Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Squid-a-roni]

Okay so my crush who is my best friends guy friend likes my best friend .He told me today.I was so sad because i liked him and she does not like him and he does not know i like him.I am upset because he said it directly to me and made me promise not to tell her but i am still sad.

[loonyloolaluna]

I've been posting this for a while.
And no-body has given me a straight answer.
I have kept my patience. But it's my turn to get some help.

Should I tell the guy I like, that I like him?

I could risk a great friendship if I do.
Or if he likes me too (TUI AD: yeah right) and we end up dating ... what would happen if a 14 year old and a 16 year old date?

It depends, does he act like he also likes you as well? If he does, I would mention to him that you like him, even though it might be risky. And if you are afraid that it will ruin a friendship, it don't think it will. Ive seen friends ask their friend if they like them, and if they say no, they shake it off and still are friends. Besides, true friends will never have something like that ruin a friendship c: .
Ive dated a 16 year old when I was 14, and it was fine. Im 15 and im dating a 17 year old right now, and we are as happy as we can be. I don't think there should be more then a two year difference though in age.

Thank you.
FOR BEING THE FIRST PERSON TO GIVE ME A STRAIGHT ANSWER.
We've like met face to face 5 times ...

(must do this sorry.
28/03? before mufti day (where you can wear normal citizen clothes, and no uniform) asked about my brother
30/03 Mufti day. wearing his 'sexy' cardi(gan) - as in he got the bottom of the shirt, and pulled it over the top of the shirt ...
03/04 After where he was talking to my friends. - THEN (same day) i'm waiting with my friend, and he passes, and does a wavey wave
10/04 Then I ask to meet up with him in the hols.

But we talk on fb all the time :3)

Thing is, idk if he likes me either.
But according to Dan/Tom's gay love child he kinda seems to.

I've been planning how I want to tell him I like him (note: I've said to him 'wangobalwime?' (read Goblet of Fire)):
Me: birdie! Hey!
birdie: Oh hey.
Me: Remember when I said wangobalwime?
birdie: ... yes?
Me: Tell me what it means tomorrow
Ill text you how to spell it
birdie: okay?
Me: Sweet *leaves*
*THAT NIGHT*
via text: Me: It's spelt 'Wangoballwime' - Google it.
... hopefully I don't get a text, I kinda wanted to do it that night
*NEXT DAY*
Me: So you find out what it means?
birdie: When Harry askes Cho if she wants to go to the ball with him.
Me: Correct
birdie: And he get stood down.
Me: Yeah, poor fella ...
Well, that was my subtle way of telling you that I like you.
birdie: *le unknown response*
*POSITIVE RESPONSE*
Me: Awesome *continue talking?*
*NOT THE GREAT OF A RESPONSE*
Me: *shrugs* That's cool *leaves*

[l<3ve]

Listening to Adele and Queen. A great way to cheer up an empty and broken heart! ( Long story short: I like guy, guy doesn't like me, I'm sad because nobody at school likes me, just found out that guy USED to like me!) ugh. Young love. I hate it at the moment!

If anybody's going through the same thing, please Pm me and we can cheer each other up, haha! Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on!

[bugiscool]

Okay so this is an update on my last post.Key:
A=crush
B= Crush friend
C= my friend

Okay so my friend and me were going throught the lunch line. I followed C to a table and i sit down and start talking to her. Then i look up an A was right infront of me. Like if i streach my arm out i would be tounching his face. At first i thought he just sat down, but he was already eating and almost down. I stared at C for a while. C Shrugged and said, "He's my friend too." So i sat at the table and A would through a couple glaces at me. I would return them, but A did nothing. When A and B left i looked at C and said, "Really?" C nodded and smiled, "Your face was conpletly red when B said that the soccer team girls said that A was hot." I stared at her, "No it didn't "Oh yes it did." My friend obessly did that on purpose, but now i'm more confused. A was looking at me and i know that for a fact. So now what do i ask my friend to ask A if he likes me or do it myself? Please help.

Thanks for the help!

