Belle's Advice Column!!!

[correlate.]

Well, no matter how hard you try to convince someone that you don't like him, they will always think that you do. It's just the way it is, lol!
Sounds like you're happy to see him, no? Anyway, your friend is probably just jealous. She knows that if you were to ask him out, you'd have better chances than her. Like Smokey said, they're just your parents and close friends... Their comments can't and shouldn't bug you that much.

Oh, i'm adding new positions to this Column! if you want one.... I have to add them first!

[Sad Café]

OK I have a problem that been at me for 3 months now...

So I have this friend, lets call her C-, and she has been my bff for 8 years up untill now. Back in october I got really sick and wasen't at school for a week. So during this time, my bff started hanging out with the apperently 'popular girls' in my class. He had plans to go trick-or-treating together, but at the last moment, she cancelled on me and lied that she had to go with her cousins. It turns out she was ditching me for the girl group, lets call them GR, and lieing to cover it up. So I was really hurt when found out and it made it worse that friend C- lied too. Things only got worse. She started hanging out with the GR all the time and she would never talk to me and she was really mean when we did talk. So I was hanging out with the GR for about 2 days after I came back, then I couldn't take watching C- ignore me so I went to hangount with my best guy friend, let's call him N. So I hung out with N for a bout a week, and then the princalple got involved. She said I had to hang out with the GR, or I would get in trouble. So I did for about a month, and then friend T came in and stayed by my side for this whole time. She and N were the ones I stayed with. near the GR. All this time, my x-bff C- was having a wonderful life without me. So abouta month later, anther friend, M, joined me. Than I got sick again, for about 3-4 days. During this time C- got in a fight with S, one of the leaders of the GR. So she left them and came over to me M,T and N. So I thought, well mabye shes left them for good. So for about another 3 weeks it was us that hung out all the time. But I was worried and I kept telling her that sooner or later she was going to make up with S and be invited to something I wasn't and then she would be back with them. but C- kept tellling me that she wouldn't and she would stick with me. But I belived her. How stupid. Then yesterday, she was invited to go to something I wasn't invited to. She told me that she wasn't going. That afternoon I had to go get a filling, and I ran into C-'s mom at the dentist. I know her very well so we started talking. Then she askied me if I was going to that thing that I wasn't invited to. I explained that i wasn't and she told me that C- was, in fact, going. So there I was, pissed at C- for lieing again. Then just today I went to school and went up to T and M. Than when C- came she walked right past us like we didn't exsist. So I got really sad and was bummed out untill after lunch, when I thought " This is my fault for trusting her.wth am I sad for?", so for the rest of the day I was acting like my normal self and acting like I completeley forgot about C-.

I need to know if I should forget about C-, or If I should try to make things right again and give her a chance. I mean she has been my bff for 8 years......please help? (Sorry for the length btw.)

[ghostboy]

A toughy for sure, but I believe patching things up will usually be the best thing. You need to make her realize that you are much more important than GR is. Maybe when you pass her with your friends, say a inside joke, she'll probably miss it. I hope this helped!

[.Arrow.]

A popular group issue, I know how you feel to a certain degree. Wow, your principal got involved? That's just weird, a principal, or teacher for that matter, has no rights to choose who your friends with unless its causing actual problems at school. Wow, I still can't believe that... wow, just wow.. Sorry, I'll quit freaking about that and give some actual advice.

If she'd rather be with GR then there really is nothing you can do. If she decides she wants to be friends with you and GR then that would be okay, but ignoring you and your friends when it's more convenient for her is not fair to you. If she continues to treat her like that, it might be a good idea to just ignore her and enjoy your time with your other friends. If or when she comes back to your group, do not hesitate to let her know how you felt about it. She's still your friend and you don't need to forget about her, but try not to dwell on it . She might not even realize she's doing it, I know my friend bounces back and forth between myself and the more popular group without really realizing it, though from the way your friends treating you that's probably not the case.

To sum that up, if she decides to keep bouncing back and forth or come back to you guys, let her but also let her know how you feel if she does come back. And don't dwell on it, it'll just make you feel worse so just try and enjoy your time with your other friends and leave thoughts of C out of your mind.

Though, that's also what I'd do... so maybe Lotustail's idea might be more for you.

Hopefully that helps...

[Sad Café]

Thanks guys! I`ll put this advice to work tommorow!

[.Arrow.]

No problem, it's what we're here for!

Or iisss iiittt.... XD

[dasniu]

Username: Moonswirl
how long you've been on CS: Since.. November...20-something of 2009
Have you done this type of job before? If so, when and where?: Nope D: D:
Do you have the time to do this?: Yes. Yes i do.
Are you neat and organized?: Yes. Yes I am

[.:♥Pandora♥:.]

Username: RattieLover_55
how long you've been on CS: Quite a while... Since September 20, 2009
Have you done this type of job before? If so, when and where?: Yes, in my elementary newspaper.
Do you have the time to do this?: Yupp. I am on from 6am central to 7am then from 4pm until 9:30pm and on weekends I don't leave lol
Are you neat and organized?: Very! I have OCD so not being organized bothers me deeply.

[Enbizaka]

Okay, I need help bad.

Okay, I have these two friends, let's call 'em, P and J. P, keeps hanging onto J, always laughing with her, and saying 'Can I work with you?' before I can. J sits by me normally in class, and P gets annoyed if she cant sit by J. on Friday, me, P, and J were playing today. I did something, P called me a fat pig. J storms off upset because she called me a fat pig. Thanks P. -.- Anyway, P doesnt say sorry. She walks off with J, ignoring me.

Help?

[.:♥Pandora♥:.]

I haven't been accepted as staff but I can still help I guess. I think what you need to do is to calmly talk to P. Ask her why she is acting the way she is or, if your shy like me, you can always just talkk to J and casually say something like, "Hey J... I was wondering id P is seeming a bit pushy?" Or, "Hey J. How come we never hang out anymore? I mean, P never really let's me..." Or something of that sort. I had the same problem with me and my bi friend liking the same guy...