Reptile wrote:My father is trying to guilt trip me to go to Virginia.
He wants me to just drop all of my college courses [though I've started and attended them] as well as Geometry to go to his house for a month or two. When I tried to explain him that my GPA would drop and that it'd be wasting my free credits, he started saying how family was more important than education and that I could just do it all later when, in reality, I couldn't.
I've never met anyone on his side really, so I'd just curl up in a corner and remain awkward for the entire time. That's why he wanted me to go, though; to see the family I've never met before they die. Now I feel selfish and confused about my decision, and don't know what to do... xmx
If he expects you to give up your entire life's career and dreams just so you can spend a month or so with him and to meet a few people, then the only one being selfish is him. Your education is far more important at the moment and he should understand that.
If he wants to see you so badly and wants you to meet other relatives, then he should drive them down there himself; or is he too busy with his job? That seems pretty hypocritical of him to expect you to drop everything and visit him when he isn't willing to do the same thing. Is his job more important than your career and education?
What you should do is get yourself set in life. Then you will have plenty of time to do anything else. There's also nothing wrong with not meeting a family member. Your life will move on just fine without having knowing every single person in your family tree.
/contemplates posting this or not
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The fact that my previous version of this response probably won't make it though the moderation queue since I forgot to make it on-topic. Now I don't know if I should risk reposting or just wait until I get an email... I'll just repost and hope I don't upset the moderators.