Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Thelastsilhouette]

Ummm, I have been going outbwith my boyfriend for 4 months? And well, I like him but he doesnt give me butterflies and we hardly talk, which Im fine with(shouldnt I want to talk with him constantly?) He also lives a ways away so we havent seen eachother in 2 months, which Im also fine with. I feel weird like uim and I are more friends who kiss ya know? I dont really see him as my boyfriend.
Also, I recently started talking to this one guy and I really like talking to him, its weird because I worry more about what this new guy thinks of me more than what my bf does, I talk to this other guy more and I remember more things about this guy.(I have a terrible memory at remembering small things, usually) what should I do to make this new guy like me more so that I know that he likes me?

[Kecko]

The guy I have a crush on no longer has a girlfriend! I'm happy but also feel really bad for him, he really wanted a girlfriend but he was so much fun hanging out with tonight, he started dancing on the Basketball court behind our Church, he's coming over tomorrow!!

[Lizbutt]

@carrie911; Such a late reply, and it seems my boyfriends mother spoke with my mother and his mother wants us to still go to Prom together, because it seems unfair to take away a senior memory.
So I'm crossing my fingers. x^x

[loonyloolaluna]

Hey guys, this is a comment, but I'd much appreciate it if you could help me out on this one.
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First, if you want to know about my love life, click here and type UFO into the search box. - BTW I dumped Dragon, it's been a month.
I know that's alot of info. But if you can help me out that would be very useful to read.
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But anyways: I still like UFO (but he sadly has a gf). And now I like this guy, I'll just call him birdie for now,

Here's a bit about him:
He's year 12 (I'm year 10). Therefore he's 16, and I'm 14 - but I turn 15 before he turns 17!

He plays the guitar, and he said he'd bring it to school one time and play for me
And teach me a 'lil too.
Apparently he sucks at reading and writing. Writing essays too (failed every single one =/).
But on the plus side he can write his own music. 1 is finished - still working on 3. 2 are songs he sings when drunk at parties. 2 are really deep emotional songs.
Prefers to write on stuff - not play other guitarists music.
Been practicing guitar for 5 years (knows a bit of bass).

He's weird. Creeper weird. But he's joking when he does it. Kinda like me. I do this weirdness test on my friends where I first go: 'Hey.' And slide next to them. Repeat the Hey, arm around shoulders. Hey, hug. Hey, up close. Hey, leg under bum. Hey, arm from shoulders now on head. Hey, basically kissing them. IT'S REALLY FUNNY. Anywhom. He's done weirder: On his first encounter with somebody he asked the chick 'Do you like dinosaurs?!' In a Sorry if this is offensive, I'll bleep it out incase R3%@RD voice and when she didn't reply he followed her around for 10 seconds, and she screamed.

He sadly has another problem that I just cannot share. Because it's too personal.

He's not that great with grammar, though he is good at spelling, well better than me.
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I want to tell him I like him, and I've asked three friends:
N - she said "Maybe you should wait, see if it's a lust crush. If it is don't tell."
Moony - "Improve his grammar and perhaps take out the - and getting drunk at parties and I like this guy! You have biffle approval "
S - She likes him aswell, but also said watch out if it's a lust crush. Tbh, I can barely remember his face! I'm looking at him in the yearbook, and going I don't think that's him!
Conclusion: 2 approvals, and a maybe. So, do you think I should tell him?

Pros

Cons

~ Musician (can serenade me???)

~ Age =/

~ Funny

~ Not that smart

~ Seems nice

~ Drinks

~ I don't like him for his looks (can barely remember), but I

~Initials are JM, now I know that sounds dumb, but I've had

like him because he's awesome.

some experience with JM's all of which have been @$$3$.

~ We've talked, and he basically told me he would not

~ If I do tell him, he might end up ignoring me. Like how one

pressure anyone into doing something they don't want

of the other JM's (monkeys) and cheese did.

to do.
~ We trust each other with pretty serious stuff, and
we've only really met face to face 4 times ...

I'll tell you guys a 'lil more about birdie in my next post.

It's there! I read it! It was useful! Thank you also Nimble Squiddy for being the second person that seems to be able to care and help. *Dies a little inside from happiness too*

Though I don't think he drinks too often. But I definatly see how, IF, I did get him as a boyfriend. As happy as that would make me, I have to realize his world isn't going to revolve around me. I kept imagining inudendos (not sure if correct context) where we would just be walking in the park, holding hands, and then sitting on the grass as he plays guitar for me. Now I realise, He'd probably want me to hang around his friends, and do what he'd want to too. But he told me

I would not pressure anyone into doing something they don't want to do.

