Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[bubble9001]

Key:
C-My best friend
J-Best friend's cousin

Hello, I am currently in a very hard situation. I'm going to explain as best as I can, but it is kind of hard to explain since I'm not really good with explanations... For starters I have a HUGE crush on my best friend's cousin, J. He's six years older than me and I know that it's a potential problem. J is also a partying/badboy type of guy, well tries to be. Most of the badboy persona is all an act and he really is sweet and funny. I'm going to tell you what happened to me the past couple days.

I was at C's house who is my best friend and we wanted to go on a boat with her family. J, C, C's bf, C's brother, C's brother's gf, C's mom, and C's dad, and I all went on the boat. As J pushed the boat away from the dock he smirked and said: "First we have to tickle *my name's* feet" as he tickled my feet which were hanging out of the boat. That was the first day we hung out. The second day we went on the boat again, but the boat started to break down. So while C's parents went to go get some plugs because that's what they thought the problem was J took us out to lunch. C and her bf wouldn't share their fries so J gave me his fries which made me blush. Then he started to tease me because I was blushing and everyone else were just eating while J and I were teasing each other. The next day at breakfast C's family was all talking about how their family robs the cradle since her dad is older than her mother. C's brother is older than his gf. C's older than her bf and J and I were just casually eating our breakfast since we're both single. At the end of the day C's brother went to his gf's house and C wanted to go to her bf's house. So J turned to me and said: "Guess it's just you and me, *my name*." Then C said: "So..I guess I'm leaving.." J replied with: "Yup, she's my date. By the way, your friend says thanks for ditching her" I couldn't stop blushing and laughing. When C was gone J asked me: "Have you watched World War Z yet?" I told him: "No, but I want to" Then he got up 'cause he was going to take me to watch it at the movies, but then the pizza guy came((Stupid Pizza guy)) Then J forgot about it. When it got later he took me home. I know he most likely was just joking around, but I really like him. The only problem is my parents are worried about him being too old and being a party-type guy. Can I have advice please?

[thunderofthedrum]

Key:
C-My best friend
J-Best friend's cousin

Hello, I am currently in a very hard situation. I'm going to explain as best as I can, but it is kind of hard to explain since I'm not really good with explanations... For starters I have a HUGE crush on my best friend's cousin, J. He's six years older than me and I know that it's a potential problem. J is also a partying/badboy type of guy, well tries to be. Most of the badboy persona is all an act and he really is sweet and funny. I'm going to tell you what happened to me the past couple days.

I was at C's house who is my best friend and we wanted to go on a boat with her family. J, C, C's bf, C's brother, C's brother's gf, C's mom, and C's dad, and I all went on the boat. As J pushed the boat away from the dock he smirked and said: "First we have to tickle *my name's* feet" as he tickled my feet which were hanging out of the boat. That was the first day we hung out. The second day we went on the boat again, but the boat started to break down. So while C's parents went to go get some plugs because that's what they thought the problem was J took us out to lunch. C and her bf wouldn't share their fries so J gave me his fries which made me blush. Then he started to tease me because I was blushing and everyone else were just eating while J and I were teasing each other. The next day at breakfast C's family was all talking about how their family robs the cradle since her dad is older than her mother. C's brother is older than his gf. C's older than her bf and J and I were just casually eating our breakfast since we're both single. At the end of the day C's brother went to his gf's house and C wanted to go to her bf's house. So J turned to me and said: "Guess it's just you and me, *my name*." Then C said: "So..I guess I'm leaving.." J replied with: "Yup, she's my date. By the way, your friend says thanks for ditching her" I couldn't stop blushing and laughing. When C was gone J asked me: "Have you watched World War Z yet?" I told him: "No, but I want to" Then he got up 'cause he was going to take me to watch it at the movies, but then the pizza guy came((Stupid Pizza guy)) Then J forgot about it. When it got later he took me home. I know he most likely was just joking around, but I really like him. The only problem is my parents are worried about him being too old and being a party-type guy. Can I have advice please?

It's hard to know how he views you. Being that much older, he may just see you as a little sister. Being older and more experienced, he may just enjoy the fun of putting you on the spot and making you blush without really meaning any of it.

Robbing the cradle is relative - just because one person is older doesn't mean they are robbing the cradle. My dad is 5 years older than my mom and no one cares. I definitely would NOT consider that 'robbing the cradle'. 15 year difference? THEN maybe I would use that phrase. I'm 1.5 years younger than my boyfriend and he doesn't typically date younger women, but to me there's not really a difference at all.

Now, if J is legally an adult and you are not, you have to be aware of the boundaries. I'm guessing you are a teen and he is 20+? To me, the likelihood of him having actual feelings for you is slim. If I had money and was with my friend and her younger brother (he's 4 years younger) and he said he hadn't seen a movie that I also wanted to see, I'd totally be fine with taking him as my 'date', but we would both know it wasn't an actual romantic date, just accompanying each other. I enjoy teasing him about stuff but I have ZERO interest and that's not going to change.

So I would say - your parents shouldn't worry too much and you shouldn't get your hopes up. Even if by some chance he DOES reveal that he's seriously interested, you might find yourself in a complicated situation where he is more experienced romantically and you are not. Meaning, for one thing, he may be used to *going farther* than you are and going faster with things than what you are comfortable with. I CANNOT imagine wanting to date someone 6 years younger than myself, to be honest. They'd be only 18, fresh out of high school. They would know so LITTLE about the world, being responsible, being an ADULT and it would be hard to relate. They probably wouldn't take things as seriously as me, such as needing to be at work on time or worrying about paying the bills, they wouldn't understand that I don't have summer break, I can't randomly stay up all night just for funsies. He is probably young enough that he doesn't have these burdens yet (especially if he's still a partying badboy), but still - differences will come up. There are many successful age gap relationships, but it's much harder to do that when you are so young.

[cobalt.]

ok, so i met this guy about a year ago {online might I add}. and we were talking and everything.
he had a girlfriend at the time, but since we had been talking for a month or so he broke up with her, because he liked me.
stupidly i gave him my home phone number, and he called my house and left a message. i didn't want to talk to him, and so i deleted him on facebook and blocked him, plus my mom was freaking out thinking he was a creepy old dude and made me block him, but who could blame her?
. a couple months went by and since he didn't call my house again or anything, i decided to unblock him. cue the other guy, he was from a town not far away from me, where the other guy lives in a different state but is 2 hours away. he had already told me that he liked me and had asked me if i would give him a chance. i said i would, and we talked for a while on facebook, and he would try to send me pictures of himself shirtless, which was a bit awkward for me but i never told him. well slowly he stopped talking to me, and was going to a local waterpark with his friends from his school, which i didn't make a big deal out of since they were his friends. well shortly after that he ended up in a relationship with someone else! i was really hurt, since he never said that he liked me. this was about the same time that the first guy, messaged me on skype and tried to call me when i was offline. stupidly i decided to talk to him out of desperation because of the second guy. well, now i've finally come to my senses and i've realized that i don't like him. but the problem is that he told me that he LOVED ME, and he writes it ILoveYou because there's no room for any other girls. i told him that i loved him too! he still has feelings for me and sends me hearts and those wink & kiss emojis. he calls me baby, sweetie, the works and i feel so bad since i don't feel the same way. he talks about how he wants to come up and watch me show horses this summer and go out to see a movie then eat. i don't want him to!

how do i first of all tell him that i'm not interested in him anymore without hurting his feelings, and also tell him that i don't want to talk to him, or have him come up to see me? i'm in deep crud here. :S

I can't tell if I'd be of any help because your post is hard to read.

oh, sorry. >.<
would it be ok if i just pmed you a better explanation?

[fruitbat]

does anyone have any tips for not being so shy around your crush >.<"
gah. im not even sure he likes me any more. its so hard to talk to him without myself thinking about the teasing we get.
and its hard because i have never been that "lovey dovey" girl who falls in love easy. this is my first time "in love" or had a REAL crush.

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i cant even say hi to him anymore :( i go to say something but then i cant. why is everything so much easier said than done ;-;""

[~Dea~]

Okay, so this is gonna sound like a lot of teenage-drama, but I swear, I really am upset about this....so please, don't just tell me I'm 'over-reacting' because it really is bothering me.

So, last week I went to the National Youth Gathering in San Antonio with my church. Which is fine, I had a great time! The problem is one of the boys in my church who went with us.
So, yeah, he's cute, sweet, funny, etc. So, for now, lets call this guy P.
So, first things first, every time we went to Mass/Worship, P sat next to me. Like, every. time.
He also hung out with us when we went to Six Flags. Like, the entire time.
But things didn't really get weird until last Thursday...
So, we went to Mass Worship in the morning, and after that, a group of us (Including P and myself) decided to go back to the hotel.
So, when we got back to the hotel, I sort-of ran up to my room, because P kinda makes me feel uncomfortable. Later, I decided to go to the pool. So, as I was getting ready, someone knocked on my door, when I opened it, P was standing there. Mind you, I was wearing a bikini top and shorts. A TINY bikini top. This is how the conversation went down:

Me: Um, hi.
P: Hey....um...*insertmynamehere* We..um..have some...um sandwich stuff...if you want some... (He was turning bright red at this point.)
Me: Oh, um, thanks, but no thanks.
P: Okay...are you..um, going to the pool?
Me: Yeah, are you?
P: Well...yeah, I guess. *Insert his friends name here* was going to lift weights, and I was going to the pool.
Me: Okay then, I guess I'll se you out there.
P: Okay. (Walks off)

So, after I finish getting ready and such, I open the door, and he is literally standing right there. Kinda like he was trying to think of something to say. As I opened the door, he walked quickly back to his room. I was a little freaked, but I walk down to the pool anyway.. After waiting for about 2 hours, he hasn't showed. And I was getting tired, so I walked back upstairs. I push the elevator button, and guess who is in that exact same elevator. P. Of course. So, after walking back to the pool, I was the only one who actually got in. the entire time kinda sat there and watched me. But, anyway, while we were walking back to our rooms, we had another awkward conversation.

P: So..um..what are you wearing to the mass event tonight? (Said like he was trying to make a conversation.)
Me: Why does it matter?
P: Oh, No reason...I just..um, wanted to know. (He turns BRIGHT red.)
Me: You know you're turning red right? (YES! I realize that was a bit harsh)
P: Oh...I did not know that. ( P walks very quickly into his room)

Okay....so the problem is, that EVERYONE is telling me that he likes me. Down to my Boyfriend. >.>. I told him the story, and he thinks that P likes me.

First question, do you think he likes me? I probably sound stupid, but I really need to know...

and, another problem is, that, despite trying not to, I actually like him BACK! And I have a boyfriend! What should I do? How to I respond if he asks me out?

Thank you to anyone who helps!

~Dea~

Hey, I'd really like some advice..can someone respond/pm me?

[Madison143]

Okay, so this is gonna sound like a lot of teenage-drama, but I swear, I really am upset about this....so please, don't just tell me I'm 'over-reacting' because it really is bothering me.

So, last week I went to the National Youth Gathering in San Antonio with my church. Which is fine, I had a great time! The problem is one of the boys in my church who went with us.
So, yeah, he's cute, sweet, funny, etc. So, for now, lets call this guy P.
So, first things first, every time we went to Mass/Worship, P sat next to me. Like, every. time.
He also hung out with us when we went to Six Flags. Like, the entire time.
But things didn't really get weird until last Thursday...
So, we went to Mass Worship in the morning, and after that, a group of us (Including P and myself) decided to go back to the hotel.
So, when we got back to the hotel, I sort-of ran up to my room, because P kinda makes me feel uncomfortable. Later, I decided to go to the pool. So, as I was getting ready, someone knocked on my door, when I opened it, P was standing there. Mind you, I was wearing a bikini top and shorts. A TINY bikini top. This is how the conversation went down:

Me: Um, hi.
P: Hey....um...*insertmynamehere* We..um..have some...um sandwich stuff...if you want some... (He was turning bright red at this point.)
Me: Oh, um, thanks, but no thanks.
P: Okay...are you..um, going to the pool?
Me: Yeah, are you?
P: Well...yeah, I guess. *Insert his friends name here* was going to lift weights, and I was going to the pool.
Me: Okay then, I guess I'll se you out there.
P: Okay. (Walks off)

So, after I finish getting ready and such, I open the door, and he is literally standing right there. Kinda like he was trying to think of something to say. As I opened the door, he walked quickly back to his room. I was a little freaked, but I walk down to the pool anyway.. After waiting for about 2 hours, he hasn't showed. And I was getting tired, so I walked back upstairs. I push the elevator button, and guess who is in that exact same elevator. P. Of course. So, after walking back to the pool, I was the only one who actually got in. the entire time kinda sat there and watched me. But, anyway, while we were walking back to our rooms, we had another awkward conversation.

P: So..um..what are you wearing to the mass event tonight? (Said like he was trying to make a conversation.)
Me: Why does it matter?
P: Oh, No reason...I just..um, wanted to know. (He turns BRIGHT red.)
Me: You know you're turning red right? (YES! I realize that was a bit harsh)
P: Oh...I did not know that. ( P walks very quickly into his room)

Okay....so the problem is, that EVERYONE is telling me that he likes me. Down to my Boyfriend. >.>. I told him the story, and he thinks that P likes me.

First question, do you think he likes me? I probably sound stupid, but I really need to know...

and, another problem is, that, despite trying not to, I actually like him BACK! And I have a boyfriend! What should I do? How to I respond if he asks me out?

