Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[KoolAid&Cyanide]

Yay! Darren's coming with us for lunch on Thursday! He said it's probably a yes, then we talked a bit about classes and stuff before he had to get on the bus. Gosh, I wish we had more time to talk after school, but the last bus to leave has only seven minutes, and we spend at least four of those getting out of class, to our lockers, and then to the commons area.

[dr. pugs]

*sigh* My BF went to GERMANY for 2 weeks and it is killling me like crazzzy!!!!!!!!!111

[paradox.]

WHY do I feel that my really close friend Lexin likes Brandon? I don't know its just that everytime I sit next to Brandon and I get up for like 1 minute she steals my seat and sits next to him x.X And when Brandon and I are walking to class together or something she always starts walking right by us and it's always the three of us walking >.< I asked her straight out at lunch if she liked him and she said "NO!" But why do I have the feeling she was lying? Last year I had to pry it out of her to learn she had a crush on Sam Z.

(Complete and utter rambliness. Only read if you are reaaaaallllllyyyy bored )
I have certain skills that make me an awesome person at guessing. My friend Jeremy announced that 50 likes on Facebook and he would post his new crush down. Well 3 other people knew because he told them and only one of their names was revealed. A certain good friend of mine named Grace. THEN I said to Jeremy "TELL ME Or I shall torture Grace until she gives up the name >:D" And he was all like "NO" cuz he didn't think I could do it. And I couldn't pry it out of Grace so instead I asked her to tell me the last letter of the girl's last name. She said N! HAHA Then AFTER naming 5 girls with their last letter of their last name being N and being all wrong Grace finally said "I refuse to answer anymore questions." THEN I came to my classmate Annie. Since grace wouldn't help me I did an experiment. I posted on his wall "AHA YOUR CRUSH IS ANNIE! ITS HER ISNT IT?!" And then he pmed me asking "How sure are you of that?" And I was like "Very" And then I saw that he deleted my comments on his wall. Getting chicken were we Jeremy? >.< So then I knew I was right and later on he was like "What the heck did you do to Grace." XDDDD

[ohbreezey]

Not feeling all that great. My Bestfriend is mad at me for nothing...my two crushes are bestfriends...I'm in a group with one of my crushes...three out of four are in my track team with me...and I just don't know what to do...I can't let go of any of them. One rejected me...the other I dated for 2 weeks...I can't let go...and the third one I'm planning on asking to the dance, but I don't know how to ask him from my other rejection from C. Someone help? <\3 I listen to all the songs I can to make me think about them, but my mind is deceiving and goes the opposite way, making me hate them. J has been really nice to me lately. He even sat next to me today. Hmmm, what might that mean? Oh yeah, in Social Studies, I was sandwiched by my crushes.:
|J|Me|Bay|C|
In my mind, I was like, thinking about whichnonenof them is the best for me...

[paradox.]

I will keep this short and simple:

Have you ever told a friend your crush and they just HAD to go and try to blurt it out to him?

STILL NOT FORGIVING Verdah! And deffinitley never telling Aroosha that I like Brandon now. Not telling Lexin either since theres a possibility she likes him too.
Awkward moment where they all still know that I like R still though x.X

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I need help.... Ok well... I'm really really shy right... And I have a hard time talking to most guys let alone older guys. My crush is a Junior and I'm a Freshie.... There's a possibility that he likes me a little bit too but it's like a 10% chance that he definately does. My friends keep saying that I need to talk to him but as stated above... I'm shy.. Really shy... Or theyre gonna talk to him for me and tell him that i like him but I'm just kinda nervous if he doesn't like me and he gets all weirded out cuz of the whole situation... What am I supposed to do?

[Nimble Awesomeness]

So, I am totally in love with this guy that I know. He's gorgeous and just incredible. The only problem is, I think one of my friends likes him, but she hasn't told me for sure. I feel guilty for liking the same guy, but at the same time I don't have any direct proof that she likes him either. I need help!

