by Resplendent » Sun Jun 18, 2023 4:51 am
(Apologies for the long post)
I feel like I don't know my best friend anymore.
I really hate that I feel this way, but I do. We've been friends for over ten years now, but four years ago she started dating a man that previously didn't treat her very well. I can confirm he's a better person now, but around the time they got together my friend and I fell out and we did not speak for over a year, so I wasn't present when their relationship developed. Now, my friend's boyfriend is her absolute number 1 and they live together, do everything together, etc.
My friend is long-distance (she lives over 1,000 miles away) so this isn't primarily why I feel this way, however, last December I was meant to travel with her to her parent's place for winter break, but after I asked her about it she told me she was traveling with her boyfriend instead because she needed family time; telling me it totally slipped her mind (and therefore never consulting me about it when it would have been time to book flights).
I know that I'm just a friend, but... The fact that she considers this guy her family even though she was the one who invited me over... I've felt hurt ever since and I can't help but feel replaced. I remember when we would call each other our BFF's and each other's number 1, but now she says those things to her boyfriend instead. She still showers me with compliments, but I'm really questioning whether they're genuine anymore.
The worst part is that I feel like I can't talk to her about it because she's always so busy and whenever I have a conversation with her on Discord she always dips mid-conversation and doesn't reply again. At first I was okay with this behavior since she is genuinely very busy, but then it kept happening and happening and now I'm not sure how to feel about it anymore. Not to mention we hardly talk anymore in general. I know that we're both busy with our own lives now and we aren't kids anymore, but it's really disheartening that we went from talking every day to now only talking every few months just to catch up on what's been happening in each other's lives.
I feel brokenhearted and I don't know what to do. She's so far out there now I doubt she has any clue about how I'm feeling. I'm afraid she'll think I'm a selfish person for thinking this because her relationship with this guy is very serious and she does get mad if anyone questions it... But I'm sorry; I can't deny how I'm feeling any longer. My best friend is unreachable and I feel so lost.
Thank you for reading if you got this far. Please PM me if you have any advice.
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