Which ... yeah. Is a huge Pro.

You're 14? Crushing on a 16 year old? That's code name is J ... And you have sleeping beauty as your avatar? (The song once upon a dream was the song I had with UFO) ...

Yeah. Oh damn, didn't mention this. When we first met I just went over to talk with my friend, and somehow ended up talking to him. And he said that I look like D (who is my brother). My friend is cracking up and I say. D's my brother. He was surprised and yeah ...
When He found out my name it was an awkward situation too. He was like; *doing random wavy wave* What's your name?!. I reply with shouting across the road; S! He didn't hear and gave a confused expression. S!
Anywhom, when I told my brother about birdie, and how birdie new him. D was confused and stuff, and said to stay away from him, and if I saw him again, to punch him and run. And if D ever met him he'd beat him up. My brother's really protective ^.^' I think that's partly because of the thing I just can't tell you about, because our families going through a really tough time ...

J / Birdie

S / UFO

60

35

Now: 60

Now: 40

-

But ... I liked him ... and I forgot how he looked, just looks was a bonus:

Okay, so I hung out with him yesterday tuesday. Wow. It was BAD I brought a friend, he brought and unknown friend, and a random of my friends friend came along ...
But when I come back with the bar of chocolate I promised him ... That eye contact we made. It seemed like space and time paused for a couple of minutes. Reality, could have been one second. What do I know? But when we hung out. It was so awkward! I think I know the reason why my friends call me queen of awkwardness (no joke they've said I'm awkwarder than Gaga. And that I must be the queen v.v) but me and birdie barely talked! I was sooo shy. And when I did talk to him he'd always look at me. ALWAYS. It was ... bloody hell. And like he had to leave in 30 minutes, and his friend ditched, and my friends friend ditched, and my friend was talking to somebody, so it was just me and him. We talked ... I can barely remember though v.v
But I do remember that not only is his personality awesome, but when I see him or think of him ... **BUTTERFLIES** ... and he has good fashion sense for a guy! And ... he's so cute

My main idea: Should I tell him I like him???

Guys! I really need some help here! Only Nimble, and my friend, S, has helped me. v.v
I checked out the 'cannot write a letter' thread (reminds me of the confessions thread)
I think I accidentally wrote a song.

Edit: So we're talking at 1 in the morning. And I feel so emotionally close to him, I say
'wangobalwime?'
If you've read HP GoF ...
Why Did I Do That

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Oh my god, the confessions thread... </3 Don't even get me started. (Let's just say I poured my life into that thread. That thread had me meet some of my best friends. That thread had me choose my career. God, I miss that thread so much. I saved peoples lives on that thread. I can't even stand that it's gone. I'll stop now.)

hey(:

okay, um. there's this guy, I like. I've liked him for six months now. I know, sort of sad. anyway, I'm kind of looking for some advice, if anyone's willing to give...?

here's the story;

I'm going to call him J. Right, so basically, after the christmas holidays, I got moved into one of his classes. To my joy, I was sat in the seat in front of him and beside one of my best friends. At first, me and him didn't really talk and when we did, it was awkward. Then as I kind of settled into the class, we began to banter occasionally. Like for example, we were doing this sort of fun quiz about Pi. Like there would be the Pi sign then other words and you had to combine the pictures to get the word. You had to be in groups of four. And because he is behind me and there is no-one else in front of me, we were a grouping of four. Me, him, my best friend (M), and the person he sits beside. All that time, me and him were just playfully arguing, whilst the other two did the quiz. We actually forgot about the quiz, I think.

Because I'm scottish and english and a little irish, and I live in scotland. He started saying to me like in a friendly, joking way, 'You got slammed.' (referring to that one battle, the scottish won against the english when they had that war) and we had a little banter about that.

