Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[cobalt.]

*sigh* my expectations are waaaaay too high. -_-
none of the guys that like me are attractive, i know that sounds really bad but that's just how it goes. >.<

[centuries]

Help?

Okay, so my mom got dumped by her boyfriend a while ago. He has a son who is almost 2 years older than me. Before they broke up, my mom and I had slept over at their house on a few occasions. So me and her ex's son hung out a lot. One night, at nearly 3 in the morning, we were watching a movie (everyone else in the house was asleep) and out of nowhere he gets kind of nervous and says he has something 'random' to ask me. Confused, I just say "what?". Then he asks me out. Remember, our parents were still dating at the time. And we had only known each other for barely 2 weeks. Very surprised, I just told him "um.. it's kind of weird since our parents are going out...". And after that he just said he was sorry and that it was a stupid question. So then it was really awkward and I just told him goodnight and left the room. Eventually the awkwardness went away and everything was fine. Then, a week later, our parents broke up. So now I have his number and we sometimes text. But the thing is.... I'm beginning to think that I actually like him. His birthday is in a few days and my friend says I should ask him out then. But I'm not sure. I mean, he's really nice and funny and everything. But I guess I'm just nervous because I've never had a boyfriend before and he's older than me? Or that our parents will find out and get mad at us or something? What should I do?

[Shisien]

Just a small question, how should I react since now I have a boyfriend and every one (On different multimedia sites) keeps on messaging me "Hey babe, what's up?" or "You look so cute! x3". How should I react to them? I mean I'm not a mean person so I can't just tell them to "buzz off" or something like that, it gets on my nerves when I'm rude or snotty... Can some one please help me? D:

[thunderofthedrum]

Just a small question, how should I react since now I have a boyfriend and every one (On different multimedia sites) keeps on messaging me "Hey babe, what's up?" or "You look so cute! x3". How should I react to them? I mean I'm not a mean person so I can't just tell them to "buzz off" or something like that, it gets on my nerves when I'm rude or snotty... Can some one please help me? D:

Saying those things can certainly be just their way of being friendly. If they do something more flirty like asking what you're wearing, then I would consider that definitely flirting. I also tend to avoid conflict, so even then I'd probably be vague and answer with 'clothes' but one thing to keep in mind is that whenever you feel someone is flirting with you - even if you don't have the courage to ask them to back off a little you should at least do your best not to encourage it. So if you are asked what you are wearing, definitely don't ask the same question back - it's none of your business what some person online is wearing, just like it's none of their business what you are wearing.

Another idea is to mention your boyfriend somehow, like 'omg my boyfriend just sent me the cutest picture' or that you are hoping he calls, that kind of thing. Don't actually talk a lot about your boyfriend to the online people (again, they don't need to know his favorite color or his pet name for you) but mentioning him just so they know he exists isn't a terrible idea.

Basically... it's all about boundaries. You have to figure out in yourself where you draw the line between just chatting what oversteps that line and is flirting or inappropriate. And the same with what you tell them; don't tell them personal things about you and your boyfriend. Not only is that inappropriate (and unfair to your boyfriend) but it also may cause these online guys to think you are confiding in them, like they still have a chance with you because obviously you like them enough to tell them such private, personal tidbits. There's nothing wrong with 'babe' or being told you look cute! My friend's mom calls everyone 'babe' (I found it totally bizarre when I first met her) and my old roommate (a guy) would tell me I looked cute, adorable, etc. He has a girlfriend, I have a boyfriend, and I know he's just being a friend and being honest in giving me a compliment.

Does this help at all? My mind is on a kitten and some related issues at the moment so that might not be well worded or quite what I was aiming for. If so, I apologise. It's also late. xD

[Shisien]

Just a small question, how should I react since now I have a boyfriend and every one (On different multimedia sites) keeps on messaging me "Hey babe, what's up?" or "You look so cute! x3". How should I react to them? I mean I'm not a mean person so I can't just tell them to "buzz off" or something like that, it gets on my nerves when I'm rude or snotty... Can some one please help me? D:

Saying those things can certainly be just their way of being friendly. If they do something more flirty like asking what you're wearing, then I would consider that definitely flirting. I also tend to avoid conflict, so even then I'd probably be vague and answer with 'clothes' but one thing to keep in mind is that whenever you feel someone is flirting with you - even if you don't have the courage to ask them to back off a little you should at least do your best not to encourage it. So if you are asked what you are wearing, definitely don't ask the same question back - it's none of your business what some person online is wearing, just like it's none of their business what you are wearing.