Ask her. Just straight out ask her. It's the best way to find out. See if it bothers her that you both like the same guy, and if it does, go ahead and like him; but don't be open about it. I'm not saying you should go behind your friends back, I'm just saying you need to not feel guilty about it but not rub it in her face that you like him. Don't flirt with him when she's around, be respectful that she likes him too and give her a shot at the guy. You can share as long as he hasn't chosen one of you. Just be clear to her when you ask her that whatever she says you still want to be friends. Don't let a guy get between you two. It's the worst reason to split up with a friend. It's really not worth it. I hope this helps, good luck in talking with your friend!

So...I told my boyfriend that I'm sick of him flirting with other girls infront of me, and he said I do the same with the other boy I think I like. Apparently he was trying to get me jelous. I really don't know what to do-I didn't have a clue I was doing this.

Well, all's fair in love and war. If you told him he does it and you don't like it, he has every right to tell you the same. Don't dwell on it. Just try to avoid talking so much with other guys while you're around your boyfriend, and explain to him that whenever either of you see each other doing it you need to pull each other aside and tell them so. This is the only way you two will know when you're doing it. Make it clear that you would pull each other aside out of public before telling them that they were flirting; it's not a public thing. Complete honesty is the best way to go. Good luck!

So the guy I like, let's call him Garden Boy- long story. Garden Boy is rich, popular, and a freshman starting varsity football at a AA school. Needless to say, he's pretty cocky, but he'll admit it. Sometimes, he will just stop talking mid-conversation- what do I do? Just send another text, or wait for him to text me back? :p

Wait for him. Simple.

A friend of (insert name here) recently found out about me having a crush on (insert name here). Now its kinda awkward to talk to (insert name here) and I don't know what to do .n.

Now, is Friend A the one it's awkward to talk to, or is it awkward to talk to your crush now? I'm thinking it's the friend it's awkward to talk to.

Anyways, don't let it be awkward. Just act normal. It should really only be awkward if you talk about your crush in front of Friend A, so just don't talk about your crush. Simple as that. If it's still awkward, just kinda avoid Friend A. If you guys are really close or you see them often, this might be a bit harder to do and you might just want to go with ignoring the awkwardness. All in all, act like nothing happened; but still be careful about talking about your crush in front of Friend A.

Okay. So, I am in need of help right now. Sorry if I am wasting any of your time.

Sooooooo...... I like this guy at my school. He's in my class, and he knows. Well... I think he knows. My friend told him that I used to like him, and now he teases me about it. The friend who told him said to me that if he didn't like me, he wouldn't care, and wouldn't bring it up every single day. Whenever his friend tells him "But you have a girlfriend" in front of me, he keeps saying he's going to dump her. And then he does, and then the week after he's in another relationship with someone else. He always comes to talk to me, and I don't find it awkward at all, but I'm not sure if I should be... And then this morning, this other guy flirted with me for a whole hour, and I let him, not trying to ruin his fun. My friend pointed it out, and I told her I knew. That's when I started wondering if the guy I liked liked me back. He always talks to me, brings it up, and even steals my Ipod to mess with it. Does he like me? Or is it just something guys do?

You're right on both. It's something guys do when they like someone. ;) Yeah, he likes you. He could be a player, but he might just not feel a connection with his current girlfriend anymore. Just make sure you explain to him (if he asks you out after dumping his girlfriend) that you want him to wait just a week or so before he asks you out, because it's not fair to you for him to drop the "oh no I was the reason he broke up with his girlfriend" thought on you. Even if it's true, that's not something that's ok for him to do. Tell him to wait a week. This will also make sure he's not a player. If he is a player, well, you know what they say. Player play on. Basically, if you tell him he has to wait, then he'll ditch and find someone else. If he's a player that is. If he really likes you, he'll wait. This is an awesome way to find out if a guy is just trying to get in your pants or if he's really serious. I hope this helps, good luck!

yeah, I called them, they said they'd be right over, but they never arrived. Yeah, let's just say my college is in the soooooooooooooooooooooooooouuuuuuuth

That's not real, is it... because normally, if a person witnesses the death of someone else, they don't broadcast the fact across virtual sites and act like nothing's wrong at all. /:

