by GayCoyotes » Sun Aug 13, 2023 7:48 pm
Dear C,
Don't know why I'm writing this here, feels like it'd be relieving to get this out there somewhere though. I still don't understand your feelings, and I don't think I ever will. I'm starting to become okay with that, since honestly, I'd much prefer to never feel however it is you feel that caused you to be the way that you are and say the things you've said. I think the most painful part of it all is that I made room in my life for you, I opened myself up to the idea of a long future with you. Only to find out that you were never willing to open yourself up to the idea of me in your future, you were not willing to make space in your life for me, despite everything. I did so much for you and with you and I genuinely would do it all again because I cherish the time I spent with you and I love you. I wish it did not turn out this way though.
I'm glad we broke it off healthily but that doesn't get rid of the hurt. Doesn't change the fact that you said you didn't know if I'd ever be a priority in your life. I never wanted to be your top priority, I just wanted to be a part of your life and wanted actual reciprocation of the feelings I had for you, the feelings you said you shared. But looking back, I was always just inconveniencing you. I can't remember a time when you've ever asked to see me. I loved you with everything I had and that's all I could really do, at the end of the day, I know I treated you well and loved and cared about you and made the effort to show that. I know you're probably upset I left but you never tried to stop me, you weren't willing to put in any energy or effort into our relationship. You never saw the point since I already was doing so. Like you said in that final call, I deserve to have my needs met and to be happy in whatever relationship I end up in, and I deserve better than to just be chasing after you.
I deserve someone who communicates, wants me around, and doesn't avoid or reject me because he's too scared to face his fear of connection. I don't know that you'll ever know what you really want in life besides your career, I do hope you figure it all out and get where you are working so hard to be, but don't count on me waiting around for you to decide what you want from me, from us. I'm not waiting around, I've moved on. I know my worth and know that I deserve to be loved out loud, to be loved on purpose and to be with someone who makes the effort to make that known, and who reciprocates energy in our relationship. Anyways, I love you, I'll never /not/ love you. After all, you are a part of my life because you were in my life and I appreciate a lot of moments we've had. You made me feel loved for some time at least, even though that changed.
I love you and I know you love me too, in your own way, which while it may not make sense to me, I still acknowledge that you care about me. I hope you prosper in life, and I hope you don't come to me when you figure everything out, expecting me to drop everything to come back to you. Because I won't.
Anyways, for myself, C (not that he will ever see this lol), and anyone who happens to read this, remember; Life doesn't always turn out the way you want it to, the way you plan. Life is unpredictable, the future isn't promised. Live for today. Live for yourself, live for kindness, connection, love, happiness, the most important things in life. Stop worrying about the future so much, stop sabotaging everything due to fear. You will never be truly happy when all you think about is how things could be and ignore the good around you right now in this moment in your life. Take a deep breath, its all gonna be okay.
I'm Ryker, or you can call me Coyote! Forestry MajorI have a trade group labeled extra and will accept most trades from there,
as long as it is fair and preferably on my wishlist
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