Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[CaliDutchess]

I love B more than anything, but T is just so... I can't even explain it. I feel like I love him, but I don't. As a friend, yeah. I just have a big crush on him. T is better for me, but I want B more. If T asks me out, I'll tell him the truth about my feelings for him and B. If he still wants to go out with me, then I'll say yes. However, I'd feel horrible about dating him while hiding my feelings for B from him, especially with B knowing. Now that I'm thinking about T, I want to see him even more.

[~*Angel*~]

Ah, that's good you should tell him instead of hiding your feelings. A secret gains it strength by being kept a secret after all. It would also show if he really likes you, not every man will go out with a lady who has her heart on someone else.

[Aeire]

Ok, yay for semi-long stories! So I have a bit of a dilemma. There's this boy, I'll call him D, who I am pretty sure that I like. However, he doesn't always hang out with the best people. He sometimes has a hard time making friends, which is why. Anyways, he is switching schools for this year. We were talking earlier and he was telling me who he would miss the most. At the top of the list was me (Eeep!) and next was his best friend. That was it. Anyways, in that conversation, it turned out that he likes me back, but he is switching schools and all, so we wouldn't be able to really see each other any, until high school, if he can convince his parents to let him come to the same school as I'm going to. Anyways, this is the first time that I have liked a boy and he has liked me back, so I'm really not sure what to do. I'm still kind of hesitant, since he does hang out with the "bad crowd", but he really is a sweet boy and I know that he would leave those people in an instant if he had some other friends. Alright, good job to anybody who actually read all that XD I think this was more of a vent post than anything, but advice is still very much welcomed!

[Esperanta]

Just to let you guys know firsthand, I'm what some would call a "Goody two-shoes," otherwise known as a Christian. My beliefs about dating and such might be different than yours, just so you know before you read this.
So, with that out of the way, here's my story. About a year ago my family moved to a Christian school for troubled boys because my dad got a job there. The boys come for a year, going to school, eating, sleeping, and everything at that school, and then they either go home for good or stay longer, depending on what their parents think. And before any of you get the impression, not all of these boys are armed robbers and stuff, most of them come from families that are having trouble themselves. Well, naturally, as soon as we moved there one of the boys took a fancy to me. We got to know each other better for a few months, and I think he was entertaining the thought of marrying me when we were older (shows how much we teenagers really know). We kind of became BF/GF, though I would be hesitant to say that. Nothing really intimate happened between us, he just rubbed my back and held my hand once. That was horrible and I never want to do it again for a very long time!!! Anyways, we sort of 'broke up', but not really that. It would take me a lot longer to explain what happened, and I'm sure nobody wants to read it. I thought it was totally over between us, but I recently learned that he still likes me. Ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!! I always feel so awkward around him, and I don't really like him now that I'm over the feelings I had for him.
Okay, now for the other boy! He is really fun to be around, makes friends easily, is easy to talk to, and is basically my best friend. He's gone back home now, and I am feeling really bad separation anxiety. It was really hard for me when he left, and I couldn't stop crying. We write letters back and forth and Facebook each other, but it's still hard. Having him in almost all of my dreams isn't helping at all either... I learned that he likes another girl that's been coming here a lot to visit her friend that lives here, but he also likes me! I don't want to date until I'm at least 17, but I don't want him to get into a relationship with the other girl. You see, he's a Christian and I'm pretty sure she's not. Another bad thing is, she's almost exactly like me, but better!! I don't know what to do, I really like him but... I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO! HELP!

[lolster15]

Esperanta - I have pretty much no experience with boys and that kind of thing, but there's no way that girl is a better version of you, you are much better (not that I know you or anything, just you shouldn't think like that XD) Maybe you could try talking to hi about it? I can see how that would be pretty scary though (I've had a crush on a guy for over a year and he has no idea. I hope XD). My advice? Get some more advice

[mewmew503]

Too many wierdo asked me out this year. And now I have found out that one of my best friends since 5th grade (i'm in 11th now) likes me...And I don't know what to do...any ideas??

[..:Lone_Wolf:..]

Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

Post by mewmew503 » Sat Aug 13, 2011 8:08 pm
Too many wierdo asked me out this year. And now I have found out that one of my best friends since 5th grade (i'm in 11th now) likes me...And I don't know what to do...any ideas??

If you like him, ask him out, if you dont, remain friends

Oh, and, anybody know what I should do if my CUSION starts liking me and so does my NEIGHBOR and they have a FIGHT OVER ME?

[s y n]

Well, I'm still mad at M.

In fact, I don't even know if I really like him anymore. I know I still have a crush on him, but now I don't know how big it is. I think it's just because he's on vacation with his dad and I haven't seen him for like a month and a half. I'm sure I'll be crushing on him big time once I see him again. However, I'm not sure about this.

