Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[-Cora-]

I met him on Omegle, a random chat site. He was about to disconnect but decided to go on with one more chat, me.

After a while he became one of my BEST FRIENDS. We would talk about anything and everything.

We eventually exchanged gamertags and started playing minecraft together, we now have this "tradition" where every world we make he gives me roses.

I can be myself, I can rave about pokemon and mario as long as he's allowed to rave about Doctor Who and Deadspace.

Though we have differences we still find similarities like deadpool, crazy friends, and much more.

I'll never forget the night we both admitted to having crushes on each other, I asked him why.
"Because I like you
Because you're fun to be around
Because even If you start talking about something I don't really care/know about I'll listen.
Its like trying to explain the color 9
you cant."

I remember when we made it official, I had to weasel it out of him because he was too nervous to ask.

He asks when we can video chat and finally see what the other looks like, I shrug it off and talk about being nervous. He'll say something along the lines of "Your looks will never change ANYTHING, I love you and that's all that matters" Never fails to make me blush.

He's perfect in a number of ways, and I can't get him off my mind. I'm lovesick.

I've fallen so hard it hurts.

And he lives 2,500 miles away.

[iWonder]

Yup. Maybe vid chat... Uhm maybe once you know him for longer you guys could arrange a group date and meet in the middle of 2000.500. And have a blast. Don't forget to be very very careful people you meet online are not always genuine.

[Flicka]

So there's this guy I like. And.... it wasn't supposed to be this way. I became his friend shortly after meeting him and began confiding in him about my relationship. Ir was with my first love and we often had problems with things like communicating, arguments and planning. He talked about his gf at the time. and we laughed and joked and tried our best to give the opposite gender's imput. This was all a few years ago. ....I don't really remember exactly when I fell in love with him. I just remember feeling different one day about the way his gf treated him. I felt defensive of him. I spent a lot of time talking to him, paying attention to the details he gave me like about his pet. the games he liked to play. how he felt. but even after my first boyfriend dumped me for my ex- best friend I didn't have the courage to tell him.... I didn't want him to feel like a re-bound. especially being he and his gf broke up. I was extremely happy and relieved about it. Not like in I have my chance happy. Happy that he got out of a bad relationship happy I hated to see him upset.

I talked to him about my ex after we broke up. Often because it widened a fresh wound. one of my cats had died on the same day he left me; a month earlier. I was still mourning. and he kept his clutches on me even after everything. I didn't know what to do. I was often upset and depressed about the drama. I had to deal with his new gf often being we took the same class. and then the drama with him saying he missed me and crap. it was the night of the fourth I finally said good-bye to him.

Now back to the guy I had a crush on. we used to be really close. but at this time we sorta drifted apart for reasons I later learned about. also because I didn't really get on much to message people. so after I said good-bye to my ex, I got back into shape ended up going to a sleep over with my friends and ended up meeting mr No. 2 a charming blonde haired tall wise guy. He was nice. until you know his dad hated me. his step-sister disliked me, his best friend was jealous of me. and he didn't stand up for me. there were a ton of arguments. to where I ended up sleeping on the couch or crying. but when I went one day to message my crush he hadn't been on in sometime. I became worried. and looked for him, but... I didn't remember why I was looking so hard. I had pushed away my feelings to help him, because I thought he needed a friend he could count on more then another set of problems.

and I didn't find him. So on I went with my craptastical relationship that I didn't even know how miserable I was until I was out of it. in which he left me on easter and ended up dating a girl I saw was texting him a few months before. he lied to me about her. and you know I believed what he said. So after so long I started feeling better about myself I started to remember my friend, my crush. and I went on my search again actually turning up something. He came back; and it took me awhile.... but I eventually worked up the courage to tell him how he's made me feel for years. and he didn't reject me. he said he liked me romantically. that he loved to go out if it weren't for the distance. and then he said he loved me. ....what I didn't know at the time was that he was already taken. ....I had gotten my hopes up and slowly he let on he was. it crushed me for awhile. .....but I didn't leave him alone. I stuck around. Problem was after that I learned exactly how he was treated by them and I wasn't happy. I learned about his ex's too I just wanted to sock them all in the face. He was such a nice, charming, caring and emotional guy. Anybody that had him was lucky. It was hard to deal with my feelings rspecially since he seemed to return them to an extent but having to watch this person walk all over him, make him cry, scare him, not pay enough attention to him. He wasn't needy he just wanted what everyone wants; love. and he deserved respect. He's not a bad person.

