Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Frosttheleopard]

I have a crush on a guy thats leaving next school year, and i am terrified to tell him, what should i do? Should i wait? I know the saying "When words fail, song prevails" so maybe i could write a song? I will keep him and me anonymous, every time i see him with another girl, hanging out with them, i die a little inside, its killing me to see that

Don't don't don't write a song. You only do that if you're trying to win them back after a fight or if it's after the third date. See, if you write him a song, it makes rejection 10 times more awful than it could be. If he says yes, sure, that's great. But if he doesn't, it's public humiliation and teasing for ages to come. If he's going to leave next year, jump on the chance and tell him now. Use my tips on the front page in the FAQ (bottom of page) and those should help you in asking him out. Or at least telling him how you feel. I hope this helps, good luck!

Thanks for the help, and I'll call the guy J, its his first initial

[Kecko]

This might sound stupid, but have you heard his full side of the story? Did it happen recently, when you two were going out, or before you started going out?

Hung out with my crush again last night and seeing him later today (Really, I seem him basically every day) Last night we were joking around and he tickled my foot so I hit him on the arm then he hit me back and we did that a couple times then I went to hit him again in the arm after he hit me and he jumped out of his chair so I missed, he walked back toward me saying "missed me, missed me, now you gotta kiss me!" making the "kissy face" (Everyone knows what that is I think) and walking toward me but stopped a few feet away and we were all cracking up, it was another great night

Yeah it happened last week He said he wants to get back together with me and i was like 'yeaah right'

Thanks This other boy asked me out yesterday and I'm thinking of accepting. I don't know what to do about my ex, because another boy kissed me when we were going out together, but I didn't tell him. I still feel really bad about that 'cause, in a way we both cheated on eachother.

That would be hard choice, but really think about it, how much you like both guys etc is my advice, but I've only had a crush on a guy, never a boyfriend so I'm not sure

[christine-marie]

So today there was a band festival, and J was wearing a suit! With a cute BOW TIE. HE WAS ADORABLE.

But he decided to come out AFTER I had gotten on my bus so I couldn't say hi.

[Lizbutt]

I've still been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months. <3

[oikawa]

I think Im starting to like my only guy friend. Help?

I fail to see the problem here. Is it because you're afraid you would lose him as a friend if he found out, or you just don't want things to get awkward?

Sorry, I didnt nearly explain enough XD. I dont want things to get awkward and he views me only as a good friend. I tell him alot. Plus, my bestfriend and him used to hate each other. Now they are kind of...cold. D: I dont want to like him. All Ive got to do is convince myself I dont. Then Eventially I wont....I hope.

[audball(:]

Naw, I forgot to say yesterday G and I were texting and he said "Me gusta you" :)) For those of you who don't know what that means, it means "I like" in spanish.:)) Then he kept saying "I really want hug you right now" I love him so much

[violeta.]

So there's this guy I like who I'll call Z.

I've liked him for a while now, since the beginning of the year, and I really think he likes me. So anyway, Z is my best friend. I look to him for protection from the other guys (like those who abuse me sometimes and those guys who like me but I don't like him back) and for help with homework (math). He looks to me as the girl he can easily steal from and tease. But I expect that. That's just who he is. He steals my pencils, folder, pens, homework to look off of, he trips me in the hallways, he teases me playfully, he plays with my hair, etc. But that's just who he is. That's how me and him are, he's the Tom the cat and I'm Jerry the mouse. We tease each other but also go to each other for help and protection from the other cats and mice. I would do anything for him.

But, lately, things have been different. Our friends X and Y were OBSESSING to find out who he liked. He said he liked a girl on *blank* team with a *blank* that starts it. Only me and my friend were the only ones who could match up. So they kept asking. They think it's my friend who he likes officially. Not me.

Now, that made me extremely upset and I ended up avoiding him for a small bit. When I started talking to him again, Z seemed a bit nervous.

By now, I'm utterly confused. I though he liked my friend but he's been acting different recently. He's changed his look a little bit, treats me a bit nicer, has started to give things back... I'm just not sure if he's guilty that he knows I like him or he likes me or if its just because the end of the school year is so close.

So, I've taken two things into consideration: 1) Tell him I like him on this Friday. or 2) Admit I liked him at the end of the year. It's just confusing to the point where I need to know or I might keep talking and thinking about him until the next guy comes along, ya know?

