Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[~IronRose~]

That is what makes you, well you. Just keep being yourself and see where it goes from there.

[smileyalways]

Worst. Day. EVER. well it wasn't so much as the day more like 10th period. Here's what happened, i was doing my work and talking to my friends then zoned out while i was looking out the window then my friend-ish person said "You and X should go out." I protested, but it gets worse and worse and even more worse. She calls him over and whispers in his ear and i'm pretty sure she said"Do you like smiley?" At that point i tried to zone out what they were saying but caught a few bits such as

-"well do you?"

-"Just tell us!"

-He said no.

"are you lying?"

-(they lol'd) You're turning red!

and at thast point he went back to his seat in which my friendish person kept asking us if we wanted to go out i repeatly said no, i did not here what he said, then the FP says "X asked you out." I think she was lying. anyway to make a long story short there is now a rumor going on that i am going out with this guy that i(maybe) don't even like. and he might like me.
*sigh* geez what am i supposed to do now? T_T

[ephemeral.light]

Posted this on the Young Adults Thread for help, what do you all think though?

I got to go with my crush and his family and mine to a concert tonight (Friday), I was sitting by him, it was really fun, he put his arm around my chair and my family member (who is usually mentioned when I post on here as I am always with him and my crush) and pulled our chairs closer to him. He also asked if I know how to dance, I don't and I told him that I never had, he then asked if I even knew how to slow dance, I said no, after that he said I had a lot to learn, I kinda hope he will ask if I'd like him to teach me or if I'd like to dance which is hugely wishful thinking.

What I'd like to know is how do you know if a guy likes you? I asked on the crushes/boyfriends/girlfriends thread but I don't really want to watch a video to know, I wanted to know what you all think, hope that makes since and any response is really welcome and hugely thanked for!

Today (Sunday) he sat by me in Church as well which is fairly rare and I love it when it happens, he sang today since we were at Church and he has a great voice, also he is a really good Christian which means a lot to me, Could someone help me know if he likes me or not?

There's a lot of signs, and it really depends on what his personality is. If someone likes you, they would tend to look at you a lot and look away when they notice you watching them. If they're outgoing, they may smile at you often and offer to help you [ from small things such as carrying textbooks around to larger things like fixing a computer or helping you with your homework ]. :3

[Kecko]

Posted this on the Young Adults Thread for help, what do you all think though?

I got to go with my crush and his family and mine to a concert tonight (Friday), I was sitting by him, it was really fun, he put his arm around my chair and my family member (who is usually mentioned when I post on here as I am always with him and my crush) and pulled our chairs closer to him. He also asked if I know how to dance, I don't and I told him that I never had, he then asked if I even knew how to slow dance, I said no, after that he said I had a lot to learn, I kinda hope he will ask if I'd like him to teach me or if I'd like to dance which is hugely wishful thinking.

What I'd like to know is how do you know if a guy likes you? I asked on the crushes/boyfriends/girlfriends thread but I don't really want to watch a video to know, I wanted to know what you all think, hope that makes since and any response is really welcome and hugely thanked for!

Today (Sunday) he sat by me in Church as well which is fairly rare and I love it when it happens, he sang today since we were at Church and he has a great voice, also he is a really good Christian which means a lot to me, Could someone help me know if he likes me or not?

There's a lot of signs, and it really depends on what his personality is. If someone likes you, they would tend to look at you a lot and look away when they notice you watching them. If they're outgoing, they may smile at you often and offer to help you [ from small things such as carrying textbooks around to larger things like fixing a computer or helping you with your homework ]. :3

Ok thanks! This helps a lot!

[arcticwolf]

I know that it sounds cheesy and the words are overused, but it really is true. I felt the same way and put up with my first boyfriend abusing me for nearly a year (and he dumped me) because I was so afraid I would never find another guy.

Since the guy I may or may not be falling for goes to church with one of my friends (we've been friends since preschool, I believe), I think it would be nice to start going. My parents and I went to church when I was younger, but I caused chaos and we kinda got kicked out (lmao), so we never went back. My mom would like to start again, but my dad doesn't so it would be a good oppurtunity for me to spend time with my friend who I very rarely see out of school, see Michael, and have the experience of church.

