The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[vamp_lover<3]

My boyfriend is really shy. I don't know what to do about it though. I want to be able to hug him when he is feeling upset about something but I don't really know how to approach him in a way that lets him know that I am there for him. What do I do?

[strudelcat]

My crush. Touched my back today and smiled at me. I almost fainted. x.x My other friend who likes the same guy was like: YOUR SO DARN LUCKYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY GIMME SOME (crushes name here)'s TOUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GIMME!!!!!!!!!!!! I think he knows that I like him, and I think he likes me, but I want him to know without everybody else in the school knowing and I'm so darn shy when it comes to things. =(

[Rising Sun]

ok so i have this huge crush on a guy, the only probelem, im to shy to talk to him and the only class I have with him is gym. What do I do?

[I<3NiallHoran]

i have a crush on my best guy friend. i dont want to say anything weird, because he has a gf. i really want to get over him, but its really hard because he is the only guy that really really cares about me and protects me. I also dont want his gf to hate me if i 'steal' him from her. I cant talk to him either because then it would ruin the amazing friendship we already have

[Amazonboy]

I Don't Know What To Do
I've had a crush on a girl named cat for about a year. She is in the grade above me, she's in same sport as I am (crew), and we are in practically all the same activities together (for example: the school play, mock trial, and academic tournament).Here's the dilemma, I've asked her to the prom a few months a go and I asked her out about a week ago, both times there were no nos and yet no yeses. When I asked her to the prom she said that she would love to, but she was already going with Jay (one of her best guy friends). I understood and we both went to the prom and in the end even danced together. A few months later I asked her out,and I said would you like to catch a movie sometime this summer, and she replied that she's too busy this summer. I really don't know how to take any of this. On the one hand she definitely like me as a friend and we have a lot of fun together, on the other hand she has turned me down twice. I really don't understand. Is she really that busy this summer or is she trying to let me down easy. Does she like me in that way, not in that way, or not at all? I need help I just don't know what to do about this situation.

[I<3NiallHoran]

My friends and I were going to a dance for our school. I was going with my amazing boyfriend that i loved with all my heart. Well, i got sick the day before the dance, so i couldn't go. In the middle of the dance, my BFF texted me and said she saw my boyfriend kissing his ex-girlfriend! I talked to him about it and he said she was the one who kissed him, not the other way around. He apologized, but when i was hanging out with him at his house he kept texting her! What should i do, because i still really love him but i don't want to date someone who likes his ex. HELP!!!

[Sharpie ™]

I fell for my best guy friend. Like the smart person I am, I told him. Turned out he liked me too. that lasted about a month and a half. Then he said he just wanted to be friends. That broke my heart and crushed my soul. And our friendship barely survived. Now (five months later) I'm still hopelessly in love with him while he likes another girl who will most likely not like him by the end of the summer. What do I do?

[pizzas and scream]

i don't bond well and I also want someone pretty, but those slim pretty ones are rare, underage, or do not like females. I am also a terrible person and do not want a female to male transexual lover

and i want to force myself to have an easy heart and just get affectionate and bond easy and date to get to know people and not have the "i had a best buddy for 6 years, now we're lovers"

because I should of done that at 13 but I was just into stupid things at 13, as if I were 9.

how do I force myself to be differnt or not care or be the kind who open dating site accounts and date someone and get to know them and feed them and touch and hug and suck on their hair with love.

because that is a normal when you are older.

I wish I could rewind and be like normal from the begining. I am hating life for that.

guys only made fun of me thoughout school. I was to weird as if i had a mental defect. all of you should be so thankful that your young lives play out like on a tv show. I wish I had the "i'm 11 and my school yard crush is starting to like me"

I had guys tell me their dog's butt would not even want me.

and ugly, I want someone pretty to like me. I don't want fat, ugly guys liking me. it feels like without a doubt there is no god because of that.

[s y n]

-I also posted this on the crushes, boyfriends, and girlfriends thread-

confuzzled :s

so, to update, A and I are no longer together. Yeah, that's right. The "perfect couple" broke up. How did it happen? Well my ex-boyfriend M messaged me on Facebook and told me that A was hanging out at his house with his sister and a bunch of other friends the night before, and he told me that A had told his sister that he didn't like me in that way anymore but he still wanted to be friends so he didn't want to break up with me. I had to confirm this, so I texted A, and this was our conversation:

Me: You don't like me anymore?
A: What?
Me: [M'snamehere] told me what you said to his sister.
A: Oh...
Me: So it's true?
A: I just think that we're better as friends than as a couple.
Me: Why?
A: Well we act more like friends.
Me: Not really, but okay.
A: I just want to be friends.

I was pretty upset for a while, but then after I told E (my BFF) she and I had the most hilarious conversation that I totally forgot all about it and she made me not even care. So then, the next day, which was yesterday, I was texting HD (the guy that I was best friends with who is a year older than me, I snuck out to go see him once, we ended up making out /Iregretnothing) in the morning and he had made me feel better about the break up and we planned on hanging out later. So then one of my other BFF's K texted me and said him and R (who is such a BFF to me that he's more like a brother) were going swimming and he invited me to come with. I went along swimming with them and ended up texting A. After our texting conversation, I stopped talking to him so that I could go in the pool with K and R.

