Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Yeah, it's no problem. :) Good luck!

[Nellas]

I just found out M is dating someone, let's just call her K. I thought we were really close; I thought he liked me, he told me himself, and he knows I like him too- we both said it to each other. But the thing is, I don't know what to think. He didn't say anything to me about it; someone who doesn't even like him as a friend found out and texted me about it. I haven't got in touch with him for a day or two; he goes to a different school. I want to ask him about it, but how?

(Oh crap, another K and another M. It's getting hard to keep track of people... I was really confused for a second because I thought you were Imperfect because she has a K and she used to have an M; it would have been crazy if M and K started dating, wouldn't it Imperfect? xDD)

Well, Nellie, it's not that weird to be out of touch with someone for a day or two. Really now, you don't want to come off as obsessive. Not that you would, but just making sure you understand it's not uncommon to not see someone for a few days.

So, he told you, but you found out about it from a friend? I'm confused. So did he tell you or did the friend tell you? Anyways, that doesn't really matter. Well, it does, but whatever. So what's the problem here? Do you just not know how to contact him, or what? Next time you see him, ask him about it. I mean, if you want to ask him, go for it. If you know that you guys like each other, there shouldn't really be a problem with it. If you know he likes you and you know you like him, don't think about it. Go with the flow. Ask him out, this is the 21st century, it's not odd for a girl to ask the guy. Or if you're lazy like me you can wait for him to ask you. (Plus, I'm old school and prefer the guy to ask. Mostly because I'm a hopeless romantic. :3) Hope this helped!

Oh hahaha yeah it's always K who messes it up, isn't it. Well, I could call M some other initial, because M is only his nickname. And I would never ask a guy to dance, ask a guy out or anything- it's against my code. I have a medieval mind, some say.

No, don't worry, if I'm anything, it's definitely not obsessive. What I thought I had with M was... Something else, something better, something that adults don't believe teens are capable of feeling. I thought we had something together. And it was magical. But I was a fool. I was so happy, happier than I'd ever been in my life, and then he turned his back and started going out with K. And he didn't say anything about it to me. Now don't get me wrong; I don't want to try to sabotage what he has, I would never in the life of me think of doing anything like that. I care about him too much. But he didn't tell me he started dating this other girl, this K. And how did I find out? Over a text. By someone who doesn't even like him. I should have seen the signs, known he didn't like me anymore. Of course, we would have been friends in the first place even if we didn't like each other, but now I can only hope he won't hate me. I have no idea what to do. No idea at all. It would have been easier if he just told me. He's caused me to doubt many of the things I thought I was and, more importantly, many of the things I thought he was. You know what I thought, Nim, if you got that RP (Edit: Meant to say PM :3) replying to the chat on here. But I guess M just didn't like me as much as I felt for him. I think, though, that I knew it, really deep in my heart that he didn't feel the same way, but as much as I've learned about myself in the past few months, it didn't help me. And the thing is, it's not even that he's going out with someone else that really hurts; as much as I care about him, we weren't even going out in the first place, and anyways I don't want to be in the way of his happiness. It's that he didn't tell me. Why wouldn't he tell me? Because he didn't want to hurt me? Well, he hurt me even more by letting me find out from someone else and not from him. And of course I may be wrong, because I really don't know what's true and what's not right now, but I didn't think he was the type to do that sort of thing. He used to like me. I thought we would have been friends anyways. So why couldn't he tell me?
I just can't figure it out.
Maybe my mind doesn't work as well when my heart's in pieces.

[peapcd]

Whats with all the letters? Call a person 'my crush' or 'him/her'

[Nellas]

Yes, of course you can, a lot of people just find it easier to assign them letters because then you can't get confused about who someone is talking about.

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Oh hahaha yeah it's always K who messes it up, isn't it. :/ Well, I could call M some other initial, because M is only his nickname. And I would never ask a guy to dance, ask a guy out or anything- it's against my code. I have a medieval mind, some say.

