Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Fluffy:3]

I find it really weird that my best friend's boyfriend does these things to me:

1) He's constantly talking to me and starting up an inside joke with me even when his girlfriend is there. He seems to talk to me more than her at school and waits for her to speak to him first. But with me he just talks or answers when I talk to him.

2) He notices little things about me all the time. Just yesterday he was the first person to notice the inch haircut I got on Saturday. And it wasn't even noticeable to me! Also he can tell when I don't want people to talk to me and he'll leave me alone or if I'm lonely and want to talk, he'll come up and start talking about something that happened yesterday or something.

3) He's always smiling and laughing at/with me and pays little to no attention to his girlfriend. I tend to kind of back off when she's there even though she's my best friend. Well, sometimes she seems kind of "cold" when I turn to talk other after saying something to her boyfriend.

Anyone have suggestions, comments, or advice on this?

Thank you flaire. for the advice :3 anyone else want to add in anything?

[violeta.]

I find it really weird that my best friend's boyfriend does these things to me:

1) He's constantly talking to me and starting up an inside joke with me even when his girlfriend is there. He seems to talk to me more than her at school and waits for her to speak to him first. But with me he just talks or answers when I talk to him.

2) He notices little things about me all the time. Just yesterday he was the first person to notice the inch haircut I got on Saturday. And it wasn't even noticeable to me! Also he can tell when I don't want people to talk to me and he'll leave me alone or if I'm lonely and want to talk, he'll come up and start talking about something that happened yesterday or something.

3) He's always smiling and laughing at/with me and pays little to no attention to his girlfriend. I tend to kind of back off when she's there even though she's my best friend. Well, sometimes she seems kind of "cold" when I turn to talk other after saying something to her boyfriend.

Anyone have suggestions, comments, or advice on this?

Thank you flaire. for the advice :3 anyone else want to add in anything?

@fluffy -
Hmmmm... To me it sounds like he's either doing a serious of 3 things.
1.) He likes you but doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend because he isn't sure if you like him so he tries to flirt with you, especially when his girlfriend is around to bother her, and try and see what your reaction will be.
2.) He is trying to become better friends with his girlfriend's friends so he can make her feel more happy that both her boyfriend and her friends get along but in so with this plan he may be accidentally flirting with you or giving you more attention over her (depends on when he is ignoring her if it is deliberate or not)
3.) He is one of those crazy, rude people who try to ruin friendships by making one girl jealous of the other (highly improbable)
I can't give you definite advice on what's going on with him but if he continues these things, just pull your friend aside and give her the truth about how you feel about all this and talk with her about what you guys or one of you think you should do about his actions if they continue to go on.
Hope I was of any help and best of luck to you! :)

[autumnsoundtrack]

I promised myself I'd never fall for him, but I don't know how I ended up doing it.

A while back my guy friend and my new friend started dating. I had feelings for that guy friend, I'll call him A, and was actually really devastated when I found out he was dating my new friend. I've tried getting over him, but nothing seems to work. It's like everything I do, he does the same. I start getting into Black Veil Brides and Asking Alexandria, and he's suddenly all into Slipknot; my taste in apparel has changed and so has his; etc. I've been avoiding sitting with my friends at lunch to hang out with my other friends just so I wouldn't have to see him kiss and cuddle her. >.< Even after two months of barely uttering a word to him, or even seeing him for that matter, I'm still not over him, and I think I'm even more jealous than before. I even think his girlfriend, my friend, has caught onto this.

Any advice for quickly getting over someone?

[ViiciousVee]

Guess what? I love being single! I have met so many nice and cute guys today! lol and no im not a player!

[scorps]

Ugh i miss him sitting at my science table so much</3
Now ill never get to talk to him unless i muster up the cOurage to say hi to him in the hall.
Im such an idiot, i probably made him think i didnt like him since when we sat at the same table he asked to be my partner and i was just like whut we can all work together.
Im smart. :/ /sarcasm

[jetlag]

(( I'm sorry for double posting; it's hard to quote things to reply to them on my iPad ))
@flaire -
I've been meaning to reply to this for the longest time but my mind gets the best of me and distracts me to thinking about other things so I'm extremely sorry about my delay here.