This is more, recently, think March:

My name is short for some long, embarrassing name so M decided to spontaneously say to him, 'HEY J, DO YOU KNOW WHAT (ME) REAL NAME IS? IT'S (LONG REALLY EMBARRASSING NAME)'

I was cringing, and I forgot what he said to that but I said, 'Fine, what's yours then?' He told me(this was at the near end of class). Then as we were leaving, I said to him, 'Goodbye (hisname,middlename,lastname)', he did the same back to me but then proceeded to walk down the hallway, next to me, talking to me. He then said, 'Ouch, so that's really on your birth certificate?',
I replied, 'Gee, thanks.' and he responded by laughing and saying, 'Nah, I'm just joking.' then he touched my arm<3, we kept walking till we parted ways.

Another thing, I had ordered my lunch with my friend and we were standing in line. He came up with his friend, and I looked back slightly, and looked at him then back, I looked again as if to say 'talk to me, dammit!' Then a miracle happend, because he came up to me and started talking about a joke, we had shared in class. That was the first time, he had talked to me out of class<3

My other two best friends, that sit behind him in this class, thinks he fancies me as well as my other friend in a different class.

I don't think he does.

I mean, even if he did, I couldn't do anything about it, I'm a unpopular girl that would never ask anyone out because of fear. A couple people I know, fancy him. One of the desks in my P.S.E class says I love (his name).

But he makes me smile and blush, I've never blushed before in my life. He makes me really happy even if I'm feeling heavily depressed. He makes me smile just randomly if I think of him. I can't wait to see him tomorrow. He is just too adorable<3

D'aww, he teases you about the Scottish rebellion? OMGZ that's the cutest thing ever. I'm super jealous. Be glad he even knows what that is. (But he's not all that accurate, the English got Slammed, not the Scottish. Well, the Scottish did once, but then they beat the English into the ground. Or should I say river. *could go on for ages about the Scottish rebellion* Funny enough I'm learning about the Scottish rebellion.)

Anyways, I really fail to see the problem here, or maybe I'm just being stupid again. (Don't worry, I slept in till two today. x) If you really like him, which you do, and he really likes you, which he does, go for it. Check the OP for my tips on asking someone out, and bam, you've got a boyfriend. He's going to say yes, trust me. Even if he does like the other girls, heck, he like you most, right? He might want to wait to consider your offer, but I'm positive that he would say yes.

From where I stand, you two crazy about each other. He is so into you if you were the edge of a cliff he would have fallen ages ago by now. Don't let the fact that you're unpopular get you down, because to him? Doesn't matter. At all. This guy wants you to ask him out, he's practically begging you. That, or he's waiting for you to start begging him to ask you out. Either way, you need to make a move, because if he does like those other girls, you might miss your chance if you wait to long. I really hope this helps, good luck! You guys are so adorable. ;u;

Awkward moment when your crush/best friend discovers a note he wasn't meant to see and doesn't as much attention to you anymore :lol:
My love-life rocks XD But that was the funniest day EVER believe it or not. I chased him through the school for ages to try get it off him before he could read it. Then, once he did read the note, I hunted down the other friend that stole it from me in the first place so that she could give it to him.
I'm not sure if I need advice on this or not, he doesn't like me, that's for sure and he doesn't speak to me anymore either.
DAMNIT! That's the last time I write on a piece of paper XD

Ohhh awkward. Did you get it back? Dx

But gurls. Yet another reason you don't write notes to your crushes, unless you keep them under your pillow while you sleep, along with a knife. Or a machete. Kidding. Don't write notes unless you're already dating.

There's this guy I really like, but he's a year younger than I am and in a different grade level. Because of this, we only have one class together. The thing is, though, we've never talked. I've often raised my head to find him looking at me then quickly averting his gaze to somewhere else. It happens very often. Then we sometimes see each other in school as well, just in the hallways and such. Even then, I see him looking at me. Then after school. He dawdles along slowly until he sees me then quickly moves on.

He's honestly not the kind to talk - he's quiet and shy, and is always lingering at the edge of the crowd listening to conversations rather than talking.

So I don't know what to do. Obviously we can't continue on this way, only looking at each other but never talking, but every time I try to say something I always back out of it and end up keeping silent.

Well, not much you can do but suck it up and talk to him. I know it's tough, but it's really for the best. I hate to sound like a broken record, but tips on asking someone out on the first page; they'll totes help you in this situation.

Just found out Darren's moving this summer. Mackenzie told me Friday night. I don't know what to do. I haven't talked to him about it yet, I don't think he knows that I know yet, I want to talk to him when I see him tomorrow.

