New Rule: DNI (Do Not Interact) Lists are Banned

[BALTIR]

ok if i blocked every single person with ANYTHING on their profile that even slightly triggers my DID, id have at least half the site blocked. thats not practical.

If nearly half the site triggers you, and you block half the site, at that point why even browse CS?
I'm just not understanding.

I mean, most people agree that certain thing are triggering, but there comes to a point to where triggers are a personal responsibility.
That's like, if the color red is triggering, then how is that the responsibility of everyone who has red in their profile? It's not. In my opinion, either block everyone who has triggering things in their profile, or just don't use a site that has so much triggers in it.

what ever happened to cs being a child friendly and safe site then?

The site is already as friendly as it can be, atleast from my perspective of returning to cs as an old user, imo, things have already been as tightly enforced as they can be. Maybe I haven’t been on long enough to know since I left, but in my opinion- some of these things people are complaining abt being triggered by are often- no offense, mere slights.

Being upset at someone for being in a fandom they dont like for example. Imagine how much people you’d have to block for that simple mistake of liking something someone else doesn’t like. How much censorship are you willing to endow for everyone to be content? Because at some point it’s going to suffocate pre existing users and push them to quit, and it already is doing so.

For more serious problems, I believe that yes, there should be more strenuous moderation done to avoid encounters with people willing to stir up more problems, but how is bringing back dni lists going to solve this? Often children can sometimes click on them and see mentions of things they don’t even know, or haven’t heard of, but are serious and often adult topics nonetheless. They shouldn’t be exposed to that.

If anything, maybe find a way to lock underage users out of accessing certain things such as the adult forum boards for example. (Also, to play devil’s advocate, isn’t the option of that being there, in of itself, not child friendly?)

Or maybe having the option where a user can type “remove mentions of x” from a tag list, just like they do on other websites, and thus, it’ll remove any mentions of whatever they may be triggered by. But that may be a bit more complicated to build, and enforce.

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If nearly half the site triggers you, and you block half the site, at that point why even browse CS?
I'm just not understanding.

I mean, most people agree that certain thing are triggering, but there comes to a point to where triggers are a personal responsibility.
That's like, if the color red is triggering, then how is that the responsibility of everyone who has red in their profile? It's not. In my opinion, either block everyone who has triggering things in their profile, or just don't use a site that has so much triggers in it.

what ever happened to cs being a child friendly and safe site then?

It is. And if there is something that inherently goes against their rules, then it is to be reported. CS is the safest site I can say I've ever been on.
I have my triggers, too. And they are common things, that don't go against the rules. But I realize that not everyone on the planet is going to stop saying/doing/putting on their profile those things just for me. It's impossible.

Agree’d, CS is the most open yet family-friendly and active forum I have encountered. Although this statement is true for me, we still need to be realistic here, this entire site isn’t going to bend it’s goals and namesake for your individual preference.

[Brainiac5]

Thanks mods. I really appreciate this change. I support blocking, and in fact blocking was my way of acknowledging DNI lists. I also support you blocking me if I do something that makes you uncomfortable!

I’m just glad people won’t be essentially waving flags with their triggers on them for potentially antagonistic randos to see anymore.

[Pollee]

I'm really happy to see this rule! DNI lists (and also trigger lists) are pet peeves of mine. Here are my reasons:
1. Nobody is going to read your lists before interacting with you, especially if they're listed on another link. People don't really think to do that, and lots of people may not care or don't have the time.
2. Phrases like "dni if you're racist or homophobic" don't really do anything because most racists and homophobes don't realize they are.
3. Telling strangers what bothers you/triggers you is basically just "here is how you can bother/scare me! Have fun!"
4. Telling certain people to not interact with you usually doesn't work. They either don't care or they may even go out of their way to interact with you just to upset you or as a way to say 'heck you, I can do what I want!"
5. If you have a mindset-based DNI (such as "DNI if you hold this opinion") then how would you even know that that kind of person is interacting with you if they just don't tell you their opinion? In that case, it wouldn't affect you OR them.
6. People who have mean mindsets or behaviors won't suddenly be like "oh man, I totally respect your boundaries and won't interact with you!"

But yeah, like the rules say, it makes a little more sense to not want someone to interact with you if they have flashing lights all over their avatars/signatures or something you're extremely phobic of. But I still would be too afraid to say that because people would probably just send me that stuff to purposely trigger me. So I would never tell strangers my trauma triggers, and only may mention my phobic triggers in certain, careful situations. I don't want that stuff to be used against me!

