Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Artesian]

Lady Sabine: It is... nothing quite like having something new explained to you, from a unique perspective... or seeing someone make something new and beautiful just from the power of their mind. As to synaesthesia, he sees letters and numbers as colours as well as piano keys. He learns songs by sequences of colours, which makes it hell for him to transpose songs into different keys. (They're different colours! askdfjkalf.) And yes, everyone has cross-connections, but most of the time they're not really strong and noticeable.

Bella was basically nondescript. As in not described. Still, it did a great job of allowing them to relate with the character, but I'd rather not fall into that trap of vagueness. xD

[Outlander]

Don't get butthurt, sweetie. You can't help where you're from; you might as well enjoy it.

I'm not hurt about my place of residence. I'm hurt about your bad joke.

Last time I checked, stereotype jokes are still de rigueur on the internet.
Also, don't make me start quoting recent incidents of -ism from Georgia to back my claim. You can either accept the fact that people are going to mock your state, like they mock most states, or you can get butthurt over it and accomplish absolutely nothing.

Doesn't mean you should do them. I don't, and i'm better off because of it.
So, because some people from Georgia did something involving -ism, all people from Georgia are instantly involved?

Why are you so defensive over a joke that you admitted was in bad taste?

[a_bowtie]

•So, erm, yeah. I'm going to give a quick run-down of how things are going. .//.

•I met him in October. We're the same age, but he's in the grade I'm supposed to be in because of my birthday being after the cutoff date for school acceptance.
•I started crushing on him late October, early November. I told him that I liked him, and he said he felt the same, but wanted to take a break from dating. We were both cool with just being friends and keeping our feelings under control.
•After Christmas/Winter break, our feelings started to resurface again. We started hugging a lot, and just talking more than we used to.
•We started saying "I love you" in April, and we really meant it, but keep in mind: we aren't dating.
•We were supposed to go to the final dance of the year together, and he bought our tickets and stuff. He didn't show because his dad got sick.
•Now, it's the end of the year, he'll be in high school, and I'll be moving. We still have the same feelings, but there's no way we'd be able to keep in contact.

•What I want to know is: How do you get over a guy you never dated, but had a strong connection to? .//.

[Lady Sabine]

Lady Sabine: It is... nothing quite like having something new explained to you, from a unique perspective... or seeing someone make something new and beautiful just from the power of their mind. As to synaesthesia, he sees letters and numbers as colours as well as piano keys. He learns songs by sequences of colours, which makes it hell for him to transpose songs into different keys. (They're different colours! askdfjkalf.) And yes, everyone has cross-connections, but most of the time they're not really strong and noticeable.

Bella was basically nondescript. As in not described. Still, it did a great job of allowing them to relate with the character, but I'd rather not fall into that trap of vagueness. xD

Creativity is the core of humanity. Making something new and beautiful out of nothing is magic and religion in and of itself.

Because everyone has them, though, it's hard to call it a separate syndrome. XD It's like hypersexuality. How do you define someone as being oversexed? Do you compare culturally, in their peer group, in their racial category? I think that it's more a method of thinking than anything else, haha. I have mild synethesia where I associate letters with musical tones, and I somewhat sing everything I type in order to get the spelling correct.

Oh no, you wouldn't want to go to that extent. XD But if you describe more in subjective and emotional terms you'll tend to attract more fans.

[Thammy]

umm i have a HUGE PROBLEM
my bestfriend just told me she was going out with my ex- boyfriend
and everyone is thinking they don't even like each other and i know this cause
they both want a relationship
the guy always wanted a girlfriend every single year
and my bestfriend always flirts with guys

now she kept on saying my boyfriend everysingle time and its really awks for me because its my ex

[Lioness626]

Kissed a guy who was acting very interested, went on holiday, and not heard from him since I got back. There is the into

Today I saw him, very awkward. He came up to our table, said hi to David (mutual friend) then sat down with us. He sat next to me, but twisted so he was facing me directly, between me & my ex crush (he doesnt know about that crush I dont think).
Made you all a pic for visual aid, CLICK! (yes our tables are weird)

It was so awkward, both said hi when he sat down, but then thats it. I was trying to work, he was messing on his phone, and others were talking. I had no clue what to do, and no clue why he sat there, he doesnt normally.

I ended up moving to talk to a girl I know, but left my stuff, and he moved when I went. He just kept walking in and out for the rest of the time, no clue what he was up to. Any idea how to make it less awkward?

Oh and I should possibly add, the girl I went to talk to is Davids ex, things ended badly. And David was trying to set me and the guy up, which was working till things went odd, as the guy "got confused and didnt know what he wanted"

any help/advice/comments? anything will be good to hear

Now we will both be going out for a friends birthday, no avoiding him, any help?

[thunderofthedrum]

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post this, but I have a question for you all.