Problem is, the guy knows I like him (thank you so much, friends. Love you too). I don't think he even knows my last name, and I just found out his the other day. I had never seen him before this year, and never even spoke a word to him until last week. He's given me high fives (he's the kind of guy who gives out free hugs); once when we passed each other in the hall. :'3 Err, sorry; Didn't mean to ramble. To get to the point, I'm afraid I'll seem like a stalker/creepy girl if I start going to church out of the blue because I sort of like him, when I barely know him. (Does that make sense?)

I don't know if he's allowed to date. His parents work at a Christian school so they may be strict on such things(not stereotyping, I'm Christian myself), and he's a grade younger than me. Yet he absolutely dwarfs me in height. He's got to be almost, if not, 6 foot tall while I'm 4'9". xD

[Nimble Awesomeness]

EDITishthing: Posting this so some people can get help, I didn't have time to reply to everyone. xc So sorry. I'll do it as soon as I get back. <3

Oh my goshness guys, I am SO incredibly sorry for not replying to all these posts. X.X I feel terrible. Anyways, I sifted through and found all these, so har har.

Also, if you look in my siggy I'm going to be gone for w few days. 8c Firework, Imperfect, Nellie and Space Ferrari are in charge while I'm gone. Don't let me come home to a wreck guys, lol. And try to reply to everyone. MY BABIES NEED HALP. 8'c

this is my first post, so I'm a bit nervous. :(

Well, I kinda fancy a guy and I think he likes me, but I'm not sure. I might get a friend to ask him out for me, but then it might seem like I can't be bothered...
Plus I'm too shy / socially awkward to ask him out myself.

Please help / advice? :?

Have you looked on the front page? :) I wrote up a nice, long, detailed post in the FAQ about asking someone out. It should help you out tons. Please don't get your friend to ask him out. You can overcome your shyness! I know you can! Just think about how much you like him; that alone should be enough to get you to march up to him, ask him out and get a straight, surprised yes. I hope the tips on the front page help, and if you need any more advice after reading those then feel free to ask again. Good luck!

When a guy pinches/squeezes your waste or play fight with you or all of the above does that mean he likes you?

Lol, oh yeah. That's adorable. xD

But yes, when a guy likes you he will play fight with you. A lot. :3

hey ;)
finallly someone asked me to go out with him .... but I don´t know if it will get something serious...

my question is: what do you talk about on the first date? I´m scared that we´ll probably just sit there and stare at each other... :/
coul s.o. give me a tipp maybe, who has got more expirience than me? thank you :p

Well, what do you talk about when you're hanging out with your best friend? Just relax, it's not as big of a deal as you think it is. Just talk to him about his day. His likes, his dislikes. What are his hobbies? If he plays a sport and he's in season, ask him how his last game went. Talk to him as if you were greeting a friend you haven't seen in a while. It's really not as hard as you think, and it's only awkward if you make it awkward.

Ohgodgodgodgod.
Nearly everybody knows that I like J... What shall I do? they might tell him, and I don't know if he likes me back...

If everybody knows, it doesn't matter if they tell him. :P

But Acidic, I really should tell you this. I've been reading all of your posts on this thread, and from what I can tell by putting them all together is that you're a little bit clingy. I'm really not trying to be mean here. If you really want J to like you, play hard to get. Most guys (meaning almost all of them) love a good chase. It's not just something they say, it's true. Playing hard to get doesn't really work when guys do it, but when girls do it they'll be all over you. I liked this one guy for a little bit; he hardly talked to me. Then, as soon as we became friends and I made it clear that I wasn't interested, he started liking me. It seems a bit cruel, but it's really how it works.

Just lay off him a bit. Don't text him, let him text you. Don't make so many offers to hang out. Don't talk to him so much. Don't make much physical contact. The best way to get a guys attention is being quiet rather than loud. I don't mean volume wise (though I slightly do) I mean action wise. Don't act like you like him. When someone is teasing him, don't really defend him. (I mean playful teasing, not actual bullying. If he's being bullied get a teacher or adult.) I'm not saying totally ignore him. Just don't throw yourself at him.

