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[Dragonspirit]

Hello. my friend and i have been having this fight since September 3rd? I was talking to some of the boys in my class and my friend walks up to and starts talking to me about this show and i was not interested anymore so i walked over to my desk. and she started calling my bad names like Meanie Head, Dumby, and other stuff. i just want this to stop cause we've been best friends since kindergarten and since the fight i dont know if are friendship is gonna last. any suggestions?

I would suggest that you talk to her. Ask her what happened to make her act that way towards you. Maybe she was hurt that you ignored her, or walked away when she was talking, or maybe it is something else. The best thing to do is just communicate how you feel. ^-^

I have been having 'Friend Issues' and 'Love Issues.' 1st, my friends are ignoring me, so im losing more and more of them. I have none of there cell-phone numbers because they never EVER tell me. I was even forced away and threatened to be punched by one of my friends. I am beginning to believe NO ONE cares about me at all. 2nd my BF really does not hang out with me anymore. He goes with his friends, he visits his friends, he CALLS his friends more than me!! I am beginning to think also he does not love me for myself, but only to impress someone else -_- I only see him at school, so even when im super sick I go because he never ever ever visits me. Thats me only excuse to see him. Ever. I am getting tired of it all. It's driven me almost to suicide, I even wrote 3 suicide notes, and he is all I got now, my parents are to strict and I cant share all my secrets with them. PLEASE ADVICE.. NOW!

Believe it or not, lots of people care about you. To name a few, your parents, any other close family like siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents, heck even teachers care about you. Your friends do care about you. Maybe just talk to them and see why they are not counting you in. Tell them that you feel a little left out, or just ask for some time with them. Hang out and go to the movies, go to each others houses, there is a bunch of stuff you can do.... My best advice is just to communicate with them, and try to build relationships with your friends. Just don't force yourself on them Friends do need space.

As for the notes... Candie, life is a gift. Just think about all the people it would effect if you were to do something harmful... Your family and friends would be devastated. I suggest to start confiding in your parents. They were kids once too, you know I am sure they will do their best to help you through your tough times. Just trust them.

As for your boyfriend, maybe try giving him some space; again, talking is a good thing. Ask him why he is ignoring you, or try and hang out with him and some other friends, not just him. Maybe he just feels awkward, or it could be that he doesn't feel the same way towards you anymore.

MMKAY. My BF and I have been dating for 2 years now. I love him dearly but I keep on getting told that he wants to sit by this other girl in class, and we have NO classes together, he is all I got left and I am afraid to lose him, Whats do I do?!? D:

You keep getting told? By who? Friends or just people you know? Rumors can spread quickly, but if it is someone you trust, then okay. I suggest you talk to your boyfriend, and ask him what is up.. As said before
But he is all you have left? You still have your family. You still have a house, and food and shelter. You still have friends, education.. You still have a ton of other things. Try not to think of him as "all you have left" If the possibility ever arises that you would split up with him, then it will be all the more harder on you when/if it does happen.

Hey guys!
Got a problem. Or else, many problems.

First one, I'm a very good student. That might not sound as a problem, but it IS. My parents and grandparents always expect me to be the best in everything, and at home tension is just huge. I try to run away inside books, reading or writing. I've got artistic talent, I can draw/sing/write very well. That's all my friends see of me What I do. Not what I am.
They think of me as someone that's always strong, always there to help them. They can't seem to realize I need help too. At the same time, they see me as some sort of nerd. What to do?

Well, firstly, be thankful. Your parents, grandparents and friends all think very highly of you. Most people have to fight there way to the top, but you are already there. My best advice is to not think of it as a bad thing, but look at it as a challenge. Honestly try and meet the standards they set for you, and if you fail, admit that you just can't do that yet and move on. Unfortunately it's easier said than done, but still try.

So, your friends only see what you do? Well, then show them what you are. Hang out with your friends in places where you don't have to be looked up to, for instance at a movie theater. Just find places where you can show your more "un-formal" side .

What do i do to survive...
The main hard drive...Failed..
ALL of my information, Plus my fathers.. has been lost, Hundreds of plug-ins lost.

I am very sorry that that happened. It is always a big bummer when everything on your computer gets lost...

@DysFUNctional ~ Well, maybe just wait it out. Try looking at boys more your age, not ones that are way older There is a major maturity gap between younger ages vs. older ages, especially when you are younger. Er.. am I making sense? X_X If you still have the same crush a few years down the road, then maybe later on you two can get together.