[loonyloolaluna]

Okay so this is an update on my last post.Key:
A=crush
B= Crush friend
C= my friend

Okay so my friend and me were going throught the lunch line. I followed C to a table and i sit down and start talking to her. Then i look up an A was right infront of me. Like if i streach my arm out i would be tounching his face. At first i thought he just sat down, but he was already eating and almost down. I stared at C for a while. C Shrugged and said, "He's my friend too." So i sat at the table and A would through a couple glaces at me. I would return them, but A did nothing. When A and B left i looked at C and said, "Really?" C nodded and smiled, "Your face was conpletly red when B said that the soccer team girls said that A was hot." I stared at her, "No it didn't "Oh yes it did." My friend obessly did that on purpose, but now i'm more confused. A was looking at me and i know that for a fact. So now what do i ask my friend to ask A if he likes me or do it myself? Please help.

Thanks for the help!

I'd probably say do it yourself
do what it says on the first page.
I'm about to tell my crush I like him ... and I've planned out how to do it.
I recommend the same for you.

Listening to Adele and Queen. A great way to cheer up an empty and broken heart! ( Long story short: I like guy, guy doesn't like me, I'm sad because nobody at school likes me, just found out that guy USED to like me!) ugh. Young love. I hate it at the moment!

If anybody's going through the same thing, please Pm me and we can cheer each other up, haha! Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on!

Broken hearts SUCK, don't they?
Gone through it twice ...

Okay so my crush who is my best friends guy friend likes my best friend .He told me today.I was so sad because i liked him and she does not like him and he does not know i like him.I am upset because he said it directly to me and made me promise not to tell her but i am still sad.

That's sad, that your crush likes your best friend.
I haven't exactly been in this situation.
But my friend has.
She liked this dude, and the dude liked another one of my friends.
the friend that liked him ended up dating him.
So who know, you might have a happily ever after as well
(though her relationship went no further than holding hand -.-' but I think that's just he was clueless)
probably tell him. (on the first page too)

(This made my day)


G'night Jeff Don't forget to drink water, you stupidhead XD.


10:08pm
Thanx Ally! I feel loved? Bye
forget the ?

Ahw! That sounds adorable!

i havent had a crush for 2 months.... my bff stole my last one, so like i dont like him anymore

Why should it matter if you and a friend liked the same guy?
Me and my friend both fancied this guy (She was still dating her ex bf and I was single, I ended up dating the dude. Wasnt too great, we broke up 3 weeks later - he was too immature)
It's okay to like the same persona s your friend
Just as long as you don't have a bf/gf
or it's your friends bf/gf
2 months without liking someone? I'm jealous! I haven't gone 2 weeks without liking someone for 8 years!

ffff.

I feel so loneley. I havent had a crush in months.

Whats wrong with me? D:<

Nothing's wrong with you. Maybe everyone that you meet are just jerks.... XD

Thats about right... -.-

As I said: months without liking someone? I'm jealous! I haven't gone 2 weeks without liking someone for 8 years!
I love too much ...
anywhom. Yeah, I don't like many guys at my school. Or rather in my age group. They're all half-finished-looking-D!(|($-that-are-too-stuck-up-and-immature-8@$%@RD$ -.-
But if you WANT to like somebody. Go to the mall. Stalk a guy. Lol kidding, join an outside school group. For example: I do ATC and I like a guy there.
Or if you're too lazy to join some other place. Go somewhere with your friends. Find someone that could be worth a fancy. And follow him INCONSPICUOUSLY. Then later try find out his name, and cell number ...
I'm not too sure one that second idea though
Or just be free. Enjoy your freedom. It won't always last.

There's this person in my class, and I always find him looking at me. He looks away really quickly when he realizes that I saw him looking at me. He's rather shy and doesn't talk much. When we push past doors, he's usually the one that holds the door for me as well, and he has this little smile every time he does that. We've never talked with one another though. Every time I try to, I always end up not doing it. I guess I should get around to it sometime.

But then his friends are all pushing him towards another girl. Whenever he hears it, he just shakes his head with an expressionless face then shoots a quick glance at me.

What does this mean, and does he like me?

