Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Artesian]

Thanks so much Thunder. I think, talking with you all, I have a method that may work. It's also good to know there are gals out there with similar standards of attractiveness to my own (not a total freak, yup yup) and what you say makes perfect sense. (I cherish those quiet moments too, though I think they may have messed up a previous relationship, because he thought they were awkward, and I thought they were comfortable and sweet. xD)

[thunderofthedrum]

Thanks so much Thunder. I think, talking with you all, I have a method that may work. It's also good to know there are gals out there with similar standards of attractiveness to my own (not a total freak, yup yup) and what you say makes perfect sense. (I cherish those quiet moments too, though I think they may have messed up a previous relationship, because he thought they were awkward, and I thought they were comfortable and sweet. xD)

Nah, I think a lot of people place high value on things like intelligence, creativity, communication, etc.

And I feel you - we have those moments sometimes, he occasionally feels like if we are to be a couple that goes the distance and has the 'stuff' to make it in the long run than surely we should have something to say to each other all the time. I find that ridiculous; I'm perfectly comfortable with not talking and neither of us are chatterboxes 24/7. Of course, I know part of that is because he feels that's not utilizing our time together but once living together that bit of pressure of limited time will be gone and he'll be able to just go with the flow of those moments. It's only occasionally that he's bothered by it to begin with, after all.

[Ninja Jedi]

Well, she does have a custom Jedi robe and loves climbing trees, soooooooo.......

Yes. Ninja Jedi.

Don't get butthurt, sweetie. You can't help where you're from; you might as well enjoy it.

And he's not your sweetie. He's my sweetie.

[thunderofthedrum]

Don't get butthurt, sweetie. You can't help where you're from; you might as well enjoy it.

And he's not your sweetie. He's my sweetie.

Hooookay, that's enough. Joking about a state, poor taste or not, really isn't that big of a deal. I am proud of my state but I don't get my feathers all ruffled when someone makes a joke at its expense. Let's move on and stay on topic, shall we?

I've come down with another (different) virus and it sucks! My throat hurts SO bad and all the time. How is this relevent? Just yesterday I made plans to finally see my boyfriend- I didn't see him at all during finals and then was sick until now, so another 2 weeks. And now I have this crap which may last about a week and my boyfriend's job is physical and not something he can call in sick for - so I might STILL not get to see him.

Argh.

[Madison143]

I have a question and its sort of strange... Do guys really care about how skinny a girl is?

[Tiger;]

^^ it depends on the type of guy. Now if he just looks at your stuff, then he is not the guy. Now if it's a respectful guy, then he will look for personality not stuff.

[Madison143]

Thanks^^ I know i probably wont be aloud to date for a while thats a good way if putting it

[kimmy1479]

Sooo I sent a letter to Parra recently. (And his sister)
Because I couldn't go to youth group for about a month, due to play, and when I came back, he just... didn't go anymore. I waited about another month, but since I have his address, and promised his sister I'd send a creepy letter about knowing where she lives (long story), I ended up sending him a letter too, asking him why he stopped coming and telling him that he should start again.

In other news, I do believe problems are arousing with me and my friend who I'll call Karl.
I don't know if I ever posted about this, but he liked me, I told him I didn't, and we actually remained good friends and it was fine.
But now my other friend is convinced that I really like him (Even though that's a tad silly, since I told HIM that I didn't, after he admitted that he did) and it's just getting awkward, because she's trying to get us together, even though I don't like him and I turned him down.

[thunderofthedrum]

^^ it depends on the type of guy. Now if he just looks at your stuff, then he is not the guy. Now if it's a respectful guy, then he will look for personality not stuff.

Well that's.. not entirely true.
A guy can be a perfectly great dude and still be more attracted to some body types than others. Some guys don't like sticks, they want a real body to touch and hold onto. Some guys are more attracted to skinny girls.

My boyfriend's 'type' is a pale skinny white girl. He's dated girls that haven't fit that perfectly and obviously he still liked them, he even once showed me someone on a magazine to show me he thought she was attractive, and I guess I would call her slightly to somewhat chubby in a curvy way? (it was a while ago) I want to say it said she was actually somewhat pregnant but his point was the same - that while he has a type, he still thinks all women are beautiful. In our case, it just makes him all the more excited to be with me - I'm exactly his type apparently. xD And it works for me; I've always been self conscious about being so thin so this helps with my confidence.

Is my boyfriend what I would consider my 'type'? Not necessarily - I've always noticed height as the first thing about a guy, that and body type. I love 6' or taller and my boyfriend is my height, 5' 7 1/2". But hey, he's amazing and I'm not going to pass him by due to one physical trait he doesn't even have control over, that's just ridiculous.

No one's 'perfect' and everyone has a different version of perfect anyway. And keep in mind - realistically, that version of 'perfect' is more like a range. My boyfriend is shorter than I expected to find but more fit. He's more communicative and sweet but sometimes more moody and antisocial. But it turns out I like him a ton, so obviously he's within my range of attractive things, even if I didn't realize it.

[luxray;]

OAO
Nope.
My crush is gonna be a high-schooler next year.
Now only Science Olympiad is my chance to ask him out ;-;