Guepardo wrote:This will probably be long, but I hope that somebody will take the time to read it.. <3
The worst things happen to me on Friday's...
Okay, so yesterday at school, I was joking around and saying that my boyfriend was my microwave and that he died last night. Just being stupid ol' me. Then my friend, we'll call her Lynn, says "Well I'm going to go find you a gentlemen." && she mentions the guy I like. Then she runs off to him. I actually got really upset, but I didn't freak out or throw a fit or cry.
Lynn is very outgoing and she's had tons of boyfriends herself, and me, I've had none. This really shocked me that Lynn did this, and it shocked me that she knew his name. We'll call him W.
So Lynn took off down to W, and I had really liked this guy {I was starting to get over him} but I barely knew him. You know how sometimes you can easily get attracted to someone because of apparence.? Well, yeah. The thing is, I never told Lynn I liked him. I told my sister and my best friend, who always keep my secrets.
The last person I told was H, we'll call her H, and I'm afraid she told Lynn. H made a promise not to tell anyone. Except I was stupid for telling H, because she has a loud mouth just like Lynn does. So a little while ago, a few weeks back, I had to lie and tell H I didn't like W anymore to get her off of my back because she kept pestering me about it.
I think she told Lynn I used to like W.
So two friends stabbed me in the back/upset me by going up to my crush {I was just starting to get over him, too, like I mentioned} and asking him out. I never wanted a boyfriend, and I don't want one at the moment. I want to focus on school rather then be distracted with a boyfriend. They asked W and his friend next to him out for me, when I didn't agree to any of that.
They said no, which I was glad about. But, a few more of my friends got involved. Soon there was a group around W, and I knew they were talking about what had happened. I stayed out off it, actually, because it wasn't my mess. It was Lynn's. So I stayed with my best friend's almost boyfriend, his friend, and two more of my friends who stayed with me. I was very nervous.
You see, I'm not the type of girl to talk or ask people out. I'm the wallflower who can act all stupid with her friends.
Another thing, when I first saw W around I soon found out his name. I added him on FB. Found out he liked a girl, and that he really had no clue who I was. He asked me through messages. I told him. He's seen me around a few times, he's just never knew my name. So I gave him a despriction of myself. He said "Oh yeah."
Yet when my friends went to ask W out, he still had no clue who I was. Then, because I'm shy and I was quite embarrassed at the time, I didn't head over to the group, like I said before. My best friend came back and told me what happened, and then she said that W said, "Well if she's afraid to show her face then she must be pretty ugly" or something along those lines. I'm just really shy. But still, that kind of hurt me. My friend{s} kicked him really hard in the shin and then all my friends went on to tell him how beautiful and pretty I was... The thing is, I have acne all over my face, a huge nose {in my opinion}, and I don't think I look that good. So I guess his words kind of affected me a little.
I'm just really afraid, I don't ask people out {because I don't want a relationship at this point && I'm shy}, I'm starting to lose interest in the guy but I still like him a little, && I don't like people thinking I like them.
I just really don't know what to do...
Should I go up to W in person and tell him it was my friend Lynn being stupid, or message him over FB about it...? Or should I just not worry about it..? Or should I tell my friend how I Lynn how I felt when she did that..?
I don't know, I'm pretty clueless at this point.
Sorry this is so long. :s
Sorry if it's confusing, too. ;s
I would talk about it with him face to face if I were you. Hiding behind a screen will only make him more certain that his assumptions were correct. Also, guys don't do subtlety very well- being as honest or blunt about it as you can will be best. Just make sure that the honest truth is what you want him to hear. Make sure you're really over him before you say that you are.
Most people are decent people. If you get him alone and don't act angsty or desperate, he'll probably be nice about it. Just make sure that you two are alone so you can both be honest, and don't say anything that isn't true. You two can probably settle this between yourselves, and once your friends realize that nothing's going to happen they'll tone it down about ten notches.
If he is a jerk about it, which I don't consider very likely, your friends will probably feel guilty about it and be extra nice to you for a while to try and make up for it, and not try that kind of crap again.
It's a win-win, as far as I see it, if you can be strong and honest with him.