I'm really sorry if I offended you in any way, but I mean what I'm saying. I hope this helps you though, I want you and J to be together. Good luck!

I have a problem:
This guy I have had a crush on a while. He, thought, likes some other popular girl (he's easy to read, and his sister's are some of my friends). I've tried to forget about him, and I tell myself all the time that he's not my type and stuff like that, but everytime I see him, my hearts start to pound and I get really nervous. What should I do?!?!!?

There's not much you can do. You feel how you feel. It's ok that you have a crush on him though. A crush is near nothing; as long as you don't act on it you can fantasize about him all your want. It's your head. Don't feel bad about liking him until they're in a relationship. Then come back. Because until then, you've still got a shot at him. :) Hope this helped a bit, sorry it's so short.

I think this guy might like me...
I've watched the videos, and they've helped and confused me. :?
I'm too nervous to ask him out though, yet too impatient too see if he asks me.
Help??

Well, there are more videos now, so you should go check them out! How did they confuse you? Please, feel free to ask any questions. Also on the front page, How to talk to guys. There's loads of tips for that. Good luck!

ok so i really like this guy, but im pretty sure he thinks im a freak
he makes me do really weird things, like falling into a rubbish bin, dropping my lunch tray ect.
the most recent time he was wiping spaghetti off my face (it was my lunch), he said it was cute how im always so clumsy
so like what does this mean?
he also asked me to dance with him at the dance, right before i fell into the punch bowl...
god i sound stupid!
anyway can somebody help me get more courage to next time actually AVOID the rubbish bin?
thanx, and stay cool, ottoelvis xoxoxxx ;)

Yikes, that is pretty bad. For one thing, don't wear high heels because you might kill yourself. For the other thing, yes, he so likes you. Any guy that says ruining your own lunch is cute likes you. xD And no, you don't sound stupid. Just clumsy. I'm kinda laughing right now, I'm sorry. xc But yeah, he likes you. Have you read the FAQ on the front page? There are some great tips for asking someone out (Or just talking to people, really. They can be applied to almost any situation in which you need to calm down.). I suggest that you go read those. If you have any more questions, feel free to PM me or post here again. :) Good luck, hope I helped! I'm sure you'll do fine.

Well, it's pretty much a month until I will have been seeing Glasses for an entire year.
It sure doesn't feel like it's been a year... I can't tell you how glad I am that he's stuck with me for so long, though.
Not really sure what to do... unfortunately the day (May 29th) is a Monday so I don't have many options. Was thinking about buying Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides and taking it over to his house to watch since our first date was seeing that in the theater, but then again that seems cheesy.
I could always spend the weekend at his place, but that isn't really "new" anymore.
Anyone have any creative ideas?

D'aww, go with the cheesy! Cheesy is always the best. c8 That's so adorable. I'm like, squeaking from cuteness overload. If you really don't want to do cheesy though...How about take him to Build A Bear Workshop and make teddy bears of each other? That one is always adorable. Then you have a Glasses bear and he has a Ferrari bear, and you spray your perfume on Ferrari-Bear and have him spray his clongne(sp?) on Glasses-Bear. :3 Oh my gosh, that would be so awesome. :D You could buy Glasses-Bear little glasses to wear. 8'D

I NEED MAJOR HELP!!!

Okay, so there is this total whore at my school, and somehow every time she can see I have a crush, she asks them out. (and of course they say yes, because she is a slut and they think they will get "lucky") Anyways, I don't tell her I like them she just.....knows. And it all started with a really cute guy named Elias. I had a major crush on him.....not stalking though......that's creepy. So after maybe 3 weeks she says "Hey you like Elias?" I didn't think anything of it, but then she walks up to him and says "Wanna go out with me??" (of course she is trying to act as "sexy" as possible) And like I said, the answer was yes. Three weeks after that she asks out a guy named Sebastian, whom I was majorly crushing on. So, any advice on how I could make that bullcrap stop?? If so, please PM me, it's a lot easier for me to check up on. :)

P.S. If this happens to any of you please let me know!! :thumbup:

-Love, Merely_Human

:U She must be like, an evil me. Always knowing who's crushing on who, but instead of helping them she just asks them out. ...I have an evil twin! 8'D Confront her. This cannot go on. Tell her you're sick of it, and you won't stand for it. She's mostly doing it because she can; you don't do anything to stop her. So do something to stop her. Ask the guy you like out before she does, simple as that.