On another note, my crush may joke around with me and be nice to me on the occasion, but I really don't feel the connection I felt with him last year... it turns out that what I thought about him crushing on me the way I'm crushing on him was totally wrong. His actions that I once thought were a sign that he liked me back were just casual interactions that my love sick mind changed into something that meant a little different. It doesn't help that I found out he asked out one of my friends. I feel very, very sad. /:

It's ok to not have a crush anymore. Don't let it get to you; so he doesn't like you anymore, so what? If you don't think you like him much anymore either, it doesn't matter. even if he doesn't like you, you can still crush on him. Nothing's stopping you from liking him, as long as you don't hit on him while knowing that he doesn't like you. That's just low. But honestly, don't worry about it. If you don't feel the same for him anymore; you don't feel the same for him anymore. It's totally fine. Don't let it get to you! No guy is worth it.

The guy I like I got to hangout with last night, I've seen him the last 9 days in row! :) Last night we were on a bus going to another Church for evening service and he was sitting behind me. We tease each other sometimes, I only have known him for a couple months but feel like I've known him for way longer. Last night he kept patting me on the head and ruffling my hair and we did staring contests and he would stick his head just slightly over the chair and would duck if I turned around and saw him, but all of it was just him being him and joking around, it was a fun night :) I don't think he likes me likes me (And if it would mess up our friendship I hope he dosen't) but what do you guys think?

Edit: If you want to message me your answer to this feel free to :)

I' m sorry to say, but yeah, he likes you. Well, he might not, but chances are he's one of the many guys that act that way when they have a crush on a girl. It might be a rare case, but I doubt it. There's not much you can do; just act as normal, but try and distance yourself a little bit if he turns the flirting up. If you just want to stay friends, I would just ignore it until he really comes out and tells you he likes you or if he sends a really clear, obvious sign. Then you can start to "worry". Just leave it and don't worry, he might just be wanting to be friends.

I don't quite know what to do.
I really, really don't.
I'm so lost.
Okay:: Here's the code.


D or Spain:: Crush, stuck in the friend zone ?
B or Game:: Crush's best friend, would rather rip me apart limb by limb than give a compliment
Z or Sov:: Best friend ? Apparently likes D.
Tyler, Jacob, Austin:: Guy friends
And Me, Gras.



So I've been crushing on D for a while now. We go to Chess Club together, walk each other to classes at times, sit together at lunch, walk around during recess[yes we still have recess] with B and yeah. D and B are super close.
Z and I are the only girls in our group.
B tends to..bring me down.
So.. basically, I've known Z for nearly two years. Had my back since we met. B I've known for four[?] and he's hated me ever since the beginning of the school year. D I met in August and I always have thought of him as..special to me. The other guys are just...guy friends.
I told Z in January about how I think I've fallen for D.
And ever since then, she's been manipulative, cold, and tends to ignore me whenever anyone else is around. Teases me about liking D.
D, however, is oblivious.
B has been making me feel like a waste of space, every day, for weeks. I can't help but wonder- if I'm important to D, shouldn't he be defending me ? I've been getting mixed signals for a while now, but I've officially come to the conclusion he likes anyone but me.
But every time I talk with him, alone, I feel like I fall even harder for him. And I can't help it, even though I try and force myself to focus on anything but him. I try my hardest, but I just want to spend more time with him, become..more than friends. I don't think I'm ready for my first relationship, but what really bothers me is how cold Z is getting towards me.
She's so..hateful.
Not to mention ever since I told her, the rest of the group[there's roughly eleven of us as of recent] has been treating me with cold shoulders lately.
They worship her.
I can't help but wonder why in the world, when I try to be nice, try to be the best I can be, B picks on me and D just laughs it off and does nothing.
I just..I don't know what to do.
I've got issues as is. I've got abandonment, trust, and social anxiety. Am I too clingy, because I hug D once in a while ?
Maybe it's because I cry too much ?
B has caused me to cry atleast ten times in the past few days.
I want to make him realize what pain he causes me, how horrible he makes me think I am...but D and the others will only take his side. Leave me behind, alone.
These are the only friends I've ever had longer than a week... I don't want to lose them, but the things B has told me constantly makes me feel like I am truely worthless.
I've even said, and what actually do, is wake up every morning and the one thing I tell myself is, "You are not good enough, worthless pest. You are never going to be good enough." Because of what I've been told.
Can anyone help me out ?
I don't want to deal with this any more. But I don't want to go off on my own and get bullied even more becuse of it. I don't know what to do.

