by ♥ mizu » Mon May 13, 2024 3:21 am
i'm happy and grateful i can air this out here. i love this thread.
there's this girl at school. she joined in the winter, i've complained about her here countless times - even during school lol. nobody really likes her because she's quite obnoxious, but she's not doing anything that's really.. wrong? i just don't like her. she's been the subject of a few dramas, made some people cry. she swears a lot and is just unpleasant for me to be around. but, after her recent drama, she's been acting more.. apologetic? more clingy. SO much more clingy.
i love clingy people. i love people who genuinely want a friend. i'm ok with clinginess i guess. but with her, it feels different.
this is going to sound mean and classist, so i'm just going to say that first. she's from public school, never been to private. and it shows. she acts like a public schooler, but this happens every single time a public schooler converts. it's rocky and they usually end up getting expelled. she's coming close to that. but it seems like she's trying too hard to be something she's not. public school kids always act differently from us, and it feels like she's trying to fit in too hard. she's unbearable and will NOT shut up. she follows me EVERYWHERE i go and constantly needs to know what i'm doing. she apologises too much but, at the same time, tells ME what to do. she was trying to tell me how to play pickleball. she took my regular partner and goes up to me and says, "you can play with me and [x]". first of all: it's "play with [x] and i". secondly, she's my partner and you are not going to tell me how to play pickleball.
she just feels very passive aggressive. i was so open to her when she first came. i had assumed that maybe she was having a bad day, then a bad week, then a bad month. but no. her personality is just being obnoxious. she constantly talks about how poor she is and how small her house is. i just don't understand it. she is so insecure and it's unbelievably apparent. like i can't handle being around somebody that's SO insecure. and you know what?? i LOVE hanging out with people with problems. i have so many friendships that are based upon me being kind to the quiet kids who need help. i'm always the one who goes "ohhh your problems are sooooo valid <3333333333333", genuinely. but with her it's driving me crazy.
i hate being told what to do, especially by an insecure person. like could you stop following me around like a dog? i went to the upstairs common room and was lying down on the couch and she COMES AND FINDS ME. and then she starts pestering me and asking why i'm sitting upstairs alone. why. do. you. think. i'm here because i want to get away from YOU. "i'm just relaxing :)" GO AWAY. "why, where is [x]". why would i know. "i don't know!". she always wants to know what my friends and i are talking about and she's forcing herself into others' conversations. it's driving me crazy. i can't handle it. let our friendship be organic. please.
also she hangs out with some pretty weird people. she's hanging out with a boy who is... unbelievably predatory towards younger girls. i can't share what he actually did on cs but he was cheating on her with somebody much younger. it was incredibly disgusting. she's fully aware of it and keeps going after boys who are not good.