoiding me, he just kind of sat out on the dock by himself and took a nap in the boat house while we were all out swimming. Granted he did ask if I wanted the other half of our troop's mostly eaten watermelon when he took one and we went outside and drank the juice (he scraped it clean and wore it like a hat, charming right? cx), but he would just wander out of conversations and went to sleep early the first night without coming over and saying good night to anyone. I don't think he played frisbee with us once either, and he loves frisbee. He's just seemed kind of distant recently and even J said he seemed "a bit uninterested" at his party. The girl I talked about earlier (his good friend from prom) did tell me that he tends to deny himself things if he thinks it will make other people happy and that's probably another reason I haven't just let it go yet, especially when he said he went to the dance with me as a friend. I know she might not be the most trustworthy source but they seem really close and... I dunno, I'm not sure.

Now J thinks I need to make a move and show him that I'm interested and has suggested I take C on a double date with him and whoever J's moved on to now for dinner and I don't know what to do. I think it would be fun but I don't want to push myself on him and ruin a friendship if he really does only think of me as a friend. However if he does like me in the same way that I like him I don't want to just leave it, y'know? So, um... I guess I just want more opinions and maybe some advice. What do you guys think?

Also, I'm incredibly sorry for how long and rambly this ended up being >.<" But I do really, really appreciate any help. Like I said, I've never been in a real relationship and I'm a very shy and nervous person in general.