♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[Taf900]

alrighty i need some advice. heres a little backstory. so about 6 months ago my friends tried to set me up with this girl who they were friends with. long story short, she said it felt a little forced and didn't want to be w me. that was fine, so since then we've just been friends. I never really got over her. fast forward to about a month ago, me and my best friend started hanging out with her a lot. we're gonna call my best friend C, and the girl i like P. so me and C both picked up a vibe from P. she seemed a little jealous when i would talk about other girls. now, fast forward to 2 nights ago. she invited me over to her other friends house (we're gonna call this friend E) and then their other friend came over. (we will call this friend J) so me, P, E, and J were all drinking some very family friendly juice;) and P, E, and J went to the bathroom together at some point in the night. after this, J told me that P said she was trying to flirt with me, but she didn't think i was getting it. this is funny because i was flirting with P and I did not think she was getting it. so we have established that both me and P have no idea how to flirt. neither of us have ever been in a relationship either. after that night, me and P hung out all day together (alone) and it was rlly fun. but basically what im asking is where do i go from here?? i know im going to have to take the lead because shes kinda shy about it. like this girl has not even had her first kiss. but oh my i like her so much. we have so many shared interests and we can literally talk for hours. but anywaysss if u read all of this tysm, and i would rlly appreciate some flirting advice. also i feel like its worth mentioning we r both wlw. thank you!

Oo this sounds fun. I've only been in one real relationship and we were best friends for a full year before I realized our cutesy coupley behavior was her trying to flirt and not just a close friendship...the struggles of wlw pairings lol. So I guess I don't really have advice for subtle flirting but it seems pretty clear you both like eachother so maybe it's time to start thinking about how you want to ask her out. You could blurt it out randomly, write a note, take her somewhere special. It sounds like you have a high probability of success so feel free to go all out

Good luck!!

[frogpeex]

This is gonna be a very long story. 7 months ago I met this boy online. We both have somewhat strict parents when it comes to online friends, mine more than his. Regardless him and I started dating 4 months ago. I finally decided to tell my parents because him and I had fallen in love fast. We fted and called all the time and were texting constantly. I trusted him and he trusted me. Communication went pretty well, although my mental health and issues with one of my exs could get bad. Once I told my parents they seemed fine with it. I already had one parental app on my phone which controlled the amount of time I could be on my phone and tracked my location. They recently added and app called Bark to watch everything I said. I told him about it and he already had some strong opinions about my parents due to a lot of other controlling stuff they've done. The app saw the nasty stuff he said and we were forced to break up. Every now and then we still talk and he's waiting for me. I'm so confused and hurt right now. Is this normal?

[pizzas and scream]

what would be the chance of a boyfriend who will let me "keep" Axel? i seem to be attached to the character to the point I want him to be my boyfriend.

[An Shiraishi]

This is gonna be a very long story. 7 months ago I met this boy online. We both have somewhat strict parents when it comes to online friends, mine more than his. Regardless him and I started dating 4 months ago. I finally decided to tell my parents because him and I had fallen in love fast. We fted and called all the time and were texting constantly. I trusted him and he trusted me. Communication went pretty well, although my mental health and issues with one of my exs could get bad. Once I told my parents they seemed fine with it. I already had one parental app on my phone which controlled the amount of time I could be on my phone and tracked my location. They recently added and app called Bark to watch everything I said. I told him about it and he already had some strong opinions about my parents due to a lot of other controlling stuff they've done. The app saw the nasty stuff he said and we were forced to break up. Every now and then we still talk and he's waiting for me. I'm so confused and hurt right now. Is this normal?

that sounds like a bad thing??? like,,,, that’s such an invasion of privacy and a massive trust breaker for a parent to do that?? that’s such a bad thing for a parent to do. have you ever proven yourself to be “untrustworthy” in your parents eyes or are they just that bad? regardless they?? shouldn’t make you break up over what he said about them? that’s so damn petty.
it’s amazing that he’s waiting for you though, that shows he truly cares about you and i hope that once your an adult, or your parents come to their damn senses, that you two can get back together !!

[BadgerBuddies]

Hello! I guess I'm here for a bit of advice. Recently a coworker/friend of mine tried setting me up with one of her guy friends. He's unfortunately in another country rn bc he's in the military, but he and I hit it off immediately over facetime and he was facetiming me for long periods of time multiple times for the past few weekends. Talking with him made me really happy and it was the first time that i've ever felt comfortable with a guy i was interested in and felt like i could trust him. It was definitely the type of feeling and relationship that I would want from a guy that I would eventually want to date down the line. At this point, he's gone almost radio silent on me all of a sudden after facetiming for 5 hours last weekend. I have no idea what happened. Now, my advice isn't specifically about this guy in particular, but I guess just in general. Idk why but every time a guy is interested in me (although that already happens few and far between times) and I'm interested back, after a very short period of time I either get ghosted or realize I've just been getting taken advantage of bc people know i'm too nice and extremely easy to walk all over so when they don't feel good about themselves they know I'm a good fit to boost their ego and be kind and gentle with them (or a combination of both! which always feels great! /s). I'm an adult and have never been in a serious relationship and I don't think anyone has ever sincerely liked me or been attracted to me and I just want to know what i'm doing wrong. I know i struggle with my confidence and self-esteem but I've been working very hard on that in therapy recently. I'm definitely not very traditionally "cool" or "pretty", and my interest in animals is probably a lot for most people to handle (aka - i'm a "weird horse girl", and honestly just the weird cow, dog, and several other animal species lady at this point). I just want to figure out what about me tends to be a dealbreaker so that if its something i can work on i can improve myself for the future. obviously i'm not going to give up any of my passions for a man, but it would be nice to know if there's something i could do better with.

