♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[battymidas]

this relationship is falling apart and i don't what to do.

i try so hard to please him and make him happy but yet when i need him he usually hides away or ignores me. im so tired.

wanted to talk things through but honestly i don't know if i can anymore. told me he wanted to talk things through earlier and said he would but instead ignored me. per usual.

i don't know how to feel anymore. i feel so unloved and unwanted anymore.

how do you come back from something like this? i really truly love him and have such a deep connection with him.. but i just can't do this anymore.

[Falco]

Any tips on healing from being cheated on? Found out it happened again. I know and understand it's not my fault at all, but it's still very hard for me.

I've been there and it's the worst. You're right that it's not your fault, and that's an important thing to understand, but I think the other really important thing to know is that it will hurt.
Your trust was majorly breached by someone very close to you who you trusted a great deal. That's the kind of pain that you just need to let yourself experience, because if you brush it away or try to pretend it's not there it's just going to come back later like if you bottled it up and just smack you out of nowhere- at least in my past experiences- and will affect how you trust in the future more.

You should, in a way that works for you, let yourself be sad, and also let yourself be angry- I feel like the latter is even more important because someone really wronged you here and I feel like letting yourself be mad stops you from blaming yourself or others. For me in these experiences it was like:
-If I let myself get too in my feelings about it, I blame myself when I know I shouldn't
-If I let that anger dissipate too much, it's still kind of there in a residual way that sort of spreads out in a way where it impacts how I trust or interact with other people, when they probably wouldn't do the same things and it's not fair to them.
So I found non-harmful ways to "vent" that worked for me. In my case, exercise helped a lot, and drawing dumb edgy emo dog vent art, lol. For others, maybe things like music or writing would be more effective. It comes down to you. But I think having these outlets really helps in processing the grief.

Again not a therapist or anything haha and don't wanna assume what worked for me is universal but I've been through similar before and hope it helps. Best wishes to you and I am so sorry you had your trust broken like that. 💙

Thank you. I’ve been letting myself be sad and angry and as much as it hurts I agree that it is important

[Lights.Out]

All of my friends are in relationships and I’ve been single for pretty much my whole life, I don’t NEED a relationship, I'm just kind of upset because both of the guys that I have actually got the courage to ask turned me down, and I know I have my whole life ahead of me, but it makes me wonder if I’ll be single forever, I’m not attractive and my personality is a little questionable lol, but I’m hoping that someday I’ll find someone to put up with me. This guy I have a huge crush on doesn’t even know I exist so that’s a no go.

[trip ♡]

All of my friends are in relationships and I’ve been single for pretty much my whole life, I don’t NEED a relationship, I'm just kind of upset because both of the guys that I have actually got the courage to ask turned me down, and I know I have my whole life ahead of me, but it makes me wonder if I’ll be single forever, I’m not attractive and my personality is a little questionable lol, but I’m hoping that someday I’ll find someone to put up with me. This guy I have a huge crush on doesn’t even know I exist so that’s a no go.

you will! my little brother is going through the same crisis, they've never dated anyone and they wonder if its them, etc. i think also on the flipside, if its any consolation, people who HAVE had relationships sometimes feel as if they will never find the right person after a lot of trial and error. i have learned that nobody should ever have to "put up with" anyone because that is not what love is - i talk about myself the same way after lots of trials and tribulations w/ my romantic life lol. i am an adult, i see lots of my old classmates my age settled down in a marriage with kids and it was very harrowing to watch bc i never felt comfortable with anyone that much. then i started dating my best friend of 15 years so ^^; you will figure something out! it's never too early or too late

[potatochips]

Any tips on healing from being cheated on? Found out it happened again. I know and understand it's not my fault at all, but it's still very hard for me.

Don't let one mistake ruin your opportunities for happiness.