So basically everything the rules say lol. It's funny to see this as a new rule because I was JUST ranting to someone today about how annoyed I am by DNI/trigger lists.

I definitely agree with you on this. I do find DNI's slightly annoying sometimes, and usually just ignore them. They are also discriminatory against people who hold a specific political belief or religious belief, (or any other belief in that category). I personally don't use DNI's and would never use DNI's, so I am glad that this rule is being enforced. I do think that adults should be able to use DNI's to let minor's know not to interact with them because they are an adult. Maybe this rule could possibly be edited in the future to allow some types of DNI's.

[×Seven of Nine×]

One of the reasons I like CS so much is because I can avoid my most strong trigger which isn't CS friendly whatsoever and enjoy a game where I can escape world troubles.

With there having been DNI lists everywhere I was being exposed to it anyway along with a very hefty dose of everything else that triggered me.

I'm once again very glad this rule was introduced.

[BALTIR]

^ agreed with the people above. If you find that you have to block someone because of something you don’t like, please don’t be ashamed to block. I know a lot of people who feel hesitant or self conscious about it and don’t do so. But if you ever feel unsafe on this game, please report it to the mods and block. I’ll say it again for people who may be reading this. You don’t need a dni list to be felt safe, there is a reason we have a community here who helps against that stuff, and mods who instill these rules.

[iHolli]

Personally, I agree with this rule. While everyone is expected to show respect to others, strangers on the internet are not responsible for your triggers. The block button is there for the specific purpose of preventing people you deem harmful to your mental and emotional wellbeing from interacting with you or your content.

agreed, I think people, especially recently this generation, has become way too comfortable on the internet listing everything that triggers them, things that others could potentially use to their malevolent intentions. I think because a lot of the people disagreeing with it are young, they don’t realize the intensity of the situation that dni lists create. Blaming mods of CS is not going to help things get better, we should focus on building a better tight nit community to weed out these people who cause trouble, as-well as trying not to take things seriously on the internet, and blocking.

You cannot expect everything to be censored for the sake of you not seeing something you may not like. If seeing a fandom is going to give you a breakdown, sincerely, I think it’s better if those people seek help, as this behavior is surely not healthy at all. Again, considering that a lot of the age demographic is around 12-16.

If you have to block almost everything on the site to not see something potentially attack inducing, that is not healthy as-well. In my own opinion, why trigger yourself like this? Wouldn’t the best thing to be to stop playing? Unfortunately if it has to come to that, it seems like the best option to not hurt yourself further, and to heal. But Idk why people insist on further hurting themselves like this.

I hope this doesn’t get taken as an offense, I am merely bringing forth my own idea on this topic, and I understand why others may disagree.

I definitely think that it is the younger players that are having issues with this rule. Seeking help is definitely the right course of action especially if your triggers are severe enough that you cannot participate in a certain game or website. I am someone who has a lot of weirdly specific triggers, I have learned how to avoid those topics or, if they're unavoidable, learning how to cope with the feelings. (ie. blocking them, reporting rulebreaking content etc.)

{agreed! Unfortunately we exist in a society of people that cannot [or will not] cater to every individual. The best possible thing to do is to find help in the ways BrokenEcho said. CS does everything it can to make sure the website is readily usable for people, but you are still responsible for your own well-being. And besides...if you're having a hard time with something on the internet, it's only going to get far worse once you go outside. People are even more cruel away from the screen, in my experience.}

.Holli.

[Michael's Fan.]

If anything, maybe find a way to lock underage users out of accessing certain things such as the adult forum boards for example. (Also, to play devil’s advocate, isn’t the option of that being there, in of itself, not child friendly?)

I agree with everything else you said, but CS says that even in the adult boards, everything should be childfriendly. If people could discuss adults things away from minors on here, then CS wouldn't be a family friendly website, could you imagine how many kids would lie about their age and see things they shouldn't see? Yeah that would be bad, parents would be mad, cs would have to deal with that. Which is why CS avoids all of that by saying everything must be kid appropriate.

[kivr & fireflii]

It took me longer than I'm willing to admit to figure out what DNI meant when I first heard about it about 2 minutes ago. lol Reminds me of blacklists back in the day... feeling old today... lol
-fireflii

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I’m just glad people won’t be essentially waving flags with their triggers on them for potentially antagonistic randos to see anymore.

exactly. i know taking away something a lot of people find safety in can cause a stir, but overall i think this change is more beneficial for everyones mental health and internet safety. the mods aren't out to get you, they want whats best for the overall health of the site, while also keeping it easy to moderate