Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Zynphera]

Having no boyfriend? That's normal, and it's not a crime to not have one. Don't experiment with having one, because it's not all that glamorous. Besides, heartbreak can really mess you up and that will mess your education up (You're in school to learn, not have a boyfriend) even more. Thunderofthedrum's advice is really good, I suggest you take it. :3

[kafka]

Don't worry about the whole boyfriend thing. I had one in the summer holidays when I was way too young and it was long distance with a guy I had been talking to and getting to know. But when we became boyfriend and girlfriend he started saying "baby" every sentence and he was on trying to talk to me 24/7. It really screwed me up so I pulled out after 5 days and I blocked him on the chat site we used. I only unblocked him yesterday and he's been trying to tell me he's not that bad and acting desperate and clingy.

So don't forget your relationship can go wrong guys :P

[.d r o p d e a d.]

This is going to seem ridiculous.


^^ This is me and my current boyfriend. Let's call him T. ^^
He's one of the best people in my life right now, and he used to be my best friend before we started to date.
We met three years ago, and we hated each other for a year and a half, until we recently started to talk again and
we both realized that we were too quick to judge each other, especially because we'd barely talked.
Anyways, we've been dating for a week now, and we are going to kiss soon. We were going to today, but I was nervous
and awkward and I kept giggling and making awful faces. I need to know how to calm my nerves, and just do it. I'm
always like this with boyfriends for the first kiss and it's really bad and I need to get over it. Tips and tricks, please?

[kay.]

Yet another Xena post -.-

So, there are 2 people in my class, let's call them C (The boy) and H (The girl), and they were dating for like 1-2 years now. Out of all the many, many couples in my class, they were amongst my favourite, they just looked so great together and loved each other! But guess what, one of the boys in my class said to me and my friend outside, "Did you hear that H and O (A different boy) are going out?" Mey friend was just like, "Really?? H and O!?" I was gobsmacked. Once the boy was gone, this is a short conversation me and my friend had;
"H-H-H??? But isn't she with C?" and I was like 'Oh no!! Not them!!' inside my head.
"Hmm, they either broke up or H is cheating on C" She was getting very excited at the cheating part. I was thinking, 'no way!'
And well I suggested I spoke to O's best friend to see how much of it's true, but before that when I was away, my friend asked C about it. Guess what?
Because H is a real and utter tomboy, people were calling C a gay and stuff like that, and gave him a challenge either to brake up with her within 2 days (2 days ago today) or to brake up with her for 2 days... Something like that. He loves her too much, so he thought he'd pretend to brake up with her, but he didn't tell her about it... So he 'broke up' with her, and she thought it was for real. That happened 2 days ago. Now she's already going out with someone else (O) and C is distraught... I can't look at his depressed face! I know I'm poking my nose into other people's buisnesses, but... I can't believe how much I miss them two together.

I need to do something. I could always brake up O and H (It might take the whole week but I will get there!), try to get C and H together... I do have experience (My other friend has had 16-17 brakes up with one guy and I was there in 15 of them, I had to say this and that to the guy and everything). Oh I don't know! All I know is that next week are REALLY important tests, and it's going to bother me if they are apart... *Cries* I really need to do something, I can't just sit and watch them split apart!

Just to add: We are practicing songs for a show we are going to do in a few months, 'Night of the Musicals' where we sing songs from musicals. Another couple I like is R (Boy) and L (Girl), and we were practicing 'Don't Stop Believing' (IDK, by Glee or Journey??) and it was adorable because L was singing the girl parts and R was singing the boy parts and then they sounded beautiful together on the both parts. Then 'Can you feel the love tonight' by Elton John came on with C just looking at H, which I thought was just sad They'd be like R and L if not for their brake up! I'm ripped, so sad :'C

[Mako.]

So, 2 months later, I thought I was FINALLY over Max. I've moved on. I thought it was over.

Boy was I wrong. Max has a new girlfriend, Rachel (who I happen to not like...dated 5 guys in 2 year, 3 this year.) It's like i'm being overprotective or something like that. I cried a little when I heard the news. That means I still have feelings for him. I like a new guy now, Kasey, but liking a new person just doesn't feel right anymore. I know I should give it time, but i'm seriously stressed now. The dance is next week, and I just- I don't know.
And I actually kinda want to kill him like my friends want to do to him...
Also, yes, I know, there are more guys out there. I'm graduating next week and I know high school will bring more guys. I know. But this is kinda difficult.

I just don't know what to do right now. Help?

[thunderofthedrum]

I felt the graduation comment was unclear- are you graduating FROM high school (as I would initially think) or graduating TO high school (as the next 'high school' comment then led me to consider)?

If you guys broke up and he is in a relationship, it doesn't sound like you can do anything about him now. The only option I can think of is sabotaging his relationship with Rachel and that is a rather poor option - no one wants to date a person who's known to go that low to get what they want and disregard others.

If you only like Kasey a little, that's fine. You don't have to have a 'serious' crush.

And no one is forcing you to attend that dance. You could even have fun boycotting it, maybe have a little girls night with friends or even a female family member or an old friend who doesn't go to your school. No one is saying you have to go attend it and miserably watch the guy you like with another girl; that's just ridiculous.

[Malédiction]

For anyone who is interested, this Saturday will be the 2 month anniversary with my boyfriend. So happy we could make it work.

But that's not why I was here, I have a question. I'm grateful to anyone who takes the time to read this and answer my question, but I understand if you don't have an answer. So, my question is: Is it normal for your boyfriend to be jealous of a guy he's never met? And he doesn't even know his real name... So here's the story.

Near the end of November, when Jackals and I actually started talking more often, his hockey team wanted to play truth or dare with me. I said no, because I really wasn't in the mood to, but then they asked me who I liked. I didn't answer them, because I knew it wasn't him, but after that he asked me who I liked. I made him promise to tell me who he likes first, so when he did I had to say who I liked. I was freaking out because he had said some girl's name, so I used the first code name that my friends and I used that popped in my head. Cole, a codename for a family friend of mine which who all of my friends think he's hot. But, when my friends texted him, they would rant about him all the time like Oh My God, he's so hot. He's so amazing, and stuff like that. Recently, I went to a party and he asked me if any guys were there. His response when I said yes pretty much dropped with jealousy, even though it was through text. I never once mentioned anything about Cole, except that I 'liked' him like 4 months ago, and he was like; Are any of them as hot as Cole?... I like freaked because I never once said anything about him being hot, never once even mentioned him in 4 months. The last time I ever spoke about him to him was near the end of November, do you think he's been holding a grudge over him ever since? And when my friend mentioned him while I was with Jackals like maybe 1 or 2 weeks ago, I would've sworn he was going kill someone with his eyes at that precise moment. The problem is, he never met Cole... Is it normal that he's so jealous of my friend? I mean, sure we talk, but it's not that 'Oh, yeah, Cole's my best friend.' kind of thing. I never say anything about Cole when he's around, and the only time I actually say anything about him is at school when I see him and my friends pretty much start drooling over him and having heart attacks.

[amandamoomoo]

Hey guys, I need some tips on talking to my crush. Everytime I come close to talking to him I chicken out. The school year is almost over and I really want to talk to him before summer break.

[Mako.]

I felt the graduation comment was unclear- are you graduating FROM high school (as I would initially think) or graduating TO high school (as the next 'high school' comment then led me to consider)?

If you guys broke up and he is in a relationship, it doesn't sound like you can do anything about him now. The only option I can think of is sabotaging his relationship with Rachel and that is a rather poor option - no one wants to date a person who's known to go that low to get what they want and disregard others.

If you only like Kasey a little, that's fine. You don't have to have a 'serious' crush.

And no one is forcing you to attend that dance. You could even have fun boycotting it, maybe have a little girls night with friends or even a female family member or an old friend who doesn't go to your school. No one is saying you have to go attend it and miserably watch the guy you like with another girl; that's just ridiculous.

Sorry, I meant graduating to high school, if that helps.

We've never dated, basically, we're best friends, who I developed a crush on, told him, stayed friends, and i've tried to move on.
That's also a good point, I think me and a few friends might ditch the dance unless someone asks any of us.

Honestly, i'm just a little jealous of them. I just don't want him to get hurt. And I don't want our friendship to be ruined either.

But I can't even talk to him now. I don't know why i'm acting like this, other than jealousy, and even then i'm not quite like this. I don't know what's going on.

[Msshardy]

You've already told me that we can't be
that you don't like me.
But I can't accept it
I have to make you see.

Every night I think of a perfect place.
One not filled with girlie lace,
but with me and you in the sunset just the same.
My perfect place.

You crush my hopes,
While you run from me like an antelope.
Do you like me?
One could only hope.

But there's no hope for me,
mine's not a face you want to see.
Why?
Because there's no you and me and never will be.

I can chase you,
I can't catch you.
Crushes...
I want you.

Boy,
your face fills me with joy.
But I'm hurting,
because you're not my boy.

Every night I pray,
that you'll be mine the next day.
But they go unheard,
While my world goes grey.

You say we're friends.
I don't want to be friends.
While you chase other girls,
I wonder why you want those other girlfriends.

There's no you and me.
Why I just can't see.
I've liked you forever.
But you couldn't care to like me......

Just typed up a poem, because after hanging out at a friend's while our other friends started building a relationship, I felt my heartbreak flood over me again. Why can't you like me? There's nothing wrong with me, is there? Maybe it's because I'm not like Kaylin, or Jensen. Because I'm plain. I'm not incredibly tiny and cute, I'm not a beautiful blond demon.... Is there any hope for me? I think not, but I can't get my heart to peice itself back together. After all, you were never mine to lose. I don't want to be your buddy, I want to be your huggy. So as I hit send, there is another layer of hurt that peels off, and I must wait until the next is ready. Soon, I'm sure I'll be over you....

I had to... I feel terrible. Why can't he be mine? If only for a day. Why can't a guy I like ever like me? I need comfort, Chicken Smoothie, so this is where I shall turn. Any advice for "You're a chill person but I just don't like you that way"?