So, any ideas on what I should do? Should I do 1 or 2? If no one has any ideas, I might just do 2... but if a few people say I should do 1, I'll do 1.
-Juliet

[Zeee]

Key-
O = Crush (boy)
B = Crush (boy)
HB = Best friend (girl)
BE = Friend, B's best friend (boy)
Me (H)= me :D

-

Firstly, everyone in the little key and I were talking, playing truth or dare actually.
Here's how it went-

B: "O, truth or dare?"
O: "Um... truth."
B: "Who do you like?" (common question)
O: *hesitating* "Can I say what her name starts with?"
BE: "Course."
Me: Nawhh, that's not fair."
BE: "Yeah it is." *shoves me* "Go ahead.*
O: "...Her name starts with an H."

Even though it may have not been me, im quite pleased with his answer XD

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Oh no.

Oh no, oh no oh no oh no. Guys. Save me. I.. am not happy.

So, guess who got a CS account? M.

End me. Now. Please. Oh gosh why. ;n;

I need to find him. And... I don't know. Hack his account and block me, or something.

...Kidding.

...

Kidding. But seriously, I'm in panic mode. *Diiieeesss* He just joined, so I doubt he knows how to search posts and find this. And he doesn't know my username. As long as I can get my friend to not tell him... -_- I think I'll PM her now. *Shoots self*

[loonyloolaluna]

How to tell if a guy likes you.
How to tell if a girl likes you.
How to get a guy to like you.
How to get girls to like you.

YOU ARE A GENIUS SQUIDDY! THANK YOU FOR POSTING THAT!
YOU HAVE MY RESPECT!
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Hey guys, this is a comment, but I'd much appreciate it if you could help me out on this one.
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First, if you want to know about my love life, click here and type UFO into the search box. - BTW I dumped Dragon, it's been a month.
I know that's alot of info. But if you can help me out that would be very useful to read.
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But anyways: I still like UFO (but he sadly has a gf). And now I like this guy, I'll just call him birdie for now,

Here's a bit about him:
He's year 12 (I'm year 10). Therefore he's 16, and I'm 14 - but I turn 15 before he turns 17!

He plays the guitar, and he said he'd bring it to school one time and play for me
And teach me a 'lil too.
Apparently he sucks at reading and writing. Writing essays too (failed every single one =/).
But on the plus side he can write his own music. 1 is finished - still working on 3. 2 are songs he sings when drunk at parties. 2 are really deep emotional songs.
Prefers to write on stuff - not play other guitarists music.
Been practicing guitar for 5 years (knows a bit of bass).

He's weird. Creeper weird. But he's joking when he does it. Kinda like me. I do this weirdness test on my friends where I first go: 'Hey.' And slide next to them. Repeat the Hey, arm around shoulders. Hey, hug. Hey, up close. Hey, leg under bum. Hey, arm from shoulders now on head. Hey, basically kissing them. IT'S REALLY FUNNY. Anywhom. He's done weirder: On his first encounter with somebody he asked the chick 'Do you like dinosaurs?!' In a Sorry if this is offensive, I'll bleep it out incase R3%@RD voice and when she didn't reply he followed her around for 10 seconds, and she screamed.

He sadly has another problem that I just cannot share. Because it's too personal.

He's not that great with grammar, though he is good at spelling, well better than me.
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I want to tell him I like him, and I've asked three friends:
N - she said "Maybe you should wait, see if it's a lust crush. If it is don't tell."
Moony - "Improve his grammar and perhaps take out the - and getting drunk at parties and I like this guy! You have biffle approval "
S - She likes him aswell, but also said watch out if it's a lust crush. Tbh, I can barely remember his face! I'm looking at him in the yearbook, and going I don't think that's him!
Conclusion: 2 approvals, and a maybe. So, do you think I should tell him?

Pros

Cons

~ Musician (can serenade me???)

~ Age =/

~ Funny

~ Not that smart

~ Seems nice

~ Drinks

~ I don't like him for his looks (can barely remember), but I

~Initials are JM, now I know that sounds dumb, but I've had

like him because he's awesome.

some experience with JM's all of which have been @$$3$.

~ We've talked, and he basically told me he would not

~ If I do tell him, he might end up ignoring me. Like how one

pressure anyone into doing something they don't want

of the other JM's (monkeys) and cheese did.

to do.
~ We trust each other with pretty serious stuff, and
we've only really met face to face 4 times ...

I'll tell you guys a 'lil more about birdie in my next post.

Ahaha, you made a pro and con list! 8D People do listen to me! *dies of happiness*

Anyways, hmm... It sounds to me like...crap. I'm pretty much just as torn as you are.