I think the other part of the issue is i don't really go out and meet people which my parents and even some friends suggest. even if i did try and go out in the world and meet people, i'm getting my master's degree so around a college town, yeah of course there will be people my age, but there's so many younger students since undergrads likely outweigh the amount of grad and phd students. there's also dating apps but i'm petrified of using them for some reason?? so i'm not really helping myself on that front and maybe i just need to learn to embrace that technology and just give it a try.

thanks in advance to anyone who lends a helping hand and has any advice<33

[bubbaberriboo]

going on two years with my girlfriend, which means it's also been almost two years since we met in person. covid and money problems have been keeping us apart and it's been very hard. we had plans to visit, but i'm really struggling financially and i had to call it off. i'm just worried that the longer we go not seeing each other physically the more we will drift apart, but that's probably mostly my anxiety. it hurts.

[frogpeex]

going on two years with my girlfriend, which means it's also been almost two years since we met in person. covid and money problems have been keeping us apart and it's been very hard. we had plans to visit, but i'm really struggling financially and i had to call it off. i'm just worried that the longer we go not seeing each other physically the more we will drift apart, but that's probably mostly my anxiety. it hurts.

Distance doesn't always have to mean drifting apart. I suggest trying to at least check in daily and call whenever you can to keep up communication. Communication is key for a relationship. You prolly know all this already but it's so important. Let her know your concerns about this, I am sure she can add light to this issue.

[frogpeex]

Hello! I guess I'm here for a bit of advice. Recently a coworker/friend of mine tried setting me up with one of her guy friends. He's unfortunately in another country rn bc he's in the military, but he and I hit it off immediately over facetime and he was facetiming me for long periods of time multiple times for the past few weekends. Talking with him made me really happy and it was the first time that i've ever felt comfortable with a guy i was interested in and felt like i could trust him. It was definitely the type of feeling and relationship that I would want from a guy that I would eventually want to date down the line. At this point, he's gone almost radio silent on me all of a sudden after facetiming for 5 hours last weekend. I have no idea what happened. Now, my advice isn't specifically about this guy in particular, but I guess just in general. Idk why but every time a guy is interested in me (although that already happens few and far between times) and I'm interested back, after a very short period of time I either get ghosted or realize I've just been getting taken advantage of bc people know i'm too nice and extremely easy to walk all over so when they don't feel good about themselves they know I'm a good fit to boost their ego and be kind and gentle with them (or a combination of both! which always feels great! /s). I'm an adult and have never been in a serious relationship and I don't think anyone has ever sincerely liked me or been attracted to me and I just want to know what i'm doing wrong. I know i struggle with my confidence and self-esteem but I've been working very hard on that in therapy recently. I'm definitely not very traditionally "cool" or "pretty", and my interest in animals is probably a lot for most people to handle (aka - i'm a "weird horse girl", and honestly just the weird cow, dog, and several other animal species lady at this point). I just want to figure out what about me tends to be a dealbreaker so that if its something i can work on i can improve myself for the future. obviously i'm not going to give up any of my passions for a man, but it would be nice to know if there's something i could do better with.

I think the other part of the issue is i don't really go out and meet people which my parents and even some friends suggest. even if i did try and go out in the world and meet people, i'm getting my master's degree so around a college town, yeah of course there will be people my age, but there's so many younger students since undergrads likely outweigh the amount of grad and phd students. there's also dating apps but i'm petrified of using them for some reason?? so i'm not really helping myself on that front and maybe i just need to learn to embrace that technology and just give it a try.

thanks in advance to anyone who lends a helping hand and has any advice<33

first of all dating apps can have creeps so i suggest keeping your distance from those. As for finding the correct one for you, there are plenty of animal enthusiasts out there. Please don't be afraid to show what you have a passion for. It can be hard to tell if a guy is using you but they can drop some major red flags. If you want more info on those flags lmk. As for the original dude I have a couple thoughts on that though idk if i should voice them.

[BadgerBuddies]

first of all dating apps can have creeps so i suggest keeping your distance from those. As for finding the correct one for you, there are plenty of animal enthusiasts out there. Please don't be afraid to show what you have a passion for. It can be hard to tell if a guy is using you but they can drop some major red flags. If you want more info on those flags lmk. As for the original dude I have a couple thoughts on that though idk if i should voice them.

One of my friends just started to use a dating app a couple weeks ago and kinda was pushing me towards it and even went as far as combing through my social media for the pictures she wanted me to use for the profile, but I told her no and wasn’t sure if I was comfortable using them as you’re definitely not the first person to say that, I just wasn’t sure if I was making the wrong choice and being overly cautious and it was the reason I’ve been alone all this time. As for the red flags I feel like I can spot them when it’s not me involved which is really unfortunate, but feel free to either reply back here or PM me at any time with any further advice about this guy bc I’m definitely feeling a lot better despite how he just disappeared without a trace but it’s more a blow to my already very low self esteem than it is missing him I think. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to help me!!!<33

[pizzas and scream]

how "does this work"? do people persue and then get to know, or go "what the heck, i'll give it a shot, when's good for you?" I don't think I could do that and is that wrong? sometimes I don't even know if I can feel that type of love. and I'm still so convinced I need a boyfriend like how some people need a kidney transplant. but all I have is "a Husbando" who may or may not count as a soulbond as well.(why isn't there an active waifu/husbando topic?), but if that dosen't make me happy, would a boyfriend with a pluse?