No, don't worry, if I'm anything, it's definitely not obsessive. What I thought I had with M was... Something else, something better, something that adults don't believe teens are capable of feeling. I thought we had something together. And it was magical. But I was a fool. I was so happy, happier than I'd ever been in my life, and then he turned his back and started going out with K. And he didn't say anything about it to me. Now don't get me wrong; I don't want to try to sabotage what he has, I would never in the life of me think of doing anything like that. I care about him too much. But he didn't tell me he started dating this other girl, this K. And how did I find out? Over a text. By someone who doesn't even like him. I should have seen the signs, known he didn't like me anymore. Of course, we would have been friends in the first place even if we didn't like each other, but now I can only hope he won't hate me. I have no idea what to do. No idea at all. It would have been easier if he just told me. He's caused me to doubt many of the things I thought I was and, more importantly, many of the things I thought he was. You know what I thought, Nim, if you got that RP replying to the chat on here. But I guess M just didn't like me as much as I felt for him. I think, though, that I knew it, really deep in my heart that he didn't feel the same way, but as much as I've learned about myself in the past few months, it didn't help me. And the thing is, it's not even that he's going out with someone else that really hurts; as much as I care about him, we weren't even going out in the first place, and anyways I don't want to be in the way of his happiness. It's that he didn't tell me. Why wouldn't he tell me? Because he didn't want to hurt me? Well, he hurt me even more by letting me find out from someone else and not from him. And of course I may be wrong, because I really don't know what's true and what's not right now, but I didn't think he was the type to do that sort of thing. He used to like me. I thought we would have been friends anyways. So why couldn't he tell me?
I just can't figure it out.
Maybe my mind doesn't work as well when my heart's in pieces.

...The only thing I can process from all of this is: What RP? >.< I'm sorry, it's three in the morning and I'm trying to get this stupid report done, I honestly can't think. I swear I'll reply to this again tomorrow when I can read and take in what you wrote. But that RP? *confused* *And also feels really bad about not being able to say anything that's not stupid* *will provide words of comfort tomorrow*

[Nellas]

Oh. Umm. I don't know what I meant by that *dies of embarrassment* I might have meant to say PM, but I'm working on character forms for an RP at the moment so I'm thinking of that too.... *coughcough* *runs away and hides in a closet*

Hurr, but don't worry about me. Do a good job on your report, Nim. It'll turn out great, I know.

[Nimble Awesomeness]

So I've realized something.

I'm a brat. I'm obnoxious, vain, outspoken, strident, loud, quick to anger and a few other things that aren't all to nice.

I must have missed the memo, but this is a good thing now? I'm a brat around M, OJ and B. I really am. Sometimes I shock myself, I step back and think; "Good God, did I really just say that? Did I seriously do that?" And yet, they stil have crushes on me. WOuld someone care to explain this to me? Because I am baffled about this. My family thinks it, I think it, a few people who hate me think it, and it's mostly true. But through all this, and how horribly I've treated them, they still have crushes on me. Mainly OJ and M is who I'm talking about.

To them, I'm seriously a jerk. On facebook, in real life, anywhere. I avoid them, I'm rude to them; probably more awful than I've ever treated anybody before, I'm serious.

I'm never baffled when it comes to guys. If you guys haven't noticed, I never ask for advice on here. Only give and rant. It's because I don't need advice. I can easily figure it out myself. This is the one thing that I don't get. Suddenly it's hot to treat them like dirt? It's a good quality to tell them to screw them all the time, to ignore them, to avoid sitting next to them? To always choose the opposite team they're on? These are nice guys, ok? Nice, young Christian boys brought up in a good home. What makes them like me through all the crap I put them through? It's not because they love me so much they'll go through anything for me, that's for sure.

Guys, really. Why do they like me? I honestly don't understand, and it kinda pisses me off that they do..

It's not that I'll do anything for them to not like me, it's that it's just how I act around them because that's pretty much how I feel about them. OJ isn't as bad as M, but that's cause it hasn't been as long. If I just wait, he'll get worse, I can almost promise it.

[Colorpaw<3]

So I've realized something.

I'm a brat. I'm obnoxious, vain, outspoken, strident, loud, quick to anger and a few other things that aren't all to nice.

