Belle's Advice Column!!!

[MadiBird]

Okay, so my bff has this really huge crush on a close guy friend of mine. I've been helping her out - like telling her his likes and dislikes and all that - and then a few weeks ago he told me he has a new girlfriend. I, being the wonderful friend that I am, got all happy for him, because this girl is someone that he's totally nuts about. Anyways, my bff still wants to try to win him over (as in steal him away from his girlfriend). Do you think I should tell her to tone it down for a while, and wait for them to break up, or should I encourage her to go for it?

[chaos.]

Okay, so my bff has this really huge crush on a close guy friend of mine. I've been helping her out - like telling her his likes and dislikes and all that - and then a few weeks ago he told me he has a new girlfriend. I, being the wonderful friend that I am, got all happy for him, because this girl is someone that he's totally nuts about. Anyways, my bff still wants to try to win him over (as in steal him away from his girlfriend). Do you think I should tell her to tone it down for a while, and wait for them to break up, or should I encourage her to go for it?

I think she should wait for them to break up, i know i would hate it if somone broke me and my boyfrind up.. (thogh i dont have one.. im to young XD)

[solo]

OK, here it goes... I've never talked to anyone about this.....
Last year on Christmas Eve, around nine at night, my grandpa had a heart attack and died right in front of me.
Then my mom's cancer came back.
Then my family found out that my 17 year old brother had a hole in his heart the size of two quarters, and he had to get open heart surgery and a pacemaker put in.
My uncle Don, who was VERY close to me, was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the summer. At the end of the summer, he died.
My other brother just got in a car crash and got his neck and back messed up.
A young classmate of mine died in his sleep from an unknown heart condition.
One of my cousins was completely paralyzed in a car crash, and his dad has just been diagnosed with a liver problem and he won't live much longer.
My great grandma died suddenly last week.
One of my uncles passed away two months ago.
This, and lots more stuff, all happened between last Christmas eve and today. Since last Christmas, I changed a lot. I became more distant and depressed, I spent more time alone than with my family. And then I just stopped being able to cry. This sounds weird, but I couldn't cry when my uncle Don died. I wanted to, so badly but... I just couldn't. I began to feel sad all the time. I never talk to anyone about how I feel, not to my closest friends, not even to my parents. I feel like there's something wrong with me, but I can't tell anyone that. My friends and family all think I'm a happy, normal person, when in reality, I'm depressed and hurt inside. This took a lot for me to tell somebody else about this. I just feel so horrible all the time. I used to be a social, bubbly person, but now I like to spend most of my time alone and in my room, drawing. I'm not suicidal or emo or anything, it's not like I need medication, I just feel so... left out. Empty. Stressed. Like I can't feel anything but sadness. Could you please help me?

[correlate.]

Whoa! So much sadness at once!
I think that eventually everyone gets over depressing things, and it's good toget back into the swing of things. Do something that takes your mind off it, like a hobby or sport. You'll be having so much fun that you won't think about it anymore; I'm not saying you should forget, just don't focus all your thoughts on that topic. I feel the way you do sometimes too, but I can't make it better...

[.Arrow.]

I'm so sorry, I'm grounded (am sneaking on XD) so I won't be able to give any advice until I get my comp back sry. I'll catch up when I do get it back... again sry

[correlate.]

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[ghostboy]