I could possibly mean he likes you.
If I was in your shoes, and a shy guy was opening doors for me, and looking at me alot, I'd think he likes me.
But watch the youtube vid's on the first page ... and see if that dude is doing the other things that you can tell that he likes you (if that makes sense)
But it's good (sad to say) that you turned him down - because you have a bf.

I knew it.

I knew it, guys... I knew it...

--

I didn't want B to know that I liked him because I thought it would ruin our friendship. And I thought he liked me too though...

But some brat that I told, or more like she just figured out (because I don't trust her with anything...), told him... And now! He's different around me!

My bestie likes him too. We don't catfight over him though.
And... But... He's hanging out with her MORE because he thinks SHE doesn't like HIM.
BUT SHE DOES! D:

She knows how much I like him and that i've liked him for 6 years.

And I think B is starting to like HB (my bestie)-
Im.... just really torn about this...

She, again, knows how much I uber like him. If he asks her out and she says yes, it'll crush me forever.

:c I really need help..
What does this, right here, mean? That I think he figured out and doesn't like me as much now? Is he just hiding his feelings for me/being shy about it because he's afraid or anything? Because before he was full-blown crushy-acting around me, and now he's just stopped...
And is hanging around HB more...

BUT. I forgot a part.
B has a girlfriend?
D: But they don't even talk to eacother anymore.

Maybe I should ask him who he likes...
Just maybe..

I really need help :c Im really torn about this...

Well, maybe tell your bestie that if B does ask her out ...
Well explain to her about how you feel for B, and that it would just break your heart.
I know it's the guilt game ... but I don't think your bestie wants to lose her bestie either!
I wonder who told B that you like him! It's not fair! And not cool!
When I realized I like cheese, I told my friend, and some girls over heard, and told him. Then they showed me to him ... So he'd know how I looked like -.-' I hate those girls ...
If it was your bestie that told him that you like him ... I would tell B that she like him. But let us not fight fire with fire, she could get mad at you.
Okay, here's a plan.
Find out if B still has a girlfriend.
Sort it between you and your bestie who can have B ... or B can choose (I have a feeling B might choose your friend though -.-)
And ... I'm not sure if that's too helpful.
That's kinda a sticky situation ...
Maybe Nimble Love can help you out.

[bugiscool]

I'd probably say do it yourself
do what it says on the first page.
I'm about to tell my crush I like him ... and I've planned out how to do it.
I recommend the same for you.

Okay thanks,now i'm stumped again (When do i ask him, What do i say?) yes i know i'm wierd.

[loonyloolaluna]

I'd probably say do it yourself
do what it says on the first page.
I'm about to tell my crush I like him ... and I've planned out how to do it.
I recommend the same for you.

Okay thanks,now i'm stumped again (When do i ask him, What do i say?) yes i know i'm wierd.

You're not weird.
Probably do it on a friday, so he can think it over in the weekend.
try do it as late as you can - while still being face to face with him.
Ask for a minute of his time. and say 'I like you.' don't forget to make eye contact.

If he shifts or looks uncomfortable, break the contact, look down or to a side.
If he looks at you, keep looking. Smile.
If he says 'sorry I don't like you' or a not that great of a responce. Just say 'that's cool' smile, shrug, and go to what you were doing before (like work or walking home ..)
If he says 'really?' just go 'yup' or 'really.' something along those lines, and smile.
If he says 'I like you too.' smile and hug him.

Or do what it says on the first page.
But I still think do it on a Friday, the last chance you got to see him that week.

[Proud violent zealot]