I must have missed the memo, but this is a good thing now? I'm a brat around M, OJ and B. I really am. Sometimes I shock myself, I step back and think; "Good God, did I really just say that? Did I seriously do that?" And yet, they stil have crushes on me. WOuld someone care to explain this to me? Because I am baffled about this. My family thinks it, I think it, a few people who hate me think it, and it's mostly true. But through all this, and how horribly I've treated them, they still have crushes on me. Mainly OJ and M is who I'm talking about.

To them, I'm seriously a jerk. On facebook, in real life, anywhere. I avoid them, I'm rude to them; probably more awful than I've ever treated anybody before, I'm serious.

I'm never baffled when it comes to guys. If you guys haven't noticed, I never ask for advice on here. Only give and rant. It's because I don't need advice. I can easily figure it out myself. This is the one thing that I don't get. Suddenly it's hot to treat them like dirt? It's a good quality to tell them to screw them all the time, to ignore them, to avoid sitting next to them? To always choose the opposite team they're on? These are nice guys, ok? Nice, young Christian boys brought up in a good home. What makes them like me through all the crap I put them through? It's not because they love me so much they'll go through anything for me, that's for sure.

Guys, really. Why do they like me? I honestly don't understand, and it kinda pisses me off that they do..

It's not that I'll do anything for them to not like me, it's that it's just how I act around them because that's pretty much how I feel about them. OJ isn't as bad as M, but that's cause it hasn't been as long. If I just wait, he'll get worse, I can almost promise it.

This is what I feel like a lot of the time; like I'm a complete jerk.

But it's a known fact that people think so much less of themselves than they really are. I can assure you that you aren't that bad of a person, and it's just your head or the devil messing with you.

If that doesn't help much, could you tell me what you do when you're around them to make you feel like you're a jerk?

Thanks, hope my advice works. c:

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Oh, I know I'm not a bad person. xP It's just around them. Psh, I'm a great person! Seriously now, I think very highly of myself. So much I honestly have an ego problem. I just can't comprehend how they can still like me when I've deliberately been a jerk to them.

Well, I always avoid sitting next to either of them. I always avoid talking to them unless I have to. I hardly ever give M eye-contact. I could have chosen M to be on my debate team, but I didn't because, well, I can't stand him. I'm always telling them "Blahblahblah?!?! Well screw you!" more so than I do most people. I yell at them a lot too. On facebook I coldly tell them to stop stalking my page when I realize they've liked all of my posts within the last, like, week. Oh, and I defriended M because he spammed my facebook wall with similes. Pretty much just always giving them the cold shoulder.

Does this help? xP

EDIT: Oh, and I should mention that I've known for a long time I can be REALLY obnoxious. I have a really bad habit of crossing the line from over-confident to just flat out full of myself. I am fully aware of this, and it's my worst flaw. I've been working on it. x|

[sushii]

No, I am not in highschool. I am in middle school, bunt am still I'm either grade 6,7, or 8. I'm just not telling. :3 anyway, I have an issue.


There is this guy I REALLY like. My friends say I obsess over him, an it's most likely true. But lately I have decided to mellow down on him and not try anymore. Why? He NEVER hangs out with me and he will not accept OR decline my friend request on Facebook. But I always cath him started and looking for me at recess. I used to talk alot with him when we ate lunch in the library, but nobody can at in there anymore. My friend told ke Ahe hears rubies he is gonna ask someone out, but that's all phony baloney. And I am not sure if he wants to be friends on FACEBOOK because he is online everyday and j never replies. Although all his other friends and kids at school are CONSTANTLY addin me. I would say myself popular. :3 lol


So what should I do to get to know him better, abd hang out with him nore without always blushing r acting stupid? This is even separating me abd a couple of my friends cuz SHE is alwas hanging out with him. And lots of other girls like him too.



Help!!!

I dont have a clue but I myself would, just to quietly pull him aside and ask if he wants to do something on the weekend. Or if you sit near him in class ask how he has been or if he ever goes on Facebook. Just something to get a conversation going.

That is the issue. The only time I see him is at (stupid) recess. He is in another class. A whole new world, to my opinion. And when seeing him at recess my heart melts. My friend also told me when I talk about Jim my face even gets red... So I need some more helpful tips how to get to know him.