Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[loonyloolaluna]

Well I haven't posted here in a while and I feel like I should now :3

Okay well D was over at my house all Wednesday and it was nice to just spend time with him <3. I like when he's around me not in school cause we both loosen up a bit however I still feel weird letting him keep his arm around me - yet at the same time I love it...If that makes sense to them at all. I think its because I'm so careful with my heart and I have never actually let myself love someone like this cause I have gotten hurt so many times before and I have had so many times where I have been depressed and let down so I normally block myself from letting other people in. With D its like I want to, but at the same time its really hard and weird for me.

Oh and I think I have a small little feeling for my other friend who is close to D as well. Hes like my best friend...so I'm thinking its more of a friend love thing and cause I think of him as more of a brother than anything but I'm not quite sure....x.x I mean I do talk to him a lot along with his friends on Skype almost every day all day...and we have a ton of inside jokes and stuff...I just don't know.
I'm pretty sure its just a brotherly love but I'm not sure.

Yeah. I know how you feel. I was so desperate for a bf, it felt weird when I finally had one because I was too scared to fall in love (thank goodness I didn't)
It probably just is brotherly love. Don't over think it, you might start thinking it's more than that ... and that would be bad.

...How would that be bad? It's not bad for her to get a crush on him; because obviously if she did than she wouldn't be upset about it, would she?

Sweet Silver, don't worry about it. If you just want to be friends, that's what your relationship with him will be. If he wants something more, that's ok too. It makes it harder, but he's not worth it anyways if he would want you to if he wanted to force you into dating. If you don't want to like him, you don't have to. You are in control of your feelings, why do you think they're called yours? They're not your mom's, they're not your friends. Your feelings aren't any of ours either; they're yours. Do what you want with them, and place them where you wish.

People in this society say you can't choose who you love. But the thing is, you can. It's really not hard. Like I said multiple times, they're your feelings.

(...New FAQ post! :'D As soon as I get off the laptop, lol.)

Also, Lavafur is a girl. I highly doubt that many of those things you listed off, Firework, would help her all that much, considering.

Lava, I would just tell her. There's nothing more straight foreword than "I care about you a lot, and I just want you to know that." It doesn't have to be super romantic, it doesn't have to be awkward, it doesn't need to be on a date. You can even text her. Just mention it. Saying how much you care in casual conversation is a great way to show them that you, well...care.

If she starts over-thinking she might start to think she likes her friend =/ when she's got her boyfriend

tbh ... with the dp, it was hard to tell sorry ^.^'

I can't wait until Monday.
Then I can finally see B and he can save me from all this... meh in life. ;-; With his hilarious, optimistic attitude.

Haha, I pulled my phone out before I was about to leave for lunch one day and B's like, putting it in my own sweater pocket, "Hey hay, woah there. Put that away." Im like, "Why?" He's like, "Because the po-po are coming..."

I laughed so hard

<3

I wished upon a star tonight, guys. And I wished for something great, if you know what I mean, since im posting this here.
Even though wishing upon a star may just seem all fake, im still hopeful that my wish will come true.

I've wished the same thing over and over again, every night, since the easter break started about 2 weeks ago.


To tell you the truth guys, does it matter that I wish this even though he has a girlfriend that he's been going out with for over 4 months? I know it can't last forever, but... still... :c

I sometimes wish upon a star. And it came true once o.O
('I wish Dragon will ask me out' not thinking it'd come true ... well, it came true on valentines day ...)
It sounds cute. But I don't quite understand what you're getting at

Nimble - do I help too much? Is it starting to be bad help?

[WolfWind]

So, I have a random question: what should I do if I think my friend is starting to like me? I mean, we're friends and all, and it's platonic for the most part. However, he broke up with a long time gf, and I'm a tad more uncomfortable with doing stuff alone with him now. I don't know if it's just me being contentious or if it's him starting to like me. Before the break up, we would watch movies all the time and go on "fake dates," but now I'm starting to feel awkward about it. It's not romantic to me, and I don't want to lead him. Any advice?

[Nimble Awesomeness]

First off.. I am a cow. A dumb cow. (lolwut) Because, Firework, you are correct in saying that it would be wrong for her to crush on other D if she has a boyfriend. Which I totally missed, because I got up so early I can't think straight any more, so I mashed up two posts by mistake. I'm just gonna go edit that...now. So sorry. ;n; Please forgive me, no excuse for giving out bad advice when it could have been avoided by me not being stupid and tired.

Wait wait wait, does it even say they're dating? I didn't see that.. So.. Nevermind. Not.. editing that. ...*really confused*

So, I have a random question: what should I do if I think my friend is starting to like me? I mean, we're friends and all, and it's platonic for the most part. However, he broke up with a long time gf, and I'm a tad more uncomfortable with doing stuff alone with him now. I don't know if it's just me being contentious or if it's him starting to like me. Before the break up, we would watch movies all the time and go on "fake dates," but now I'm starting to feel awkward about it. It's not romantic to me, and I don't want to lead him. Any advice?

Well, I think you should make it clear to him that you only want to be friends. Basically, just act like you're asking him out, but you're friendzoning him instead. trust me, I've done it tons of times. It can be a lot of fun. ;D Lol, I'm kidding. But seriously, it's really easy. Just ask him out, but instead of saying, "I like you, will you go out with me?" you're gonna say something to the extent of "Look, I really like you, but only as a friend. It would be awesome if we could just go on being friends, you know? Without it being awkward?"

...You know what? Don't listen to me. I'm just gonna go help you tomorrow, when my self esteem isn't cracked up and I'm half crazy with tired. Trust me, I'll give much better advice when I'm not exhausted. Sorry! I will get back to you, as soon as I can trust myself to not act like I'm drunk. >.<

And Firework: No no no! :U Nu. First of all, you can't help too much on this thread. We've got like, limitless pages, right? We can just make another thread if we run out. And it's not always bad, everyone has their bad moments. Like me, right now. (-_-) Maybe if you just answered a bunch of posts in one post so save room, rather than answering each other right after the other. And stop suggesting tea. :P But you know, other than that, it's just more advice, right? Just another person giving advice. What made you think you were useless? :'c You have given out some really good advice on here.

But I should remind y'alls, don't always take advice from the first person you hear from, even for me. Always get a second opinion on things, and don't always take a single opinion to heart. I'm not saying you shouldn't trust anyone that tries to help you, I'm just saying second opinions are always a good idea.

Oh, and Firework? It doesn't matter about the Lavafur thing, it was a really easy mistake. Sorry if it seemed like I was mad. :c

[WolfWind]

So, I have a random question: what should I do if I think my friend is starting to like me? I mean, we're friends and all, and it's platonic for the most part. However, he broke up with a long time gf, and I'm a tad more uncomfortable with doing stuff alone with him now. I don't know if it's just me being contentious or if it's him starting to like me. Before the break up, we would watch movies all the time and go on "fake dates," but now I'm starting to feel awkward about it. It's not romantic to me, and I don't want to lead him. Any advice?

Well, I think you should make it clear to him that you only want to be friends. Basically, just act like you're asking him out, but you're friendzoning him instead. trust me, I've done it tons of times. It can be a lot of fun. ;D Lol, I'm kidding. But seriously, it's really easy. Just ask him out, but instead of saying, "I like you, will you go out with me?" you're gonna say something to the extent of "Look, I really like you, but only as a friend. It would be awesome if we could just go on being friends, you know? Without it being awkward?"

...You know what? Don't listen to me. I'm just gonna go help you tomorrow, when my self esteem isn't cracked up and I'm half crazy with tired. Trust me, I'll give much better advice when I'm not exhausted. Sorry! I will get back to you, as soon as I can trust myself to not act like I'm drunk. >.<

But it was so much fun reading your drunken advice! It seriously made me lol. On the realistic, serious side, it's not like we haven't talked about it. I've told him I think of him in a more brotherly way, but I'm still uncomfortable at the moment, since I'm weird with guys.

[Livalathia]

Just to clear it up in case anyone was confused... D is my bf xD. I love him to peices but at the same time my heart is trying to block itself from getting hurt. So while I love to be around him, it still feels odd to me...and just weird. Like on Wednesday when we hung out we laid on my bed for a bit and watched a movie in turn cuddling a bit. I loved having his arms around me..but at the same time it felt weird to me.
Also when he left it was kinda like I relaxed a little more...but I also longed for him to be laying next to me again....I know I'm weird xD

And Firework - I know I shouldnt think on liking A...and in trying not to...but I don't think it will go any further than brotherly love anyways x3

[loonyloolaluna]

So, I have a random question: what should I do if I think my friend is starting to like me? I mean, we're friends and all, and it's platonic for the most part. However, he broke up with a long time gf, and I'm a tad more uncomfortable with doing stuff alone with him now. I don't know if it's just me being contentious or if it's him starting to like me. Before the break up, we would watch movies all the time and go on "fake dates," but now I'm starting to feel awkward about it. It's not romantic to me, and I don't want to lead him. Any advice?

It's quite normal to think a friend likes you ... I think so anyways, it's like I have this need to think people like me.
But ... yeah. Again. Please look at the first page youtube clips. They are helpful. The How to tell if a guy likes out is helpful, and even the how to get a girl to like me. You could see their tricks
You should still be his friend. I've got guy friends that that me, and I'm still friends with them. Just don't lead them on!
But if you don't want to be their friend, just keep your distance for a bit, until you start to feel comfortable around him. Maybe break the tension with a joke.

First off.. I am a cow. A dumb cow. (lolwut) Because, Firework, you are correct in saying that it would be wrong for her to crush on other D if she has a boyfriend. Which I totally missed, because I got up so early I can't think straight any more, so I mashed up two posts by mistake. I'm just gonna go edit that...now. So sorry. ;n; Please forgive me, no excuse for giving out bad advice when it could have been avoided by me not being stupid and tired.

Wait wait wait, does it even say they're dating? I didn't see that.. So.. Nevermind. Not.. editing that. ...*really confused*

So, I have a random question: what should I do if I think my friend is starting to like me? I mean, we're friends and all, and it's platonic for the most part. However, he broke up with a long time gf, and I'm a tad more uncomfortable with doing stuff alone with him now. I don't know if it's just me being contentious or if it's him starting to like me. Before the break up, we would watch movies all the time and go on "fake dates," but now I'm starting to feel awkward about it. It's not romantic to me, and I don't want to lead him. Any advice?

Well, I think you should make it clear to him that you only want to be friends. Basically, just act like you're asking him out, but you're friendzoning him instead. trust me, I've done it tons of times. It can be a lot of fun. ;D Lol, I'm kidding. But seriously, it's really easy. Just ask him out, but instead of saying, "I like you, will you go out with me?" you're gonna say something to the extent of "Look, I really like you, but only as a friend. It would be awesome if we could just go on being friends, you know? Without it being awkward?"

...You know what? Don't listen to me. I'm just gonna go help you tomorrow, when my self esteem isn't cracked up and I'm half crazy with tired. Trust me, I'll give much better advice when I'm not exhausted. Sorry! I will get back to you, as soon as I can trust myself to not act like I'm drunk. >.<

And Firework: No no no! :U Nu. First of all, you can't help too much on this thread. We've got like, limitless pages, right? We can just make another thread if we run out. And it's not always bad, everyone has their bad moments. Like me, right now. (-_-) Maybe if you just answered a bunch of posts in one post so save room, rather than answering each other right after the other. And stop suggesting tea. But you know, other than that, it's just more advice, right? Just another person giving advice. What made you think you were useless? :'c You have given out some really good advice on here.

But I should remind y'alls, don't always take advice from the first person you hear from, even for me. Always get a second opinion on things, and don't always take a single opinion to heart. I'm not saying you shouldn't trust anyone that tries to help you, I'm just saying second opinions are always a good idea.

Oh, and Firework? It doesn't matter about the Lavafur thing, it was a really easy mistake. Sorry if it seemed like I was mad. :c

So much mention.
Okay, I won't post so much help.
But tea is good! And healthy! And ... I wish I was British >u<
I felt useless because I couldn't find the list of things I needed to buy on Pottermore ...
I normally try post two opinions on a matter ... if that makes sense ...
It's cool =D

Just to clear it up in case anyone was confused... D is my bf xD. I love him to peices but at the same time my heart is trying to block itself from getting hurt. So while I love to be around him, it still feels odd to me...and just weird. Like on Wednesday when we hung out we laid on my bed for a bit and watched a movie in turn cuddling a bit. I loved having his arms around me..but at the same time it felt weird to me.
Also when he left it was kinda like I relaxed a little more...but I also longed for him to be laying next to me again....I know I'm weird xD

And Firework - I know I shouldnt think on liking A...and in trying not to...but I don't think it will go any further than brotherly love anyways x3

That's great.
I have a feeling people are starting to know me on this thread. This pleases me

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Just to clear it up in case anyone was confused... D is my bf xD. I love him to peices but at the same time my heart is trying to block itself from getting hurt. So while I love to be around him, it still feels odd to me...and just weird. Like on Wednesday when we hung out we laid on my bed for a bit and watched a movie in turn cuddling a bit. I loved having his arms around me..but at the same time it felt weird to me.
Also when he left it was kinda like I relaxed a little more...but I also longed for him to be laying next to me again....I know I'm weird xD

And Firework - I know I shouldnt think on liking A...and in trying not to...but I don't think it will go any further than brotherly love anyways x3

...-_- Dangit, I knew I wouldn't be right at all tonight. xP It's ok though. Thank you for clearing that up Sweet Silver, that makes a whole lot more sense now. Well, not if you read my post about it. Then is just makes no sense at all. I'm so sorry about that, really. xc (SO many apologies tonight.. >.< I'm calling bedtime.)

@Firework: Yeah, almost as well known as me! ;D Bwahaha. And yus, The British are awesome. And so is tea. I think I shall have some. Good advice for WolfWind, by the way. ;) You listen to that WolfWind, that's good advice right there. And I'm not joking, I promise. xD

[WolfWind]

I am laughing so hard right now. So. Hard. #4 in the "how to get a guy to like you" video is hilarious. "Put Some Clothes On!!" Ah, that makes me laugh.

[s y n]

-squeakeal-

Yes. That was a mixture of a squeak and a squeal.
/squeakeal ftw


ANYWAYS. So my boyfriend and I broke up. There was some stuff that happened, et cetera, and we aren't together. I don't want to seem like a wh0re or anything, but I talked to M about it and he made me feel better and ended up asking me out. I didn't want to say no, or to tell him that I wanted to wait a few days, and I definitely couldn't give the I'll-Think-About-It excuse because we both know how much we like each other. I couldn't help myself and despite the fact that being single for only a day sounds trampy, I said yes <3.

Everyone that has a wonderful marriage always says that they married their best friend, and, well, I'm dating my best friend. I don't know how to explain how he makes me feel, I really don't. He's not really much of a flirt because he's sort of shy, but he's so much more - I was shocked the first time he complimented me. The first compliment I ever get from guys is something about my appearance. However, the first thing he complimented me on was my personality which honestly surprised me, but in a good way. He does compliment my looks, but that isn't what he's focused on. And he respects me. He respects my space, my opinions, my friends. He's polite to my friends even though they're rude and b!tchy to him, all because he doesn't want me to be unhappy. And the way he gets all nervous around me and can't talk properly is soooo cute :3 I thought at first that maybe he's just always like that, but we were around some other girls and guys and he's perfectly fine around them. He doesn't stutter or mess up on his words or anything, unless he's with me. He's fun and he's cool and he'll playfully push me and jokingly tease me but not at all to the point where I'd be offended. And he actually talks to me, and he isn't afraid to show me affection around other people. The biggest thing for me tonight was about Facebook. Whenever I start dating someone, I always change my relationship status. I never say who with, because I don't ever feel comfortable about asking the guy if he's okay with that and, based on the fact that the guy never even changes his *much less saying with me* tells me that he isn't. M was eager to change his status, and he ASKED ME if I was okay with us listing that we were together. To most people that isn't a big thing, but to me it is, because it tells me that the guy really isn't at all ashamed to date me and is happy to let people know. Sadly, he was on his iPod and me on my phone so we couldn't change it yet, but oh well.

AND he hadn't been texting me all day, which I was upset about. Then on Facebook he says that he's sent me like a thousand texts and he was worried that I was mad at him. He was genuinely concerned that I was unhappy with him. It turns out, I, for some reason, just haven't been getting his texts. Sure enough, he counted how many texts he sent me in the last two days that I haven't been getting them - 48. That's right. 48 texts.
<3

And he wanted to FaceTime, but I can't download it on my phone, and when I asked him why he said, "Talking to you on Facebook isn't enough. I miss you a lot. I need to hear your voice and see you."
D'awwwwwwww! And then I told him that I didn't look very good anyways, and he said, "You not looking good? What is this, National Backwards Day? You need to shut your beautiful face right now because you ALWAYS look totally gorgeous and I won't tolerate you thinking any different."
<3<3<3

[WolfWind]

-squeakeal-

Yes. That was a mixture of a squeak and a squeal.
/squeakeal ftw


ANYWAYS. So my boyfriend and I broke up. There was some stuff that happened, et cetera, and we aren't together. I don't want to seem like a wh0re or anything, but I talked to M about it and he made me feel better and ended up asking me out. I didn't want to say no, or to tell him that I wanted to wait a few days, and I definitely couldn't give the I'll-Think-About-It excuse because we both know how much we like each other. I couldn't help myself and despite the fact that being single for only a day sounds trampy, I said yes <3.

Everyone that has a wonderful marriage always says that they married their best friend, and, well, I'm dating my best friend. I don't know how to explain how he makes me feel, I really don't. He's not really much of a flirt because he's sort of shy, but he's so much more - I was shocked the first time he complimented me. The first compliment I ever get from guys is something about my appearance. However, the first thing he complimented me on was my personality which honestly surprised me, but in a good way. He does compliment my looks, but that isn't what he's focused on. And he respects me. He respects my space, my opinions, my friends. He's polite to my friends even though they're rude and b!tchy to him, all because he doesn't want me to be unhappy. And the way he gets all nervous around me and can't talk properly is soooo cute :3 I thought at first that maybe he's just always like that, but we were around some other girls and guys and he's perfectly fine around them. He doesn't stutter or mess up on his words or anything, unless he's with me. He's fun and he's cool and he'll playfully push me and jokingly tease me but not at all to the point where I'd be offended. And he actually talks to me, and he isn't afraid to show me affection around other people. The biggest thing for me tonight was about Facebook. Whenever I start dating someone, I always change my relationship status. I never say who with, because I don't ever feel comfortable about asking the guy if he's okay with that and, based on the fact that the guy never even changes his *much less saying with me* tells me that he isn't. M was eager to change his status, and he ASKED ME if I was okay with us listing that we were together. To most people that isn't a big thing, but to me it is, because it tells me that the guy really isn't at all ashamed to date me and is happy to let people know. Sadly, he was on his iPod and me on my phone so we couldn't change it yet, but oh well.

AND he hadn't been texting me all day, which I was upset about. Then on Facebook he says that he's sent me like a thousand texts and he was worried that I was mad at him. He was genuinely concerned that I was unhappy with him. It turns out, I, for some reason, just haven't been getting his texts. Sure enough, he counted how many texts he sent me in the last two days that I haven't been getting them - 48. That's right. 48 texts.
<3

And he wanted to FaceTime, but I can't download it on my phone, and when I asked him why he said, "Talking to you on Facebook isn't enough. I miss you a lot. I need to hear your voice and see you."
D'awwwwwwww! And then I told him that I didn't look very good anyways, and he said, "You not looking good? What is this, National Backwards Day? You need to shut your beautiful face right now because you ALWAYS look totally gorgeous and I won't tolerate you thinking any different."
<3<3<3

How long were you dating your ex, and why did you stay with him so long if you liked your best friend so much?