And from what I can read by this, it sounds like this guy has a small thing for you. By that, I'm meaning that I believe that he likes you. He seems a bit unsure of how you feel and maybe he's trying to hint it to you without giving it away for everyone else to see.
But then again, he could just be trying to play you. You know, not play you like players do, but try and stir up some feelings within you so you like him and by the time you realize it, it's too late because its summer break or you don't have classes together or whatever because he's a year older (only applies if by that you meant grade over)
My best advice with all of this would be to just relax a bit and take things all in stride. Let things go step by step and see how he reacts and acts around you compared to him around other people, not just in your class but in the hallway too.
If he continues with a few of these things and you still aren't sure, don't be afraid to post here again or pm me
Best of luck!

Thanks so much for replying, I really appreciate it. Yes, he is a grade above me and it's not likely that we'll have classes together again-but possible. I'm not sure what it is about him, but I do really like him and my goal is to try to get close enough to him by the end of the year that we'll at least have some sort of friendship, or I'll know if he really does like me. I noticed today whenever he made some kind of joke or something he always looked at me when he laughed to see if I was, too. I do think that he's just really kind of quiet, and I'm not sure if he's playing me or not, or maybe is waiting for a really obvious sign that I like him? Gah, guys can be confusing sometimes. xD

Can I have a bit of advice please?

So, I'm currently in a relationship with one of my best friends since he asked me out a short while ago. I only see him every once in a while at school, even though we have 2 out of 8 classes together and a lunch together, so we usually Skype most nights.
But recently, he got upset at me because of a class project we were working on together with another boy and he thought it was my fault we were missing things even though it was the other boys fault (he had the packet of things we needed) so he was getting upset and me and he didn't exactly yell, but he was upset with me.
Now, I'm the kind of person who gets quiet when they get nervous or scared so after repeating I'm sorry for a bit because I was getting nervous and was starting to talk quietly (I probably said it about 30 times), I finally just went silent or said very little while I worked to get the things we needed.

After we finished most of what we had to get done and class and we were just sitting, I'm 98% positive I heard him say 'I'm sorry for yelling at you' but he said it quietly so I can't be sure. Since we had lunch right after with friends, I became my normal self again. He, however, was a bit more quiet about everything instead of him being his normal crazy self.

Now here's the part I need some help and advice on.
For the past two nights, we haven't skyped. Not at all whatsoever. And it bothers me because like I said I only see him every now and then and only on certain days and tomorrow I see him but I'm worried that he thinks I'm upset with him or he's upset with himself because he got upset at me enough for me to go quiet (which is usually very hard to do) because every time I see him he seems lost in thought or distraught and its bothering me that I might be the cause of it. I'm not even upset with him, I just didn't like the idea that he was angry with me over some silly project and that's what got me nervous and scared because I like him.

And I don't know what to do at all about what I should say when I see him tomorrow so any help at all would be greatly appreciated.

I actually might be able to give some advice for this because I've been in the situation not too long ago. I could be wrong, and I don't mean for you to take any possible offense to this, but you sound like when you're in a relationship you're very sensitive to your partner - like I am, which is good, just sometimes a con when it comes to a situation like this. In my situation, what I had done to make things better is straight up ask him if everything is okay, and if he says so then I took the initiative to remain acting completely normal, and it worked for me. So, ie- skyping him, being yourself, ect. If everything is actually fine, then he'll likely catch on and you guys can get things back to normal. (: He may just be misinterpreting your quietness for you being angry with him, and probably just needs reassurance. I hope I helped!



@Fluffy- You're welcome!

[provolone]

I keep writing all my feelings on here but never posted them. So here it goes.

Iv'e been single three weeks. Me and my ex barely talk at all anymore and it kills me. I don't want him back, but I miss 'us'. He was my first kiss, and in my heart there will always be a special place for him. We're also moving 11 hours away. I told him the day I was allowed to, which happened to be Wednesday. He stared at me with those big brown eyes..Expressionless. He didn't say anything until I finished, and he said "Well it looks like a good opportunity for you guys down there." I said yeah and he said "Well good luck." and walked away. His eyes told me he was truly sad. He walked away fast hoping I wouldn't see him sad. I know him well enough to see this, today was like any other day. We hardly acknowledged each others existence. All I want is for us to be friends before I leave this summer. It hurts enough to move, I'm getting away from him, but I don't want to be away from him. Part of me wishes everything could be fixed. And the other part will never like him the same again.