Well, first of all, I think you need to really think about this. You have to DEEPLY consider the fact that he drinks, as I think this is probably the most serious issue. Since he's only 16, there's the fact that it's illegal. (Unless you're in the UK, then I THINK the age is 16. But I have no clue. *Don't wanna be an American idiot*) Plus, it's really dangerous. At your age, (Ha, feel so old. See, it's funny because we're the same age.) you shouldn't be worrying over your boyfriend going out and getting drunk, or going over to take care of him when he's hungover. Seriously, you shouldn't. My motto is that if you ever say "I can change him!", "You don't know him the way I do," or "You don't understand him!" about a guy, he isn't worth it. Wouldn't drinking be something you want to change? You shouldn't have to baby your boyfriend, esp. considering that he's two years older than you. (But really, I wouldn't worry about age here, that's not the problem. J is also two years older than me, so I know exactly how you feel. ^.^)

This is just something you need to heavily consider. Is him being a musician and being super hot worth you putting up with his drinking and partying? Is it worth all the stress? Plus, I doubt your parents would be all to happy with you dating a guy who drinks. (Plus, the thing you don't want to share which I am guessing.)

But this is just me. This is about you. I say sleep on it, just really think about things. Mull it over. You've got lots of time to work things out, you really do. Plus, if he doesn't want to wait, then the decision is made for you. He's not worth it if he doesn't feel the same. (But the not going to force you into anything is a plus) I really hope that this helps you, and good luck in choosing the right thing.

Again, sorry for taking FOREVER to respond to you all, I feel awful.

It's there! I read it! It was useful! Thank you also Nimble Squiddy for being the second person that seems to be able to care and help. *Dies a little inside from happiness too*

Though I don't think he drinks too often. But I definatly see how, IF, I did get him as a boyfriend. As happy as that would make me, I have to realize his world isn't going to revolve around me. I kept imagining inudendos (not sure if correct context) where we would just be walking in the park, holding hands, and then sitting on the grass as he plays guitar for me. Now I realise, He'd probably want me to hang around his friends, and do what he'd want to too. But he told me

I would not pressure anyone into doing something they don't want to do.

Which ... yeah. Is a huge Pro.
You're 14? Crushing on a 16 year old? That's code name is J ... And you have sleeping beauty as your avatar? (The song once upon a dream was the song I had with UFO) ...

Yeah. Oh damn, didn't mention this. When we first met I just went over to talk with my friend, and somehow ended up talking to him. And he said that I look like D (who is my brother). My friend is cracking up and I say. D's my brother. He was surprised and yeah ...
When He found out my name it was an awkward situation too. He was like; *doing random wavy wave* What's your name?!. I reply with shouting across the road; S! He didn't hear and gave a confused expression. S!
Anywhom, when I told my brother about birdie, and how birdie new him. D was confused and stuff, and said to stay away from him, and if I saw him again, to punch him and run. And if D ever met him he'd beat him up. My brother's really protective ^.^' I think that's partly because of the thing I just can't tell you about, because our families going through a really tough time ...

J / Birdie

S / UFO

58

42

Now: 55

Now: 40

random 5% like for unknown ...

But ... I liked him ... and I forgot how he looked, just looks was a bonus:

Okay, so I hung out with him yesterday tuesday. Wow. It was BAD I brought a friend, he brought and unknown friend, and a random of my friends friend came along ...
But when I come back with the bar of chocolate I promised him ... That eye contact we made. It seemed like space and time paused for a couple of minutes. Reality, could have been one second. What do I know? But when we hung out. It was so awkward! I think I know the reason why my friends call me queen of awkwardness (no joke they've said I'm awkwarder than Gaga. And that I must be the queen v.v) but me and birdie barely talked! I was sooo shy. And when I did talk to him he'd always look at me. ALWAYS. It was ... bloody hell. And like he had to leave in 30 minutes, and his friend ditched, and my friends friend ditched, and my friend was talking to somebody, so it was just me and him. We talked ... I can barely remember though v.v
But I do remember that not only is his personality awesome, but when I see him or think of him ... **BUTTERFLIES** ... and he has good fashion sense for a guy! And ... he's so cute

My main idea: Should I tell him I like him???

Oh no.

Oh no, oh no oh no oh no. Guys. Save me. I.. am not happy.

So, guess who got a CS account? M.

End me. Now. Please. Oh gosh why. ;n;

I need to find him. And... I don't know. Hack his account and block me, or something.

...Kidding.

...

Kidding. But seriously, I'm in panic mode. *Diiieeesss* He just joined, so I doubt he knows how to search posts and find this. And he doesn't know my username. As long as I can get my friend to not tell him... -_- I think I'll PM her now. *Shoots self*

Since you helped me. I might as well return the favour.
I can see ups and downs of friending him, and blocking him.
Friends:
You can show off cool art?
Or your great rollplay lines (if that makes sense ...)
But he could see you on this ... which would be v.v

Block:
Doesn't find out much about you
Doesn't think you're much of a friend
You're safe from him seeing you post. Well, he wouldn't know who you are.