Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[Official-Enjolras]

PM Me and i'll try to help

also I have a crush on an eigth grader while dating someone else. I'm so confused

[CaliDutchess]

@I<3TAYLORSWIFT - Please stop using all caps and posting your questions every other post or less. Due to this, you're getting your warning. Read the rules and you'll see which one you broke. Even though you broke it multiple times (and have been told by multiple people,) I'll only give you one warning. Your next infraction will be a strike.

[christine-marie]

I would like some ideas/advice.

Last year, I became friends with one of my friend's friends. He was nice/kind/etc. What a girl usually likes. We were friends for three/four months, and I asked him out. He accepted.

We only went out for two or three weeks, though. Through out the whole time, my "friend" was constantly mocking me for it. She would ask me why him, how nerdy/ugly/something else mean he was. At first I tried to not let it get to me, I just shrugged it off, remembering how it was my choice and that I really liked him.

But after a while, I let it get to me. I decided to break up with him by writing a simple note saying how I didn't want to go out anymore.

After I told my "friend" she told me how great it was, and started mocking my ex. I thought I didn't like him anymore so I joined in. I wrote him notes that weren't the nicest, and was pretty much a jerk to him.

But now I think about it, I know what I did wrong. I let what other people think get to me. I let it bother me and I hurt someone because of it. Now I know what I did was wrong.

Now the problem is, I like him still. After all that I did, I still like him.

I don't think he realizes I exist anymore, and I don't blame him, but at the most I want him to know that I am so sorry for what I did and that now I'm different. I don't want to say it to his face, because I don't exactly have time or the guts to do so.

I was going to send a message to him on Facebook, but I'm not his friend anymore. I was going to send a friend request with how I felt, but then decided not to in the middle of the message. I accidentally pushed a button on my keyboard and it sent the request with the message, "Hey. I bet you don't remember me, and I'm okay with that. I just wanted to tell you something." I quickly canceled the friend request, but it still sent the message.

Now I'm worried that he's going to find me even more weird/cruel than I was. I do not want this, but it seems inevitable.

It's a huge mess, I know. Is their anything that you think I could do that doesn't involve face-to-face just yet? I don't think I'm ready to approach him face-to-face yet.

/sighs/

[Darkest.Nation]

Do you ever see him during the day, or share an ex-curricular activity? Maybe you could sit or hang out with him then. If you have a chance to hold the door open for him or carry something for him, do it. Smile occasionally, if you feel like it.

Write him a new note. Apologize, and maybe he will be more open to you next time around.

[greysilence]

I would like some ideas/advice.

Last year, I became friends with one of my friend's friends. He was nice/kind/etc. What a girl usually likes. We were friends for three/four months, and I asked him out. He accepted.

We only went out for two or three weeks, though. Through out the whole time, my "friend" was constantly mocking me for it. She would ask me why him, how nerdy/ugly/something else mean he was. At first I tried to not let it get to me, I just shrugged it off, remembering how it was my choice and that I really liked him.

But after a while, I let it get to me. I decided to break up with him by writing a simple note saying how I didn't want to go out anymore.

After I told my "friend" she told me how great it was, and started mocking my ex. I thought I didn't like him anymore so I joined in. I wrote him notes that weren't the nicest, and was pretty much a jerk to him.

But now I think about it, I know what I did wrong. I let what other people think get to me. I let it bother me and I hurt someone because of it. Now I know what I did was wrong.

Now the problem is, I like him still. After all that I did, I still like him.

I don't think he realizes I exist anymore, and I don't blame him, but at the most I want him to know that I am so sorry for what I did and that now I'm different. I don't want to say it to his face, because I don't exactly have time or the guts to do so.

I was going to send a message to him on Facebook, but I'm not his friend anymore. I was going to send a friend request with how I felt, but then decided not to in the middle of the message. I accidentally pushed a button on my keyboard and it sent the request with the message, "Hey. I bet you don't remember me, and I'm okay with that. I just wanted to tell you something." I quickly canceled the friend request, but it still sent the message.

Now I'm worried that he's going to find me even more weird/cruel than I was. I do not want this, but it seems inevitable.

It's a huge mess, I know. Is their anything that you think I could do that doesn't involve face-to-face just yet? I don't think I'm ready to approach him face-to-face yet.

/sighs/

Listen to what I say, because it's valuable. (I know from personal experience)

Do not text him, send him a note, or send him a message on facebook. Those three are cowardly, and he'll think you don't really mean it. Calling him might work, but it's still slightly cowardly. The only way you can do it to show you really, truly mean it, is to talk to him, face-to-face. I know you don't want to do that, but you have to. If you do it then you have a lot of courage, and he'll take you more seriously. You guys might fight, but you just need to take deep breaths, keep apologising, and let him know that you know what you did was wrong. Hope this helps! c:

EDIT: Plus, guys don't hold grudges as long as girls do. So he'll probably take it much better then you're dreading. ;P

[Linsang]

Listen to what I say, because it's valuable. (I know from personal experience)

Do not text him, send him a note, or send him a message on facebook. Those three are cowardly, and he'll think you don't really mean it. Calling him might work, but it's still slightly cowardly. The only way you can do it to show you really, truly mean it, is to talk to him, face-to-face. I know you don't want to do that, but you have to. If you do it then you have a lot of courage, and he'll take you more seriously. You guys might fight, but you just need to take deep breaths, keep apologising, and let him know that you know what you did was wrong. Hope this helps! c:

*claps* Good job, Alpha!

[greysilence]

:lol: Thanks! I just thought about my wrongs, my one major wrong in particular, and then I remembered what I did. That's pretty much what I did! Sure after I apologised we didn't talk for several months, but we did start talking again over the summer. Now we're back to being 'sissies' again. XD

EDIT: I edited my other post.

[christine-marie]

Thank you much! I will try talking to him.
*deep breath*

[greysilence]

If you're always afraid of his reaction, then call him. But face-to-face would be best.

[Prussia]

Well, here's an update on things because I haven't posted here in a while. x'D

So, for a while now I've been telling A to stop touching/hugging me. But he still did because he knew it made me really mad. So, about 2-3 days ago one of the people in marching band told A to hug me because they knew it pissed me off. I told him multiple time "No" but he didn't care so I grabbed my clarinet case and shoved it infront of me and it apparently hit him in the face. And it also "apparently" bruised his face. My older sister, who is one of his best friends, said that she saw nothing wrong with his face and I didn't see anything either. So, now he says he's going to tell his principal if I don't apologize to his face. I did nothing wrong and I have no reason to apoligize to him. If I went to the principal I wouldn't get in trouble as I said, I did nothing wrong.

Anyways, one of our marching band members had a bonfire at their house and invited everyone. I've been messaging B on facebook for a few days now and we talk literally all day. I told him he should come but he said he would rather stay at home. He's kind of a gamer and he does that pretty much all day and if he's not doing that he's watching movies. But his sister came to the bonfire and so did A. A acted like nothing was wrong at the bonfire after he made such a big deal out of me "hitting" him in the face. Psht, I wouldn't do something like that to my clarinet case.

((Oh and I apologize for any misspellings. I'm kind of in a hurry.))