I kinda started liking a guy from the place I'm moving. I got his number and found out he is the worst texter ever. He replies within six hours and barely says a word anyway. I don't know if I can like him..I'm just mad at myself for not being able to figure out how I feel. I want me and my ex back, but I'll never feel the same for him. I want to move, but I don't. I want to move on and like other people, but its hard right now. I want to curl up in a ball and erase the time I was with my ex, but there's too many things I want to remember with him.

This is why I haven't posted. I'm too confused to make sense. And I don't know what kind help I'm asking for, I just want help..

[LittleAlex]

Not sure if he likes me or not. It's almost asif his trying to make it seem like he doesn't I mean well he unfollowed me on instagram on one of my seven accounts and he isn't liking my photos like he used to. And my friend told him that I liked him and he texted me saying 'soo who do your like' when we were just talking. Sometimes I just catch him looking at me well I don't exactly know if he does or not.

[garnet.]

I need some/an opinion here guys.

Okay, there's this girl I like. We have a strange friendship, we like to tease/insult each other jokily. Well more I insult her, she teases me. But we both know we don't mean it and we get on really well I think. We aren't in the same form and we don't hug (no time between lessons) and I really like her so I might just be imagining stuff.
This first thing was weeks ago. She awwwwed at me, multiple times. I don't know if that's just her or what or whatever but it happened. She awed at the thought of four year old me being read Harry Potter in the bathtub (don't ask) and at the fact I was bisexual and liked someone two years older than me.
Secondly, we talk quite a lot. The way we sit in maths though, she has to turn around and, though I'm not sure she fully needs to do this, when she's talking to me, she leans right back and turns her shoulders toward me. She smiles and her eyes seem to glisten a little
Thirdly, staring. Mostly, we're in awkward positions to catch each other staring (as in it's impossible to most of the time due to seating) as either I'm behind her and she can't see me or the other way around, so if this happens quite a lot when I'm in front and she's behind, that would change things. However, twice, I am sure I've caught her staring at me. There is a possibility that I've caught her other times but I'm not sure with those. The first, our whole band was in the main school hall being reset for PE. She was nearer the front than me, so should have been facing the front. I looked toward her and I swear she was looking at me. I swear. It really did look like it, she was turned in my direction. The second, we were in a different maths seating plan that we have once a week, I'm in front, she's behind, and as I was talking to the person next to me, out of the corner of my eye, I think I saw her staring or at least looking at me.
Finally (for now), we were in maths on thursday and I was commenting on how the weather was perfect and beautiful, and my favourite temperature and she said. 'That's so cute.' which was completely unexpected. I couldn't believe it!
Any opinions are well appreciated!
Sorry it's so long >3<

We were in the maths room with a different seating plan today and I'm sure I saw her looking at me again. I don't know if I'm just imagining things or not. I've never heard her call anyone else cute before, or tease anyone really, let alone the adorable way she teases me. Help is still appreciated here but that's not my only problem.

I feel weird, the way I like her. It feels so strong and even though I've liked her just under two months, the way I feel just seems so strong. Every time I see her, I feel butterflys and feel light headed, every time she smiles at me, I want to explode. Being away from her really, really hurts. She is beginning to distract me to the point where my brain can not fully function in the proper way it should. I'm not thinking properly, I can't concentrate, even when I'm not in a lesson with her in it. But when I am, it's so much worse. I just want to laugh with her and talk to her and smile with her. I think I might be in love with her but is it too early to say that? I feel like I do but it seems so sudden and fast and I don't know if I am or if I'm not or what and it's scary.

[☆ marriage maze ☆]

I really need some help here:
well, pretty much...i'm in love with my best friend's boyfriend!
yeah. it really sucks.
any advice?