And not too long after I left, only a couple of hours in fact, A was begging me to take him back. I told him that I had to think about it. At like nine PM, HD texted me and asked if I could hang out. Five minutes later we laughing so loud that the people in 7-11 were staring at us xD. Then we left and we went walking around on the outskirts of town, where nobody ever really went. We ended up walking into a huge abandoned field surrounding by trees on all sides. A once again texted me begging me to take him back, but I was having too much fun and I didn't want to reply to him because I just wanted to let go of the stress, and HD was helping me to do that.

It was a pretty great night, and now I don't know what to do.
HD and I aren't going to date. I know that for a fact. I don't know what you'd call us, but we're more like non-sexual friends with non-sexual benefits, I guess you could say XD. I don't know what to do about A; He texted me when I got home and said (and I quote, I'm typing exactly what the text says): "K, please go out with me. I really want you back and I made a big mistake on breaking up with you so please... I really, really, really want you back because now I don't know what to do... I'm lost without you." And then I asked him why he couldn't have been like that when we were together and he said, "Because I was dumb and didn't think about it but please just one more chance. I promise I won't screw this one up." and then I told him that I wasn't sure and he said, "I want you back... No, I need you back. I love you more than anything and it tears me apart to know that you're not my girl anymore. You mean the world to me, and I can't believe I was stupid enough to let you go."
And now he texted me this morning and asked if I'd decided yet, but I haven't replied.

What should I do? Should I take him back?
;-;

[Smamm]

My boyfriend is really shy. I don't know what to do about it though. I want to be able to hug him when he is feeling upset about something but I don't really know how to approach him in a way that lets him know that I am there for him. What do I do?

Just tell him privately... He's your boyfriend for goodness sake; you should be able to talk to him. If he needs a hug, give it to him. It's not a relationship if you aren't friends with your significant other, and being friends entitles a whole list of things (including talking to the person and being able to hug them). If you can't, maybe reconsider what your relationship even is. I'm not sure if I just misread what you meant by all this, but if I did, then maybe clarify a bit more next time. ^^

i have a crush on my best guy friend. i dont want to say anything weird, because he has a gf. i really want to get over him, but its really hard because he is the only guy that really really cares about me and protects me. I also dont want his gf to hate me if i 'steal' him from her. I cant talk to him either because then it would ruin the amazing friendship we already have

This is a tricky situation. I would just wait until things go south with his girlfriend. Chances are, it isn't going to last forever (or very long for that matter). Just enjoy being friends for now! Being friends doesn't mean you can't "flirt" or have fun! ^^ Once things end with his girl, maybe work things out from there. Test the waters. Try and see if you notice a change in him that suggests any interest in you. See if nothing changes.

If nothing changes, don't get too upset. There are lots of other boys you're going to meet, and sometimes a really good friendship is better in the long run. Relationships don't last as long as friendships at this age from my experience; so i know I'd rather take the friend over the relationship. Also, try not to worry about that lust. You can only like someone for so long before you get tired of the unreciprocated feelings.

I Don't Know What To Do
I've had a crush on a girl named cat for about a year. She is in the grade above me, she's in same sport as I am (crew), and we are in practically all the same activities together (for example: the school play, mock trial, and academic tournament).Here's the dilemma, I've asked her to the prom a few months a go and I asked her out about a week ago, both times there were no nos and yet no yeses. When I asked her to the prom she said that she would love to, but she was already going with Jay (one of her best guy friends). I understood and we both went to the prom and in the end even danced together. A few months later I asked her out,and I said would you like to catch a movie sometime this summer, and she replied that she's too busy this summer. I really don't know how to take any of this. On the one hand she definitely like me as a friend and we have a lot of fun together, on the other hand she has turned me down twice. I really don't understand. Is she really that busy this summer or is she trying to let me down easy. Does she like me in that way, not in that way, or not at all? I need help I just don't know what to do about this situation.

To be completely honest with you, it sounds like what I would do to try and let a guy down easy. Most of us really don't want to hurt your feelings, because we know how it feels (and of course we don't like rejection either), but we don't want to get into something out of not wanting to hurt you. So... we try to be nice about it. However, it seems we give mixed messages.

I would personally just say to move on and stay friends with her. There are plenty other girls out there. ^^

I fell for my best guy friend. Like the smart person I am, I told him. Turned out he liked me too. :) that lasted about a month and a half. Then he said he just wanted to be friends. That broke my heart and crushed my soul. And our friendship barely survived. Now (five months later) I'm still hopelessly in love with him while he likes another girl who will most likely not like him by the end of the summer. What do I do?

Just stay friends, look for other guys. As I mentioned to someone else, you're only going to like someone for so long before you get tired of the unreciprocated feelings. It may take some time, but the wanting will go away with time. I wouldn't go the route of trying to butt into his current affairs, and instead move on. If he's not interested enough in you at the time being, he's not worth it hun. <3 You deserve someone who wants you and only you. It'll happen eventually.