OK, here it goes... I've never talked to anyone about this.....
Last year on Christmas Eve, around nine at night, my grandpa had a heart attack and died right in front of me.
Then my mom's cancer came back.
Then my family found out that my 17 year old brother had a hole in his heart the size of two quarters, and he had to get open heart surgery and a pacemaker put in.
My uncle Don, who was VERY close to me, was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the summer. At the end of the summer, he died.
My other brother just got in a car crash and got his neck and back messed up.
A young classmate of mine died in his sleep from an unknown heart condition.
One of my cousins was completely paralyzed in a car crash, and his dad has just been diagnosed with a liver problem and he won't live much longer.
My great grandma died suddenly last week.
One of my uncles passed away two months ago.
This, and lots more stuff, all happened between last Christmas eve and today. Since last Christmas, I changed a lot. I became more distant and depressed, I spent more time alone than with my family. And then I just stopped being able to cry. This sounds weird, but I couldn't cry when my uncle Don died. I wanted to, so badly but... I just couldn't. I began to feel sad all the time. I never talk to anyone about how I feel, not to my closest friends, not even to my parents. I feel like there's something wrong with me, but I can't tell anyone that. My friends and family all think I'm a happy, normal person, when in reality, I'm depressed and hurt inside. This took a lot for me to tell somebody else about this. I just feel so horrible all the time. I used to be a social, bubbly person, but now I like to spend most of my time alone and in my room, drawing. I'm not suicidal or emo or anything, it's not like I need medication, I just feel so... left out. Empty. Stressed. Like I can't feel anything but sadness. Could you please help me?

You sound depressed. Luckily, your not suicidal, which lowers the chance of a doctor saying you need medication. Do you have a pet? If so, talk and cuddle with them, they always understand your sadness, and give you tons of support. If not, maybe think about adopting a kitten or puppy from your local shelter, they need support as much as you. Hobbies help too... I hope this helped!

[.:♥Pandora♥:.]

OK, here it goes... I've never talked to anyone about this.....
Last year on Christmas Eve, around nine at night, my grandpa had a heart attack and died right in front of me.
Then my mom's cancer came back.
Then my family found out that my 17 year old brother had a hole in his heart the size of two quarters, and he had to get open heart surgery and a pacemaker put in.
My uncle Don, who was VERY close to me, was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the summer. At the end of the summer, he died.
My other brother just got in a car crash and got his neck and back messed up.
A young classmate of mine died in his sleep from an unknown heart condition.
One of my cousins was completely paralyzed in a car crash, and his dad has just been diagnosed with a liver problem and he won't live much longer.
My great grandma died suddenly last week.
One of my uncles passed away two months ago.
This, and lots more stuff, all happened between last Christmas eve and today. Since last Christmas, I changed a lot. I became more distant and depressed, I spent more time alone than with my family. And then I just stopped being able to cry. This sounds weird, but I couldn't cry when my uncle Don died. I wanted to, so badly but... I just couldn't. I began to feel sad all the time. I never talk to anyone about how I feel, not to my closest friends, not even to my parents. I feel like there's something wrong with me, but I can't tell anyone that. My friends and family all think I'm a happy, normal person, when in reality, I'm depressed and hurt inside. This took a lot for me to tell somebody else about this. I just feel so horrible all the time. I used to be a social, bubbly person, but now I like to spend most of my time alone and in my room, drawing. I'm not suicidal or emo or anything, it's not like I need medication, I just feel so... left out. Empty. Stressed. Like I can't feel anything but sadness. Could you please help me?

You sound depressed. Luckily, your not suicidal, which lowers the chance of a doctor saying you need medication. Do you have a pet? If so, talk and cuddle with them, they always understand your sadness, and give you tons of support. If not, maybe think about adopting a kitten or puppy from your local shelter, they need support as much as you. Hobbies help too... I hope this helped!

I agree with this but, hince my username, I must suggest something other than a cat or dog. I have both a greatly love them but they seem to be the focus of the world. If you do not oppose to them there are also hundreds of rats that need homes. My dogs and cat listen to my problems and understand, but they also sometimes lose focus. One of my rats however, Hera just sits on my shoulder and stares at me with the sweetest, understanding expression and to some things I believe she can relate to she actually nods! Ananie, my other rat can make me laugh when I cry just by how silly she is. I spent hours every day alone with my rats after my grandma died and they really helped.

[ghostboy]

Ah, yes sorry! Rats ca be wonderful listeners and great pets as well!

[.:♥Pandora♥:.]

Lol, it's np I just tend to think of the smaller more exotic animals! WARNING: If you get rats... Well, I'll just say that my Ananie can open padlocks but she's loyal and never goes far from the cage. -_- I don't know why I even try to keep her in.