Hey, I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I just felt that we were too different and we needed to see other people because we're both young teens and this is the time to go out and meet people and get an idea of what it's like and that kind of stuff. I feel bad now because he liked me a lot but I didn't like him much anymore and I feel like I really hurt him. :( I thought that I would be relieved because it was the right thing to do, and I was for a while, but I only feel guilty now. I know that I'm over him, but I'm still afraid that he's not over me. I'm afraid to like other guys because I know he might still be hurt. What do I do?

Any breakup is going to leave someone upset, even if it was a thing you both agreed on. You did the right thing; if you didn't like him, you did him a favor. You have to give him time to get over it. Of course you really hurt him, but sooner or later he's going to realize that you helped him, and he'll forgive you. He will get over it. Don't rush him and don't feel guilty. Only time can heal his pain right now. It sounds cheesy, but it's so true. Hope this helped! :)

Posted this on the Young Adults Thread for help, what do you all think though?

I got to go with my crush and his family and mine to a concert tonight (Friday), I was sitting by him, it was really fun, he put his arm around my chair and my family member (who is usually mentioned when I post on here as I am always with him and my crush) and pulled our chairs closer to him. He also asked if I know how to dance, I don't and I told him that I never had, he then asked if I even knew how to slow dance, I said no, after that he said I had a lot to learn, I kinda hope he will ask if I'd like him to teach me or if I'd like to dance which is hugely wishful thinking.

What I'd like to know is how do you know if a guy likes you? I asked on the crushes/boyfriends/girlfriends thread but I don't really want to watch a video to know, I wanted to know what you all think, hope that makes since and any response is really welcome and hugely thanked for! :)

Today (Sunday) he sat by me in Church as well which is fairly rare and I love it when it happens, he sang today since we were at Church and he has a great voice, also he is a really good Christian which means a lot to me, Could someone help me know if he likes me or not? :)

Yeah, I think he likes you. :P Need I say more?

Anyway, heres my problem:

Im really serious and quiet and smart. So, not many no boys like me. I want to be happier and bubbly, but I cant. I just end up looking serious again. I want to be the pretty, happy, dont-care-what-anyone-says girl thats smart and athletic.
Its not working:
I dont DO sports.
I love to read.
I have acne. (Yuck.)
Im really sensitive.
I need to lighten up.

1. Get into sports! Join a gym, start going on runs! You CAN be sporty, it just takes a little effort! You can't possibly be sporty right off the bat (Lol, bat) but you work your way up to it and BAM! Sports maniac! You've just got for work for it. If you have a wii, do wii fit. Ride your bike more. Start doing little things and you'll start to build up more strength!
2. Reading isn't a bad thing ;)
3. Proactive! I've heard good things about it! :D
4./5. Not much you can do about those, they're personality traits. Try watching Monty Python, that'll cheer you up. :lol:

And you know what, being you is fine. A lot of guys prefer serious girls; bubbly girls just annoy them. We need more serious girls in this world! Don't try to be someone else, don't change for anyone else. (Unless it's for the better, like...I dunno, being addicted to drugs or something xP) Be yourself, and the boys will come running. Also, be patient. You're still young, who says you have to find a guy now?! No, you've got tons of time! Just wait it out, and the right one will come along. The good ones are worth waiting for.

I need help again. -.-

Well, about a month ago, my boyfriend dumped me. By text. Ouch.
He didn't say why.