Through it all I had to pick him up, ask him questions about it. I didn't want to be judgemental I didnt like "them" from the moment I met them. just the way they talked like he was nothing but their toy. and even he himself worried they might cheat on him, that he felt like they were just using him. It broke my heart so much to see him in pain like that. But there wasn't much I could do besides be there and support him. He often made me feel special and wanted. like I mattered. Even though he was taken he didnt know originally if he would stay. but he ended up deciding to, at the time I didnt know much about his chosen partner. I thought it was better for him to have someone there and protect him and help him where I couldn't.

But that's when I always ended up cleaning up the mess that that person left. He was a wreck often. wether it was over not hearing from his lover, or a fight, or when they hurt him. I knew that if it were me i'd want somebody to be there for me and show me something better when I was in my last relationship. He confided in me about other things and in turn I confided in him. but.... we did get into fights every now and then. He's not really used to knowing what a good relationship functions like. and I've had to get after him a few times about certain things. I really hate fighting with him though, sometimes its not even me sometimes he's just so emotional about whatever we got into it about that upset me and he doesn't talk to me for a few days. The bad thing about that is.... I developed panic attacks. So if I feel jealous, or like he's not paying attention to me or heartbroken I have them. He's been through hell so I try my best to help him and understand him. and I try to teach him that he doesn't need to run away and hide from me all the time. Once I talk it out I feel better and im pretty much handing him the fix it without a fight.

We've had ups and downs. I have his number now so we call and talk to eachother. he most often calls when he's upset about something. We've gotten close over the time.... at least we seem to agree. I am miserable without him in my life. I feel really stupid about it because I let myself get way too attached way to early. the one week he wasn't talking to me because he was upset I was really un-happy. I slept with a cylinder pillow, cryed, lost sleep. Was constantly thinking about him. even after I stubbed my toe in the car when I went out with my friend and bled. ate Chinese. ...I was so worried about him. I tried texting him and messaging him but he wouldn't answer. so I vented it out with my friends.

I think it was that same week my best friend chewed me out and I felt like she was blaming everything on me. even though I did my best with him not everyone can deal with what I've had to deal with and then the panic attacks weren't my fault. they weren't always his either. but she just chewed into me. and I stopped talking to her and began talking to more understanding people about it. where I got some advice to leave when my attacks were coming but... I learned I was hurting him by doing that because I left a stream everytime he came in. I just.... needed to calm down and breathe. ...I thought it didnt matter because he wasn't talking to me. even though I tried. and then you know I was talking about it and I got advice to send him a final pm about how I felt and that I needed him to change certain things for me to feel better. I had it all written up and while I was waiting for the ok that it was ok he beat me to it. saying he was going to leave and that he was a terrible friend. and I had to call him to convince him not to. he wasn't pleased. but... I turned it around. just like when we skyped. I changed his mind about doing something. maybe I didnt make him laugh but I made him feel better. and cryed myself. then he told me the real reason why he was so upset. He and his partner broke up but not only that my bestfriend had sent him my pms to her to him and he took it the wrong way.

when I confronted her about it she didnt really seem to think she did anything wrong. me and him we were getting along so when he was streaming he checked his mail and saw he had a message from her and of course it was about me. making her cry because I dislike betrayal. im a very loyal and honest person. he thought it was his fault and started spazzing out until I was like not you its me. and he felt responsible for it so I sat on the phone with him for a very longtime discussing it about how it actually helped me because I've been hurt so much and I've had a friend betray me before I was extremely happy that he was telling me this. and then.... he told me that she confessed to him and he never answered her. but it explained why she did it. after that I tried to her to admit it to me on her own but she didnt give it up I said it and said good-bye.

and then I went away with my friends for ten days and he was so sweet, nice and caring to me. I was really happy. that I even told him pretty much everything that happened to me and about a dream I had when he was upset with me. he called often even though my friends were jerks. He spazzed one day though because he thought I thought we were dating. and its like nope. not makin that mistake again. and he was like, Im not over them. and I was like I know. Its why I haven't been pushing you. But ever since then he's been acting strangely. he hasn't been as affectionate. ....he hasn't called me a pet name other then daring or said he loved me. ....I just stopped saying it because I felt like maybe he felt like I was pushing to much and that really wasn't my intentions. I just wanted him to know that somebody really cared for him, didnt want to see anything bad happen to him, that somebody was paying attention to him.

