Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[i_am_elizabeth]

I have a HUGE crush on my gay best friend. He doesn't even know. Help?

Well if he's gay and you're not, I'd suggest waiting the feelings out and let it go. It's common sometimes because they're so great to get along with but if I were you I'd just stay his best friend.

I liked him before he was gay though... And I swear he flirts with me and I tried just forgetting about it but I can't I'm trying to but I keep dreaming about him and everytime I see him my heart literally speeds up and I giggle a lot and ughhhhhh idk I just cant stop liking him ive been trying for a month or more

[thunderofthedrum]

I have a HUGE crush on my gay best friend. He doesn't even know. Help?

Well if he's gay and you're not, I'd suggest waiting the feelings out and let it go. It's common sometimes because they're so great to get along with but if I were you I'd just stay his best friend.

I liked him before he was gay though... And I swear he flirts with me and I tried just forgetting about it but I can't I'm trying to but I keep dreaming about him and everytime I see him my heart literally speeds up and I giggle a lot and ughhhhhh idk I just cant stop liking him ive been trying for a month or more

Honestly, I don't know what you're looking for.
If he's gay, he's gay.
You can't magically turn him un-gay.
If he turns out to be bi, that's a different subject to ask about, but for now don't hurl yourself at him. He's gay. As much as he enjoys your company, I doubt he'd want you flinging yourself and your undying love at his feet. Just be his friend! There is no miraculously way to instantly get over someone; the heart just doesn't work like that.

So good luck, and don't do anything hasty. Be normal, be his friend. Time will pass, and the feelings eventually will too.
Find a distraction if you need to. A new boy to fancy, a hobby you wanted to spend more time on, a goal like improving your grades.

[i_am_elizabeth]

I liked him before he was gay though... And I swear he flirts with me and I tried just forgetting about it but I can't I'm trying to but I keep dreaming about him and everytime I see him my heart literally speeds up and I giggle a lot and ughhhhhh idk I just cant stop liking him ive been trying for a month or more

Honestly, I don't know what you're looking for.
If he's gay, he's gay.
You can't magically turn him un-gay.
If he turns out to be bi, that's a different subject to ask about, but for now don't hurl yourself at him. He's gay. As much as he enjoys your company, I doubt he'd want you flinging yourself and your undying love at his feet. Just be his friend! There is no miraculously way to instantly get over someone; the heart just doesn't work like that.

So good luck, and don't do anything hasty. Be normal, be his friend. Time will pass, and the feelings eventually will too.
Find a distraction if you need to. A new boy to fancy, a hobby you wanted to spend more time on, a goal like improving your grades.

sigh...

ok I kind of knew this all along.

I just didn't want it to be confirmed.

mehhhhh...

it's just annoying because I am 6'2" and there are only 2 boys other than him at my school taller or same height as me... it's so depressing. and i'm not an underclassmen, so its not a "they have to grow" thing.

[brindie]

I used to think this guy liked me, but a little while ago, there was a dance at our school and I saw him dancing with this other girl that he hardly even talks to. Afterward he told me that he had liked her for a year...but the thing is, he still acts like he likes me. Like, he talks to me all the time, he always jokes that he wants me to wear my hair up just to see what I look like that way (normally I wear it down lol), he does this thing where he pokes me on the shoulder and then pets my hair (that one is kind of weird I must admit XD), and he sits by me in classes instead of his other friends. I'm confused...advice?

[brindie]

I used to think this guy liked me, but a little while ago, there was a dance at our school and I saw him dancing with this other girl that he hardly even talks to. Afterward he told me that he had liked her for a year...but the thing is, he still acts like he likes me. Like, he talks to me all the time, he always jokes that he wants me to wear my hair up just to see what I look like that way (normally I wear it down lol), he does this thing where he pokes me on the shoulder and then pets my hair (that one is kind of weird I must admit XD), and he sits by me in classes instead of his other friends. I'm confused...advice?

[bast,]

//table flip

This is why I don't tell people things. My best guy friend lets call him Candle, figured out who I like, lets call him Shoe.
So candle texted shoe, telling him that he should ask me out. Shoe texted back that he likes someone else, but wouldn't say who.
DO YOU SEE CANDLE.
DO YOU SEE WHY I DON'T TELL MOST OF OUR FRIEND GROUP THESE THINGS.
BEFORE I HAD HOPE THAT SHOE LIKED ME
NOW, UNLESS HE'S JUST MAKING A COVER UP { which I'm hoping for }, THERE'S NO WAY HE DOES.

Now, to the question part. Should I avoid shoe tomorrow, or act like nothing happened? I think I'm going to go with, don't talk to him unless he talks to me first. We're doing a social studies project together though, but we're not working on it tomorrow.

//angst angst angst angst angst

[FallenSilent]

//table flip

This is why I don't tell people things. My best guy friend lets call him Candle, figured out who I like, lets call him Shoe.
So candle texted shoe, telling him that he should ask me out. Shoe texted back that he likes someone else, but wouldn't say who.
DO YOU SEE CANDLE.
DO YOU SEE WHY I DON'T TELL MOST OF OUR FRIEND GROUP THESE THINGS.
BEFORE I HAD HOPE THAT SHOE LIKED ME
NOW, UNLESS HE'S JUST MAKING A COVER UP { which I'm hoping for }, THERE'S NO WAY HE DOES.