It's been bugging me ever since, as we'd been going out on & off for 3 years. (yeah, could've been longer, but we're in the second year of high school. :p)

So, I want to find out what happened, so I can move on and put my mind at rest.
But guess what??
When I asked him to tell me, he says "Find out for yourself." I've tried to...
I've asked about 6-7 different people; everyone's given a different answer.
He won't say why, as if he's guarding a dragon's egg or something... All he's done is insulted me and said that I'm a 'female dog'. :'(

Anyone have any ideas to get him to say?

Ouch... That is a burn. Well, honestly, I would just leave it. Guy's a jerk. If he's not gonna tell you, he's not gonna tell you. It is still early, you could wait a bit more before asking him again. Best advice I can give you, drop it or stop bugging him about it. (Not saying you are.) I mean, just don't ask him about it. Let it sit for a week, then ask him again.

But really, be glad that he dumped you. If he really did those things you said he did, it was a act of valor and kindness that he did the job for you. You're really better off without him.

I know that it sounds cheesy and the words are overused, but it really is true. I felt the same way and put up with my first boyfriend abusing me for nearly a year (and he dumped me) because I was so afraid I would never find another guy.

Since the guy I may or may not be falling for goes to church with one of my friends (we've been friends since preschool, I believe), I think it would be nice to start going. My parents and I went to church when I was younger, but I caused chaos and we kinda got kicked out (lmao), so we never went back. My mom would like to start again, but my dad doesn't so it would be a good oppurtunity for me to spend time with my friend who I very rarely see out of school, see Michael, and have the experience of church.

Problem is, the guy knows I like him (thank you so much, friends. Love you too). I don't think he even knows my last name, and I just found out his the other day. I had never seen him before this year, and never even spoke a word to him until last week. He's given me high fives (he's the kind of guy who gives out free hugs); once when we passed each other in the hall. :'3 Err, sorry; Didn't mean to ramble. To get to the point, I'm afraid I'll seem like a stalker/creepy girl if I start going to church out of the blue because I sort of like him, when I barely know him. (Does that make sense?)

I don't know if he's allowed to date. His parents work at a Christian school so they may be strict on such things(not stereotyping, I'm Christian myself), and he's a grade younger than me. Yet he absolutely dwarfs me in height. He's got to be almost, if not, 6 foot tall while I'm 4'9". xD

Well, I wouldn't start going to church just for him. I'm a Christian, and IMO it's a bit disrespectful to use church to get to a guy, even if you are a Christian. It would be great if you started going to church for the sake of going to church and having him as a bonus, but I would advice against it for only his sake. It would be ok if you did it once or twice though, but try to use it as real church and not just flirting with him. (I know how you feel though; I'm so tempted to start going to the church J goes to so I can get closer to him, but that's not really the point of church. Using objects, places and people to get closer to someone isn't the nicest thing to do. But I can relate to you.)

[bugiscool]

When a guy pinches/squeezes your waste or play fight with you or all of the above does that mean he likes you?

Lol, oh yeah. That's adorable. xD

But yes, when a guy likes you he will play fight with you. A lot. :3

Cool. Okay so this is going to look simarlar to fireworks thing with the pros and con about the guy I like and I think he likes me as well.

A= crush
C= friends/ random people.

Pros on A:
•nice
•sweet
•funny
• know I exist (but sometimes A acts like I don't exist. )
• pinches my waist ( well before he sprained his arm now all that play fighting is over till his arm is healed.)
•same grade level as me

Cons about A:
• sometimes he's a jerk face
• goes a bit far on the rough housing (only once where he almost pushed me over)
• not in any of my classes. ( he has a most the axact same classes as me but at different times )






Okay so here are some clues that I got that made me think that A likes me.