I...Oh my God, I can't even hardly help you. These people aren't your friends. This guy isn't worth crushing on. Ditch them all. I mean it. I know it seems hard, but there will be other people to be friends with. These are terrible people. If you friend Z is really acting this way, you need to ditch her first. Stop crushing on D. He's not worth it. It's one of those things where you would have to make him choose you or B, and no girl is worth it if she makes a guy choose between a bro or a hoe. Also, bro's before hoe's. (Excuse my language. xP) He would choose B. It's honestly not worth it.

You need to get your parents to get you into a few counseling sessions, or go drop by the school guidance counselor for a session or two. Seriously. These are not good people, and those are not good thoughts. Bullying is a serious issue, and those kinds of thoughts are signs of depression and can lead to more harmful thoughts of suicide. Please, take my advice and get some kind of professional help, and get these people out of your life. It sounds like you already have depression. And no, you're not too clingy. If you have those kinds of issues, (trust, abandonment, social anxiety) you seriously need to get help ASAP or your life is just going to get harder. Please, please, please get professional help.

Not feeling all that great. My Bestfriend is mad at me for nothing...my two crushes are bestfriends...I'm in a group with one of my crushes...two out of three are in my track team with me...and I just don't know what to do...I can't let go of any of them. One rejected me...the other I dated for 2 weeks...I can't let go... Someone help? <\3

So, what I gathered from this is you have a lot of crushes.

Don't worry, this isn't bad thing. Inconvenient, yes, but bad? No. I assume you're young? Forgive me if I'm wrong. (It's easier to assume that everyone here is youngish x) This is totally normal. Crushes, despite popular belief, mean close to nothing. It's really just a radar for who you might be in love with in the future. Haveing lots of them just means you have lots of options. I suggest a pro and con list, with elimination rounds. (LOL) Basically, make a list of all the good and bad things about Crush A. Then, compare to Crush B. Whichever one is better side by side, kick the other out. Do this with the rest of them until you have one or two left. Remember, it's ok to have a few crushes, as long as you don't try and date them all at once or all in a row. If anyone calls you a *harlot* for having lots of crushes; ignore them. They're really just jealous. :P I hope this helps you, I really do. Good luck!

I have a little problem, and it's name is M... I'm going to see him tomorrow, it's the first time I've seen him since I learned he's going out with someone else... I don't know what to do. How do I act? What do I say? Should I say hi? Should I say nothing? Should I let him come to me if he wants to talk, or just not at all? What if I see his girlfriend? What do I say to her? I don't know if she knows what I think of M. My poor heart is so confused. I don't know what to think at all. Could someone please help me out?

If you see him, let him approach you first. This will let him know you're not clingy and you're not going to intrude onto his new relationship. If you walk up to him the moment you see him, it'll seem like you're trying to win him back right away. Keep the conversation casual; now that he's moved on to a new girl, you need to back track your relationship with him. Don't talk about anything deep or personal, keep it cool. Kinda s if you were talking to your teacher. xP

If you see him girlfriend; well, don't do anything. Don't be rude to her, don't ignore her. But only speak when spoken to, at least for her. It's not yet your place to be becoming buds with his girl, esp. right after they got together. Wait it out until you and M have gotten close again; then you can try and be friends (Or something else...) with her.

Hey, what's it mean to have a dream about your crush?

Well, think about it this way. Dreams are made up of things you're thinking about, so it only means you were thinking about him. From my understanding, (Don't quote me on this) when you go to sleep your brain shuts off and your thoughts get all jumbled together; thus creating a dream. It doesn't mean anything besides you were thinking about him without meaning to. Don't dwell on it.