I'm kind of halfway between depression and shock. I knew that eventually there would probably be an end to us, but I didn't really expect it would come this soon. We really had a future, everyone could see it. Now, we don't have anything past this school year. There were people who were convinced we were going to get married, and even though I certainly wouldn't go so far as to say that, it shows that we really had something. Most of all, I'm just really sad that I'm not going to get to see him anymore. I'm going to miss him a lot.

;n; Oh no! You need to talk with him. It might not be so bad, after all, you did hear it from a friend. It could just be he's moving a bit farther away, you might still be able to see him. Long distance relationships can work, you don't have to end it right away. But again, just talk to him. Find out exactly what's going on. Obviously, there's not much you can do but find out where he's moving to. You need to find out what he thinks about this whole thing, and where you guys are going to go with this relationship.

omgwtf I think I've found just the .gif to describe Glasses



I'm not kidding this is perfect

Omglol this is amazing.

There's this guy, let's just call him Ty, and I REALLY like him. Even though we both started highschool this year, I had a crush on him since last year. I was always the loner of the class and he actually helped me make friends. He was so sweet to me, and he still is. On the signautre bear last year, he wrote: ***** XOXO and that bear has stayed on my bed every day since then. Anyway, he was really sweet and stuck up for me when I was getting picked on and didn't want to fight back. When I was sitting in the playground, crying, he even came over from his game with his friends to try and cheer me up. He was never like that to any other girl. But this year, I know that he likes a certain girl. Nobody knows who she likes, since she's been going out with heaps of people already. He still sticks up for me though. I really want him to ask me out, but I don't want to be a rebound. I think he still has feelings for me but I'm not sure.

Hrm hrm hrm, So what's the direct question here? I mean, I'm not really sure what to say, you seem to have your feelings and his all under control and figured out.

So, there's this guy, let's call him T. I really, really like him. Everytime I look at him, my heart flutters and I start to smile liek crazy. He's just do funny and sweet and protective. He always knows what to say, and he's like my best friend. He knows everything about me. I can talk to him about anything, and tell him anything and he'll understand and say exactly the right things. I've liked him for a while, off and on since the summer, but solidly since December. The thing is, he has a girlfriend whom he's liked since the summer, bu they just started going out. I've told him that I liked him on February 27th, but I just told her yesterday. The thing is, they just got together, and he used to like me. I don't want to ruin their relationship because they're two of my bestest friends, but I just can't help liking him. What should I do?

Well, how did she react when you told her? I mean, if you've already told the both of them there's not much you can do. Obviously he really likes this girl and he's not all that into you. Like I said a few posts ago to Sweet Silver (I think it was her, lol) you can control who you like. Everyone thinks that you can't and you just fall for them, but that's just a helpful nudge. You don't have to accept it. You don't have to go for that helpful nudge, just ignore it. Disregard it until he's open and you have your friend's permission to date him. Believe me, it's a lot easier than you think. I once had a huge crush on a guy, but he was getting between my best friend and I, so I made the choice and I stopped liking him. (But he's still pretty cute, xD) If I ever wanted to be with him now, and my friend didn't like him (Which she doesn't, so...) and he was single, than I could go for it. But, I don't want to go for it because I don't date, but whatever. xP I hope this helps, good luck!

Hi I'm new the first part of my message doesn't have any thing to do with this but the second does, well i need to no how to ask people to do trades.
But the real reason that i wanted to send this message into this conversation well i dont even no if I'm doing this write but I had a crush and one dayi found out he was dating my best friend who i had just had a argument with (i think she did it on perpouse) and i no this sounds bad but to get her back i whent and asked out her crush and he said yes but now me and that girl are friends and we are really stuck because she lovess my boyfriend and now we have found out he loves her but neither of them no that they fancey each other and the same with me and her boy friend if any one reads this please help me

If you want to send trades, go to a user's profile and at the bottom it will say "Send a Trade" or something like that. Or if you look at where it shows the person who posted, there will be their avatar, username, and a whole bunch of links, and one will say something about trading. Hope this helps! :3 If you have anymore questions, I'd be glad to help.

As for the second part, that's sort of tricky. Maybe just have everyone break up and then tell your crushes you like each other. XD <-Kay, that sounds reeeeeallyyyy stupid, but you never know, it might work. X3

Frankly Scarlett, I don't give a damn. Green Eyes, that advice is totally true. :P You need to break up with your boyfriend, RIGHT NOW, and tell your friend to break up with hers. Explain to your friend and your boyfriend what's up, but don't get involved with the guy you like. He's your friend's property for the moment, it's up to her to decide if she wants to tell him what's going on right now. But you do need to advise her to break up with him. Come to a mutual agreement with her that you'll both break up with your boyfriends so that you guys an kinda switch who's dating who.

But, you need to know that what you did was a really bad thing to do. Getting back at your friend is bad enough (even though she did do that) but dragging someone else into it is not ever the way to go. The reason that your boyfriend hasn't broken up with you yet is because he's either a coward or he doesn't want to hurt you because A: He's dating his crushes best friend, or B: Because, you know, he's breaking up with you. Either way though, this situation is sucky all around no matter what you do. :/ So sorry. Good luck though, I hope this helps!

Hey. Haven't posted here in a while, haha!

I got a problem. Wow, that sounds extremley normal! Okay, I can't tell my mom somebody asked me out! I'm too embarassed! How do I approach her and tell her?

Again, the broken record thing, but the tips on the front page for asking someone out. Do that, but tell her just what happened. She'll probably just laugh that you thought it was so serious, :lol:

[s y n]

As of right now (3:08 AM on a school night... x-x might as well just pull an all-nighter now) M and I have been dating for three days. I was kinda confused earlier because he wasn't really acting like we were dating. All the guys I've dated were really sweet, and he just... Wasn't. I know it was because he's sorta shy and doesn't really have much experience with girls, but still.

Then, out of the blue, he surprises me in a good way.
Here is our texting conversation, straight from my phone, word for word:

Him: What's up?
Me: Nm, wbu? (Which means "nothing much, what about you?")
Him: Nm but guess what.
Me: What?
Him: I love you<3:)
Me: Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!! (Yes, I literally used that many "w"'s) I love you too! <3
Him: Awwwww you're so sweet and nice and... Always perfect.
Me: Aww(: and I'm the perfect one? Nuh uh, you're way more perfect than me.
Him: You're the most perfect person in the world <3
Me: And you said that you weren't sweet! Liar <3
Him: Yeah but not as sweet as [insertmyex'snamehere], right?
Me: You're pretty close.
Him: How close? :)
Me: Very close. If you can be this sweet in public too and be up for hugging and cuddling and stuff then I'd say equal :)
Him: I'm up for that(:
Me: Oh? I'd like to see that ;)
Him: And you will
Me: Good (:
Him: Yeah and if it is nice out tomorrow I will be at the goalposts with [person'snamehere], [person'snamehere], and [person'snamehere]. But if it isn't, I'll be inside with you :)
Me: :) I'm usually outside anyways with [R'snamehere] and [A'snamehere] and all the other people in that group.
Him: Oh?... (Because he asked me a while ago, before we were dating, who I liked and I said A)
Me: Yeah unless it's cold.
Him: I can't wait to see you, I really miss you... <3<3
Me: Aww (: Same <3
Him: You're the best :)
Me: I would be if there wasn't you :)
Him: :) :)
Me: Your amazing (:
Him: Aww thanx (:
Me: Just telling the truth C:
Him: And I'm telling the truth when I say you're wonderful :3
Me: Awwwww (:(:(:
Him: I'm tired so I'm gonna go to bed... I love you and I'll see you tomorrow.
Me: I love you too <3 Gnite


All of my doubts = blown to pieces
<3

[Acidic]

Today was extremely strange, but practically normal. I sat next to J in two of my lessons, and as usual we were messing about.
Ugh, any ideas on what to do about my strange obsession?

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Today was extremely strange, but practically normal. I sat next to J in two of my lessons, and as usual we were messing about.
Ugh, any ideas on what to do about my strange obsession?

..Sorry, what's your strange obsession? Sounds pretty normal to me O.o

[Acidic]

Today was extremely strange, but practically normal. I sat next to J in two of my lessons, and as usual we were messing about.
Ugh, any ideas on what to do about my strange obsession?

..Sorry, what's your strange obsession? Sounds pretty normal to me O.o

Lol, I have a strange obsession on my crush :3

I WROTE ANOTHER LETTER TO J.
He better reply to this one.

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Ah. Well, uh.. I mean... It doesn't seem like you were too obsessed when you were with him, so I don't really see a problem. Though I would lighten up on the letters, they can be very awkward if you guys aren't dating.