Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[PFDC]

Hey guys.
So I'm really shy about relationship stuff
And my girlfriend and I haven't kissed yet(almost a month now woot!)
But I want to >.<(never had a first kiss not woot!)
I was thinking of having her listen to this song
Tell her it's this new song I really like
And see if she gets the hint?
Here's the song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDY8XljBC-k

[amylovescallie.]

ok i need advice like quick thanks! so much!
ok so there is this guy and i like i just want to know if he likes me back so lets call him j
so me and j always play around i mean im always stealing his hat his always trying i repeat trying to pull on my hair i know i've fallen for him hard and people are telling me at the beginng of the school year he would tell everybody he licked 1 just 1 person and he told all his best buds that it was me but im not sure if i should belive it also in popularity rankings he is at the top im at the low bottom being the suffer in silence type. so im not sure if he was just playing or if i should go for it... help ? thanks

[Outlander]

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post this, but I have a question for you all.

As a writer, I frequently want to include a romantic relationship in my stories. However, I find rather untraditional things attractive in a guy (I'm heterosexual and sapiosexual - attracted to intelligence far over any other traits). I just don't get most attraction to physical features beyond what tells my subconscious that they're healthy, so when my friends gush over the appearance of say, Thor, my fictional crush is on a four foot nine inches, charming, super-intelligent, caring and driven cripple. Thus my writing for my characters is generally not based on what I find attractive, because I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority opinion there.

So. I'm curious what you all find sexually (or romantically) attractive in others? (I'm especially curious for the queer perspective on this, as I find writing characters of non-hetero orientation difficult).

I know it's not a relationship question but...

I used to think I was sapiosexual as well. My first boyfriend was picked 90% because of his intelligence. Then he turned, in all truth, into a intelligentsia-Nazi. He started believing that those with IQs above 135, like him and I, were superior to others. (admittedly he was from Georgia so perhaps I should have seen some sort of -ism as likely, but still...)
He ruined that for me. I started to consider people on less of an intelligence basis and more on the basis of how we work together. Some people who are exceptionally smart I just can't stand; but most of my close friends and my boyfriend are also very bright. Some gamers are just obnoxious little turds; most of the aforementioned people are gamers. The list goes on.
Sexual attraction I find is based mostly on a sense of power. I don't like people who seem weak-willed or unsure of what they want. I like a sense of self and a somewhat dominant personality. At the same time, I don't like people who take their power for granted. It has to be self-confidence, not arrogance. (In spite of this I think the Avengers' universe Loki is sexy as hell)
Romantic attraction, honestly, is based in a large part off of a sense of humor. They have to laugh at my jokes and make some of their own. This includes a lot of shared cultural references suggesting we share a lot more in common, but the shared laughter I consider very bonding.

If you want to describe love interests well, describe them as little as possible. This lets your reader insert their imagination and brings them into the story on a more personal note.

I'm Georgian, and i'm not any -ism.

[Lady Sabine]

I'm Georgian, and i'm not any -ism.

That was a joke. In rather poor taste, I admit.

[Outlander]

I'm Georgian, and i'm not any -ism.

That was a joke. In rather poor taste, I admit.

Quite poor taste.

[Lady Sabine]

I'm Georgian, and i'm not any -ism.

That was a joke. In rather poor taste, I admit.

Quite poor taste.

Don't get butthurt, sweetie. You can't help where you're from; you might as well enjoy it.

[Outlander]

Don't get butthurt, sweetie. You can't help where you're from; you might as well enjoy it.

I'm not hurt about my place of residence. I'm hurt about your bad joke.

[Artesian]

Outlander: Thanks! She sounds like a lovely lady (plus a ninja Jedi, I mean where can you go wrong there? :3)

PFDC: Thank you, that's really helped.

Lady Sabine: The only term that comes close to what I'm attracted to is sapiosexual, but I place a far higher value on creativity than pure IQ. Creativity, an unusual mind, someone who can discuss interesting things with me. Everyone I've been attracted to has had something very unusual about the way they thought (synesthesia and mild OCD, and my current sweetheart has clinical ADD). Also, agreed about Loki, in a my rational mind says flee but the irrational part of me is drooling sort of way.

Thank you very much... that's definitely a new perspective, and the description bit sounds like very good advice. ^-^ I'll try that. (Isn't that why there was a fuss about Bella Swan when she was finally cast, because she was so sparsely described that everyone came up with their own interpretation of how she should look?)

[Outlander]

Well, she does have a custom Jedi robe and loves climbing trees, soooooooo.......

Yes. Ninja Jedi.

[Lady Sabine]

Don't get butthurt, sweetie. You can't help where you're from; you might as well enjoy it.

I'm not hurt about my place of residence. I'm hurt about your bad joke.

Last time I checked, stereotype jokes are still de rigueur on the internet.
Also, don't make me start quoting recent incidents of -ism from Georgia to back my claim. You can either accept the fact that people are going to mock your state, like they mock most states, or you can get butthurt over it and accomplish absolutely nothing.

The only term that comes close to what I'm attracted to is sapiosexual, but I place a far higher value on creativity than pure IQ. Creativity, an unusual mind, someone who can discuss interesting things with me. Everyone I've been attracted to has had something very unusual about the way they thought (synesthesia and mild OCD, and my current sweetheart has clinical ADD). Also, agreed about Loki, in a my rational mind says flee but the irrational part of me is drooling sort of way.

Thank you very much... that's definitely a new perspective, and the description bit sounds like very good advice. ^-^ I'll try that. (Isn't that why there was a fuss about Bella Swan when she was finally cast, because she was so sparsely described that everyone came up with their own interpretation of how she should look?)

I understand you completely. My boyfriend and I are both very creative- he plays guitar, I write, we both derp around with lyrics and comedy. Creativity is a beautiful thing. Synesthesia, to me, is a very vague syndrome, especially when you consider that almost everyone has it to some conscious or unconscious extent. That's why smells help people recall memories.

Yes, that's pretty much the exact reason. XD As far as I can tell, everyone was offended that Bella didn't more closely resemble themselves, since most people put themselves in that "ordinary" appearance group she was placed into.