Thank you to anyone who helps!

~Dea~

Hey, I'd really like some advice..can someone respond/pm me?

It sounds like he likes you, but Is too shy to ask you. Does he know you have a boyfriend? Also, do you like him more than your boyfriend, or you boyfriend more than him?

[southren girl]

I really miss d I live with my mom and he live in another city the only way I can see him if I go to my dads and I only see my dad 1s a moth its hard to talk to him because he don't have a phone and he cant get on the facebook that often and every time he gets on his brother gets on and his brother is my twin sister boyfriend and he is always messing with us what do I do to make him stop can someone help me?

[raezel]

I really miss d I live with my mom and he live in another city the only way I can see him if I go to my dads and I only see my dad 1s a moth its hard to talk to him because he don't have a phone and he cant get on the facebook that often and every time he gets on his brother gets on and his brother is my twin sister boyfriend and he is always messing with us what do I do to make him stop can someone help me?

if i were in the same situation, i'd most likely just tell his brother to back off if things got to annoying you extremely badly. "he is always messing with us" is a rather broad statement, so it's hard to tell exactly what he's doing that is messing with you two, but just be polite about it. the last thing you'd want would to be to start a fight, that'd make everything worse.
is his brother on a separate account? you could always block him on facebook if this is the case.

[~Dea~]

Okay, so this is gonna sound like a lot of teenage-drama, but I swear, I really am upset about this....so please, don't just tell me I'm 'over-reacting' because it really is bothering me.

So, last week I went to the National Youth Gathering in San Antonio with my church. Which is fine, I had a great time! The problem is one of the boys in my church who went with us.
So, yeah, he's cute, sweet, funny, etc. So, for now, lets call this guy P.
So, first things first, every time we went to Mass/Worship, P sat next to me. Like, every. time.
He also hung out with us when we went to Six Flags. Like, the entire time.
But things didn't really get weird until last Thursday...
So, we went to Mass Worship in the morning, and after that, a group of us (Including P and myself) decided to go back to the hotel.
So, when we got back to the hotel, I sort-of ran up to my room, because P kinda makes me feel uncomfortable. Later, I decided to go to the pool. So, as I was getting ready, someone knocked on my door, when I opened it, P was standing there. Mind you, I was wearing a bikini top and shorts. A TINY bikini top. This is how the conversation went down:

Me: Um, hi.
P: Hey....um...*insertmynamehere* We..um..have some...um sandwich stuff...if you want some... (He was turning bright red at this point.)
Me: Oh, um, thanks, but no thanks.
P: Okay...are you..um, going to the pool?
Me: Yeah, are you?
P: Well...yeah, I guess. *Insert his friends name here* was going to lift weights, and I was going to the pool.
Me: Okay then, I guess I'll se you out there.
P: Okay. (Walks off)

So, after I finish getting ready and such, I open the door, and he is literally standing right there. Kinda like he was trying to think of something to say. As I opened the door, he walked quickly back to his room. I was a little freaked, but I walk down to the pool anyway.. After waiting for about 2 hours, he hasn't showed. And I was getting tired, so I walked back upstairs. I push the elevator button, and guess who is in that exact same elevator. P. Of course. So, after walking back to the pool, I was the only one who actually got in. the entire time kinda sat there and watched me. But, anyway, while we were walking back to our rooms, we had another awkward conversation.

P: So..um..what are you wearing to the mass event tonight? (Said like he was trying to make a conversation.)
Me: Why does it matter?
P: Oh, No reason...I just..um, wanted to know. (He turns BRIGHT red.)
Me: You know you're turning red right? (YES! I realize that was a bit harsh)
P: Oh...I did not know that. ( P walks very quickly into his room)

Okay....so the problem is, that EVERYONE is telling me that he likes me. Down to my Boyfriend. >.>. I told him the story, and he thinks that P likes me.

First question, do you think he likes me? I probably sound stupid, but I really need to know...

and, another problem is, that, despite trying not to, I actually like him BACK! And I have a boyfriend! What should I do? How to I respond if he asks me out?

Thank you to anyone who helps!

~Dea~

Hey, I'd really like some advice..can someone respond/pm me?

It sounds like he likes you, but Is too shy to ask you. Does he know you have a boyfriend? Also, do you like him more than your boyfriend, or you boyfriend more than him?

Um...I don't think he knows... And I like them about the same...sorry, that probably doesn't help.

[dakotapaws]

I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a week. We talk every night. And suddenly he just stopped talking to me. I haven't done anything wrong either. What should I do?