Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[kimmy1479]

Guys, he wrote a song. T_T
So the guy that likes me, that I do not like, and that I told I don't like, and that whole fiasco on my class trip was about. He's been writing music lately, and showing them to me, over FB.
He actually wrote a couple songs, and has shown them to me- some quite obviously pertaining to me, and others (thankfully) not.
But this one basically says "I love her and even though she doesn't like me back im not gonna stop"
This line represents it nicely:

She is the one I know it’s true
Whether or not she believes it too
All I know is I’m not gonna give in
Even so where would I begin

And I don't even know how to respond to this.
Like, I can't just say
"Oh i really like this song. Nice rhyming pattern."
Because it's sort of really obvious that it's about me when looking at our situation compared to the lyrics- and I'm not being vain, he flat out told me before that a lot of his songs would probably be about me in some way, because he writes how he feels, and that's how he's been feeling lately.
And- well... I basically don't even know how to respond to this. T_T

PM me if you want to see the song, and would like to give me advice please

[bawnbawn.]

Hey guys, I'm stuck in a weird love triangle, with me being the literal target. The names I'm using are not their real names, just random ones from the top of my head. It all started around a month ago; I began walking home with my friend Michael, who I've known since grade 5 so we're kinda close. However, we're the complete opposites. We have different likes, we don't share the same interests and straight out, we're nothing alike. I mean sure, he makes me laugh sometimes, but he's not someone I'd like to be with as a partner. Back to the walking home part; so yeah, we'd stroll around together and before we went our separate ways, we'd spend about an hour just talking and it got boring really quickly, no offence to him. We only did this around 6 times before the incidents began to occur and I stopped hanging out with him. Michael seems to think that I like him as a boyfriend and now he literally won't stop stalking me; my best friend says that she's getting creeped out as well.

Basically after school, I always get my things from my locker and whatnot before hanging out with my friends Bree, Jess and John. We hang out at the lockers for around 20 minutes before walking home together; the opposite way from Michael. This is where it gets trippy. Michael just waits for me and he always just stares at me and honestly, I'm always feeling uncomfortable now. He never stops looking! Jess and Bree literally try to hide me so he'd think I'd gone home and left. He just doesn't seem to get the point however, and waits for me everyday, and he seems to be getting closer to my locker as time passes. Even at recess and lunch, he'd try to find excuses to get to see me and it's beginning to annoy everyone. I've told him a few times to leave me alone and I've left hints, but he doesn't get the message. Jess even suggested going to a teacher about it but that would make things even more awkward... What should I do?

He also doesn't know that I have a boyfriend. Only recently, about a week ago, Alex asked me out and I accepted because we're like, exactly alike and I really like him. Michael doesn't know about him and Alex doesn't know about Michael because he'd most likely get jealous and try to do something about it. Alex also doesn't go to the same school as me, so there's something to worry about. I'm afraid that Alex would think that I'm not trying hard enough to get Michael to back off and I don't want him to get the wrong idea >_< Should I tell Alex about him and how Michael is beginning to freak me out?

I honestly think you should tell Alex. If you don't tell him, he might think you're trying to keep it a secret, and then he might feel he has a need to worry. Just tell him that you've tried getting Michael to leave you alone, but he won't, and you don't know what else to do.

So I should just risk it? It's not that I don't really trust Alex or something, it's just that he's known to go to extreme lengths to get what he wants done. I'm kinda paranoid that if I tell him the whole story about walking home with Michael from school, he's going to think that I like/liked him in some way .-. So I tell him outright about how Michael is beginning to disturb me or nothing is going on between us? Thanks for your response by the way!

[Alva.]

The thing is that Alex being your boyfriend, you need to be honest with him; the 'secret' is going to get out at some point, so hiding it will only make him suspicious. Part of his 'job' of being your boyfriend is to be understanding and to help you push through the situation. Just be very honest about it, tell him your true feelings, and tell him to not choose the physical option for dealing with it, if you know what I mean. Talk it out with him and your frineds and find an option that works best for letting Michael know that you aren't interested and are already taken.

[bawnbawn.]

Thanks so much for your honest response. I've decided that since it's a weekend, I'm going to Skype him to meet up and tell him in person the entire situation. It's beginning to kill me because every time Michael makes a move, I feel that I'm betraying Alex in some sense, even if I'm not the one doing the advances >_< I trust Alex that he'll do the right thing and on Monday, I'll tell Michael that I'm not into him like a boyfriend/girlfriend way. Again, thanks for the advice, it cleared up a few concerns I had ^_^

[Country.]

@Niall; i believe the best thing you could do is just take a risk and text him, strike up a conversation. c:
the worst thing that could happen is that you find out you don't like each other more than as friends.
but by the sounds of it, you used to get along and be "friends" with him before, and maybe as time goes on you'll get back to where you were before your ex bestie ruined your chances with him. cx

i hope this helps xP

Thank you c: this is helpful.

[Lioness626]

I think I made a mistake tonight. kissed a guy in town, didn't even know his name at the time. also gave him my number. don't even think he was that attractive...

[slccat]

I would like a proper ADULT, or someone mature to message me over PM. }}

[bawnbawn.]

I think I made a mistake tonight. kissed a guy in town, didn't even know his name at the time. also gave him my number. don't even think he was that attractive...

Kind of wondering why you'd do that... Were you drunk or something? If you have a boyfriend or husband, I'd say it was a big problem but if you don't, I'd say it was just a smaller issue. You gave him your number, you can either do two things; wait for him to call (if he does) and tell him that it was a mistake and you didn't know what happened or just simply change your number.

[Lioness626]

I think I made a mistake tonight. kissed a guy in town, didn't even know his name at the time. also gave him my number. don't even think he was that attractive...

Kind of wondering why you'd do that... Were you drunk or something? If you have a boyfriend or husband, I'd say it was a big problem but if you don't, I'd say it was just a smaller issue. You gave him your number, you can either do two things; wait for him to call (if he does) and tell him that it was a mistake and you didn't know what happened or just simply change your number.

yeah I was/still am pretty drunk, I had just downed near enough half a bottle of martini before meeting him. he has been texting me, guess I'll just say it was a mistake if he texts me tomorrow
single so that's good, and I'll just ignore him If I have to, changing my number is too much work, but thanks

[bawnbawn.]

Being drunk would explain it, yeah. I agree, if he texts you again, just write that it a mistake and you were drunk. It'll be no big deal!