As a writer, I frequently want to include a romantic relationship in my stories. However, I find rather untraditional things attractive in a guy (I'm heterosexual and sapiosexual - attracted to intelligence far over any other traits). I just don't get most attraction to physical features beyond what tells my subconscious that they're healthy, so when my friends gush over the appearance of say, Thor, my fictional crush is on a four foot nine inches, charming, super-intelligent, caring and driven cripple. Thus my writing for my characters is generally not based on what I find attractive, because I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority opinion there.

So. I'm curious what you all find sexually (or romantically) attractive in others? (I'm especially curious for the queer perspective on this, as I find writing characters of non-hetero orientation difficult).

I know it's not a relationship question but...

I'm a bit late to be adding my own thoughts to this, but...

I also value intelligence. However, I too have had an experience that didn't work out because he was intelligent but not.. interesting, communicative, creative, etc. Sure, he had some quirks and dorky interests, but he didn't really know how to share them with me and he was hard to talk to sometimes and our sense of humor were too vastly different. He never seemed to show disrespect nor respect towards me, and no interest or curiosity in my passions, had zero interest in animals. It just seemed bland and a little forced, even though it was I who first liked him.

With my boyfriend, I like his: intelligence (even if it comes with arrogance), creativity (both with art and music), passion, curiosity. He respects and admires me. He loves animals and thinks my field is neat (wildlife biology). Our senses of humor mesh well. He talks, communicates, drags my feelings out of me (someone's gotta do it). He's thoughtful and caring, he can fix pretty much anything - this I really like; I grew up with a resourceful family and brothers who can all fix stuff so a man with strong capable hands is awesome to me. He's not afraid to clean, he compliments me.

Appearance-wise, my preference has been 6' or taller and caucasion, average to slim/fit body types, and I don't like beards or long hair. My boyfriend is my height but very fit, short hair and some facial hair, cool tattoo... Honestly, what got me interested was just talking to him. The funny things he said, the movies he liked, his love for books, his thirst for knowledge, his interest in everything about me..

Sure there are less attractive bits like being a bit arrogant, a hypocrite sometimes, smoking, spending too much money, being kind of moody/flakey, needs alone time, but I'm a steady, understanding person and I think sometimes he needs that (and he notices and tells me I'm great) and other things that he DOES have (like loving animals) are more of a deal breaker for me than they would be for other people. I ADORE animals and my future is wildlife - so I love that my boyfriend has a dog and two cats and thinks my rabbit is adorable and awesome. And hey, I need my alone time too - and there's something to be said about comfortable silence. Him playing Morrowind with a cat on his lap, me reading and snuggling with the dog, I love it.

There are some forms of arrogance that irritate me, like spoiled arrogance. My boyfriend is the opposite; he feels he knows everything but it's because he feels he's earned it - he's never had anything handed to him or someone to really help him out. He's still kind of a jerk in saying he's right about something, especially when he's then proven wrong. xD More so with his friends. He's very, er, opinionated.

[provolone]

Is there any way for a girl to stop feeling for a guy?
As most of you know my boyfriend broke up with me over a month ago. I don't want him back, but I'm having trouble moving on. He was my first kiss. And for some reason it meant so much to me, maybe more than a first kiss should. I'm so happy I finally had it, and I'm glad it was with him. But he can't seem to leave me, or my dreams.

In about 5 weeks, we're moving 11 hours away. I'm excited, but I feel like even after I leave here, he will still be on my mind. I mean he will always have a piece of my heart. I've tried talking to a nice guy from the place I'm moving, but he hasn't texted me in a long while. So I can't distract my mind with someone else. I just need to stop worrying about him. I'm out of school and most likely won't ever see him again. Ever. Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop feeling for him?

[G.L'S]

^ the move away will help you to move on because you'll be busy with settling in and meeting new people around you, plus the lack of contact. Until then, try and keep yourself busy with activities or friends or anything else that can come up, that often helps to keep any creeping thoughts at bay. Also a good way to look at it is that you know you're no longer interested in rekindling a relationship so sometimes looking forward to what kinds of relationships and opportunities await you will help to push you forward.

[a_bowtie]

•So, erm, yeah. I'm going to give a quick run-down of how things are going. .//.

•I met him in October. We're the same age, but he's in the grade I'm supposed to be in because of my birthday being after the cutoff date for school acceptance.
•I started crushing on him late October, early November. I told him that I liked him, and he said he felt the same, but wanted to take a break from dating. We were both cool with just being friends and keeping our feelings under control.
•After Christmas/Winter break, our feelings started to resurface again. We started hugging a lot, and just talking more than we used to.
•We started saying "I love you" in April, and we really meant it, but keep in mind: we aren't dating.
•We were supposed to go to the final dance of the year together, and he bought our tickets and stuff. He didn't show because his dad got sick.
•Now, it's the end of the year, he'll be in high school, and I'll be moving. We still have the same feelings, but there's no way we'd be able to keep in contact.

•What I want to know is: How do you get over a guy you never dated, but had a strong connection to? .//.