Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Doggo Supreme]

Okay, I have had a crush on this boy for more than a year. I began to have a crush on him on October in 2011 and everyone told me that he liked me a lot. I still do not know if he likes me still but here is a big problem. He hangs out with A LOT of girls including me. There is more than twenty girls that hang out with him. He always hangs out with them 24/7 . And they mostly do not like me at all and they think they are so popular. I am thinking of asking him out but I am debating about it. I have no idea of what I should do. It is so confusing. It is driving my mind crazy and it is so hard on me. I asked my friends for advice and they just give answers that don't help me at all. I need a lot of help for this because I have had a crush on him ever since 6th grade. I need help.

[SeddieDeer]

I really need help, from anyone really... Thank you to anyone who helps me. It really is appreciated.

I have a best female friend, and a best male friend.
I have had feelings for my best male friend since we started high school- england that's now half way through the 5th year.
At first they were just little crushie feelings. I was only in year seven when he first became my male best friend and the feelings were only little.
However now we have one week before we leave school completely, and then we are going to the same collage together.
And that's the problem- We are going to the same collage together.

Hes my best friend. I have problems in life and I hang around with him and a bunch of others, and when I break down and cry he lets me cry on him and tries to cheer me up. We go almost everywhere together and he always gives me any news he has to say first. We usually play a game of truth- or a random word game- or multiple other game before we go to sleep- and he always tells me he loves me before he goes to sleep. "Okay, Goodnight. I love you Seddie!" And then he logs off.

And- he teases me constantly. Calling me names he has made up for me, making me blush, having a poke war with me, stealing my stuff and holding it higher then me- but gets annoyed when anyone else tries to tease me or such.

I would love to tell him how I feel before we finish Highschool together, but there are multiple problems im just afraid of.
1- We are going to collage together We have been accepted on the same course- I don't want to make things awkward for us by admitting that. I want to spend my collage years with him like my highschool years have been- just like this. The chances are he only sees me as his best friend I don't wanna ruin the last four (now five this year) years we have spent together. I love him. And even if that means I some how have to get over my feelings to /just/ love him as a best friend, I'm ready to try and do that.

2-Even though we are best friends, we are kind opposites, and I know quite a few girls like him.
I am a bit of a dork. I play violin, I love to read, I absolutely love Creative English and Science-
And him? He loves music, biking, he has swishy hair up to his ears and plays guitar.
I know about quite a few girls who like him in our year, and have been told, and I kinda think a few like him in other years...
So even though hes my best friend, and we do everything together, I don't think I would have much of a chance anyway.
I am not going to lie, I do get jealous sometimes and I hate myself for it. I never tell him I feel jealous though, nor do I imply I do.
(He has enough problems in his life- kinda serious ones relating to family- then for me to cause him more trouble.)

He knows absolutely everything about my life. He is always there for me. He teases me repeatedly yet I still love him.
And in my leaving journal his message made me cry- after keeping my journal for two days- and filling up two pages with it in. It is simply lovely and makes me feel all sorts of feelings that I can't even agree on. Happy,sad, super happy scared.
And I decided to read it before settling down into bed- And here I am- now- Crying as I type this.
And I know I shouldn't be, I don't even know why I am- After all, I have read this message repeatedly.

I guess my question is -
Should I risk my best friendship with him to tell him my feelings? Is it WORTH it?
I feel like I know that even if he didn't like me back that way he would simply comfort me and explain- but go straight back to being my best friend. But that judgement is based on the last years we have spent together.
I have no idea how he will actually react.
I really, really would love some advice.

[christine,]

I really need help, from anyone really... Thank you to anyone who helps me. It really is appreciated.

I have a best female friend, and a best male friend.
I have had feelings for my best male friend since we started high school- england that's now half way through the 5th year.
At first they were just little crushie feelings. I was only in year seven when he first became my male best friend and the feelings were only little.
However now we have one week before we leave school completely, and then we are going to the same collage together.
And that's the problem- We are going to the same collage together.

Hes my best friend. I have problems in life and I hang around with him and a bunch of others, and when I break down and cry he lets me cry on him and tries to cheer me up. We go almost everywhere together and he always gives me any news he has to say first. We usually play a game of truth- or a random word game- or multiple other game before we go to sleep- and he always tells me he loves me before he goes to sleep. "Okay, Goodnight. I love you Seddie!" And then he logs off.

And- he teases me constantly. Calling me names he has made up for me, making me blush, having a poke war with me, stealing my stuff and holding it higher then me- but gets annoyed when anyone else tries to tease me or such.

I would love to tell him how I feel before we finish Highschool together, but there are multiple problems im just afraid of.
1- We are going to collage together We have been accepted on the same course- I don't want to make things awkward for us by admitting that. I want to spend my collage years with him like my highschool years have been- just like this. The chances are he only sees me as his best friend I don't wanna ruin the last four (now five this year) years we have spent together. I love him. And even if that means I some how have to get over my feelings to /just/ love him as a best friend, I'm ready to try and do that.

2-Even though we are best friends, we are kind opposites, and I know quite a few girls like him.
I am a bit of a dork. I play violin, I love to read, I absolutely love Creative English and Science-
And him? He loves music, biking, he has swishy hair up to his ears and plays guitar.
I know about quite a few girls who like him in our year, and have been told, and I kinda think a few like him in other years...
So even though hes my best friend, and we do everything together, I don't think I would have much of a chance anyway.
I am not going to lie, I do get jealous sometimes and I hate myself for it. I never tell him I feel jealous though, nor do I imply I do.
(He has enough problems in his life- kinda serious ones relating to family- then for me to cause him more trouble.)

He knows absolutely everything about my life. He is always there for me. He teases me repeatedly yet I still love him.
And in my leaving journal his message made me cry- after keeping my journal for two days- and filling up two pages with it in. It is simply lovely and makes me feel all sorts of feelings that I can't even agree on. Happy,sad, super happy scared.
And I decided to read it before settling down into bed- And here I am- now- Crying as I type this.
And I know I shouldn't be, I don't even know why I am- After all, I have read this message repeatedly.

I guess my question is -
Should I risk my best friendship with him to tell him my feelings? Is it WORTH it?
I feel like I know that even if he didn't like me back that way he would simply comfort me and explain- but go straight back to being my best friend. But that judgement is based on the last years we have spent together.
I have no idea how he will actually react.
I really, really would love some advice.

Seddie, I've been in your shoes. Yeah, it sucks, but I will tell you that they will find out eventually. It sounds like he likes you. If he is this close of a friend and you tell him but he doesn't like you back, he sounds kind enough to act like it never happened. I say that you take the upper hand here. Drop little hints and such. But don't worry- life gets better.

[greysilence]

@PrincessSeddie: I say go for it. Go ahead and tell him. :3 From the way he's acting, in my opinion, he either likes you back or thinks of you as a younger sibling to defend and love. There's not a whole lot of harm in telling him. He seems like a very nice person, and I feel like not a whole lot could go wrong in telling him. Who knows? He may like you back. I was in the same situation before, though slightly different. My guy best friend's little brother stole his phone and told me how they always talk about me. Later when he woke up and got his phone back, I questioned him about it, and he admitted he liked me. I realized a few days later I liked him back. This was all last year. No, nothing happened between us, but that's because I didn't feel the same after a few months, and I didn't try anything seeing as he had a girlfriend at the time.

Anyways, back to you. I say tell him that you like him. You guys seem super close, and from the way you've described him, he seems like he'll handle it in a kind matter, whether he feels the same way or not. He's the only one who truly knows how he feels towards you, and he's the only one who can actually tell you.

[cautiousculpeo]

So I'm texting one of my friends, Nayr And I get this message.
"Can I tell you somthing?"
So I reply, "Ya, I won't tell anybody"
So he says, "I really like you. Like really like you."
So I'm like.( in my head) ... So I reply "oh."
He asks me, "Do you have feelings for me too??"
And I reply, "I do, but as a friend. I think anything more wouldn't end up good for our friendship."

Did I say the right thing??

[bola11]

I have the choice of
A) moving in with my mom this fall and never seeing my friends/crush (not to mention I won't get braces, and it also means breaking a promise to my aunt)
B) staying here with my parents, amazing friends, and crush (staying also means I can ask him out next year u_u) and just visiting my mom on the holiday.
I have to decide by TOMORROW. I feel so pressured, I don't know where to go, and I think I might burst into tears at any given moment. The decision is so impossible. The life I've dreamed of all year is just within my grasp, but living one dream means destroying another.
Who do I love more?
Would I be willing to sacrifice this one chance for a life where I can afford things, hang out with my amazing friends and talk to the only guy I've ever really liked?
Is it worth it to stay?

[G.L'S]

^ a move like that is a big decision and will require your total attention. I'd base your choice on everything in your life now and not focus too much on your crush. You want to make sure your decision is what's best for you.

@threedaysgrace, you handled it well and let him down gently without instilling false hope which is good. He may not like being friendzoned but if that's how you feel, then that's that.

[cautiousculpeo]

He's still texting me. But now he keeps asking if 'somthings wrong' because apparently 'I seem diffrent and insecure.' when I told him I wasent, and I didn't know why he would think that. He told me he was thinking. When I asked him what about, He said 'You'. All I could say was Oh. I have no idea what to do

[G.L'S]

^ the issue with texting is that its very easy for there to be miscommunications and hard feelings could crop up. If you'd prefer to talk to him in person, say so and end the conversation. If not, be honest with him, if you don't like what he's doing, say so or if he's getting nasty, tell him you'll discuss it when he's willing to be nicer

[cautiousculpeo]

Turns out I was sending a ... In some messages. Lol. Sorry G.L. It turns out we interpet ... In diffrent ways. You were totally right with the misconinucations. Haha.

He thinks ... Means I'm sad or insecure
I think ... Means I don't have something to say, or in confused. XP