So C (friend) had a b day party at a beach. You would think it would be all girls. But C invited two guys. One showed up and the other didn't. The one that showed up was A. Seeing that he kinda didn't know me I was the first person he talked to. When we wantedto go in the water I took off at a sprint towards the sea. I turn around to see all my Friends were slowly walking in the water as they claimed it to be cold. But here I am thinking I'm the only one about to dive in when I look over to see A right beside me. Like he never moved from my side since we stopped talking. We both dived in a splashed very one of my friend. *lol* when I surfaced A was still next to me. At first I was a bit creeped out then I kinda liked having him around. So after we slashed every one we laughed so hard in the water that we didn't see that our friends were about to have their revenge. So padre fly one of my taller friends that were at the party swam behind A and me and totally duncked us under water while we were still laughing. I swam a bit away to prevent getting duncked again and when I resurfaced out of the water A was still next to me. He laughed at me when I couldn't touch the bottom of the ocean floor when he could. So he took the opertunity to dunk me. When I resurfaced again I got this bright idea that I could dunck a guy that was standing flat foot with his head above the water. When I tried he grabbed my arm and somewhat flipped me into the water. (I can never win) then this time when I resurfaced he was gone. Then I saw him about to dunk me so a swam to shore as fast as I could and he was still following me. When we made it made to dry land we played sort of a tag game with just the two of us. My friends didn't care that I was hanging out A more then them because they were more interested in sunning them selfs then actually getting extrsize. So when it was lunch time me and him ate together. Strangely no one joined us do after A was done eating he went over to all the girls (friends) and they all said "uuuuuhhhhh!" like in a strange creepy way. You know when you tell your Besty you have a crush on this guy or girl and every time you pass them in the hall they make this weird sound. Well yay that's what they did. A looked so clueless it wasn't even funny. When I walked over they made the exact same sound except I knew what it ment. So of course A stared at me blankly as if to say that he was totally lost. Then when the party was over all my friend went up to A and asked him if he liked me. Of course I had no idea about it so now I was clueless. He said he didn't like me but he said it in a lieing tone and his face was cherry red. Ever since that party me and him are buds but somewhere deep down I think we both have feelings for each other but I maybe wrong. So do you think I should wait to. Be asked out or ask him out. Myself. He has my number but I don't have his. Oh and also I hope that A will txt me but I give him some slack since he does of course have a sprained arm.

[Kecko]

Posted this on the Young Adults Thread for help, what do you all think though?

I got to go with my crush and his family and mine to a concert tonight (Friday), I was sitting by him, it was really fun, he put his arm around my chair and my family member (who is usually mentioned when I post on here as I am always with him and my crush) and pulled our chairs closer to him. He also asked if I know how to dance, I don't and I told him that I never had, he then asked if I even knew how to slow dance, I said no, after that he said I had a lot to learn, I kinda hope he will ask if I'd like him to teach me or if I'd like to dance which is hugely wishful thinking.

What I'd like to know is how do you know if a guy likes you? I asked on the crushes/boyfriends/girlfriends thread but I don't really want to watch a video to know, I wanted to know what you all think, hope that makes since and any response is really welcome and hugely thanked for!

Today (Sunday) he sat by me in Church as well which is fairly rare and I love it when it happens, he sang today since we were at Church and he has a great voice, also he is a really good Christian which means a lot to me, Could someone help me know if he likes me or not?

Yeah, I think he likes you. Need I say more?

Yay! Thanks so much for the help!

[Acidic]

I NEED MAJOR HELP!!!

Okay, so there is this total whore at my school, and somehow every time she can see I have a crush, she asks them out. (and of course they say yes, because she is a slut and they think they will get "lucky") Anyways, I don't tell her I like them she just.....knows. And it all started with a really cute guy named Elias. I had a major crush on him.....not stalking though......that's creepy. So after maybe 3 weeks she says "Hey you like Elias?" I didn't think anything of it, but then she walks up to him and says "Wanna go out with me??" (of course she is trying to act as "sexy" as possible) And like I said, the answer was yes. Three weeks after that she asks out a guy named Sebastian, whom I was majorly crushing on. So, any advice on how I could make that bullcrap stop?? If so, please PM me, it's a lot easier for me to check up on. :)

P.S. If this happens to any of you please let me know!! :thumbup:

-Love, Merely_Human

I got a really good plan for you.
Pretend to really like someone, like, super like. Tell her you have a crush on him, and watch her ask him out. Then you can continue secretly crushing on your main crush!
OR
Find out who she likes, ask him out and give her a taste of her own medicine. <3

[boat]

Umm... Someone just asked me out. I don't really like them, but saying no would be rude... What should I do?