Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Lucid Dreamer]

My parents don't know about my bf XD they would FLIP, I have known him for years, but, he has being expelled from 5 different schools, and is an ex druggie and smoker, and now he just drinks a lot...but he is REALLY cute, and I kinda like the bad boy attitude XD. Do you really have to tell them If you went out with him?

[Amethysts]

My parents don't know about my bf XD they would FLIP, I have known him for years, but, he has being expelled from 5 different schools, and is an ex druggie and smoker, and now he just drinks a lot...but he is REALLY cute, and I kinda like the bad boy attitude XD. Do you really have to tell them If you went out with him?

Haha. My ex boyfriend is the same way. My parents adore him now, though. He punched a principle in 7th grade, and was expelled to a different a school. He got left back in 7th and had to graduate from that school.

I know him for 8 years, and he used to smoke [concerned] everyday.
He drinks from time to time, but doesn't smoke anymore.
Rarely, he does. Only when I do though. He drinks wine.. Which I believe is okay.. Beer, I hate. He does it so often with my step dad & uncle. I hate the smell. I tried it once, never again though.

[Lucid Dreamer]

haha, not a huge fan of most wines, but larger ((beer)) I like :3 I hardly ever drink, and my bf ((lets call him G)) doesn't often do it around me, cos if he goes over board then he knows about it! I have known him for 11 years now, we used to be really close friends, and now we are dating :3

[Glazed Donut]

Hello guys.

So, yes, Iz be crushing for quite a while now. Close to a year. And I want to finally ask him out.

But.

I'm scared he'll say no. I'm scared of everything. I'm not really sure what he thinks of me. One day in Home Eck. after doing our work I was taking to one of my friends while sitting on a table, and he came over and sat right next to me and joined in. Like, really close. Our thighs were touching. We're kind of friends, but I wouldn't say super close friends. But then on Instagram he is following practically every girl in my class but me. Why doesn't he want to follow me? Did he just forget?

So, Im here to ask you guys. 1. Do you think I have a chance? 2. Should I ask him out? 3. If so, where? When? 4. What if he says no? :\

[tennisbutt]

Flicka, you can't. Long distance relationships never work, I cant really provide much help. But if keeps on doing this to you, you need to tell him and explain that if he can't get his act together and act like a man towards you then you have to stop being his crash barrier. Stress can do crazy things to you, don't stop being his friend just stop taking the blows. He needs to shape up. And learn to help himself.


As for your tennis boy, it's normal. I have known A. For almost 4 years and now he has gone and hurt me. Just take it bit by bit. Nice and slow.

Pfft thank you ;v; But I think this summer might be a good opportunity but I don't know whether I should ask him or not?

[Proud violent zealot]

First kisses are weird <3

[thunderofthedrum]

My parents don't know about my bf XD they would FLIP, I have known him for years, but, he has being expelled from 5 different schools, and is an ex druggie and smoker, and now he just drinks a lot...but he is REALLY cute, and I kinda like the bad boy attitude XD. Do you really have to tell them If you went out with him?

I think it depends on your age. If you are young then your parents are still legally responsible for you. They may see this boy as a risk, a liability to your safety/health/happiness. Also, they should always know where you are; that's just common sense for safety.

Also, I would be a little concerned if he's drinking a lot. If he can't go without a drink (no matter what he claims), that's a sign he may be an alcoholic and you can become one at a pretty young age.

Being cute is never an excuse for anything. Not trying to be mean, but it's the simple, practical truth.

So really, the choice is yours, just as the consequences of action or inaction will be yours to deal with. My parents may not know everything about my boyfriend (he smokes and drinks) but also we are in our mid-twenties so I no longer have to do as my parents say - I am an adult and make my own decisions. All the same, my family has met him and my two closest friends have his address and phone number; one of them (and another friend) and one of my brothers have even been to his place. Another friend met him because I brought him as my date to her wedding and I was a bridesmaid so we all sat at the bridal party table; at the rehearsal dinner he even sat next to the groom. So he's met 4 of my friends, my family of 7, an aunt, and 2 of my friends can contact him if need be.

IF you choose not to tell your parents, I do think you need to leave his address and phone number with an ADULT you trust, not just one of your friends if you are a minor. If you have been to his home but don't know his address, it's a good thing to find out! I learned my boyfriend's address pretty quick so I can tell it to someone if need be (and to give to those friends) or also if there's an emergency I can say exactly where I am, whether it's trouble with him (doubtful haha) or the house is on fire or a burglar or whatever.

[Lucid Dreamer]

I understand where you are coming from, and my parents have met him, and know him, they just think that he is an idiot, ((as do I)) he is drinking less now, and he doesn't drink alcohol like water/all the time, just too much. And I probable will tell my parents, just not yet, and to be honest, there aren't many adults I fully trust, my parents are good friends with his parents, know where he lives etc...and I know that being cute is not an excuse, I mean, if I knew a guy was selling drugs, and shoplifted or whatever, know matter how much I liked him, I wouldn't go out with him. I have known him since I was a kid, so I know what he is like, etc. And I am not a kid, nor am I a dumb blonde, I know what the consequences may be if he carries on, and so does he.

[kay.]

M = Untrustworthy friend I told about an hour before Ball
L = Untrustworthy friend I told after everything happened

So Prom/Ball was yesterday. I feel awful now.

I was gonna tell Robbie that he's my crush, yet he got a girllfriend just hours before 3: I'd still tell him, I'm not asking him out am I, but his girlfriend is a girl I really get along with, but everybody, even him, must admit she has a big temper that breaks easily [once argued with a teacher for a good hour and a half with swearing at them]. Earlier I told M about the whole situation, although at Prom I didn't get to tell her I wasn't gonna tell now. So she went up to Robbie girlfriend, and this what happend:

M: What would you do if one of my friends had a crush on your boyfriend?
Gf: Is it -Insert my name-??
M: ... No...
Gf: It is, isn't it?!
M: Fine it is...
*The girlfriend rushed up to me*

Gf: -Insert my name- do you have a crush on Robbie, like a proper crush? (Not really mad or anything, just asking)
Me: *Glares at M who was standing by, then nods* Yes but I'd never get in between you two
Gf: What school are you going to?
Me: -Insert new Schools' name-
Gf: Well Robbie's going to my school *Suddenly rushes off*

D: I am gonna speak to her as soon as I get the chance, so probably Monday. To make things worse, I told one of my other friends, L, and she spread to a few people. I feel great.

[Malédiction]

And then he broke up with me... So this is what it feels like trying hard not to cry when your parents keep asking you if you're okay... Oh, I'm fine. Not. Gahhhh, I knew it was coming anyway, but I always thought it'd be me that would do it, not him. I mean, he was the one who didn't talk to me, so I thought I would just snap and tell him this wasn't working. I didn't expect him to turn around first and say he wasn't fit to be my boyfriend, and that I didn't deserve to go through what I did... That is wasn't my fault in any way... I guess he was right when he said he just wasn't quite ready... I didn't understand one of his last statements though...

Him: I'm not saying we're over, I'm just not quite ready yet.

What is that supposed to mean? To me, that's pretty much saying we're over. Any help?