@ Rose: Sounds like some classic themes.

And of course, I understand. (My first drafts are horrible messes I don't ever want to show to anyone).
So... I could use some advice. I frequently want to include a romantic relationship in my stories. However, I find rather untraditional things attractive in a guy (I'm heterosexual and sapiosexual - attracted to intelligence far over any other traits). I just don't get most attraction to physical features beyond what tells my subconscious that they're healthy, so when my friends gush over the appearance of say, Thor, my fictional crush is on a four foot nine inches, charming, super-intelligent, caring and driven cripple. Thus my writing for my characters is generally not based on what I find attractive, because I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority opinion there.
So.
I'm curious what you all find sexually (or romantically) attractive in others? (I'm especially curious for the queer perspective on this, as I find writing characters of non-hetero orientation difficult). Also, do you have any tips for writing romance?
((And because there's been some confusion about the term queer, I'm not using it in a derogatory way. ^-^ Where I come from, it's just used to mean non-heteronormative. I couldn't think of another non-clunky term to cover everything...so.))