What's wrong with me?!?

[peachykeen]

Hi there.

Yea. Your probably looking at this topic and thinking

"What the heck is she talking about?"

I have a question. I'd be glad if anyone can help me answer it.

I feel like I'm changing and I don't know how or why. It seems I'm becoming a different person. Here is an example:

Just here recently my class (and two older grades) went on a school camp out. It was fun, and I enjoyed the time spent there. But a few things happened there that weren't good at all. My best friend and I were sharing a tent together. We've been pals since the third grade, and have always gotten along really well. I had brought my share of food and supplies we needed to cook the meals, and so did she. I brought all the food and supplies in a plastic container, and she brought hers in a cardboard box. We didn't have an extra storage tent, so we decided that our tent was big enough to store the supplies. I told her in the beginning, since this was my tent, I didn't want her to eat in the tent because it attracts bugs. I had brought a box of Oreos (a little chocolate cookie with white frosting) that had about 40 some Oreos in it. I had only eaten 5, and this was about a week before I packed them to take with us to the camp out. So keep a mental note: 40 - 5 = 35, right? Okay, so remember this as you keep reading. We drove up there and set up our camp on Wednesday. I had also asked her to take her shoes off before going in the tent, because I really hate mud in a brand new tent. By the end of the day the tent was full of rocks and mud. On Tuesday our whole class went on a nature hike. We got back and changed into some clean clothes and I was getting kind of hungry. So I asked my friend if she wanted to start preparing lunch. She told me she was too lazy to do it so I wound up cooking it. When I was about done cooking, all set and ready to eat my food, here she comes, out of the tent to ask me if she could have some. I was annoyed when she asked this. I told her that she can have some but I'm not cooking it for her. So she cooked it herself. She went back to the tent and I went on a hike with a few of my other friends. We went down to a creek where I cut my leg on a rock and got Stinging Nettle (a plant similar to Poison Oak or Poison Ivy). I was pretty tired by this point so I decided to wash up and go back to the tent. When I went back she was in the tent talking with some friends, and guess what else, eating Oreo cookies. I looked at her and my face immediately turned red. I was sick of always cleaning up her messes and doing everything for her. I mean seriously, I'm not her mother! I started to raise my voice and I asked her why she was eating in the tent. Our friends backed out of the tent and I'm glad they did. She just looked at me for a minute and said "Sorry." I noticed my plastic container was opened and I looked in the Oreo box. Remember how I said there were 35 Oreos in there? Well now there were 4 left. 35 - 4 = 31. She had eaten 31 Oreos in a day. I hadn't touched the box. I was furious now. We got into a huge fight over a stupid box of Oreo cookies. We had apologized and were friends again but that night she kept telling me about how much she hated her life and that I and her younger brother were the only two things keeping her alive. At this point, I am concerned. Even though we're all good now, I don't feel the same. On Monday when we came back to school she didn't even look at me. She wouldn't talk to me or anything. She did the same thing on Tuesday. She was out sick on Wednesday and Thursday, and she came to school on Friday but I hardly saw her because she was in trouble for not having her work done. I talked to her once and she was in tears because the teacher was being harsh on her. I feel bad but yet I don't want to be sucked in.

Sorry I had to bore you with a story like that,

but I really need some answers.

So the question remains,

WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME?!?

[MusicEmily]

First off, there's nothing wrong with you.

I've had the same kind of problem with one of my friends, I talked it over with my mom and I felt better. That may help you if you still want answers.

Back to your question:
As I said, it's not you. You set ground rules for your friend so your brand-new tent wouldn't get ruined, and she disrespected those rules. I can see why you'd be upset, and if you two got in a fight it might be awkward for a while. (But you said she was with some friends in the tent when the oreos were gone, correct? I'd think they all shared the reponsibility of eating 31 oreos.) It's even more awkward when tells you something like you and 1 other person the only ones keeping her alive. That is concerning. I'd just try to be there for her, and do the best you can to try and help her out in this time. If she really feels that terribe, she should talk to her parents or a school counselor. Maybe if she needs help with her school work, you can offer to help her with it.

[moonase]

Well I say it's not your fault. Well maybe you and your friend are growing apart. Things like that happens to many people. She and you are becoming your own person ans sometimes different types of people don't get along very well. Secondly if you friend is really in a bad sitution as you explained then don't leave her hanging try to help her and you'll never regret it in the long run. She'll need you one day and she will thank you. I have had fights with friends before and after we made up it seemed different but as the days pass it's gets better. So I hoped I helped in any way. :]

[happy-thump]

Just put it behind you. Something with friends happend to me and I just forgave them and went on through life. I think that nothing is wrong with you but your friend is being disrespectfull. Try just talking to your mom about what to do. I would go talk to her. When talking be really clear about what you want to say, make sure it doesn't have a second meaniong that she might take personally. Girls are mean when it comes to friends and fights with them so if you explode say why and tell her if try to say sorry.