Whoo. Enjoy ^-^

[swiftystar]

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Just read it. All of it. Actually, by the time you get this, someone will probably have replied to my post. So, the first and second.
I just need somone to talk to about this.

[omori]

It won't come up for me. :/

[Sapphirescript]

Staff I need some help D8.
Latley I have become a teenager. And because I have become a teenager I tend to break out. I hate washing my face and it comes and goes. Sometimes I feel like everybody is looking at me because of a zit or something wrong with me.
I have self esteem tons of it. I also have the problem of getting to rough. I am compititive and animal like. I growl and scratch and get rough. Everybody avoids me and picks on me. So I don't have any friends. When they pick on me I fight back and that only makes the problem worse. My brother is always ashamed of me and expects me to take it but I Can't. You try dealing with balls being thrown at your head (The basketball kind) all day and getting laughed at. I made two friends but they don't come anymore so I never see them. I don't want to change myself but I want a way to make them stop. The words of the paster says that its my fault for chasing them and they tease me as well. They say all the boys are my boyfriends. I really can't stand that because not only is it digrating but It hurts. I have never dated in my life. and I don't plan on doing so for another 3-5 years. I'm only thirteen. I always tell people I never go with the crowd and I could beat up anybody I want but the reality is I get hurt quite easily and I am very shy. Though I hate going with the crowd of fans. Like twighlight or such I stil keep my thoughts to myself cause I don't want enemies. I never give up onn fighting but I always lose.
I have no discipline either. I am homeschooled and My parents expect me to finish one subject in one month. (mind you thats the years worth of lessons. in one month) And I can't do it. I have no self dicispline and no matter how much I want it done it dosn't come. I avoid it like the plauge. So now my parents are super angry because not only do I have to have it all done ASAP. I have to get all A's or B's which leads to another problem. I cheat... alot... See I can't focas. Retaining infromation is as easy as lifting a car. Not entirley impossible but pretty frigen hard. It takes days of studieing to pass a quiz and their are three quizes then a huge test in every catagory. (my school works on a system. You click on a subject and it opens up a list of catagorys. As soon as one is over they don't use it anymore. Every one of these is roughly 10-15 lessons long. with a minor of three quizes then a big test. Mabye a project throughn in there.) So I have to cheat. OR else if I get naything under a B I will repeat the 8th grade over grade nine. Cheating gets me no where and I can do math and langauge by myself. But bible, history, and science I can't do. I can't express it enough how hard it is for me to concentrate. And when I go to my mom she gets really angry at me and says I can do better when I get a C. It makes it really hard and she thinks I am acing school when in reality I am just cheating so I give her what she wants.
O and have I mentioned I get roughly 4-6 hours of sleep each night? I have to hit myself to stay awake because I can't have caffene. I get stand up without falling over. I feel really sick each day so I have to stay in bed. Which makes me sleepy. But I can only sleep for ten mintues before my mom gets very upset and screams at me.
That and she conestly hounds me for A. 'HAving no friends and B. Spending so much time on my computer )where my school is(.
A. Everybody wher eI go are prissy pompus girls who are afraid of getting alittle dirty (can't stand people like that I'm a tomboy)
B. I have nothing to do all day. No toys well not really. I got a tv and some books o.o.
So I would really love the help. I need to turn my life around. To get my dream job I need to ace science. Mostly Zooology which I am a A student. (no cheating) That and my brother worked at a real job when he was 14. My parents don't say it but I know for a fact they expect me the same. The only job I have is lawn cutting my nieghbors. And dog walking this summer. So ya I need the help. My life sucks.

EDIT: I frogot. I am a christian so that means, Nothing enjoyable! Nothing to do with magic, winged creatures, dragons, or anything thats not holy. Meaning nothing fun o.o. I wrote a story for my friend Kinarra and she is a lezbian. She is my BF for over a year now. And They found it I almost got grounded from my computer. I can't write for her anymore unless its a pairing between her and my characters.

[PolarAzulTigris]

Hello everyone I know I've posted this several places but I'm trying to get down to the problem.. my cats skin condition is bothering me. More so since my mother likes to bring up the fact how much they've spent on the cat so far when I was looking for a solution to her skin problem. I don't' want to put the cat to sleep and I want her to be happy but she's a very skittish and strange cat. Problem is she's losing her fur on her back and near her tail, everywhere with scabs. The problem is if she is allergic to fleas I can't give her baths because of the sores, she hurts too much for me to even pet her.

And... I don't have really the money to 'fix her' either. So I don't know what to do since I can't bring her when I move out of the house anyway. Makes me sad but I just don't know what to do. Should I put the girl up for adoption even though she can't get along with strangers? Sounds like a no win deal. I don't want to put her to sleep though. >.< She's very loving to me, but... I don't know any more. She's just very costly and I don't want her to be in pain all the time. I think she's in pain anyway, she won't let me pet her with the sores.

I'm just very concerned and I don't really get 'real' advice from my mom as she rants on how we'll have to get rid of her most likely due to the expenses and what not.

[huskynerd]

Sorry if non-staff are not allowed to give advice, but I have some experience here and felt the need to chime in. If I should apply as staff, I can do that, though I don't know how much time I can commit with school starting again soon.

Hello everyone I know I've posted this several places but I'm trying to get down to the problem.. my cats skin condition is bothering me. More so since my mother likes to bring up the fact how much they've spent on the cat so far when I was looking for a solution to her skin problem. I don't' want to put the cat to sleep and I want her to be happy but she's a very skittish and strange cat. Problem is she's losing her fur on her back and near her tail, everywhere with scabs. The problem is if she is allergic to fleas I can't give her baths because of the sores, she hurts too much for me to even pet her.

And... I don't have really the money to 'fix her' either. So I don't know what to do since I can't bring her when I move out of the house anyway. Makes me sad but I just don't know what to do. Should I put the girl up for adoption even though she can't get along with strangers? Sounds like a no win deal. I don't want to put her to sleep though. >.< She's very loving to me, but... I don't know any more. She's just very costly and I don't want her to be in pain all the time. I think she's in pain anyway, she won't let me pet her with the sores.

I'm just very concerned and I don't really get 'real' advice from my mom as she rants on how we'll have to get rid of her most likely due to the expenses and what not.

If your pet is ill and you can't afford to care for her (and your mom isn't willing to), I would strongly suggest surrendering her to a rescue. This doesn't necessarily have to be a shelter, as that does not sound like it would be the right place for her. There are many independent rescue organizations that will take in pets and put them in foster homes. This is much more pleasant for the animal, and it also allows them to give specialty care to a pet with health and/or behavioral issues.

You can go to petfinder.com ( http://www.petfinder.com/awo/index.cgi?action=location ) to search for rescues in your area. Put in your zip code and the word "cat" in the Group Name section to search specifically. Get in touch with the rescues you find through phone or email and explain your situation to them. I bet you will find someone who can help.

Have you taken your cat to a vet? If you've only tried over the counter remedies I would definitely suggest looking for some low cost vetinary services in your area. The Humane Society has some tips and instructions for finding affordable animal care.

I'm sure you love your cat very much, and it's clear from what you've wrote that you truly care for her well-being. I hope some of that helps. If you have any questions at all, feel free to PM me. I volunteer with a husky rescue organization that's composed of a network of foster homes, so I do have some experience with this type of thing.

[PolarAzulTigris]

Sorry if non-staff are not allowed to give advice, but I have some experience here and felt the need to chime in. If I should apply as staff, I can do that, though I don't know how much time I can commit with school starting again soon.

Hello everyone I know I've posted this several places but I'm trying to get down to the problem.. my cats skin condition is bothering me. More so since my mother likes to bring up the fact how much they've spent on the cat so far when I was looking for a solution to her skin problem. I don't' want to put the cat to sleep and I want her to be happy but she's a very skittish and strange cat. Problem is she's losing her fur on her back and near her tail, everywhere with scabs. The problem is if she is allergic to fleas I can't give her baths because of the sores, she hurts too much for me to even pet her.

And... I don't have really the money to 'fix her' either. So I don't know what to do since I can't bring her when I move out of the house anyway. Makes me sad but I just don't know what to do. Should I put the girl up for adoption even though she can't get along with strangers? Sounds like a no win deal. I don't want to put her to sleep though. >.< She's very loving to me, but... I don't know any more. She's just very costly and I don't want her to be in pain all the time. I think she's in pain anyway, she won't let me pet her with the sores.

I'm just very concerned and I don't really get 'real' advice from my mom as she rants on how we'll have to get rid of her most likely due to the expenses and what not.

If your pet is ill and you can't afford to care for her (and your mom isn't willing to), I would strongly suggest surrendering her to a rescue. This doesn't necessarily have to be a shelter, as that does not sound like it would be the right place for her. There are many independent rescue organizations that will take in pets and put them in foster homes. This is much more pleasant for the animal, and it also allows them to give specialty care to a pet with health and/or behavioral issues.