I can’t believe I’m writing here, but here goes. There’s a boy, who I met four years ago when I arrived at my new school. Halfway through that year, I was told that he liked me. I was still at an age where this disgusted me, and I was not very nice to him after that. (I wasn’t mean, just…not nice) But after the year had passed, I began to like him back. The second year, I kept up pretending that I didn’t like him. That was also the year he sent me one of those school fundraiser valentines. The third year…that’s the year we got really close. We both joined an academic after (and before) school activity, which was part of how we got so close in the first place. He would do the sweetest things for me, like getting me chips, and also the not-so-sweet things, such as eating my lunch. (Not that I minded) He even asked to kiss me once, which I declined, (which, of course, I greatly regret) because there were three other people in the car and a parent. The activity was a study group for this competition, and the day of our competition was the day of our first hug. By that time, I considered him one of my best friends. We would email each other back and forth (since I couldn’t text). Have you ever heard of a five-page conversation on email? On Valentine’s Day, he brought me chocolates and a stuffed animal. <3 On the day of track finals, just as I am about to leave, I hear and “wait!” and he’s there, saying good luck and giving me a hug. And now it’s the fourth year, the year we graduate. (From which grade, I will not say, obviously) We are still friends, but something’s different now. In the beginning of the year, we chatted almost every day to eleven or later, and sometimes when we looked at each other at the same time, he would smile and make a heart sign with his hands, (The whole class knew that he liked me somehow and he obviously knows that I know that he likes me) but things are changing now. I don’t know how, I can just feel a difference. It could be the new girl who came this year, which is my strong suspicion. Once, she was leaving and (our class always hugs goodbye) he gave her a hug and say “Text me later, ok?” He hugged her often, but not much lately. I guess not being one of the popular kids doesn’t help either, because they go places together in ‘that group’. It hurt when he confided in her instead of me, so I decided to try and stop liking him. So I avoided him and when I couldn’t, I was guarded and neutral. I don’t know if I was too obvious or he knows me too well, but he could tell something was off. He confronted me and I told him nothing was wrong, and then I got home and broke, because it was too hard. (I had lasted less than a week, show how strong I am :P) So things have come back to somewhat normal. Today I wore his left shoe and he wore mine. (I don’t know why, we do crazy things like that) Yesterday, he sat behind me and braided my hair. I wish I had been braver, but I wasn’t’. I am getting braver now, but it seems like too little too late. I’m stuck and completely unsure now, and I just wanted to relieve myself. It feels pretty nice, actually. Advice is wanted, but I’m not desperate for it.
Thanks to whoever listened to my crazy rambling XD

[bugiscool]

Thank you so so so much. Now I just need to build up some confedence and tell him. ( I'm a shy person)

[loonyloolaluna]

Thank you so so so much. Now I just need to build up some confedence and tell him. ( I'm a shy person)

Alot of us are ...
So, here's some ways to calm your nerves

If you're going to have a day to yourself. USE IT.
First: Text, was is M? (the new guy you like) when you can hang out next
Second: I know it sounds stupid, but clean your room, it will help you calm down.
Third: Maybe go to a spa? Or if that's expensive (which I'm sure is)
Have a nice hot bubblebath, with rose petals (god, not in that way ... rose petals are actually good for skin)
Then have a shower to wash your hair, and since you've been wallowing in your own filth (not saying that as a personal harrasment, just being in a bath is less hygienic than showering)
Then whilst watching some movies, do the ultimate tooth scrub, wash your face very well, put a face mask on (maybe put cucumbers or teabags on your eyes). And let your hair dry naturally.
Then it's time for a pedicure, and a manicure. Soften them up, clean them. Paint your nails.
Shave your legs, and pits too. Or wax ... But also pluck your eye-brows.
Fourth: Sit in a smelly room. A good smelly, like the smell of Roses, or Vanilla, whatever you like. Get some candles, put a small plate under them, and light them. If you have rose scented candles, put some (real) rose petals around the room. If you have vanilla ... good luck finding some vanilla. Don't spray the room with deo - terrible things could happen. Maybe drink some tea aswell, but not too much sugar.
Fifth: Choose what your going to look like, and wear and bring the next time you hang out with that guy you fancy
All that can be done while watching a range of movies, or having a marathon of some kind.
You could invite one of your friends over to do the same. It's always good to have some girl talk.

I'm not saying he'll like you for looking great, and smelling fabulous.
But it helps -.-'
It's just, it makes you feel more confident. And confidence is very sexy.

You don't have to do it this Friday.
Maybe next.
This weekend, do that
On Thursday just take a shower, and sit in the nice smelly, drink some tea. Think over how you're going to tell him.
(so Saturday/Sunday can be the MASSIVE pampering day. On Thursday just a quick clean-up).