Another idea is to mention your boyfriend somehow, like 'omg my boyfriend just sent me the cutest picture' or that you are hoping he calls, that kind of thing. Don't actually talk a lot about your boyfriend to the online people (again, they don't need to know his favorite color or his pet name for you) but mentioning him just so they know he exists isn't a terrible idea.

Basically... it's all about boundaries. You have to figure out in yourself where you draw the line between just chatting what oversteps that line and is flirting or inappropriate. And the same with what you tell them; don't tell them personal things about you and your boyfriend. Not only is that inappropriate (and unfair to your boyfriend) but it also may cause these online guys to think you are confiding in them, like they still have a chance with you because obviously you like them enough to tell them such private, personal tidbits. There's nothing wrong with 'babe' or being told you look cute! My friend's mom calls everyone 'babe' (I found it totally bizarre when I first met her) and my old roommate (a guy) would tell me I looked cute, adorable, etc. He has a girlfriend, I have a boyfriend, and I know he's just being a friend and being honest in giving me a compliment.

Does this help at all? My mind is on a kitten and some related issues at the moment so that might not be well worded or quite what I was aiming for. If so, I apologise. It's also late. xD

Lol, it's fine and that's a weird quirk. o-o
Thank you too~!

[jayus]

*squishes in sideways*
Um... So I like this one guy, Nathan. He may like me back, I'm not sure.
We talk, laugh, totally relaxed and happy around each other. Obviously that's not the problem.
The problems is that there are other males in the world.
And 4 of them like me, making it an awkward love... Heptagon?
Two guys told people I know that they had crushes on me. I have a way of prying things out of people.
One asked me out.
Another tries to impress me every single time I talk to him.
So they're all crushing on me and then I'm over here mooning after this one guy that I don't even know if he likes me back.
Advice?...

[northern downpour ;;]

Agghhh has it been 10 days yet? I miss him soooo much... he needs to come back. The minute he comes back online on Skype, I'm gonna be the happiest little Cinny in the world. Till then, I'm still learning to cope... Its so hard... I don't know if he's coming back in 5 days or a week or what. That's what's freaking me out the most. I'm preparing for 5 days. If its longer than that, I'll be really freaking sad.

[llamadelrey]

So, I met this guy.
He is gorgeous, super nice and funny, athletic, did I mention gorgeous?
I think he likes me. Like, he smiles at me a lot and stuff blah blah blah
The problem here?
He is 2 years younger than me, the same age as my little brother.
Is this a really big deal? Am I freaking out about nothing?

[TuneToTabbys<3]

So, I met this guy.
He is gorgeous, super nice and funny, athletic, did I mention gorgeous?
I think he likes me. Like, he smiles at me a lot and stuff blah blah blah
The problem here?
He is 2 years younger than me, the same age as my little brother.
Is this a really big deal? Am I freaking out about nothing?

Honestly it depends on if your in or out of school. to me personally it wouldn't matter. but its a bigger deal if your still in school because of grades. i mean imagine you a 6th grader dating a 4th grader or a junior dating a freshman. do you see what im talking about?

[llamadelrey]

So, I met this guy.
He is gorgeous, super nice and funny, athletic, did I mention gorgeous?
I think he likes me. Like, he smiles at me a lot and stuff blah blah blah
The problem here?
He is 2 years younger than me, the same age as my little brother.
Is this a really big deal? Am I freaking out about nothing?

Honestly it depends on if your in or out of school. to me personally it wouldn't matter. but its a bigger deal if your still in school because of grades. i mean imagine you a 6th grader dating a 4th grader or a junior dating a freshman. do you see what im talking about?

It would be a junior high - high school relationship

But he's so adorableeee