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I need help.... Ok well... I'm really really shy right... And I have a hard time talking to most guys let alone older guys. My crush is a Junior and I'm a Freshie.... There's a possibility that he likes me a little bit too but it's like a 10% chance that he definately does. My friends keep saying that I need to talk to him but as stated above... I'm shy.. Really shy... Or theyre gonna talk to him for me and tell him that i like him but I'm just kinda nervous if he doesn't like me and he gets all weirded out cuz of the whole situation... What am I supposed to do?

[Nimble Awesomeness]

I need help.... Ok well... I'm really really shy right... And I have a hard time talking to most guys let alone older guys. My crush is a Junior and I'm a Freshie.... There's a possibility that he likes me a little bit too but it's like a 10% chance that he definately does. My friends keep saying that I need to talk to him but as stated above... I'm shy.. Really shy... Or theyre gonna talk to him for me and tell him that i like him but I'm just kinda nervous if he doesn't like me and he gets all weirded out cuz of the whole situation... What am I supposed to do?

Don't get your friends to ask for you, seriously. IMO, this will just make things worse. It's really a forth grader thing to do. x.x Just talk to him yourself. These tips might help you:

Here's an idea: Walk up to him, then say, "Hey, so, um, I really like you. As more than just a friend."

Bam. Magic.

Drink some tea to calm your nerves, eat some mints, wear a push up bra, and go for it. The worst he can say is "I hate you," and that's more than unlikely. If he says he doesn't feel the same way, play it cool. Say you're ok with that, you understand, then once you're alone call a friend and watch the Notebook while shoveling ice cream into your mouth like the tears pouring out of your eyes.

I'm just kidding.

Do step one, and if he rejects you, it's not the end of the world. Honestly. There will be other guys, and chances are, they'll like you back and be 10 times better than the last. It's a 50/50 chance, so you've got to just jump for it. Tell him how you feel, and don't freak if he does say no. Look up some ways to relax, do a little bit of yoga and then call him or meet up with him. If you're going to see him at school or youth group, wait until you can get him alone, or ask him for a minute. Just a simple, "Can I have a minute?" will clear crowds, seriously.

When you're doing it, just take a deep breath before you start speaking. Remember to breath; if I know one thing about public speaking, it's that while you think you've been paused for 30 seconds, in reality it was only 2. What I'm trying to say, is, your pauses in speaking are way shorter than you think they are when you're nervous, so don't be afraid to slow down. Try and keep your hands in check; if you're rubbing them together you might come off as crazy or just insanely nervous. Being nervous isn't a very attractive quality when asking someone out, and IMO rejection is more likely. Then again, if he's a sweetheart he'll just think it's cute. But that's rare.

So, in short, these are my tips for you:

• Keep it short and simple; if you talk too much you might go too fast and your words will jumble together.
• Keep your hands by your sides; don't fiddle.
• Remember to breath; your breaks in your speaking are shorter than you think.
• It's not the end of the world if he says no. If he rejects you, take a deep breath, say "Oh, alright. Thanks anyways," smile, and walk off. Staying cool in rejection is a sure-fire way to keep them running. In your direction. It's sexy to be fine with rejection, and can in fact make him feel a bit unwanted. It might make him feel like he's not worth being sad about being rejected by, so he might change his mind and say yes.
  
  You know how I said it was sexy? It really is. Imagine if you just told someone you didn't like them the way they did you and so you tell them no for a date, would you prefer them saying: "Oh.. Um... Ok... Uh.. Bye.." and awkwardly running off with their eyes tearing up, or would you prefer the one who looks like they know what they're doing when speaking, and after facing utter rejection says: "Oh, alright. Thanks anyways," smiles, and struts away? Much sexier. It'll make you desirable, trust me.

I really hope this helps, and good luck!

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@Nimble squid: thanks! I have to talk to him for real first before I spill myself out to him. Would it be ok if my friends and I kinda jump in and talk to him so I'm knot as flipping out or just by myself?