I don't have a lot of information to go on, and I'm fortunate enough to not have someone cheat on me, but it really seems to be a matter of mental fortitude and perspective. Yes, we all know there are bad people out there, but we shouldn't forget there are plenty of good people as well. We just don't hear about them so often because the absence of distress is a sign of things done right.

Realize you are now stronger and more knowledgeable than before, and you'll be better at making choices regarding your next relationship.

Chin up


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[JadeJester22]

For me, it’s weird because I could never actually ask out the girl I like, yet I’ve given one or two pretty good suggestions/advice tips to people. (That Red Skull meme comes to mind).
Of course, it’s someone I’ve been friends with for about a year and a half now, but I still don’t think we know each other well enough yet, and there’s a few things I want to ask first but there really isn’t a way without it being awkward (Religious people generally do better with peopel with the same belief ps) and I’m confused and no idea what to do lol

[arabella !!]

For me, it’s weird because I could never actually ask out the girl I like, yet I’ve given one or two pretty good suggestions/advice tips to people. (That Red Skull meme comes to mind).
Of course, it’s someone I’ve been friends with for about a year and a half now, but I still don’t think we know each other well enough yet, and there’s a few things I want to ask first but there really isn’t a way without it being awkward (Religious people generally do better with peopel with the same belief ps) and I’m confused and no idea what to do lol

delving into deep conversations can be tricky, especially if they seem out of the blue !! however, you can try approaching this through text first. i find that it's easier to reply to thought-provoking questions through text because i won't be as jittery as i would be irl, hehe. if religion is a topic you want to bring up, for example, you can mention a fond and/or interesting memory towards it to smoothly transition into your question. she'll have time to respond thoroughly and you guys can have an in-depth conversation. texting will help you become more comfortable with the topic to the point where you won't hesitate to bring it up irl.

u got this !! good luck <3

[JadeJester22]

Sorry Arabelle, I don’t think I got this. I just really don’t think it’s going to work, because we’re already friends and I don’t want it to be awkward and lose a pretty good friend. I’m just not sure what to do next- am I just supposed to bury it and leave?

[ayanami]

i dont know how much i can exaggerate the fact that i have the biggest fattest hugest crush on my fiance!! i know we’re already engaged but i still get butterflies when i see him and giddy when he holds me or lets me lay in his lap while he games or something. he’a the best man i’ve ever been with even if the first months of our relationship weren’t the happiest we still bounced back and we’re so in love I LOVE HIMMM AAAA <3 he’s such a sweet cute man i can’t wait until we get our apartment together and own a capybara like we said we would haha

[paevent]

this relationship is falling apart and i don't what to do.

i try so hard to please him and make him happy but yet when i need him he usually hides away or ignores me. im so tired.

wanted to talk things through but honestly i don't know if i can anymore. told me he wanted to talk things through earlier and said he would but instead ignored me. per usual.

i don't know how to feel anymore. i feel so unloved and unwanted anymore.

how do you come back from something like this? i really truly love him and have such a deep connection with him.. but i just can't do this anymore.

Trust me when I say this, I get exactly what you mean. Just yesterday I officially broke things off with my first ever boyfriend and I had to block him and ignore any calls he would give me through other numbers. Luckily for me though, I found a new partner to help me get through it. The only reason I stayed with my ex was out of pity, and out of fear that I couldn’t find anyone else. But I had to break it off, there was abuse of all kinds and he ignored me at times as well. He technically broke up with me first (he cheated on me), but despite all the trauma he put me through he thought I could stay.
Anyway what I’m trying to say is that, even though he hurt me, I still feel a lot of empathy towards him and the main thing that’s making me sad right now is memories of good times, and the fact that his world may feel completely crushed to him. But my world felt crushed too.
I don’t know how to come back from it besides just, trusting your gut and waiting. Someone will come along to give you even more of what you had before. Trust me (:
You are not alone, I am currently healing, and so do/are many other people every day. Try and treat yourself if you can, even if it’s hard to stay away