Just saying, but I do this before school starts (so the first day of the year/term). It give me super confidence.

I can’t believe I’m writing here, but here goes. There’s a boy, who I met four years ago when I arrived at my new school. Halfway through that year, I was told that he liked me. I was still at an age where this disgusted me, and I was not very nice to him after that. (I wasn’t mean, just…not nice) But after the year had passed, I began to like him back. The second year, I kept up pretending that I didn’t like him. That was also the year he sent me one of those school fundraiser valentines. The third year…that’s the year we got really close. We both joined an academic after (and before) school activity, which was part of how we got so close in the first place. He would do the sweetest things for me, like getting me chips, and also the not-so-sweet things, such as eating my lunch. (Not that I minded) He even asked to kiss me once, which I declined, (which, of course, I greatly regret) because there were three other people in the car and a parent. The activity was a study group for this competition, and the day of our competition was the day of our first hug. By that time, I considered him one of my best friends. We would email each other back and forth (since I couldn’t text). Have you ever heard of a five-page conversation on email? On Valentine’s Day, he brought me chocolates and a stuffed animal. <3 On the day of track finals, just as I am about to leave, I hear and “wait!” and he’s there, saying good luck and giving me a hug. And now it’s the fourth year, the year we graduate. (From which grade, I will not say, obviously) We are still friends, but something’s different now. In the beginning of the year, we chatted almost every day to eleven or later, and sometimes when we looked at each other at the same time, he would smile and make a heart sign with his hands, (The whole class knew that he liked me somehow and he obviously knows that I know that he likes me) but things are changing now. I don’t know how, I can just feel a difference. It could be the new girl who came this year, which is my strong suspicion. Once, she was leaving and (our class always hugs goodbye) he gave her a hug and say “Text me later, ok?” He hugged her often, but not much lately. I guess not being one of the popular kids doesn’t help either, because they go places together in ‘that group’. It hurt when he confided in her instead of me, so I decided to try and stop liking him. So I avoided him and when I couldn’t, I was guarded and neutral. I don’t know if I was too obvious or he knows me too well, but he could tell something was off. He confronted me and I told him nothing was wrong, and then I got home and broke, because it was too hard. (I had lasted less than a week, show how strong I am ) So things have come back to somewhat normal. Today I wore his left shoe and he wore mine. (I don’t know why, we do crazy things like that) Yesterday, he sat behind me and braided my hair. I wish I had been braver, but I wasn’t’. I am getting braver now, but it seems like too little too late. I’m stuck and completely unsure now, and I just wanted to relieve myself. It feels pretty nice, actually. Advice is wanted, but I’m not desperate for it.
Thanks to whoever listened to my crazy rambling XD

THAT. WAS. CUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTE!
Well, it seems like the guy still fancies you!
If you want to date him, why not ask. Say, 'Hey, we're practically dating, why not make it official?'
As you said, probably some bravery could be helpful there.
So, um ... Yeah, do what I quoted myself. That could help. Also, maybe do what it says on the first page.
AKA this -

So, in short, these are my tips for you:

• Keep it short and simple; if you talk too much you might go too fast and your words will jumble together.
• Keep your hands by your sides; don't fiddle.
• Remember to breath; your breaks in your speaking are shorter than you think.
• It's not the end of the world if he says no. If he rejects you, take a deep breath, say "Oh, alright. Thanks anyways," smile, and walk off. Staying cool in rejection is a sure-fire way to keep them running. In your direction. It's sexy to be fine with rejection, and can in fact make him feel a bit unwanted. It might make him feel like he's not worth being sad about being rejected by, so he might change his mind and say yes.
  
  You know how I said it was sexy? It really is. Imagine if you just told someone you didn't like them the way they did you and so you tell them no for a date, would you prefer them saying: "Oh.. Um... Ok... Uh.. Bye.." and awkwardly running off with their eyes tearing up, or would you prefer the one who looks like they know what they're doing when speaking, and after facing utter rejection says: "Oh, alright. Thanks anyways," smiles, and struts away? Much sexier. It'll make you desirable, trust me.

I really hope this helps, and good luck!