Now, to the question part. Should I avoid shoe tomorrow, or act like nothing happened? I think I'm going to go with, don't talk to him unless he talks to me first. We're doing a social studies project together though, but we're not working on it tomorrow.

//angst angst angst angst angst

My suggestion? Just act like nothing happened. Maybe he'll think that Candle was messing with him, or he'll ask if it's true. But, that's my opinion.

[~Dea~]

Okay, so I'm a little freaked out at the moment....

So, my best friend and her boyfriend (who I can't STAND) just broke up.
And now, he's being friendly, like, REALLY friendly to me. And he's NEVER friendly to me!! (I'm not exaggerating, we pretty much hate each other....)

Examples:
Opening doors for me
Trying constantly to make me laugh
He no longer calls me "A monstrous baby eater" (No joke...he actually used to call me that. XD.)
And he's messing around with me in "friendly-ish" ways. Like, jokingly messing around with my music while I'm playing, picking petty arguments with me, etc...

Its kinda freaking me out....Usually, we bicker like cats-and-dogs. I don't know if he's flirting, or just joshing with me....

Not to mention, I have a boyfriend, (And he knows. My BF is one of his best friends..)

So, should I just ignore this, or should I be concerned.

[.musical.dragon.]

I always sit with this guy on the bus. Let's call him A. A always sits by me, except when we had a small fight, when we both thought that the other was mad at them{but I really was a little mad at him...} Anyways, A always tells me his relationship problems, and it's really almost heartbreaking. I have not the slightest clue if I like A yet, but I kind of flirt with him sometimes. I'm not aloud to date though, and A isn't aloud to either, but he's kind of a player almost and has dated a lot of other girls before, but not seriously. I'm really confused and stuff. My sibling plays a sport with him, and I go sometimes{mainly because I have no choice} and see him there. A doesn't really talk to me then, but he really doesn't have time after the game is over, thought I'm sure A could make time. We're really good friends and stuff, and it's just downright confusing. Anyways, I even told him about that creepy guy that liked me... I just don't know...

music

So, someone told A that a girl in my grade likes him. I think that he's suspicious that it's me, but I am not entirely sure if he knows that it's me. Also, he told me that somebody asked him out for some other girl, and he told me how like eight girls like him and that it's annoying. Today on the bus, I was being careless with my scars on my arm, and he may have noticed them. But he didn't say anything. If he did see them, I wish that he said something about it. Maybe he was waiting until there weren't as many people around? I don't know; it's just confusing. I may have to go to a game today that my sibling will play in, and he'll be there. I've also been really depressed lately, and he noticed that yesterday, mostly because I made it totally obvious. Also on the bus today, A was playing on his Ipod touch and wouldn't talk to me for the longest time... Could that mean anything?

thanks a ton,
music

Today has been a really bad day, and I was really depressed on the bus. A was prank calling some of his friends who were also on the bus. We were sitting together. I was upset and just kind of sadly stared at the floor, unable to cry, no matter how much I wanted to. Eventually, right before my stop, he noticed that something was wrong. He asked if I had a bad day, and I replied, "More like a bad life." {Which I feel is true, PM if you want to know more} A kind of just shrugged it off, and didn't ask why or anything. I really just wanted a hug, but nooo. I feel.... Alone? Degraded? Pushed away? Not cared for? I have no idea what I should do tomorrow on the bus... I was going to tell him a secret, but I didn't because of that, and it was about to be my stop... I just don't know what to do.... A still doesn't know that I like him. Well, I think so....

thanks,
music

So, A figured out much sooner today that I was depressed, and asked what was wrong. I didn't say anything this time. Later on, he told me that my hair looked pretty!!! Was he trying to make my day better, or what was he doing??? Just being nice???

thanks,
music

[bast,]

//table flip

This is why I don't tell people things. My best guy friend lets call him Candle, figured out who I like, lets call him Shoe.
So candle texted shoe, telling him that he should ask me out. Shoe texted back that he likes someone else, but wouldn't say who.
DO YOU SEE CANDLE.
DO YOU SEE WHY I DON'T TELL MOST OF OUR FRIEND GROUP THESE THINGS.
BEFORE I HAD HOPE THAT SHOE LIKED ME
NOW, UNLESS HE'S JUST MAKING A COVER UP { which I'm hoping for }, THERE'S NO WAY HE DOES.

Now, to the question part. Should I avoid shoe tomorrow, or act like nothing happened? I think I'm going to go with, don't talk to him unless he talks to me first. We're doing a social studies project together though, but we're not working on it tomorrow.

//angst angst angst angst angst

My suggestion? Just act like nothing happened. Maybe he'll think that Candle was messing with him, or he'll ask if it's true. But, that's my opinion.

Thats a pretty good idea, thanks. c: