serendipity- wrote:I've been confidently identifying as an ace lesbian for many years, I generally hate a lot of men, but recently I've been obsessing over one guy (fictional, all my crushes are fictional) he's so perfect and sweet, and it's just so frustrating to have these feelings. I don't feel like one fictional character crush would suddenly make me bi, or does it? ahhhtaking into account that this person you're crushing on is fictional, i'd say it doesn't change your sexuality. nonexistent character = nonexistent and thus purely hypothetical romantic situations.
i think it's very common to glamorize fictional characters and put them on a pedestal (after all, they're lacking the dimensions that would make them a complex human being with a complex human existence) which is why it can lead some people to go as far as questioning their sexuality. picture a real-life guy with the same personality traits as your character (not looks, personality) and then picture going on dates, being together long-term, sharing romantic moments, etc. could you see yourself marrying that man? could you see yourself spending the rest of your life with that man and as such never being with a woman again?
i'd also look into comphet and see if you resonate with any of that. good luck!
Hmm, interesting. It's extremely hard to tell. I really have to dating experience, which also makes things complicated. And it is his personality, he is very gentle, laid back, helpful, selfless and protective. He's also deaf and i recently took a sign language class before seeing this tv character so that also makes me really interested in him. Maybe I really like him because he contrasts with the main character's actual love interest? (Because I hate him, he's an arse who basically tricked the girl into going on a date with him and won't express his feelings) I see myself very much in the main character, maybe I'm just projecting. So if this guy was real I would probably enjoy being in a relationship with him, but I haven't met a single guy in reality who is like that. One of the main things that's kept me away from liking irl guys in my asexuality. In reality, for a life partner I'd be more likely to pick another romantic ace, not a specific gender. At least from my experience and knowledge there are more female aces. And no I'm not saying this character is an ace he's just no overly sexual like the previous characters/love interests in the show. I have several other fictional female crushes. This is just the first time I've had a male crush in like... seven years which is why it threw me off. I guess it doesn't matter haha. I just really like this one ship and I'm probably just inserting myself into my current OTP ship. I'm weird like that haha.