I found myself upset that he was acting different. but I didnt know how to bring it up. I was really upset about it. but I don't remember how I brought it up. or if I did. I don't think I did. so... I was on the phone with him and I accidentally slipped up and upset him because I was so tired and stressed I really wanted to talk to him about problems. But instead he got upset with me and I ended up crying then he made me cry some more by making me make a choice I didnt want to make and shouldn't had. and then the day after we were talking about skyrim and I ended up insulting him by saying the storyline was too easy. the side stuff took longer. So he was mad at me for that. I was mad at him because he shed me even playfully but I took it as a shh that he didnt really want to talk to me that he didnt want me there. and then he misunderstood what I wrote he thought I called him a sexist pig. which made me mad at the time I did not realize my mistake. and blew up at him. he didnt text me until later that night angerly when I explained he seemed to calm down. ....then he brought up about his ex. how he met some dude that he gave his address to that lived with that person so they could write letters. he said it made him feel horrible because he felt like they abandoned him. which they did. and that he should've never gotten me involved but I reminded him if he hadn't we weouldnt be this close. he agreed but also said he feels responsible for putting me through all this emotional crap he puts me through, especially when he misses his ex. but he said something on the phone when I did talk to him that he didnt really believe I was real. ....he's known me for years and he said that. I mean yeah there's no one in this world exactly like me but not exist? all this is real I've been honest and true to you from the get-gio right down to being scared to fall in love again.

But.... one day I had a nightmare it shook me so badly I cryed and texted him for comfort. ....but I didnt tell him it was about him going back to his ex. and then last night I read his posts where he was talking about his ex. ...so apparently he wanted to get back together with them even though he was treated lower then dirt, even though I was there the whole time, and his ex lives farther away from him then I do now. I just cant wrap my head around it. he's such a idiot. So I cryed and cryed and cryed after reading it. he texted me but I couldn't look at it or answer it too many questions about myself were swirling around in my head like why am I never good enough. I try and try and I fight for people but it never ends well. when I did get the courage to look at it it was about a movie. and then his cats then that I could call him. for the first time I refused and said no that's ok. talked about his cats then that he was playing a horror game instead of skyrim. then said out of the blue the reason he hadn't been very talkative he said he felt like a burden that he was too chatty. I finished my movie said I should go to bed and that he should enjoy it. all he said was that he was practically peeing himself. and that was the last time I heard from him last night other then when he was posting in the thread, I was posting about my annoyances. askin if he was upsetting me. and then saying he was gonna be quiet because I didnt want to talk to him.

I mean, why would I after learning that? its basically a slap in the face to me. here's this wonderful amazing person taking time out her day and life to pay attention and be what you need her to be a solid rock in his life. and you choose the asshat that didnt bother to try to fight for you, didnt comfort you, pick up the pieces. in a freaking month and probably would've never tried to see you again had you not decided to be like oh here's my address im going to keep waiting for you.

I seriously cant wrap my head around it. Why would you go back to someone you felt was going to cheat on you, you felt was using you, that your relationship was going to end soon? and when I talked to my friends one said it was because he had been abused. another friend couldn't believe it and said what the hay hay was wrong with him. and then another said he wasn't being truthful with me and that he really didnt feel that way about me. and that I was better off moving on. and that she had proof.

I didnt really know what to do after that; haven't heard from him since last night. But I decided I should face him and not back down until I get an answer. I deserve one after everything I've been through. and you know its not even like he has a legit reason to hide it from me because its not like I would've stopped being his friend because of it, if anything it would've stopped me from falling more in love. Problem is I've tried getting ahold of him today to get it over with and he's either not reading them or avoiding it. why I don't know. But honestly I deserve to know if he has feelings for me.

I really do care about him, that I've put myself through heck for him. and I know he's different then how he was when I first met him. I do love him, for him. I don't mind the way he is. he's always so hard on himself. Even though he's on the otherside of the continent I'd still like to fight for him, to love him un-conditionally. and show him he doesn't have to be afraid. afraid of losing people all the time. he just has to look for the right people like me who are going to make him feel better about himself and build him back up. I know a ld relationship takes a lot of work but im willing to try.

but honestly I still feel like crap over the fact he wants his ex still. I don't really know what to do with the situation or who to believe. I mean I cryed all of last night over this and haven't ate much today

[tennisbutt]

Ahh, I found this thread just as I'm having confusion over this boy quq

The thing is, I met him almost 2 years ago I think it is now at a tennis camp but at that time I had no idea I'd like him so much and we both didn't know each other, but since then I've been going almost every time and I've slightly gotten to know him a bit but not even to a friend level.
Recently I've realised that he's so nice and friendly and I can't help falling for him. My mom then goes and asks him if he could play with me [I had no idea she was going to do it I was just like... holy holy holy I'm so embarassed] and for some strange reason he said yes? But it was probably just because this lady was like asking him. So I recent played with him and apart from him being incredible he is also ridiculously nice and tries to help me improve aldjkaksjakskaja. Also, I seemed his arm was hurting but he continued to play with me until I think it was hurting him too much. At the end he said that if I wanted to do this again I could contact him and that was what really just did it for me I guess ahah I was pretty much content for the rest of the day. But then the confusion kind of comes in ;-; I started the conversation with him asking how his arm was and stuff and it was all going alright till I got held up babysitting and couldn't reply to his message for 15 minutes or so, so when I replied I asked if he wanted to play on this specific day but he hasn't replied yet but the message was seen so I was getting slightly paranoid ahha I know this sounds dumb but this 'crush' has been sitting there for some time I've just never felt it this bad pfft

[kay.]

