♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[pictochat]

Idk why but I'm anxious to be in this thread.
I need help. I'm dating a nice but problematic girl and I'm still in love with my toxic ex. Idk what to do or why I'm feeling the way i am.

[_g0thkit♥]

I don't know what to do, I dated this girl about a year ago and I rlly liked her but she broke up with me, it was all fine and I got over it and we kind of became friends, recently we've been talking a bit more and I somehow caught feelings again, I don't want to like her because I'm scared of getting rejected again, but i like her a lot and I guess I'm kinda hoping she might like me again as well but I feel like it won't happen, I think I should just keep my feelings to myself and wait them out and just be there for her as a friend but I really don't know, maybe I should just tell her and apologize? Let her know how I feel and that i don't expect her feelings in return, I don't want to ruin the friendship or make her uncomfortable hhh

[ghostpops]

i could really use some insight, i'm not sure if my current relationship is toxic but i'm afraid it might be,
i've been dating my boyfriend for 16 months now, and at first everything was all butterflies and flowers perfect, but as it went on he's become more and more emotionally draining, if i don't answer his texts within 8 minutes sometimes less, he'll spam call me and spam text me demanding to know what happened when in reality i just turned my phone off for a moment to do something else that would only take a minute. i've asked him countless times to stop but whenever i do he gets really upset and panics or breaks down crying and it's somehow my fault? for reference i have schizoid personality disorder which in short means i just need time alone sometimes. i love him dearly but he wants me to up and move states away from home to be with him and i'm not sure if i want to make that commitment anymore, he's really draining to be around nowadays. i want to hope things will go back to the way they used to be, i had a talk with him about it again today that ended without tears but he mentioned the fact i said he was guilt tripping me last night? and how much that hurt him (he literally was guilt tripping me, i told him i feel awful when he cries because i want to take care of him but im not there and he took it as he cant cry around me anymore and i hate him?) i'm starting to think he's emotionally manipulative but i've invested so much into this relationship i don't want to give up yet.
i'd also like to bring up he's cheated on me once too but i forgave him, he's also pressured me into doing things i wasn't comfortable with then afterwards he started crying saying he didn't want that and that i wanted it so that's why he did it ???
i don't want to leave him but i'm at my wits end with him

update: we're talking about it now. fingers crossed

[Sixx O'Clock]

i could really use some insight, i'm not sure if my current relationship is toxic but i'm afraid it might be,
i've been dating my boyfriend for 16 months now, and at first everything was all butterflies and flowers perfect, but as it went on he's become more and more emotionally draining, if i don't answer his texts within 8 minutes sometimes less, he'll spam call me and spam text me demanding to know what happened when in reality i just turned my phone off for a moment to do something else that would only take a minute. i've asked him countless times to stop but whenever i do he gets really upset and panics or breaks down crying and it's somehow my fault? for reference i have schizoid personality disorder which in short means i just need time alone sometimes. i love him dearly but he wants me to up and move states away from home to be with him and i'm not sure if i want to make that commitment anymore, he's really draining to be around nowadays. i want to hope things will go back to the way they used to be, i had a talk with him about it again today that ended without tears but he mentioned the fact i said he was guilt tripping me last night? and how much that hurt him (he literally was guilt tripping me, i told him i feel awful when he cries because i want to take care of him but im not there and he took it as he cant cry around me anymore and i hate him?) i'm starting to think he's emotionally manipulative but i've invested so much into this relationship i don't want to give up yet.
i'd also like to bring up he's cheated on me once too but i forgave him, he's also pressured me into doing things i wasn't comfortable with then afterwards he started crying saying he didn't want that and that i wanted it so that's why he did it ???
i don't want to leave him but i'm at my wits end with him

update: we're talking about it now. fingers crossed

Speaking from personal experience, this is most definitely a toxic relationship and you really should seriously consider just ending it. I've been on both sides of this kind of relationship and I've learned that it never ends well, even if you try to make it better. It seems to me that he has his own things to work on, and he's expecting too much of you to just fix those problems for him. It would be better for you both if you just cut it off and focused on yourselves for a while. I know how much it can hurt putting that much effort in only for it to fall apart, but in the end it's better that way.

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So I met a guy on a dating app, and we've been talking for the past couple weeks. I kind of had a mental breakdown over the weekend and he's just the sweetest thing about it, he's been so patient with me and keeps trying his best to make me feel better. If nothing else, he's a great friend, but I hope someday we might be something more. I'm just trying not to rush into anything. We live three hours apart, and I don't really deal well with long-distance relationships, so I dunno if we would work out in a relationship anyway.

[Chemicello]

i could really use some insight, i'm not sure if my current relationship is toxic but i'm afraid it might be,
i've been dating my boyfriend for 16 months now, and at first everything was all butterflies and flowers perfect, but as it went on he's become more and more emotionally draining, if i don't answer his texts within 8 minutes sometimes less, he'll spam call me and spam text me demanding to know what happened when in reality i just turned my phone off for a moment to do something else that would only take a minute. i've asked him countless times to stop but whenever i do he gets really upset and panics or breaks down crying and it's somehow my fault? for reference i have schizoid personality disorder which in short means i just need time alone sometimes. i love him dearly but he wants me to up and move states away from home to be with him and i'm not sure if i want to make that commitment anymore, he's really draining to be around nowadays. i want to hope things will go back to the way they used to be, i had a talk with him about it again today that ended without tears but he mentioned the fact i said he was guilt tripping me last night? and how much that hurt him (he literally was guilt tripping me, i told him i feel awful when he cries because i want to take care of him but im not there and he took it as he cant cry around me anymore and i hate him?) i'm starting to think he's emotionally manipulative but i've invested so much into this relationship i don't want to give up yet.
i'd also like to bring up he's cheated on me once too but i forgave him, he's also pressured me into doing things i wasn't comfortable with then afterwards he started crying saying he didn't want that and that i wanted it so that's why he did it ???
i don't want to leave him but i'm at my wits end with him

update: we're talking about it now. fingers crossed

from an outsider's perspective this doesn't sound like a healthy and balanced relationship. he sounds completely dependent on you, which it doesnt sound like you want. him constantly spam calling you etc isn't considerate or rational behaviour from him and you shouldnt feel like staying with him just because things were once good. i cant tell you to leave him but from what you've written you need someone who will recognise your boundaries and not play with your feelings so much.
i hope you resolve this and everything goes well! <3

[Captorvating]

Hello! Uh,, I never thought I'd come here for advice.. but I'm in a really tough spot right now.. maybe I could get some help?
I believe I've posted here before but that was probably a good year or so ago.

Recently (July 16), my boyfriend of two years admitted to me in tears that he's been cheating on me since January of this year with one of his old gal friends.
Her name is Blue (I don't know her actual name anyway.) I met her last year because my boyfriend wanted to show me his friends. Everyone was super nice and supportive! Calling me cute and saying they're gonna "steal me away from him." Which was an uncomfortable comment because I'm super loyal but at the time I didn't think much of it..
Now we soon found out that Blue isn't too nice of a person. She's polyamorous and enjoys cheating on one partner with the next. Her main favorite though is a guy we call Dom. Dom is super nervous and doesn't speak out because Blue is also a master manipulator. She's extremely power hungry and loves playing the victim.
Well she kicked me from her server for making a joke about "top 10 basic ocs" to which I listed off common oc tropes. I even have some of the ocs mentioned so I wasn't trying to be mean at all! She even muted friends who tried to defend me.
Whatever, I thought.. I just blocked Blue and encouraged my friends to do the same.
Apparently during January, my bf went back to hang out with his friends.
I don't wanna be controlling at all, so I trusted him and thought "hey, I can't stop em from being friends with people."
Big mistake..
He told me recently that he and her had been "fake dating" where he didn't actually love her and just wanted to use her to delete the server.
He hung out with her and did whatever she said. He missed my birthday because her an his friends had a movie night, he video and voice chatted with her.. even exchanged naughty vcs and pictures.. which had me shocked and distraught.
I broke up with him instantly.
This all came up because I discovered a dead server and ran into Blue on there.. to which she lied to my face and asked me how my bf was doing, talking about how she hates men because they're always catching feelings for her.. little did I know until later that she was talking to my boyfriend.
Every friend of his knew about what had happened and not one confronted or told me..

