Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[amethyst,]

I'm kinda thinking of asking my crush out on a date, but I'm so confused about the dating stuff. Do you date when you are a couple or before you are a couple? I haven't even confessed, and I guess a date would seem better for me then openly confessing...but idk how the whole "dating things" work.

And I don't even know what you exactly do on dates. -_-

well, it can work either way. you can ask someone out on a date before you're a couple, that way you guys can hang out, get to know each other, and see if you both really want to date. and if you do, then you can officially be boyfriend and girlfriend. or, you could wait until you're officially a couple, and then go on dates. it doesn't matter very much. but in your situation, i advise you to just say something along the lines of, "hey, so, um, i really like you, and i was wondering if you'd want to go on a date (insert time and location and such)? i hope it works out for you. good luck! c:

[Zeee]

ooh, new thread ;U;

I'm kinda thinking of asking my crush out on a date, but I'm so confused about the dating stuff. Do you date when you are a couple or before you are a couple? I haven't even confessed, and I guess a date would seem better for me then openly confessing...but idk how the whole "dating things" work.

And I don't even know what you exactly do on dates. -_-

as ephemera, said, dating could go either way. personally, i say that you should really go on dates either way. before you are a couple, you could go on a date, and then while you're a couple you'd go on dates, but to me it's all personal preference. like, i'd probably prefer to go on dates after becoming a couple, because then it's less... awkward, for lack of a better word, and it's more fun. and on dates, well... take a movie for example. if you take your date to a movie, you could pay for them, share popcorn, you know? stuff like that. maybe take them to a scary movie ;D then if one of you gets scared you can, you know, cuddle xD

because who doesn't love cuddles

i probably didn't help at all but to me, it's all personal preference.

[KarenjustLOVEShorses]

Oh wise people of CS! Save me from my confusion!!
I met this guy at band camp last year... first impression = geekyawkward but we got to know each other a little better and I thought he was a nice guy.
AND THEN he magically turns up in my orchestra.... so we became really good friends. And yeah fast forward a couple of months later I realised I liked him.... Quite a lot. O.O but I didn't speak up because I wasn't sure if it was long term or anything or if I was just being ridiculous. Well the feels stayed on, but at the same time we became really close (friend-wise)... I looked forward to orchestra more than anything every week, and it was awesome... until he decided, the musician that he is, to go to the state band and leave us. We then decided to meet up during the holidays, where my friends and I first saw more positive signs from him. He leaned his head against mine, offered to shout me lunch, ridiculously long/tight goodbye-hug, etc, etc. So YAY, right?
Sort of.
The holidays ended and we both had such busy schedules such that we didn't have time to see each other again for six months... but we kept near-daily contact over facebook so it wasn't so bad... we had a couple of interesting dnm sessions (why do girls post selfies saying that they're ugly, what makes a good hug), and yeah. Though someone tell me what it meant when he told me about his past interests? D:

The next time we saw each other was band camp this year (end of june). He asked me over fb beforehand if he'd get a hug when we saw each other, and :3333333 feeeeeels
We actually ended up having the same rec time, meaning we got to see each other every day and essentially hang out for an hour and a half without interruptions. We got even closer over camp, and had several more dnm discussions, and he got to know my friends and he and his friends came to hang out with us. At some point we were watching a movie and we were sitting together and he started doing that dude thing were they jiggle their leg up and down..... anyway i got slightly annoyed so I put my palm on his knee in an attempt to get him to stop... instead he looked at me and kept going, and he laughed and IDK HOW THIS HAPPENED but somehow I ended up with my legs slung across his knee... he finally stopped moving and just smiled at me. EEEEEEEE *swoon*
Fast forward to more important bits. End of camp concert, we swapped jackets, and later he lent me his.. Also offered me lipbalm when I mentioned that I'd forgotten mine. (note: I did not accept. I like the guy, we're tight, but that's still kinda weird)
Camp concluded with several warm/long/tight/ZOMGAMAZING hugs, and he asked if we were to meet up in the hols.
So anyway we did meet in the hols, and it was so much fun, I had a really good time and he told me he did as well, as did the others who were there. Again, several gazillion positive signs, eg repetition of leg-slinging, almost-back-hug as a result of tickling game, etc.
HOWEVER.
THERE IS. A CATCH.
dun dun duuuun.
While we were on the train together (just us two), we were having a discussion about a guy we both knew who liked me. He then proceeded to tell me, with my legs on his knee and his arm half-around me about A GIRL AT SCHOOL THAT HE LIKES.
So I was very confused... he started asking me for advice, how do I talk to her? she's so beautiful, I find it hard to say anything, blahblahblah... I wasn't really paying attention at the time, I'm ashamed to say. Anyhows once that conversation faded away he had to make it more awkward and ask me who I liked.... I tried to evade the question and begged the right to remain silent but he persisted.... and asked if he knew the guy. I didn't have enough time to come up with a witty answer of sorts, so I said yes, yes you do. Then he essentially reacted the same way I did when he mentioned the other girl (who I know for a fact isn't some sort of story). WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? D:
Just to confuse things further on the way home it was essentially the same setting + my bestie.... And it was like none of that ever happened, we were just laughing and doing tongue twisters and it was really... er... close? I guess? and when we had to go we hugged (report from bestie was that it was something like a 30 second hug)... and then I moved to go and he PULLED ME BACK... and after that one we hugged again... and I was like, okay, I really need to go now... *walks away* and he did the cliche thing where you hold onto each other, stretching out your arms until you're juuuuuust holding hands... *swoons*. But that mystery girl still bamboozles me completely.
Lastly we're seeing each other at a band eisteddfod next monday and his bestie (who I'm friends with) says I should let him know how I feel because it'll be worse for our friendship if I don't... I know when my close guy friend did that I was really shocked/hurt for ages, so i can kinda see her point. But at the same time I know he likes someone else... But if there's something I value most it would be our friendship.. I don't know what I'd do without him... and from what I've heard he's started to suspect me. I just don't want to ruin anything. Also I can't have a bf until I finish school (two years) so I'm not sure if I should wait till then?
Thoughts? Advice? Something? HELPPPPP D:

...okayy I am so sorry O.O obviously have not been talking to enough people about this issue lately.

[SamhokuFoopets]

Oh wise people of CS! Save me from my confusion!!
I met this guy at band camp last year... first impression = geekyawkward but we got to know each other a little better and I thought he was a nice guy.
AND THEN he magically turns up in my orchestra.... so we became really good friends. And yeah fast forward a couple of months later I realised I liked him.... Quite a lot. O.O but I didn't speak up because I wasn't sure if it was long term or anything or if I was just being ridiculous. Well the feels stayed on, but at the same time we became really close (friend-wise)... I looked forward to orchestra more than anything every week, and it was awesome... until he decided, the musician that he is, to go to the state band and leave us. We then decided to meet up during the holidays, where my friends and I first saw more positive signs from him. He leaned his head against mine, offered to shout me lunch, ridiculously long/tight goodbye-hug, etc, etc. So YAY, right?
Sort of.
The holidays ended and we both had such busy schedules such that we didn't have time to see each other again for six months... but we kept near-daily contact over facebook so it wasn't so bad... we had a couple of interesting dnm sessions (why do girls post selfies saying that they're ugly, what makes a good hug), and yeah. Though someone tell me what it meant when he told me about his past interests? D:

The next time we saw each other was band camp this year (end of june). He asked me over fb beforehand if he'd get a hug when we saw each other, and :3333333 feeeeeels
We actually ended up having the same rec time, meaning we got to see each other every day and essentially hang out for an hour and a half without interruptions. We got even closer over camp, and had several more dnm discussions, and he got to know my friends and he and his friends came to hang out with us. At some point we were watching a movie and we were sitting together and he started doing that dude thing were they jiggle their leg up and down..... anyway i got slightly annoyed so I put my palm on his knee in an attempt to get him to stop... instead he looked at me and kept going, and he laughed and IDK HOW THIS HAPPENED but somehow I ended up with my legs slung across his knee... he finally stopped moving and just smiled at me. EEEEEEEE *swoon*
Fast forward to more important bits. End of camp concert, we swapped jackets, and later he lent me his.. Also offered me lipbalm when I mentioned that I'd forgotten mine. (note: I did not accept. I like the guy, we're tight, but that's still kinda weird)
Camp concluded with several warm/long/tight/ZOMGAMAZING hugs, and he asked if we were to meet up in the hols.
So anyway we did meet in the hols, and it was so much fun, I had a really good time and he told me he did as well, as did the others who were there. Again, several gazillion positive signs, eg repetition of leg-slinging, almost-back-hug as a result of tickling game, etc.
HOWEVER.
THERE IS. A CATCH.
dun dun duuuun.
While we were on the train together (just us two), we were having a discussion about a guy we both knew who liked me. He then proceeded to tell me, with my legs on his knee and his arm half-around me about A GIRL AT SCHOOL THAT HE LIKES.
So I was very confused... he started asking me for advice, how do I talk to her? she's so beautiful, I find it hard to say anything, blahblahblah... I wasn't really paying attention at the time, I'm ashamed to say. Anyhows once that conversation faded away he had to make it more awkward and ask me who I liked.... I tried to evade the question and begged the right to remain silent but he persisted.... and asked if he knew the guy. I didn't have enough time to come up with a witty answer of sorts, so I said yes, yes you do. Then he essentially reacted the same way I did when he mentioned the other girl (who I know for a fact isn't some sort of story). WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? D:
Just to confuse things further on the way home it was essentially the same setting + my bestie.... And it was like none of that ever happened, we were just laughing and doing tongue twisters and it was really... er... close? I guess? and when we had to go we hugged (report from bestie was that it was something like a 30 second hug)... and then I moved to go and he PULLED ME BACK... and after that one we hugged again... and I was like, okay, I really need to go now... *walks away* and he did the cliche thing where you hold onto each other, stretching out your arms until you're juuuuuust holding hands... *swoons*. But that mystery girl still bamboozles me completely.
Lastly we're seeing each other at a band eisteddfod next monday and his bestie (who I'm friends with) says I should let him know how I feel because it'll be worse for our friendship if I don't... I know when my close guy friend did that I was really shocked/hurt for ages, so i can kinda see her point. But at the same time I know he likes someone else... But if there's something I value most it would be our friendship.. I don't know what I'd do without him... and from what I've heard he's started to suspect me. I just don't want to ruin anything.
Thoughts? Advice? Something? HELPPPPP D:

...okayy I am so sorry O.O obviously have not been talking to enough people about this issue lately.

I actually don't have a boyfriend or anything, but I trained myself to look for signs (Weird right? I was 14 and bored, its been a while sense I tried) From what I see, if he was talking about a hypothetical girl, he could have been talking about you.

[KarenjustLOVEShorses]

I actually don't have a boyfriend or anything, but I trained myself to look for signs (Weird right? I was 14 and bored, its been a while sense I tried) From what I see, if he was talking about a hypothetical girl, he could have been talking about you.

I thought that for a while until I was told by his bestie who also happens to be besties with my bestie (small world ) that the mystery girl does in fact exist (note: he hardly knows her, he can barely talk to her T.T )

[SamhokuFoopets]

I actually don't have a boyfriend or anything, but I trained myself to look for signs (Weird right? I was 14 and bored, its been a while sense I tried) From what I see, if he was talking about a hypothetical girl, he could have been talking about you.

I thought that for a while until I was told by his bestie who also happens to be besties with my bestie (small world ) that the mystery girl does in fact exist (note: he hardly knows her, he can barely talk to her T.T )

Oh, well, then good luck then. I am not sure what all of that could mean.

[bast,]

Ah yes, new thread smell. Like fresh sheets. c:

My boyfriend is going to be at camp for 12 days, with no phone. :c when he gets back, he'll have marching band practice monday-friday, 2 to 5pm, and he'll be at his moms during the weekend. After that, he has marching band camp. Dx when he's done, he'll have somewhere around 2 days of summer left, and we're going to different high schools. Ughhhh. :c
he also has a huge secret yo tell me the text time we hang out. He usually only tells his girlfriends after 3 months, but we've only been dating a month. He said he trusts me more than anyone else. <3

[Dia.]

Oh wise people of CS! Save me from my confusion!!
I met this guy at band camp last year... first impression = geekyawkward but we got to know each other a little better and I thought he was a nice guy.
AND THEN he magically turns up in my orchestra.... so we became really good friends. And yeah fast forward a couple of months later I realised I liked him.... Quite a lot. O.O but I didn't speak up because I wasn't sure if it was long term or anything or if I was just being ridiculous. Well the feels stayed on, but at the same time we became really close (friend-wise)... I looked forward to orchestra more than anything every week, and it was awesome... until he decided, the musician that he is, to go to the state band and leave us. :( We then decided to meet up during the holidays, where my friends and I first saw more positive signs from him. He leaned his head against mine, offered to shout me lunch, ridiculously long/tight goodbye-hug, etc, etc. So YAY, right?
Sort of.
The holidays ended and we both had such busy schedules such that we didn't have time to see each other again for six months... but we kept near-daily contact over facebook so it wasn't so bad... we had a couple of interesting dnm sessions (why do girls post selfies saying that they're ugly, what makes a good hug), and yeah. Though someone tell me what it meant when he told me about his past interests? D:

The next time we saw each other was band camp this year (end of june). He asked me over fb beforehand if he'd get a hug when we saw each other, and :3333333 feeeeeels
We actually ended up having the same rec time, meaning we got to see each other every day and essentially hang out for an hour and a half without interruptions. We got even closer over camp, and had several more dnm discussions, and he got to know my friends and he and his friends came to hang out with us. At some point we were watching a movie and we were sitting together and he started doing that dude thing were they jiggle their leg up and down..... anyway i got slightly annoyed so I put my palm on his knee in an attempt to get him to stop... instead he looked at me and kept going, and he laughed and IDK HOW THIS HAPPENED but somehow I ended up with my legs slung across his knee... he finally stopped moving and just smiled at me. EEEEEEEE *swoon*
Fast forward to more important bits. End of camp concert, we swapped jackets, and later he lent me his.. Also offered me lipbalm when I mentioned that I'd forgotten mine. (note: I did not accept. I like the guy, we're tight, but that's still kinda weird)
Camp concluded with several warm/long/tight/ZOMGAMAZING hugs, and he asked if we were to meet up in the hols.
So anyway we did meet in the hols, and it was so much fun, I had a really good time and he told me he did as well, as did the others who were there. Again, several gazillion positive signs, eg repetition of leg-slinging, almost-back-hug as a result of tickling game, etc.
HOWEVER.
THERE IS. A CATCH.
dun dun duuuun.
While we were on the train together (just us two), we were having a discussion about a guy we both knew who liked me. He then proceeded to tell me, with my legs on his knee and his arm half-around me about A GIRL AT SCHOOL THAT HE LIKES.
So I was very confused... he started asking me for advice, how do I talk to her? she's so beautiful, I find it hard to say anything, blahblahblah... I wasn't really paying attention at the time, I'm ashamed to say. Anyhows once that conversation faded away he had to make it more awkward and ask me who I liked.... I tried to evade the question and begged the right to remain silent but he persisted.... and asked if he knew the guy. I didn't have enough time to come up with a witty answer of sorts, so I said yes, yes you do. Then he essentially reacted the same way I did when he mentioned the other girl (who I know for a fact isn't some sort of story). WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? D:
Just to confuse things further on the way home it was essentially the same setting + my bestie.... And it was like none of that ever happened, we were just laughing and doing tongue twisters and it was really... er... close? I guess? and when we had to go we hugged (report from bestie was that it was something like a 30 second hug)... and then I moved to go and he PULLED ME BACK... and after that one we hugged again... and I was like, okay, I really need to go now... *walks away* and he did the cliche thing where you hold onto each other, stretching out your arms until you're juuuuuust holding hands... *swoons*. But that mystery girl still bamboozles me completely.
Lastly we're seeing each other at a band eisteddfod next monday and his bestie (who I'm friends with) says I should let him know how I feel because it'll be worse for our friendship if I don't... I know when my close guy friend did that I was really shocked/hurt for ages, so i can kinda see her point. But at the same time I know he likes someone else... But if there's something I value most it would be our friendship.. I don't know what I'd do without him... and from what I've heard he's started to suspect me. I just don't want to ruin anything. Also I can't have a bf until I finish school (two years) so I'm not sure if I should wait till then?
Thoughts? Advice? Something? HELPPPPP D:

...okayy I am so sorry O.O obviously have not been talking to enough people about this issue lately.

First of all, proceed with caution. I've seen situations where a guy hugs like that and acts like that with a girl, leads her on, and then crushes her way too often. My best friend dealt with that freshman year.
However, I do not want to completely discourage you. ^^ I think you should definitely tell him about your feels and you might include the fact that his actions have been leading you on and how they make you feel. Also explain your intentions of telling him this... that you don't want to ruin anything but you want things to clear up.
Even though you can't have a boyfriend until after school, I think it's definitely worth it to talk it out.

[christine,]

Mark

[cautiousculpeo]

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