Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Zeee]

So, I met this guy.
He is gorgeous, super nice and funny, athletic, did I mention gorgeous?
I think he likes me. Like, he smiles at me a lot and stuff blah blah blah
The problem here?
He is 2 years younger than me, the same age as my little brother.
Is this a really big deal? Am I freaking out about nothing?

Honestly it depends on if your in or out of school. to me personally it wouldn't matter. but its a bigger deal if your still in school because of grades. i mean imagine you a 6th grader dating a 4th grader or a junior dating a freshman. do you see what im talking about?

It would be a junior high - high school relationship

But he's so adorableeee

it honestly doesn't sound that bad to me. it's only two years, and a junior high - high school relationship seems reasonable. i mean, they're obviously adults now, but my parents are nine years apart. it's different because they're adults, but it's still nine years. they still got married (divorced now however), despite the age difference. i think it's alright, but that's just my opinion. since it's high school/junior high, both your grades must be fairly high, so i don't believe it's a bad thing. like TuneToTabbys<3 mentioned, at least it's not a elementary school sixth grade - fourth grade relationship, you know? c:

[iWonder]

Why does it hurt so bad?

Tuesday I asked A. If he wanted to go to a movie at the LIBRARY with me. He said yes. I don't like going to those things alone and he is my closest friend.

Wednesday I asked if he needed a ride or if we should meet there. He didn't answer.

Today I rode up the hill on my bike (training for race) and I stop cause he hailed me down. The conversation across the street goes as follows: "-my name-!" "yeah?!" "I cants go to the movie tomorrow!" "why not?" "I have to get ready for scout camp!" "okay!" "Sorry!" I sped down the hill. He didn't have to get ready for scout camp. He lied to me!

His parents view it as a date. (both of us are not 16) they are tense. So tense in fact that they won't let me go in his room to see his snakes! We can't have late overs if I am involved! They don't trust him or me at all! Not okay! So now we are going to have a hard time being friends so I am FORCED to have to make friends in my state that are girls. (he was the only real friend I had and could count on in this state.) help? Please. What do I do now?

[christine,]

Okay, something's up.
He hasn't responded to my texts in three days- and I'm positive he's read them.

Sometimes I wonder wether this long distance relationship was a good idea :/

[cautiousculpeo]

Well I was facebooking Brandon.. Because when him and Dustin came over the last time they were doing this weird 'dude talking' like that. One looks at the other, than the like wink or whatever and than they talk. Or they just look at eachother... Really strange eh? Well I asked Brandon if they were doing somthing and he said they were... Now I need him to reply to me on facebook so I can find out what this little scheme there up to is...

And if anybody here understands 'dude talk' or 'wingmaning' can someone tell me if that's what they were doing??

[greysilence]

Previous post.

So, this is going to be super long. Sorry in advance.

Tuesday I finally got to see Jeremy again. We flirted almost non-stop every time we saw each other during pre-camp. I'd steal his hat and wear it, I'd steal his sunglasses and wear them, we'd shove each other, he'd knock my headband off my head, he'd do something for me and then tell Miranda (my best friend) no for the exact same thing, etc.

Yesterday, Thursday, we got into a bit of a rough patch though. I was gonna ask to borrow his sunglasses when we went outside for a few minutes because I forgot mine, but he had already given them to someone else...Ashley. And he had hers..I don't care that they did that, I care that he lied to me about it. He kept saying he gave his to Mitchell, and he must've given them to Ashley. Like, no, just tell the truth.

Then later my friend Morissa (Mo) told me that he flirts with Ashley a lot and stuff, but she doesn't know whether it's him flirting or just him being Jeremy. I don't know. Mo also told me that Ashley thinks her and Jeremy are a thing. Anyways, Miranda and I were walking in from the end of practice, and she turned around, and said "oh gawd" really quietly. I barely had to turn my head to see that Ashley and Jeremy were right behind us, arm in arm. I looked at Miranda, and she could tell that I was irritated because she knows every thing that's happened within the last 2 years. She told me that he mouthed "help me" when she looked at them, and I just kinda shrugged. I glanced behind again right when we walked in the band room doors, and it looked like they were holding hands, but I looked too fast to be sure. He has a girlfriend...and if he didn't really want to do that, he could have easily pulled away.

Anyways, I went to the choir room (guard practices in there in the mornings) to pick up my stuff and he came in a few minutes later.