You can go to petfinder.com ( http://www.petfinder.com/awo/index.cgi?action=location ) to search for rescues in your area. Put in your zip code and the word "cat" in the Group Name section to search specifically. Get in touch with the rescues you find through phone or email and explain your situation to them. I bet you will find someone who can help.

Have you taken your cat to a vet? If you've only tried over the counter remedies I would definitely suggest looking for some low cost vetinary services in your area. The Humane Society has some tips and instructions for finding affordable animal care.

I'm sure you love your cat very much, and it's clear from what you've wrote that you truly care for her well-being. I hope some of that helps. If you have any questions at all, feel free to PM me. I volunteer with a husky rescue organization that's composed of a network of foster homes, so I do have some experience with this type of thing.

Aye, I've been up for most of the night. And that does help. I'll try to get on it tomorrow if I can.
You see I'm moving out of state for good and have a few animals I need to take care of before I can leave. Ironically one being a husky but I believe my folks will be taking her in. Though if not I will also be looking for a home for her as well.. I doubt she'd like it in Arizona; a desert after all. She I believe won't be hard to find a home for.

Zelda though is the one I'm worried about. (The cat I had mentioned) You see I had a job when I first got her so her expenses we're not a problem. I first recieved her from my sister because her shoulder had gotten crushed as a kitten by someone trying to kill the poor thing. He threw a cement block on her and this has really damaged her trust in people. She grew up basically with me carrying her everywhere. She is part Coon cat and has nice long fur when she doesn't have this skin condition that pops up.

Problem is I don't know what is causing it. Further more she goes into heat a lot. I believe she's a bit over two years of age. So at first I thought it was just her rubbing her fur off all the time due to being in heat. I noticed the sores after some time even though I had been bathing her from time to time, and this didn't seem to effect it. Mind you see is litterally terrified of water and has bitten me due to such. So bathing her is a problem; more so with all the open scabs. She lives with three other cats, none of them seem to have the same condition. I recently took her in to get her yearly shots and it wasn't as bad as it is now when they gave her something for it.

Weeks later its extremely worse. I nursed her back to health as a kitten and I'm just stumped now as far as where to look for help on her condition or if I can find her a loving home after I move. All she's ever known is me. While she is only a five pound cat due to her shoulder incident. She's also very wary and hard to control. She has bathroom issues I've been dealing with what seems like forever... For some reason she thinks the litter box is torture. She can't go outside due to not being fixed that getting pregnant would most likely kill her.

And the funds to get her fixed isn't around. I'd love to see her happy to someone else but is it possible? She's a bit moody and skittish and I don't know what else to say about her. She's my cat and of course I love her to pieces; but I'm also worried about her well being as you can tell. Basically at this point she won't let me do anything to her wounds and getting her to the vet requires gloves. (Because of biting) She doesn't have any disease that I'm aware of since she's been tested and an inside cat along the others. And I can't potty train her for the life of me. I'm just over all worried on top of the pressure of moving soon and losing some of my dear animals.

To me she's always been a special case.

I Do thank you for your suggestions so far, I'd take any other suggestions you have as well. I just feel bad because I know if she was potty trained and behaved well she might have a chance at a home. I don't think she does well with strange cats either. So... but I'm hoping for the best as always.

I also feel bad about it because she was the one that helped me pull out of my depression after my ex-fiancee left me. So theres a lot of emotions tied to this one cat. Sad that I can keep the younger one. (only possible because he is potty trained and normally well behaved) Since I'm moving in an apartment this upcoming summer.

My husky is somewhat the same deal, she can't be inside because for some reason she too refuses to be bathroom trained. I'm not certain if this is a running problem with huskies because our other seems to do just fine. Both we're trained the same way, just one doesn't listen so well so she's more of a 'yard' husky if anything.

Course She's the 'alpha' of the two of them; and very stubborn. That might have something to do with it.

It's strange as I've raised many animals, and these are the first two I've really had any issues besides the common scratching of furniture with cats.

Thanks again for the help.

[swiftystar]

It won't come up for me. :/

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[omori]

I've edited the ifrst post, and we are re-opened. ♪

[thisaccountisgone]

I wanz advice..

im suppose to go over to my boyfriend's house sooner or later..
His parents don't know me, but they want to know me.. Im nervous and im scared, I have NEVER been to another persons house before outside my family before.
WAZ I DO!?!