M = Untrustworthy friend I told about an hour before Ball
L = Untrustworthy friend I told after everything happened

So Prom/Ball was yesterday. I feel awful now.

I was gonna tell Robbie that he's my crush, yet he got a girllfriend just hours before 3: I'd still tell him, I'm not asking him out am I, but his girlfriend is a girl I really get along with, but everybody, even him, must admit she has a big temper that breaks easily [once argued with a teacher for a good hour and a half with swearing at them]. Earlier I told M about the whole situation, although at Prom I didn't get to tell her I wasn't gonna tell now. So she went up to Robbie girlfriend, and this what happend:

M: What would you do if one of my friends had a crush on your boyfriend?
Gf: Is it -Insert my name-??
M: ... No...
Gf: It is, isn't it?!
M: Fine it is...
*The girlfriend rushed up to me*

Gf: -Insert my name- do you have a crush on Robbie, like a proper crush? (Not really mad or anything, just asking)
Me: *Glares at M who was standing by, then nods* Yes but I'd never get in between you two
Gf: What school are you going to?
Me: -Insert new Schools' name-
Gf: Well Robbie's going to my school *Suddenly rushes off*

D: I am gonna speak to her as soon as I get the chance, so probably Monday. To make things worse, I told one of my other friends, L, and she spread to a few people. I feel great.

[iWonder]

Flicka, you can't. Long distance relationships never work, I cant really provide much help. But if keeps on doing this to you, you need to tell him and explain that if he can't get his act together and act like a man towards you then you have to stop being his crash barrier. Stress can do crazy things to you, don't stop being his friend just stop taking the blows. He needs to shape up. And learn to help himself.


As for your tennis boy, it's normal. I have known A. For almost 4 years and now he has gone and hurt me. Just take it bit by bit. Nice and slow.

[Amethysts]

I just woke up realizing my sister Emily has told my ex girlfriend I like her still. Thing is, I can't come froth and tell her it's true.
Every time I gather the words, I choke up and say something else.

Why can't I say anything to her? I love her. I need her. I'm always so happy .. I've been so happy before like this ;n;

It's sad, though. I can't have her due to long distance.
...

[a n d y.]

Okay, so the end of school, in June, really made me happy. I got Vince's phone number! I saved it, but I texted him, and he probably doesn't even know it's me.... Is that too weird? xD But having his number just makes me squeal like a pig! But going into our next grade, I hope there's someone new, someone I'd actually have a chance with. I mean, come on, the longest I've dated someone was 2 days. That makes me feel like a loser. But hey, maybe Vincent will actually like me next year. This post was pointless (._.")

[vexolog1st]

My crush, let's call him 1, said he wanted to be with this other girl, call her 5. 5 gets up and walks to our table, she's the prettiest girl in the grade...and 5 starts flirting with him. [5 hates 1.] 1 starts to drool over her, and then I get up and leave... All of the sudden, 1 says he likes me. What do I do? ;w;

[P o m]

So I'm pretty sure I have a crush on this guy. And I know he likes me too, my friend has been trying to set us up for the past couple days and he's asked me out. I had to say, for lack of a better term, maybe. Because I'm out of town and my mom doesn't exactly approve of us talking the amount we do and we still need to talk with my dad when I get back home about it and arrange for me and this guy to meet before I actually go on a date with him.

I've never met this guy. (Let's call him S). He's a friend of my godsister, let's call her M. We have a lot in common; we both like Doctor Who, Marvel/DC, writing, drawing and acting. We both also have dirty minds. XD When he asked me out, I wanted to say yes and I nearly did, but I knew my parents would go ballistic if I did. From that, I can gather that I like him. I want to meet him so bad, because he's such a sweetheart and we've got so much in common and I know that we like each other.

But what if my parents don't say yes? What do I do then? I can't ignore my feelings for him, or his feelings for me. And if my parents say no, what do I tell him? I don't want to hurt his feelings.

This is more complicated than it should be.