Him: Can I have a hug?
Me: ..no...
Him: What? Why not?
Me: I'm in a bad mood.
Him: So? Can I have a hug?
Me: No.
Him: So Ashley just came up to me and put her arm in mine.
Me: Okay..
Him: Miranda looked at me and I was like "help meee".
Me: I know. She told me.
Him: What's wrong?
Me: Nothing. It's drama.
Him: Tell me.
Me: No.
Him: Can I at least have a hug?
Me: No..
Him: *starts getting closer and forces his arms under mine* I promise I won't squeeze you this time.
Me: *hugs him back*

Then he left and I packed my stuff, and I just snapped on my brother when I got in his car, so he left me alone. Then later on Jeremy texted me.

Him: Hey, what's wrong?
Me: It's just drama..
Him: Is it me?
Me: Why would you ask that?
Him: I don't know, Ashley.
Me: I don't really care what you guys do. It's not my business.
Him: We're not a thing.
Me: Okay..?
Him: People keep asking.
Me: Okay then.

Then we continued texting. I could tell he wanted to tell me something, and I kept trying to get him to, but he just kept saying he couldn't. I'm pretty sure he fell asleep last night, so I never got it out of him, but I'm gonna keep bugging him about it today, because I have a strong feeling it has to do with me from the way he was acting. He also must have talked to either Mo or Miranda from the way he picked up on what was wrong. And when he said "we're not a thing", that definitely makes me think he talked to one of them.

Sunday we leave for band camp, and he's riding the same bus up there as Miranda and I. I'm pretty sure Ashley and Mo are on the same bus as us too though. I'm not too sure on how this upcoming week will turn out. I can already feel that it's gonna be a lot of drama though.

Okay, I just needed to get it out. Rant over.

[thunderofthedrum]

Well I was facebooking Brandon.. Because when him and Dustin came over the last time they were doing this weird 'dude talking' like that. One looks at the other, than the like wink or whatever and than they talk. Or they just look at eachother... Really strange eh? Well I asked Brandon if they were doing somthing and he said they were... Now I need him to reply to me on facebook so I can find out what this little scheme there up to is...

And if anybody here understands 'dude talk' or 'wingmaning' can someone tell me if that's what they were doing??

Brandon was helping Dustin get you.
This is like chapter nineteen of the SAME story.
He still likes you.
He still thinks he has a chance.
You still need to communicate to him that you do not feel the same.

You keep posting the newest little tidbit but really it's all the same. You need to DO something and stop acting so helpless.
To be quite honest, it's starting to annoy me. I try to offer advice and help where ever I can but you keep posting the same issue over and over.

[cautiousculpeo]

Well I was facebooking Brandon.. Because when him and Dustin came over the last time they were doing this weird 'dude talking' like that. One looks at the other, than the like wink or whatever and than they talk. Or they just look at eachother... Really strange eh? Well I asked Brandon if they were doing somthing and he said they were... Now I need him to reply to me on facebook so I can find out what this little scheme there up to is...

And if anybody here understands 'dude talk' or 'wingmaning' can someone tell me if that's what they were doing??

Brandon was helping Dustin get you.
This is like chapter nineteen of the SAME story.
He still likes you.
He still thinks he has a chance.
You still need to communicate to him that you do not feel the same.

You keep posting the newest little tidbit but really it's all the same. You need to DO something and stop acting so helpless.
To be quite honest, it's starting to annoy me. I try to offer advice and help where ever I can but you keep posting the same issue over and over.

I sorry... Ive jjust... I just. Noobody has ever liked me before... and its confusing and I don't understand anything...

[~Dea~]

Okay, so this is gonna sound like a lot of teenage-drama, but I swear, I really am upset about this....so please, don't just tell me I'm 'over-reacting' because it really is bothering me.

So, last week I went to the National Youth Gathering in San Antonio with my church. Which is fine, I had a great time! The problem is one of the boys in my church who went with us.
So, yeah, he's cute, sweet, funny, etc. So, for now, lets call this guy P.
So, first things first, every time we went to Mass/Worship, P sat next to me. Like, every. time.
He also hung out with us when we went to Six Flags. Like, the entire time.
But things didn't really get weird until last Thursday...
So, we went to Mass Worship in the morning, and after that, a group of us (Including P and myself) decided to go back to the hotel.
So, when we got back to the hotel, I sort-of ran up to my room, because P kinda makes me feel uncomfortable. Later, I decided to go to the pool. So, as I was getting ready, someone knocked on my door, when I opened it, P was standing there. Mind you, I was wearing a bikini top and shorts. A TINY bikini top. This is how the conversation went down:

Me: Um, hi.
P: Hey....um...*insertmynamehere* We..um..have some...um sandwich stuff...if you want some... (He was turning bright red at this point.)
Me: Oh, um, thanks, but no thanks.
P: Okay...are you..um, going to the pool?
Me: Yeah, are you?
P: Well...yeah, I guess. *Insert his friends name here* was going to lift weights, and I was going to the pool.
Me: Okay then, I guess I'll se you out there.
P: Okay. (Walks off)

So, after I finish getting ready and such, I open the door, and he is literally standing right there. Kinda like he was trying to think of something to say. As I opened the door, he walked quickly back to his room. I was a little freaked, but I walk down to the pool anyway.. After waiting for about 2 hours, he hasn't showed. And I was getting tired, so I walked back upstairs. I push the elevator button, and guess who is in that exact same elevator. P. Of course. So, after walking back to the pool, I was the only one who actually got in. the entire time kinda sat there and watched me. But, anyway, while we were walking back to our rooms, we had another awkward conversation.

P: So..um..what are you wearing to the mass event tonight? (Said like he was trying to make a conversation.)
Me: Why does it matter?
P: Oh, No reason...I just..um, wanted to know. (He turns BRIGHT red.)
Me: You know you're turning red right? (YES! I realize that was a bit harsh)
P: Oh...I did not know that. ( P walks very quickly into his room)

Okay....so the problem is, that EVERYONE is telling me that he likes me. Down to my Boyfriend. >.>. I told him the story, and he thinks that P likes me.

First question, do you think he likes me? I probably sound stupid, but I really need to know...

and, another problem is, that, despite trying not to, I actually like him BACK! And I have a boyfriend! What should I do? How to I respond if he asks me out?

Thank you to anyone who helps!

~Dea~

[samm.]

I sorry... Ive jjust... I just. Noobody has ever liked me before... and its confusing and I don't understand anything...

Hun, its never easy telling someone you know likes you that you don't like them, but sometimes it has to happen. You don't want to end up leading him on, he may think that he has a chance with you, and then end up totally heartbroken when he finds out he doesn't, its best to just come out and tell him. I had this happen to me before, a boy liked me but I thought of him as just a friend, so one day during gym finally just came out and asked him if he did in fact like me, and this is how it went.

Him: "Hey ___! Whats up?"
Me: "Hey ___, nothing much really, stupid asthma is acting up again, so I guess i'm gonna have to sit this one out."
Him: "You okay? Want me to stay with you?"
Me: "No, its okay, i'm fine..Hey, mind if I ask you something?"
Him: "Sure, what is it?"
Me: "Well, lately you've been acting kind of weird around me..So I was wondering..Do you like me?"
Him *Long pause* "If I said yes, what would you say...?"
Me: *Even longer pause* "I've thought about it, but...I just don't see you in a romantic sort of way, I can only see you as a friend. I'm sorry."
Him: "Oh, okay. Well, I've gotta get back to my team, bye."

We didn't speak again after that, but I was glad I told him. In fact, now he has a girlfriend, who hes been with for two years, and they are the cutest! And I myself have someone now, not official, but we're working on it =)

[cautiousculpeo]

Hun, its never easy telling someone you know likes you that you don't like them, but sometimes it has to happen. You don't want to end up leading him on, he may think that he has a chance with you, and then end up totally heartbroken when he finds out he doesn't, its best to just come out and tell him. I had this happen to me before, a boy liked me but I thought of him as just a friend, so one day during gym finally just came out and asked him if he did in fact like me, and this is how it went.

Him: "Hey ___! Whats up?"
Me: "Hey ___, nothing much really, stupid asthma is acting up again, so I guess i'm gonna have to sit this one out."
Him: "You okay? Want me to stay with you?"
Me: "No, its okay, i'm fine..Hey, mind if I ask you something?"
Him: "Sure, what is it?"
Me: "Well, lately you've been acting kind of weird around me..So I was wondering..Do you like me?"
Him *Long pause* "If I said yes, what would you say...?"
Me: *Even longer pause* "I've thought about it, but...I just don't see you in a romantic sort of way, I can only see you as a
friend. I'm sorry."
Him: "Oh, okay. Well, I've gotta get back to my team, bye."


We didn't speak again after that, but I was glad I told him. In fact, now he has a girlfriend, who hes been with for two years, and they are the cutest! And I myself have someone now, not official, but we're working on it =)[/center]

The thing is... I don't want to loose him as a friend. I live how we can hang out and how much we trust eachother. I just don't want to change it. An idk, maybe I may date him WAY later on in my life. By I just don't want him to never talk to me again like my other friend...
I had the same problem with him, so I told him he was making me awkward. And now he never talks to me... So I guess you can say I'm scared... I'm sorry for wasting your guys' time..