Okay, I managed to convince my best friend to support me if I go out with A. My other friend, who is good friends with him, told me that he's going to ask me to hang out and then he's going to ask me out in person. See, that's a big thing for me, because almost all of the guys that I know would much rather ask someone out over text or Facebook or Messenger or something.

I was so certain that I was going to yes last night... But now that I see M again and have talked to him (only for like five minutes but oh well) I can't stop thinking about him. But maybe going out with another guy will be good for me. But I can't help but feel guilty about going out with a guy while I still have a major crush on another guy. That was the reason I broke up with my boyfriend I had before. I just feel bad about it, but there's no way that I could ever confront M and tell him how much I like him. Although, A knows how much I like M, and yet he still wants to go out with me. He's the protective type, though (Something I can't say I hate at all, but it can be a little bit of a disadvantage) and I don't know how easily he gets jealous. I tend to hang around guys a lot (mostly M's friends and their friends, though I often have another female friend with me) and I don't know how he'd react if he thought I was maybe flirting with them. Maybe I'm just making up reasons for why I shouldn't go out with him because it seems so weird. I used to hate him so much that I swear he could literally get hit by a bus and I'd probably laugh. Yeah, horrible, right? And my best friend still hates him. She says that it doesn't seem right for me to kinda like him now, but I managed to convince her that he actually isn't all that bad. I told her simply that he acts so much different around me then around her, and I gave her a bunch of examples like when he called me beautiful, when he picked me up and said he wouldn't let me go unless I kissed him (I ended up having to kick him in the stomach sort of hard, though I tried to be gentle at first) and like the time when he said that he'd write me a love song if I would go out with him. After a million different examples, some arguing, and abuse of really long and complicated words, I finally made her believe that he may be a jerk around her, but that he's really a very sweet and great guy around me (Plus, I told her that if we started dating, him being a jerk around her would be the first thing to go xD)

[mewmew503]

Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

Post by mewmew503 » Sat Aug 13, 2011 8:08 pm
Too many wierdo asked me out this year. And now I have found out that one of my best friends since 5th grade (i'm in 11th now) likes me...And I don't know what to do...any ideas??

If you like him, ask him out, if you dont, remain friends

Oh, and, anybody know what I should do if my CUSION starts liking me and so does my NEIGHBOR and they have a FIGHT OVER ME?

Thanks for the help, and sorry but that's creepy that your cusion likes you. And I think you should talk to him about how creepy that is and maybe he will stop likeing you. I mean it wouldn't be legal because you two are related.

[~*Angel*~]

Just to let you guys know firsthand, I'm what some would call a "Goody two-shoes," otherwise known as a Christian. My beliefs about dating and such might be different than yours, just so you know before you read this.
So, with that out of the way, here's my story. About a year ago my family moved to a Christian school for troubled boys because my dad got a job there. The boys come for a year, going to school, eating, sleeping, and everything at that school, and then they either go home for good or stay longer, depending on what their parents think. And before any of you get the impression, not all of these boys are armed robbers and stuff, most of them come from families that are having trouble themselves. Well, naturally, as soon as we moved there one of the boys took a fancy to me. We got to know each other better for a few months, and I think he was entertaining the thought of marrying me when we were older (shows how much we teenagers really know). We kind of became BF/GF, though I would be hesitant to say that. Nothing really intimate happened between us, he just rubbed my back and held my hand once. That was horrible and I never want to do it again for a very long time!!! Anyways, we sort of 'broke up', but not really that. It would take me a lot longer to explain what happened, and I'm sure nobody wants to read it. I thought it was totally over between us, but I recently learned that he still likes me. Ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!! I always feel so awkward around him, and I don't really like him now that I'm over the feelings I had for him.
Okay, now for the other boy! He is really fun to be around, makes friends easily, is easy to talk to, and is basically my best friend. He's gone back home now, and I am feeling really bad separation anxiety. It was really hard for me when he left, and I couldn't stop crying. We write letters back and forth and Facebook each other, but it's still hard. Having him in almost all of my dreams isn't helping at all either... I learned that he likes another girl that's been coming here a lot to visit her friend that lives here, but he also likes me! I don't want to date until I'm at least 17, but I don't want him to get into a relationship with the other girl. You see, he's a Christian and I'm pretty sure she's not. Another bad thing is, she's almost exactly like me, but better!! I don't know what to do, I really like him but... I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO! HELP!

Alright hun,I'm Christian too and I still date and I'm only 14 but I set standards and boundaries between me and my bf and he respects them. We hold hands,hug,haven't had our first kiss yet but he said today that he did want too <3 I about died. Anyway, I'm sure this girl is A LOT worse than you there's no one else like you in the entire world therefore no one can be like you but better. If you want to be with him,be with him. Get to know him better and who knows a relationship my sprout up. AS for the other guy, if you really didn't like him then you weren't meant to be. And he'll eventually learn to accept that you guys are over.