So now I'm here.. and I really have been having trouble coping with all this.. is there any way I can receive some comfort and support? I'd really appreciate it..

[Helpless]

So.. I've liked this guy for awhile now.. actually since 6th grade which is kind of a long time. When I think about it.. he's the only guy I've had deep feelings for. One day he even admitted to liking me back and I told him my feelings too, but we only dated for two days before we both were too scared of "ruining our friendship" and then we called it off. And now.. we're going to different schools. It wouldn't be such a big deal if we were just good friends but it's obvious we still like each other a lot. I mean, he always slides comments in like "you're so pretty" and even tries to get me to call him cute or something.. Because of him, I've been able to gain a lot of confidence, before I had tons of self doubt. So I just hate to think of him finding a girlfriend.. and I know it's selfish but I just don't know what to do. I have his number and we FT once in awhile.. but I just wish fate could help me out a little bit y'know? I don't know, I just came here to think out loud.. it's been on my mind for a long time now.

[YXIN]

Hello! Uh,, I never thought I'd come here for advice.. but I'm in a really tough spot right now.. maybe I could get some help?
I believe I've posted here before but that was probably a good year or so ago.

Recently (July 16), my boyfriend of two years admitted to me in tears that he's been cheating on me since January of this year with one of his old gal friends.
Her name is Blue (I don't know her actual name anyway.) I met her last year because my boyfriend wanted to show me his friends. Everyone was super nice and supportive! Calling me cute and saying they're gonna "steal me away from him." Which was an uncomfortable comment because I'm super loyal but at the time I didn't think much of it..
Now we soon found out that Blue isn't too nice of a person. She's polyamorous and enjoys cheating on one partner with the next. Her main favorite though is a guy we call Dom. Dom is super nervous and doesn't speak out because Blue is also a master manipulator. She's extremely power hungry and loves playing the victim.
Well she kicked me from her server for making a joke about "top 10 basic ocs" to which I listed off common oc tropes. I even have some of the ocs mentioned so I wasn't trying to be mean at all! She even muted friends who tried to defend me.
Whatever, I thought.. I just blocked Blue and encouraged my friends to do the same.
Apparently during January, my bf went back to hang out with his friends.
I don't wanna be controlling at all, so I trusted him and thought "hey, I can't stop em from being friends with people."
Big mistake..
He told me recently that he and her had been "fake dating" where he didn't actually love her and just wanted to use her to delete the server.
He hung out with her and did whatever she said. He missed my birthday because her an his friends had a movie night, he video and voice chatted with her.. even exchanged naughty vcs and pictures.. which had me shocked and distraught.
I broke up with him instantly.
This all came up because I discovered a dead server and ran into Blue on there.. to which she lied to my face and asked me how my bf was doing, talking about how she hates men because they're always catching feelings for her.. little did I know until later that she was talking to my boyfriend.
Every friend of his knew about what had happened and not one confronted or told me..

So now I'm here.. and I really have been having trouble coping with all this.. is there any way I can receive some comfort and support? I'd really appreciate it..

Hey, things will get better eventually, he's not worth your time, like, at all. It's gonna be his loss in the end either way, if he's dating a cheater, expect him to get cheated on. Karma will turn around and bite him in the ass. Same goes for Blue.

Try giving yourself some extra rest, and watch your favourite movie and eat some favourite meals of yours, or listen to some music and huddle yourself up in a blanket or a bunch of pillows, just remember, cheaters never win. You deserve much better!
がんばって! <3

[uro]

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[sforzando.]

this is gonna be a mess okay don't worry about it LOL
ive got a crush on one of our shift leaders and it's driving me nuts lol
everyone thinks me and my friend are dating because of how much i harass him and i think ive made it clear to most people that we aren't but i dont know if people are actually believing that
i was told today the grooming manager thinks my shift lead and i would be cute together and even said it in front of him while i wasn't there
one of our assistant leaders is gonna try and set us up and so far she's done a great job in establishing that im not dating my friend and she's slowly trying to see how he feels without upfront asking but asdffgsh
and i have his number ofc for work and i wanna text him so badly but there's no reason for me to!!! i have nothing to text him about!! i hate having crushes im so impatient